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What's up /adv/! So I'm a senior in high school, and there is this girl who I want to talk to. The thing is she doesn't know I exist. I don't have her for a class, nor have I ever had a class with her even though she went to my middle school too (granted this is my first year at this high school). I rarely ever see her. I joke around with my friends saying she's like a rare Pokemon because I only see her like once a week, maybe twice a week if I'm lucky. She's really beautiful, I think she's an 8, with blue eyes (I think blue eyes are...
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Just a little background on me, I'm a senior in high school. I'm 0 for 8 with girls in my high school career lmao, my freshman year I messed up because of my shyness. My sophomore year I messed up because the girl had a boyfriend. Then from Junior year to now, I've just been straight up curved. Just no interest at all. I've been single for all of high school, but don't get the impression that I'm horrible with girls. My sophomore year, I had a thing with a girl who was really pretty, but we agreed to mutually end our thing with her because I just...
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PS This is my first ever 4chan post! Thanks for the help, guys.
>>16912758
>first ever 4chan post!
That's obvious. I'll be honest, I didn't read any of that. However, here's my advice: just do it, anon. If she shuts you down, you're a senior in high school. Why should you give a fuck? You have nothing to lose. As far as ugliness goes, if you dress well no one will notice. Check out /fa/.
What's the best way to get rid of a phobia?
I've heard there's a lot of treatments, I'd prefer one that doesn't involve drugs.
As thanks, I will tell you guys what I'm scared of. Might make you have a bit of a giggle.
Depends on what you're afraid of, but always boils down to facing your fear.
Expose yourself to your fear in a controlled and safe way, starting very basic and slowly increasing the intensity as you can tolerate it.
Find someone with a pet tarantula or go to a pet store that has spiders. Sit and do something in the same room with the spider, as close as you can handle it. Do not touch it, don't interact with it, simply keep yourself in its presence. You want to be mildly uncomfortable but not severely so, and allow yourself to become comfortable.
Once you've reached a level of comfort in the same room, ease yourself closer. Once you're okay with that, try holding the box. once you're okay with that, try being near a spider that isn't contained (such as sitting in a web). Then try being near a moving spider, then try brief contact, then try prolonged contact, etc.
The point is you was to train yourself to realize that a situation that you fear is actually safe.
It's a balance. You want to go slowly enough that you don't make yourself panic, but you want to have yourself not entirely comfortable with the situation when you start. Slowly push the edge of your comfort zone.
While you're in that uncomfortable state, practice things like breathing to help reduce anxiety levels. Slow, deep breaths, with the exhale longer than the inhale, are relaxing and calm your systems. Fast breaths and breaths with inhale longer activate fight-or-flight systems. If you catch yourself starting to hyperventilate, stop it with a deep breath and sigh, then start breathing over again.
If you find yourself start to panic, remove yourself from the situation. The point is to be slow and calm and establish safety. It's okay if you can't strike the balance, especially the first time. Just change the situation and try again.
>>16912945
Shit, the beginning of my explanation got deleted. I was using spiders as an example.
Dear Mr. 4chan
I come to you seeking inspiration and/or assistance.
Here's the story:
Talk to this guy 3 years ago. Becomes an aquintance of mine and my ex (I was first). Gradually friends up with her. Info: open relationship. They hang out, text and shit. She assures me they won't fuck. Fast
forward some weeks: I find out they fucked. Since they're friends, she invites him to her bday party. He doesn't know that I know they fucked. I ask him if there was anything going on. He negates.
I tell him I know and that I have a problem...
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>>16912691
That shotgun is like a really hot woman. Looks great, terrible to spend any actual time with.
>>16912691
>open relationship
so what's the problem?
if you dont want your gf cucking you, then dont have open relationships
It's not the point that he has fucked her. That's ok. The point is him being a fucking liar and him now being purposefully ignoring to stay the fuck away.
How would a white 18 yo male seduce an elderly woman? I have an old lady fetish
Dude halo reach was probly my favorite halo, after halo 3
>>16912659
What is attractive about old people?
>>16912803
no halo will ever come close to halo 3 sadly, halo reach was refreshing though
I'm trying to quit pornography and I haven't masturbated in 25 days. I honestly don't believe in all the nofap bullshit, but I thought it was worth a try. So far nothing changed.
Tonight I looked at some porn and got really horny. I just want to fap now. How do I stop myself?
By not touching your penis, ever.
>>16912651
why do so many people think they have a porn problem? how many times a day did you used to look at porn?
>>16912651
By getting a girlfriend.
Someone help me pls
>angry at qt 3.(14) gf for going afk for a long time
>she was watching a movie with sis, didn't tell me she was going to after her shower
>wait for a long time until she comes back happy n stuff
>ignore her messages trying to talk to me asking if im angry
>feel like a monster for being angry
i love her so much
Tell her you fell asleep or whatever
>>16912633
i'm pissed off and i want to tell her but i hate getting angry at her
i was thinking about saying that too but it just doesn't feel right with me
>>16912628
>>16912633
>>16912643
I have to bring a notebook to college everyday.
