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My boyfriend told me something recently, and though I'm hesitant to come to 4chan for /adv/, I'm not sure where else to turn.
First off, he had a conservative upbringing. He was homeschooled, and his parents were ridiculously religious. He went to the types of churches that spoke in tongues...and grew up in a remote part of New Mexico. His mother was borderline fearful of anything sexual-related, and therefore did not teach her children sexual education (at all). Everytime the subject would come up, she would shame the one who brought it up. She would also tell...
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Anna Dugger, pls go
>>16920160
Troll, pls go
>>16920143
He's not attracted to children. He's attracted to females as evidenced by his lack of ephebophilia and his attraction to you. If his mother was passed out drunk he would have done the same thing to her instead. His little sister just happened to be the only sexual outlet he had power over at the time.
How do I lower/roughen up my voice without ruining any internal organs?
You don't.
>>16920150
So there's no way to get a sexy raspy voice without taking decades off my life?
I'm just going to spend the next 70 years sounding like fucking mickey mouse?
>>16920159
Yes.
I'm stuck trying to quit smoking and dabbing. I'm a CS major which I struggle with, so I do it to relieve the pressure and stress. At the same time I feel it's the reason Ive been doing so poorly. I buy w/ mbey parents give me for food and etc, but it's getting noicable and I need to stop.
>>16920102
so stop.
have fun with the withdrawals.
>>16920102
>kek
good luck dude. I hope you dont get even more fucking with withdrawals
Just take a break, never understood people treating grass like it's addictive. I have to quit every new contract in case of those sneaky piss tests. Stay off dabs and smoke in moderation it'll probably make it easier.
So I cheated on my girl quite a while ago. Told her immediately and we are still together but for her the sexual side of the relationship is dead because it reminds her too much of that. What can I do?
>>16920082
not cheat you degenerate fuck.
>>16920082
>Aw <3
>Not "Let me help you next time"
Fucking beta
>>16920098
It's not like I'm proud of it. I hate myself so much for doing that to her. But the point is that we both still want to be together but it's just that any sexual things remind her of that. Any advice on what could be done?
Do people at hardware stores care/ask why you're buying a rope? I look approximately like a 12 year old girl. If they do what's a decent excuse?
>>16920034
It's for your tree house.
>>16920034
"my dad said i was being a bad girl and he would tie me up."
>>16920034
Family project or just say it's good to have rope. They won't ask and more than likely won't care. Have fun kidnapping whoever.
I have to drive a giant van tomorrow for work because it's the only insured vehicle. It's not something I'm gonna have to to often but I'm scared shitless because I get nervous as fuck driving in the first place and I've never driven a big ass honker before.
Any tips for driving a van?
bamp
- Get there as early as you can. Drive it around the parking lot a little. This will help.
- When you see signs suggesting that you slow down when making turns, they really mean it. You can take them faster in a smaller vehicle, but don't try in a van.
- Place your side-view mirrors to minimize blind spots, because you can't count on having the rear-view to help you.
>>16920028
Get in, adjust your mirrors, then get out, and figure out where the landmarks you saw actually are as you walk around the van. Also, make sure the brake lights and turn signals actually work.If you're going on a highway, stay in the right or center lane unless you have to make a left exit. Stay in the lane you need to eventually be in, and plan your actions ahead of time. When you check your side mirrors at least 3 times per minute, check to make sure you're actually in your lane.
Uhm, if a guy with an ugly ass face would get fit..would he get laid?
You'd have to be pretty ripped too. The funny thing is drugs and alcohol will get your ugly ass laid if you're willing to get her high. And no I don't mean date rape either. There are plenty of chicks who will fuck anybody for free liquor, weed, and molly. Xanax too.
>>16920080
If you take this anon's advice make sure you get checked often. If they fuck you for drugs they're fucking a lot of dudes for drugs.
Work out and go to a bar, if you wait till the end of the night you can pick up some of the more desperate and drunk ones. You won't pull 10's better then nothing.
He's going to need to get checked anyhow if he's dealing with women he only wants to fuck and then at the same time they're shallow enough to fuck him based on looks. His standards don't sound so high. Casual sex in general is not without it's price.
How much can tell about a person judging by their closest friends and charachteristics?
>>16919938
Everything.
People who have shit taste in friends usually have either low self esteem or assholish qualities themselves - neither of which are positive traits.
>>16919938
Pretty much alot. People you hang out the most tend to have alot of influence on you, so for example if somebody's clique is all about "we're so cool" that person's attitude might be quite narcisistic.
>>16919938
Pretty much everything
It's been 1.5 years since my last fuck, and my last hookup.
EVERYONE around me is fucking someone and I feel broken down.
Best friend was on a 1 year dry spell and now he's got some artsy FWB who's apparently the best sex he's ever had.
Other good friend just lost his V card, and now has a 9/10 shortstack girlfriend.
Other friend who literally has minor autism, lost his V card and got a super hot mixed girlfriend.
This is eating me up inside. I feel like I'm trapped, like my college years are being wasted away. I feel like...
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>>16919915
>>16919915
It's also worth noting that
Fapping is losing it's appeal so I have to resort to weirder shit, and it's beginning to actually bother me.
