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Just a little background on me, I'm a senior in high school. I'm 0 for 8 with girls in my high school career lmao, my freshman year I messed up because of my shyness. My sophomore year I messed up because the girl had a boyfriend. Then from Junior year to now, I've just been straight up curved. Just no interest at all. I've been single for all of high school, but don't get the impression that I'm horrible with girls. My sophomore year, I had a thing with a girl who was really pretty, but we agreed to mutually end our thing with her because I just wasn't feeling her and she knew it. A few months ago, this girl dm'd me through ig, but she went to a different school, and being an athlete who's gonna play in college, I don't have time for long distance. Also, there was this girl who was really beautiful who said she used to like me my freshman year, I was like "damn why didn't you tell me back then?" Lmao but yeah I'm defanitly not your "ladies man".

I've been thinking of just going up to her and asking for her number (I think I know where she hangs out because of the direction I saw her walk one time), but I tried that a couple weeks ago and the girl said no. It's pretty weird too if you think about it: you're just walking and a guy you don't know at all comes up to you and asks to get your number. Id imagine it being pretty awkward. I've also thought of trying to find her IG and dm her there, but I say no for two reason: I don't know her @ name and because I feel like a lot of people my age rely on social media and technology for this type of stuff too much, and it's not a thing I want my generation to continue with. Of course, if that's the last resort, I'll do it, I just prefer not to do it. I really have 0 clue on what I should do, I've come to /adv/ for help lmao.

If you guys want a pic of me, I'll show you. I might be ugly, & maybe that's why people don't want me, but only if u guys request it, because Id be embarrassed as hell if anyone from my school saw this

PS This is my first ever 4chan post! Thanks for the help, guys.

>>16912758

>first ever 4chan post!
That's obvious. I'll be honest, I didn't read any of that. However, here's my advice: just do it, anon. If she shuts you down, you're a senior in high school. Why should you give a fuck? You have nothing to lose. As far as ugliness goes, if you dress well no one will notice. Check out /fa/.

Depends on what you're afraid of, but always boils down to facing your fear.

Expose yourself to your fear in a controlled and safe way, starting very basic and slowly increasing the intensity as you can tolerate it.

Find someone with a pet tarantula or go to a pet store that has spiders. Sit and do something in the same room with the spider, as close as you can handle it. Do not touch it, don't interact with it, simply keep yourself in its presence. You want to be mildly uncomfortable but not severely so, and allow yourself to become comfortable.

Once you've reached a level of comfort in the same room, ease yourself closer. Once you're okay with that, try holding the box. once you're okay with that, try being near a spider that isn't contained (such as sitting in a web). Then try being near a moving spider, then try brief contact, then try prolonged contact, etc.

The point is you was to train yourself to realize that a situation that you fear is actually safe.

It's a balance. You want to go slowly enough that you don't make yourself panic, but you want to have yourself not entirely comfortable with the situation when you start. Slowly push the edge of your comfort zone.

While you're in that uncomfortable state, practice things like breathing to help reduce anxiety levels. Slow, deep breaths, with the exhale longer than the inhale, are relaxing and calm your systems. Fast breaths and breaths with inhale longer activate fight-or-flight systems. If you catch yourself starting to hyperventilate, stop it with a deep breath and sigh, then start breathing over again.

If you find yourself start to panic, remove yourself from the situation. The point is to be slow and calm and establish safety. It's okay if you can't strike the balance, especially the first time. Just change the situation and try again.

>>16912945

Shit, the beginning of my explanation got deleted. I was using spiders as an example.

>>16912691
That shotgun is like a really hot woman. Looks great, terrible to spend any actual time with.

>>16912691
>open relationship
so what's the problem?

if you dont want your gf cucking you, then dont have open relationships

It's not the point that he has fucked her. That's ok. The point is him being a fucking liar and him now being purposefully ignoring to stay the fuck away.

Dude halo reach was probly my favorite halo, after halo 3

>>16912659
What is attractive about old people?

>>16912803
no halo will ever come close to halo 3 sadly, halo reach was refreshing though

By not touching your penis, ever.

>>16912651
why do so many people think they have a porn problem? how many times a day did you used to look at porn?

>>16912651
By getting a girlfriend.

