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My girlfriend might get revenge-porn'd by her ex from a couple years ago who's suddenly feverishly trying to contact her and seems to have lost his mind.
I know there isn't really shit we can do about it but any advice or stories are welcome.
>I know there isn't really shit we can do about it
Unless there's a law against it in your area (state, province, whatever). Look into it.
Also if he threatens it with an attached demand, that's immediately illegal everywhere.
>>16912111
He lives in another country atm which probably complicates things irreparably.
>>16912103
there is something you can do OP. End the relationship right now. You may think you know the whole story but you don't. There must have been a trigger for a guy out of the picture for two years to "suddenly feverishly" try to rekindle
Late 20's here. I've been dating a girl for over 4 years now. It's been a perfect relationship until last year. She was diagnosed bipolar and has spiraled out of control with a lot of out-of-character behavior.
The relationship has become more like a concerned friend/dependent. We decided this was toxic to both of us, and we're taking a break but still remain committed.
She was my life and it's agonizing to go each day without hearing a peep from her. I try to check up on her about once a week over lunch, but it seems like even this is just annoying her more than anything. I'm doing everything I can to keep myself occupied, but that's just ending up in a lot of impulsive decisions and lots of wasting money.
What's a reasonable amount of time for a break like this to last? Anything I can do to make a positive impression the next time we consider getting back together? I've already joined a gym and lost 15lbs, new wardrobe, redecorated the house, etc.
>>16912094
being in a relationship she is going to let her guard down and be totally dependent from time to time, and probably a bitch.
Depends on how serious you are really.
>>16912097
Four years of seeing each other 3-4 times a week. We are both working professionals, shes finishing up grad school, and we're each other's best friend and share everything with each other.
Of course we're dependent on each other, but her bipolar diagnosis has seemed to throw her off the deep end recently, and shes been showing a lot of out of character behavior. New groups of friends she won't go into detail about, piercings, heavy marijuana use, etc. I know that smoking weed is likely exaggerating her bipolar symptoms, but she refuses to admit it and regularly misses her therapy sessions.
She claims she's always been so focused on her school/career that she hasn't had much fun in her youth. She says she's anxious about this being her last semester before getting her master's, that it's her last chance to get all of the typical college reckless fun b/s out of her system before becoming a serious professional. I've always made sure to do anything she's ever wanted to, from vacations to concerts to expensive meals, so I'm not sure where it's coming from unless she's just getting tired of me.
I'm hoping its just her bipolar symptoms going through a cycle.
At the end of last month I experienced the last of what has been many rock bottom moments for me with drinking, and I've come to terms with the fact that I'm an alcoholic.
I've begun the process of trying to quit. I've been sober for 15 days and have never felt better. It's the longest I've ever gone without drink. While I'm finding it manageable (distracting myself with the gym, other hobbies), I am absolutely terrified of socializing without it. Booze has always been my crutch when I go out with friends, talking to girls, being social at bars, etc.
Since I quit, I've been dodging my friends and staying in on weekends. I want to go out with my friends again while sober. But I feel like it will be impossible to continue meeting girls / making new friends when I become that weird guy at the bar who doesn't drink. Anyone on /adv/ ever been in a situation like this?
pretend you're drinking but obviously don't have any alcohol and be the vibrant life of the party. as everyone gets wasted you'll feel good knowing you're in control and sharp thinking and witty.
>>16912093
Hey OP, alcoholic here too... that social crutch is really a big deal for me too. I'm also on a sober stint (but I don't feel as good as you do).
Something that works for me occasionally is energy drinks. I find that if I'm more hyper, I'm more chatty, and I get a little more comfortable myself in a bit.
It isn't easy to be the sober person at the bar, especially when everyone thinks you're the life of the party. I normally just play it off as the cool guy that's working out and getting in shape - funny enough, people don't seem to question vanity as much as they do "having a problem" or "I just don't want to drink."