>>16919915
bump
Why don't you ask your friends, since you're painting them as not that desirable yet they can get the sort of girls you desire? Clearly they must know the secret
Last week I was looking at some EMS (emergency medical services) FB pages. I came across a posted video of a group of protesters blocking an ambulance in Chicago. One man made a comment that made me so angry I felt people should know about it. This man, who is a paramedic, posted this comment: "Oh lookie, that species known as porchus monkieus! The only known cure...a bullet." This bothered me so much because this man is supposed to save lives, not destroy them. He is charged by the public to be there when ALL people are in need of emergency medical assistance. I also...
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If you're wasting your free time trying to get someone you don't work with fired, you need to get a fucking life.
If he's as bad as you think he is, his actions will catch up to him someday.
No, the guy is a piece of shit. But there's not much you can do, Anon.
People can post differing, even racist comments as long as they are not calling for someone to be killed.
The internet brings out these kinds of people because they will never say what they do to a person's face.
On the other side people need be responsible for their actions. It is hard not to see blacks, like trump supporters, as violent groups when evidence of them being violent is presented. Blocking and ambulance or punching someone does make a good impression.
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Need help, /adv/
>Be Uni student
>Finals week
>Be stupid and just assume all finals are at the usual time and location because I know 2 out of my 3 classes are
>The third final is held in 3 hours from now instead of 1 like I thought
>Goes into my work schedule
>Ask coworkers and no one can cover me
>Call sick when I woke up today and apparently someone else...
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I don't know about your manger, but mine is usually pretty lenient when it comes to uni stuff. If you'd just explained the real reason, I'm sure they would have let you off for a couple of hours.
>>16919825
This is where you gotta make the choice with the least amount of consequence.
If you can still pass while getting a 0 on the final, go to work. If you're fine with potentially burning bridges and/or cutting hours, go to class.
I had to make a similar decision today, I either had to go to work, while being up for more than 48 hours now, or take my family to Pittsburgh (7 hour drive) and get fired. I'm at work now cause I got bills to pay.
>>16919825
You're a student on the quarter system, perhaps one of the UCs?
Just come clean. She already knows you're lying about being sick. At least you have a legitimate excuse.
Okay /adv/ I need some solid advice. A girl I'm talking to and have been for almost 2 months. Everytime SHE makes plans with me to meet up she cancels.
I've asked her if she really doesn't want to can she not get my hopes up and tell me to meet up. Yanno tell her I'm annoyed that my time is being wasted (I know I should ignore her or move on I just can't I really fucking like this girl)
This girl also tells me that she "loves me" and tells me that she does like me and is interested but then at the same time cancels on me every...
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>a girl I'm talking to and have been for almost 2 months
>cancels every time
Have some respect for yourself. Move on.
>>16919814
I want to dude, I just can't. Honestly I just fucking can't.
>>16919821
You just gotta man. Best case scenario she'll blow/fuck you because she'll be more interested that you're moving on.
Hi /adv/,
How does one stop being a pessimist? I used to be a real enthusiastic kid when I was younger, but somewhere along the line I turned into a critical, often pessimistic dick. Apart from becoming a nuisance to people around me due to my bitching, I find myself becoming more and more sceptical of my environment, making me quite unhappy at times. I don't feel like being unhappy anymore, but I feel like there's no way back to being enthusiastic and optimistic anymore.
Wat do /adv/?
Bump I guess
Check out this book called Feeling Good by David Burns. It might seem a little gimmicky and dumb at first, but it actually helped me a lot with overcoming pessimistic/negative thinking patterns after spending most of my life thinking that way. It's written by one of the founding psychiatrists of the cognitive behavioral school of therapy and there's a lot of careful thought that went into it.
Its central idea is basically that depression/pessimism is a thinking disorder, and that using the scientific method you can begin to overcome your pessimistic thoughts...
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What was it like getting your BA in Software Engineering?
What made you choose that degree specifically? I'm switching my major at the end of this semester. Software Engineers from what I can tell make a good salary.
How is the work? Did you have a hard time getting employed?
>>16919797
You can start out making 60k with a cs degree, but don't expect any sort of growth without additional degrees or high level knowledge of specific software systems. Also software engineers from my experience are just code monkeys while those with cs degrees specifically actually know the theory behind the code.
>>16919813
https://webapp4.asu.edu/programs/t5/programs/Keyword/Ira%20A.%20Fulton%20Schools%20of%20Engineering%20at%20Polytechnic/undergrad/false
list of all "Engineering" majors at my school. Would you pick out the ones you think are most in demand atm?
>>16919797
What was your previous major, OP?
My hair is super curly and only stays down after applying massive amounts of hair spray/gel. What kind of hairstyles would be good for my face?
Seriously cannot tell if male or female.
>>16919767
Go to a good barber, pay as much as you need, answer his questions about your hair if he has any and let the man do his job. Good barber isn't cheap not only because he can cut hair, but also because he has a sense of style and knows how to work with almost any hair types.
>>16919775
me too
>>16919767
are you wearing makeup?
