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>tfw massive blister and four 10-12 hour work days starting tomorrow
what should I do?
>>17003632
Pop it
>>17003638
Use a sterile needle to lance and drain it. Then disinfect the wound, put on neosporin, and cover it with a large bandage. Bring a couple replacement bandages to work but hopefully you will get a decent bandage and your socks will keep it on.
>>17003638
I don't want it to get infected or something though, that would be even worse
I have been in a relationship for over 5 years. My boyfriend is very sweet and seems to be still infatuated. He calls me on all his breaks at work, texts me all the time, and does sweet things for me every day.
Sometimes, however, I feel insecure and that I see him checking out other women. For example, yesterday we were waiting for drinks at a cafe and there was a girl standing in front of him. I looked up and noticed him looking at her. When she left the cafe, it seemed like he was watching her walk away. I asked him about it and he got very upset. He said he was not that kind of man and how could I accuse him of these things. He said that I must think he is a real scummy kind of guy, and if I thought that, why did I want to be with him?
I do have issues with anxiety, fear of being in public, and body dysmorphic disorder. He says that I imagine these alleged acts of checking out other women, but I feel like I can sense his sexual energy or curiosity being piqued.
Whenever we try to discuss this, he denies everything and becomes very upset because he says he isn't like "most guys" and he thinks that is really disrespectful to check out other women in front of your girlfriend and he would never do that to me.
Should I believe him?
yes. i'm prone to be insecure and accuse guys of doing stuff like that myself, but it sounds like your guy really is honest. it might be that he DID look at her. but allas, i like to "people watch" myself. it doesn't mean i'm going to dump my bf and have wild sex with the guy i was looking at. maybe he reminded me of somebody. or i thought he had a nice haircut. or he did something funny. whatever it was, he's clearly NO threat to my bf. i think it's the same with your bf
>>17003625
>Anxiety, fear of being in public, and body dysmorphic disorder.
So your crazy, calm your crazy ass down.
Oh boy, another women who think she has the ability to "sense" intention or energy or whatever. No, you can't you just have an overinflated belief in your sense of awareness; I assure you thag you aren't special or mildly psychic, nor do the stars have anything to say. Magic isn't real and your just being paranoid.
Got a Job interview lined up for Friday. Wondering if I can get any advice.
It's for Management trainee 2 months then whatever. They expect leadership qualities and all that you can expect in a management job.
Problem is I suffer from stage-freight and get nervous and shaky infront of people. That's with oral presentations atleast, though it's all the same I guess.
Finding a decent paying job is tough so I applied for alot and willing to take the chance
Tl:dr Sperg want's advice for a managerial job involving some form of leadership
You can show strong leadership even if you have bad public speaking skills. It's the most common fear, most people don't like doing it. Just fake it despite being uncomfortable, say what you need to say and get it done, if you can do that your ahead of most people who can't even make the attempt.
bamp...
>>17003634
Easy peesy then I guess. Got any interview tip's?
So, this is my history
She live with his parents (just her mother and her brother actually)
We became good friends since 8 months ago, and we started dating 2 months ago,
In the last month things become bad for her, always fighting with her family, she's barely distracted (and these things its about me, because they don't know im dating with her) Now we can't go to some place because sometimes she have problemad after this, fighting with her family, sometime with me.
She told me i'm acting strange, distant, she thinks that i don't love her anymore, but, i tried to do everything to stay with her
What can i do /adv/
Whay can i do to make her confident about this relationship, being patient without doubt
Kill her mother in a tragic car accident, then wink at her brother on the burial and whisper to him "your next faget"
>>17003616
Can't kill her, not yet. This is bad.
make sure that you dont. if you do, hide it. her family can tell, but don't be surprised.
her dating is strange??
I can't be happy or have fun or feel normal because of my mom. Every time she saw me happy or smiling she would scream at me and start slamming doors and yelling at me. Now I can't feel happiness whatsoever I always think I'm not allowed to be happy.