It's probably best to come clean with your buddies, but I wouldn't bring up the awkwardness to women or new people right off the bat.
i want to learn how to skate properly coz yesterday i rode my friends skateboard and it was really fun so now i want to make my own. so i need you skate savvy people do give me some advice about these parts. my budget is £70 so these are the parts ive picked so far.
deck
>http://www.skates.co.uk/skateboards/enuff-scramble-skateboard-deck-natural.html/V558144782B196/?var=81033&gclid=Cj0KEQiAvJS3BRDd44fjndyii6MBEiQAN4EkPVuSpg1cyxsCmmO8v4zaDr6AO-WN2sVs14rwlaax50kaAgIA8P8HAQ
trucks
>https://www.skatehut.co.uk/brands/enuff/enuff_natural_5_0_skateboard_trucks.htm
wheels
>https://www.skatehut.co.uk/brands/sushi/sushi_pagoda_skateboard_wheels_white.htm
bearings
>https://www.skatehut.co.uk/brands/sushi/sushi_skateboard_bearings_chrome_abec_7_8pk.htm
hardware
>https://www.skatehut.co.uk/brands/independent/indy_1_allen_skateboard_truck_bolts.htm
pic related: a simulation of the board
dont make the trucks too loose, but loose enough to be flexible.
watch loads of skate vids
>https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=LBBrXDmRS5g
>https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=9pl-f5S5zaQ
don't push mongo
Just support your local skateshop and have them put something together for you.
I'm helping a group of 12 year olds with adding subtitles to their music video. They did a cover of hello. It hurts to hear it. /adv/ help
>>16912018
So, what exactly do you need help with?
Well lads, it's official: in about six months I'll be moving across the country to another city in another state. I've never left my hometown for more than two weeks at a time. I'm moving from a 5K town to a 130K big city.
What do I need to know about living in such a big city?
I'd like to know this too, specially ways to not get lonely for a spergmaster.
Bump
130,000 people is nothing. not even compared to where you're coming from. you must be a real cracker to think that's so colossal.
the only new problem you're going to have is choosing which fast food chain you want to eat at.
>You're gonna hate it
>Make friends with locals to learn the city
>Homeless people can be ungrateful as fuck
>That being said, they will help you out if you befriend and frequently help out/get food for the local ones. Just be smart about which ones you talk to
>Have fun parking
>It's really pretty on rooftops/high rises
>Your bike can still get stolen even if it's locked up
>Don't leave electronics in your car
>The city air will literally shorten your lifespan
>If you're in a park or something, avoid bums/people you see camping. Train hoppers are basically impossible to track down by law enforcement and have no qualms about robbing/raping/killing you
>Bring sleeping pills; you'll need them the first few days
>Lots of drugs
>If your pet runs away, you can say goodbye to it
>Don't smoke weed in alleys; the cops on patrol make sure to look/cruise through there
>Smile. You're always on camera
w-will angry mode help me to get a gf?
No.
>>16912088
>grabs throat and spits into face whispering into ear
>"whore"
>>16912487
Cool. Go outside today.
When a guy is shaking the hand of a lot of people and then when I go to shake his hand he takes my hand with both of his hands (didn't do this with the others before ne1) and says "bye fatty" and starts walking and talking to me to the exit, does it mean he wants my heart and lady parts?
I like this guy from a while ago and today was the first time we saw each other after a long time.
Hmm. I read it twice and it looks like he called you fatty. Is that your name?
>>16912000
I bet your fat
Only way to see if he wants a relationship or to fuck you is to see him again, go get a coffee or something and catch up with him
>>16912000
I think you're both fat and I want you to have short painful lives.
I'm thinking about making an ad on craigslist to do people's homework for them. Stuff like projects, essays, etc. The problem is that I'm in college myself, and would have to do this anonymously. Can you guys give any /adv/?
My advice is that you don't do it so publicly. This is best handled through word of mouth.
>>16911959
How do I do that though? I don't have any friends so I'm kinda fucked in that department
>>16911966
Make some friends.
I have a binge eating disorder. Help?
How old are you?
Metabolism and diet and all that other stuff plays a role in your appetite.