Tell her you fell asleep or whatever

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>>16912633
i'm pissed off and i want to tell her but i hate getting angry at her
i was thinking about saying that too but it just doesn't feel right with me

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>>16912628
>>16912633
>>16912643

Older Lenovo's have a little red clit, there's also touch screens.

If you're desperate you could get a graphics tablet and just use it on your lap? Bit of a pricey solution if you have no other use for the tab though.

just buy a couch mouse and use it on your leg

not perfect but still a million times better than touch pad

Want to see my wand

please respond

>>16912625
JK patronums are gay, I'm a seventh level evoker.

You fell for my ruse and revealed your identity as an opposed summoner. Prepare to be fireballed.

I cast Fireball.

Say that's lame, gay, whatever.

>sifu

Found the weaboo try-hard hipster.

>>16912638
>Found the guy who doesn't appreciate irony
Did i offend your weabooness?

>>16912667

Surprisesurprise, someone who doesn't know the definition of irony.

It isn't irony when it's true, Buck.

>>16912606
Hey Shia

please I just wanna know if anyone gonna tap my faggot ass

>>16912606
Young Shia laboob

>>16912574
>Am I normal or not?
I'd say yes, so long as you don't think about acting on it. I myself have had thoughts like those when it came to certain people, but so long as you keep it to yourself, and don't act on it/break laws, then I'd say you're quite normal.

Being frustrated/angry at someone you don't particularly like is a normal responce to stimuli and thinking about them out of the way permanently is a way to vent your frustrations, and again, is normal so long as you have no plans on actually doing it.

Does this help?

>>16912574
There is no normal.

>>16912574
>I recently was told that when you confide in a therapist and say "Yes, I have thought about murder before" they are required to report you, at least in name only, to the police as a potential threat.

If you live in the US this is total bullshit.

army, infantry. you seem like the type

join FFL. when you get out youll be like the dos equis guy

>>16912560
Do Army man. Take the ASVAB and see what kind of jobs you qualify for.

Seriously it's not a bad life. A little bit frustrating sometimes, but you get used to it pretty quickly. Plus you'll get in great shape and meet a ton of people from all over the country.

Air Force is also great, with what is definitely the highest quality of life in the military, but it's also the most difficult branch to get into (aside from the Coast Guard, which is REALLY hard to get into).

Well, for me most cool ideas happen to come when I'm not trying to think of them. Basically don't try to actively come up with an idea for your YouTube channel, just go about your day normally and remember about it once in a while. Eventually, you're going to randomly think of a cool idea while doing something else.

what type of youtube channel do you want to do?

i'm not sure what you mean by "ideas"

do you want to start a cooking channel that focuses on how to make delicious chocolate swans?

or do you want to make a channel talking about your interpretation of video game story-lines?

alot of whats in the world has been done before. there really are only a few revolutionary concepts in the entirety of human existence. the wheel, fire, discovering electricity, the capacitor. i mean look at the ferrari, it's essentially the concept of a wheel with a platform on top of it. someone saw the wheel, expanded on that idea, and made a ferrari.

obviously i've dumbed this down quite a bit, but the point im making is that you don't need an original idea, you just need to improve an existing one. im sure you've seen prank videos, but im sure you've never seen a prank channel dedicated towards pranking aborigines/native peoples.

the best place to start is by taking something you already enjoy, and roll wiht it

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>>16912621
>>16912550

Thank you, guys.
This seems really helpful to me.
I want to create a video game channel because it is my main passion and I know a whole lot more about the topic than 99% of YouTubers who started making channels about games since they became popular to milk them.
So yeah, I'll play with that idea, to modify something that exists already.

Anyone else, feel free to post your recommendations too.
Thanks in advance.

Days you find her attractive you haven't fapped.
Days shes repulsive you have fapped.

Leave her alone and don't mess with her emotions.

>>16912489
Valid but that's not what's happening

>>16912513
She knows I don't see her as more than a friend

>>16912454
ffmpeg
rest is bloat

>>16912544

This is not a program, but a directive?

Not sure what to do with that..

>>16912617
ffmpeg -i input.mp4 -c:v libvpx -b:v 1M -c:a libvorbis output.webm

literally the first google result