Even if I were eating good as fuck food, sitting out in the sun, getting a massage from a beautiful woman I would think wow life is perfect for about 2 seconds then my forced behavior will kick in and I get a surge of anxiety and start thinking I don't deserve to be happy.
What do I do
Work with a behavioural therapist. You've been conditioned and now need to alter that conditioning.
If this is all true, then your mother sounds like a total cunt. I don't get why fucked up people have kids and make them fucked up as well.
>>17003647
It's true and she's worse than you could ever imagine
I'm an extremely understanding individual. There have been several incidents in my current relationship which would have caused most people to flip out or at least spend a long time complaining about it.
I do this because I want things to work with my partner and I don't want to fall into the habit of petty arguments. I am hurt by some of the things that have happened but I have a view that shit happens and it's how you deal with it that matters.
However, recently I've started feeling like I can't bring up any concerns I have with my partner. I feel like by dealing with them and excusing them in the first place, I have no right to feel anything from them afterwards. Understandably, my confidence is a bit knocked and I'm doubting the success of this relationship, but I don't feel I can bring the reasons up because they've already been dealt with.
I think I just avoid any conflict with this person because I don't want to be seen as a bad guy, but by doing that I'm probably causing myself more anxiety in the long run.
Any tips on how to deal with this?
I would read up on how to deal with conflicts in a healthy manner. it can be tricky, and honestly I've been married for 4 years and am still learning how to do this shit.
>shit happens and it's how you deal with it that matters.
this is an excellent viewpoint, and it shows you're already partway there.
anyway, after you've done some studying on it, talk to your partner about what's been going on and how you feel about all this. let them know that you are going to be a bit more vocal about issues that come up, but that at the end of the day you still want what's best for the relationship. their reaction should be supportive. a good partner would want for you to feel able to air your beef when needed. if not, that's a bad sign.
also remember that you have the right to feel whatever you feel, whenever you feel it. in certain situations it may or may not be appropriate to express it, but your feelings are always yours and you're allowed to have them. make sure you mentally separate the feeling from the decision to act on it or speak of it. if you think of them as the same thing, then you will feel invalidated every time you can't speak up about something. in this way it's easy to get in the habit of invalidating yourself while feeling as though the other person is invalidating you, when in reality they'd be perfectly fine with you airing your opinion. not sure how much of that applies to you, but am saying so anyway, just in case it does.
>avoidant personality disorder
>>17003570
Talk to them. I understand conflict is hard but things will get worse...I promise.
I've been hanging out with a girl for around a year now. Talking on Facebook, going to each other's houses to game, having lunch, seeing movies, stuff like that.
How do I go about turning a friendship into a dating relationship?
>inb4 "one year is a long time"
>pic unrelated
>>17003564
Grow a pair of balls and ask her out to dinner. You've had lunch together, and been to each others houses. Jesus anon.
> fuck her in the pussy
>>17003564
>>17003567
Pretty much this. Consider it a natural evolution in your friendship, not a whole different type of relationship.
>>17003567
Yeah but what then? I'll ask her for dinner and then what? What do I do to diffirentiate this meal to show I wanna bf her.
I don't know who to talk to about this, so I'm posting here. Maybe if I put how I'm feeling into words I will feel better about it and be granted some clarity on the situation or something.
I've been with my current girlfriend for almost two and a half years. This is the most serious and longest relationship that either of us have ever had. My girlfriend is amazing; she does a lot for me and I really care about her. I love her very much, but recently I have been noticing her small flaws more and I can lose my patience with her quickly. Not huge flaws either, just small things (loud snoring, how loud she can be when she talks) that make my autism flare up. Despite these things (that she can't even control) she is the best girlfriend I can ever have and ever hope to ask for.
Roughly two months ago I started a new job. There was a girl that was hired with me who I didn't pay much attention to at first. However as I started working with her I quickly became attracted to her. She is very pretty. She's kind, funny, and fun to be around in general. If I were single I would have asked her out within a week of knowing her. I soon realized that I had developed a crush on her. Attraction is something that happens and it isn't something I can control, I know that. She has shown interest in me too. She always finds an excuse to talk to me. I pick up on her cute ideas of flirting with me. She has offered and has given me a ride home from work (I walk to work).