Are you overweight, or were you actually diagnosed by a professional with an eating disorder?
Eat a tablespoon or more of vaseline daily, it should cleanse your colon (if it works for my ferret it should work for you.)
Or just get an enema, if you're really overweight you should get a gastric bypass surgery (I watched a vid about it and the obese woman said she was no longer interested in food.)
move to ethiopia. no more than 2000 calories per day. guaranteed.
I've broken up with a friend of 8 years because my feelings for her went going from platonic to romantic. She was pretty much my best friend and understood me on a level I don't think anyone else ever has.
So a few weeks ago I had an honest conversation with her while drinking and I said I was effectively ending our relationship because of the way I felt about her. She got very upset about it and so did I but we ended the evening on a good note because she got where I was coming from. I think I made the right choice because she was in a long term relationship where she was very happy and hanging out with her was starting to become painful for me so I thought it would be best to get a clean break and move on.
Now though, I'm starting to wonder if I fucked up big time. Did I let my stupid feelings get in the way of the best friendship I've ever had? Should I have just stfu and hoped this would go away? Input and ideas from people who've been in this situation would be much appreciated.
>>16911933
You're going to be fine, a break is something everyone needs sometimes. especially if its causing you some serious strife.
On the other side of that, if she really was just the bee's knees and your best friend then surely she knows and its hard for her. Make it clear when you feel like circumstances would merit talking again. Missing out on great friendship is a plague.
>>16911953
>Missing out on great friendship is a plague.
Exactly. Maybe I'll get back in touch after a year off. Maybe things'll be different then.
Still talk to her or she'll move on entirely.
She probably crying to her partner now about it and he probably knows you did it because you were romantically attracted to her. So when you come back and they're still together it'll be worse.
Find a girlfriend or something or talk it out with your friend
I becoming fed up with having strange and annoying sexual habits. I've always been attracted to girls under 11 , but I'm well over 11 now so it's not normal at all. Also I don't really get excited unless a woman or girl is being hurt severely . How can I fix this myself? Pic not related.
Try seeing a psychiatrist or therapist
Random anons who fap to drawings aren't gonna be able to help you with your pedo and sociopathic feelings.
>>16912028
This though.....best advice yet.
This is not in the realm of things that are fixable, these are just manageable with a modicum of willpower, and that's exactly what any therapist would tell you.
Best thing to do is get a girlfriend, and not to get frustrated and start hating yourself or anything like that. That sort of attitude leads to acting out your fantasies out of desperation and hopelessness.
One pedo to another, there's nothing wrong with fapping it out. People will tell you indulging your fantasies jacking off will turn you into some sort of insatiable predator. These people are retards who have no clue what it's like living with a paraphilia.
How to read a females body language?
Not sure what signals I have from this woman?
>Met her, seemed open and nice
>She complained to me in a funny way about the class, complained to me she shouldn't even be there
>Laughed at my jokes
>threw the conversation back at me, asked me if x show was good
>Told her some advice after class, she looked over at me fast and spoke kinda fast.
I want to ask her to go for a walk after the lecture so get to know her, I have HF autism so it's different for me and I'd appreciate tips.
I act confident but I can't magically gain social skills.
If their vagina is wet then they are probably horny
That's about all you can rely on
don't bother. be direct. ask her out. interpret what she says.
fuck all the games and shit people play.
>>16911972
So just 'hey want to go for a walk'?
Can someone explain l'hopitals rule to me or give me a good resource to learn it? I wasn't in class the day that it was taught, and I don't really understand the explanations that are given in the book.
Khan Academy for all low-level school stuff.
If you have a limit that results in an indefinite, differentiate the top and bottom separately until you don't get an indefinite
Use Taylor approximations, L'Hospital sucks dick.
Signed,
Every physicist ever
How do I get revenge on the guy that raped my sister at a psychiatric facility? The police won't do anything about this filthy pig.
>step 1: stop posting b8
>step 2: leave 4chan
>step 3 ...
>step 4 profit???
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