The desk we have are very small, so there's only room for the notebook itself.
I hate touchpads. Is there any alternatives other than a mouse?
I can't have a mouse because the desk has no space for it.
Older Lenovo's have a little red clit, there's also touch screens.
If you're desperate you could get a graphics tablet and just use it on your lap? Bit of a pricey solution if you have no other use for the tab though.
just buy a couch mouse and use it on your leg
not perfect but still a million times better than touch pad
How would you spice up this conversation?
Want to see my wand
please respond
>>16912625
JK patronums are gay, I'm a seventh level evoker.
You fell for my ruse and revealed your identity as an opposed summoner. Prepare to be fireballed.
I cast Fireball.
Say that's lame, gay, whatever.
ITT: We drop some hard, solid sifu-like wisdom and hope the weaboos learn something.
I'll go first: Life is not full of disappointment, you are.
>sifu
Found the weaboo try-hard hipster.
>>16912638
>Found the guy who doesn't appreciate irony
Did i offend your weabooness?
>>16912667
Surprisesurprise, someone who doesn't know the definition of irony.
It isn't irony when it's true, Buck.
I'm wondering if I am hot because I have a crush on a dude at my school (yes, I'm bi, get over it) and I wanna know if he's possibly down to smash?
>>16912606
Hey Shia
please I just wanna know if anyone gonna tap my faggot ass
>>16912606
Young Shia laboob
Is it really that bad to want to murder?
I recently was told that when you confide in a therapist and say "Yes, I have thought about murder before" they are required to report you, at least in name only, to the police as a potential threat.
Not that I have plans or methods but there are those people you work with, or live with, or just know of that it might be a pleasing thought to see them dead?
Am I normal or not?
>>16912574
>Am I normal or not?
I'd say yes, so long as you don't think about acting on it. I myself have had thoughts like those when it came to certain people, but so long as you keep it to yourself, and don't act on it/break laws, then I'd say you're quite normal.
Being frustrated/angry at someone you don't particularly like is a normal responce to stimuli and thinking about them out of the way permanently is a way to vent your frustrations, and again,...
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>>16912574
There is no normal.
>>16912574
>I recently was told that when you confide in a therapist and say "Yes, I have thought about murder before" they are required to report you, at least in name only, to the police as a potential threat.
If you live in the US this is total bullshit.
So I just got fired from my job today - I worked as a cashier at wal-mart - and was planning on joining the military after that job.
What I'm wondering is what branch and what MOS I should join?
army, infantry. you seem like the type
join FFL. when you get out youll be like the dos equis guy
>>16912560
Do Army man. Take the ASVAB and see what kind of jobs you qualify for.
Seriously it's not a bad life. A little bit frustrating sometimes, but you get used to it pretty quickly. Plus you'll get in great shape and meet a ton of people from all over the country.
Air Force is also great, with what is definitely the highest quality of life in the military, but it's also the most difficult branch to get into (aside from the Coast Guard, which is REALLY hard to get into).
Guys,
Is there a technique to come up with ideas?
I desperately want to start a YouTube channel but I feel like it's all been done before. How the fuck do I create original ideas in my head?
Well, for me most cool ideas happen to come when I'm not trying to think of them. Basically don't try to actively come up with an idea for your YouTube channel, just go about your day normally and remember about it once in a while. Eventually, you're going to randomly think of a cool idea while doing something else.
what type of youtube channel do you want to do?
i'm not sure what you mean by "ideas"
do you want to start a cooking channel that focuses on how to make delicious chocolate swans?
or do you want to make a channel talking about your interpretation of video game story-lines?
alot of whats in the world has been done before. there really are only a few revolutionary concepts in the entirety of human existence. the wheel, fire, discovering electricity, the capacitor. i mean look at the ferrari, it's essentially the concept of a wheel...
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>>16912621
>>16912550
Thank you, guys.
This seems really helpful to me.
I want to create a video game channel because it is my main passion and I know a whole lot more about the topic than 99% of YouTubers who started making channels about games since they became popular to milk them.
So yeah, I'll play with that idea, to modify something that exists already.
Anyone else, feel free to post your recommendations too.
Thanks in advance.
>have a female friend that's so in love with me that she adores me
>do not reciprocate, but some days I find her attractive, other days I find her repulsive
What does it mean?
Days you find her attractive you haven't fapped.
Days shes repulsive you have fapped.
Leave her alone and don't mess with her emotions.
>>16912489
Valid but that's not what's happening
>>16912513
She knows I don't see her as more than a friend
How would I go about making a short webm of a video to post on 4chan?
What program to use?
>>16912454
ffmpeg
rest is bloat
>>16912544
This is not a program, but a directive?
Not sure what to do with that..
>>16912617
ffmpeg -i input.mp4 -c:v libvpx -b:v 1M -c:a libvorbis output.webm
literally the first google result