Now this crush has developed into something more. When I'm alone I'm thinking about her. I'm fantasizing about her too; not even sexually, either. I used to do this in high school all the time. I would become friends with a girl or a girl would show a slight interest in me and I would imagine how things would go if I asked her out.
Cont'd
>>17003562
However back in high school I was a chicken shit who didn't have the confidence to pursue a relationship with any of those girls. This time I can't pursue a relationship because I am already committed.
I've realized that it's not necessarily her that I am 'falling for'. It's the kind of person she CAN be. I barely know anything about her. She could have sucked a hundred cocks for all I know, but my head canon has me thinking she is some sort of pure Christian virgin or something. What if she's the one I'm supposed to be with? What if she is a succubus that will ruin my life if things keep going the way they are? What if, what if, what if.
So:
1.) How do I stop thinking about someone that I can't be with? I interact with her on a daily basis and I am not willing to quit my job as I deem that to be too extreme for the circumstance.
2.) How do I get to know her better as a friend? Maybe if I get to know her better I can replace how she really is with my head canon. The downside of this is that it can backfire and it could make me want her more the more I get to know her.
Side note: in the two and a half years that I've been with my girlfriend I have not made a single female friend that wasn't a friend of hers first. I've never been in this kind of situation before so that may be why I am struggling to handle it on my own.
Overall, I DO NOT want to be anything more than friends with this new girl. Despite my frustration with my current girlfriend, that may have catalyzed the way that I'm feeling for this new girl, it is hard for me to see myself with someone else who cares about me as much as she does. I have thought about breaking up with my girlfriend to pursue this new interest, but quickly realized that is a stupid impulsive decision that would leave me alone and miserable in the end. It is not right to throw two and a half years with an amazing person out of the window for the way I'm feeling right now.
If your girlfriend has annoying habits then tell her and see if she's doing anything she can help changing
Also, don't encourage your co-worker! You don't have to tell her to fuck off and that you have a gf but you shouldn't go out of your way to talk to her
Anyway, if you were in a relationship with her for long enough you'd notice her annoying flaws too
>>17003581
Most things can't really be changed or helped. It is more of me getting used to her annoyances rather than her fixing them. Which is fine with me I just hate losing my patience with her when she does something that annoys me I know she can't help it.
I'm not flirting back with my co-worker but I can't help but be friendly with her. You're right though I shouldn't be going out of my way to talk to her.
Yeah exactly. A new relationship (friendship or otherwise) just seems exciting for me at the moment but there is no guarantee she will work out in the long run.
Thanks for the advice.
Cute girl at work brought up that she's not seeing anyone when I asked if she got any nice birthday presents. It seemed a bit random so I thought it's gotta be a hint. But suddenly I'm not sure. We've been joking around a lot with each other lately and she's not seemed afraid to look a little silly/playful around me.
I should make a move, right?
For clarification, her exact answer when I asked if she got anything nice was, "I'm not seeing anyone, so not really."
Yeah go for it why not
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present time
>>17003554
She wants the D
> coming from a 10 year old
Yeah... But I think she want it.
I've lived one hell of a life, if you're to take it tonight, I've lived the life of a king but so much to darken the light.
But than again who am I, I'm just some typical guy. I aint no fuckin hero. I just been wondering WHY...
Is the end near?
Are you going to kill me?
Why?
I feel that I might die in a very short time.
Why do I feel that?
Anyone else have that strong feeling that you gonna die any second from now?
I dont really fear death but I dont want to die yet.
Am I losing my mind?
Or have I lost my mind some time ago.
I sometimes catch myself mixing dreams with memories. I sometimes feel that I'm losing grip of reallity.
Wondering WHY has total controle of my life.
I cant stop wondering WHY this and WHY that.
I live in the past and the future I'm only in the present time when I'm confronted with something urgend. Witch is not often.
How fucked am I?
Can someone relate?
Am I crazy?
What do you think is best for me to do.
Yeah, just kill yourself; you'd die eventually.
>writing this whole blog
>thinking this is tumblr
>OP here
>>17003551 you go back to tubler faggot!
>>17003558
>>17003558
That's sad.
I dont really know what to say about that.
Maybe yall did not understand but I am not thinking about killing myself.
I feel that I might get killed in a very short time from now.
It controlee my daily life.
I feel it very strong.
I'm a deadman walking.
Can anyone realate?
Is this normal?
How lost am I?
How do I make this situation become real? I'm 27 now so I have 3 years left.
>>17003506
Is this shit supposed to make sense?
Are you a guy or girl? Dating sites are good for people desperate to settle down. Also, more couples are having their first kid around 32-33
>>17003510
OP is gonna die at 30 due to breast cancer
So i just talked with my best girl friend (which i love, but she doesn't want a relationhip). She said when we first met she liked me alot and there was a chance she would want a relationship. But apparently i changed over time. Did i really change? How do i change back?
She is probably just saying that to make you feel better but at the same time blaming you for something she did ( Friendzoning ) you.
she just wants to keep you in her life as a back up plan, a lot of women do this, not sure though.
How the fuck are we supposed to know if you changed?
>>17004755
>back up plan
sounds like this. women never go through with hit though. when they break up with a guy they still dont go to their 'backup' they just go to the next guy, and the next.
you are there so that if she gets to 30 and people stop asking her out, she has you to fall back on.
so, some months ago, i lost all of my friends, not in a fight, not to enter in too much detail, my mom tried to send me to rehab for marihuana (even when i dont smoke that much), i felt some shame to tell that to my friends, so i ended up not meeting any of them,
fast foward till now, i've lost all of my social skills, almost all conversations are akward and i have become something of a hermit.
(although i work and go to adults highshool, i just dont socialize with them)
and im not sure if i even want to re-insert me in society, i actually planned for the future to buy some little terrain in the countryside, and go live alone a semi-self-sustaining life,as in, ill sell the food exess to pay for internet and electricity and thats it.
as anyone been trough something like this?
i miss the days when i had friends, but im also kind of tired of everyone's shit
and i dont even know how would i start socializing again.
btw, im not sad, im just like, doing what im supposed to do and then coming back home to waste time in different ways until today becomes tomorrow.
i guess no one saw this, im gonna bump it a bit
Last try? i guess
All my friends are workmates. Have you tried getting a job?
Don't sweat it too much
Is it weird that I don't want to move in with my girlfriend until she loses weight and gets in shape?
She used to be bigger, then worked her ass off, literally, in college and lost a lot of weight, now she's put like 70-80lbs back on. I know fat cells are more easily re-triggered, but she's been so adamant lately about moving in together (we've been together two years) and I'm just worried that we'll keep taking the next steps and she'll never actually do anything about it then I'll be stuck with a fat wife forever.
Does it mean I don't love her if this is an issue? I feel like I love her, but it's eating away at me every time I see a hot girl, or a guy with a fit girl, that I'm settling. I'm not even saying that I'm the greatest looking guy either, but I am lifting and exercising trying to gain mass (hungry skeleton).
>>17003464
>I know fat cells are more easily re-triggered
BULL FUCKING SHIT
>>>/fit/
>>17003469
It's true though. Once fat cells are formed, they never go away, so once fat it's much easier to become fat again. Literally the same with muscle.
>>17003464
I feel your pain but remember that even if she gets fit now it'll only buy you some time, once you settle they tend to not give a fuck anymore and get fat.
What makes you happy?
Doing what I enjoy and cutting out things I don't enjoy.
It's a constantly shifting thing.
Cycling in the sunshine.
Giving obscene amounts of money to charity.
Hanging out with friends and family.
Getting chances to prove how smart I am.
>>17003435
Meeting a girl who I deem dateable and getting on with her like a house on fire.
Playing videogames that provides a newish experience. (Hopefully No Mans Sky will).
Going to the gym and realising i can do exercises I couldn't do a year ago.
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