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>chat up girl in club
>we get along well but she doesn't even want to exchange any info
>manage to find her on Facebook because of mutual friends
>start chatting for a week or so, she's pretty cold overall
>after a few days of no talking she suddenly asks if I'm heading out to the clubs this week
>she gives me her number but asks that I make sure to bring some of my friends as she's going with the girls
Give it to me straight, guys, what are my odds on a scale of virgin to Charlie Sheen?
BiWinning
>>17006797
Virgin.
She is interested in one of your friends, or one of her gfs is interested in one of your friends.
She's not interested in you except as a conduit.
dude, youre just some guy from the club. stop putting so much emphasis into this, and your chances actually increase. as they stand, i'd say 50/50, depending on how you play it. the more aloof you are, the more likely your dick gets wet
>>17006809
no idea what you're talking about
Is it impossible to be an adult and live an exciting life?
absolutely not. why would you think such a thing?
>>17006791
I work, sleep and go to school. That is my life. I have friends but they are doing their own things. No partying, no sex, no danger. I'm sick and bored of life. Idk I know this is a "you're 20" thing but I feel close to the edge. I've become a slave to the system I hate so much.
How do I stop getting stressed so easily?
I get so stressed literally everyday even over the littlest things and it triggers severe itching on my body and spots. I don't like this at all and I usually try to be calm but even when I seemingly am, I end up getting stressed one way or the other.
dont sweat the small stuff. I mean im not perfect but try not to worry about the little things it will kill you in the long run. Especially if you over analyze everything.
>>17006775
It's hard since its easier said than done. I try not to but life and everything just crumbles down on me making me so stressed. It's hard to fix the procrastination and the lack of motivation which leads to high amounts of stress. I don't wanna seem like a weirdo in public by scratching myself non stop
>>17006758
CBT
So yesterday morning I woke up earlier than usual and went to the kitchen and I saw my bf walk out of the shower, he did not notice me, apparently. I turn away for a moment to get my cup and make my coffee, when I turn my head back, his sister was leaving the shower almost naked.
I've been with this guy for one year, and I moved in with him since October last year, he has been a great bf, if not ideal (perhaps this was just irrational me talking). I didn't even find any porn on his laptop. Now I am so confused, he sister is 19, very good looking (they both are). I envy her body. pic related (she reminds me of her). She was supposed to stay in her college dorm but she crashed at our place since last Friday.
Were they fucking ? Am I just paranoid and jealous ? I couldn't believe what I saw, should I go to him and ask "Hey were you fucking your sister every morning ?" In the worst case, how do I keep this guy ? perhaps help him overcome this sickness ? I really love him and I don't want it to end like this. From what I know, they act like usual siblings, I did not see any sign of inappropriate physical contacts in their daily interaction, my bf was an introvert and also strong willed and disciplined, he has his principles, that what I thought, but perhaps I don't know him at all. I think I'm gonna go lie down for awhile.
you said you didn't see any evidence but this is just what you assume? what's wrong with you
Maybe they just are very comfortable around each other. For example: sister is in shower; he needs to pee; "can i come in for a sec"; "sure"; pees, sister finishes showering, starts brushing teeth; "i'm going to hop into the shower myself"; whatever
It's unusual, but it might not be sexual
>>17006745
That's weird as fuck not gonna lie
Best install a shower cam and have us analyze the footage
one could say i'm a crazy girl. i have always had rather disfunctional relationsips. but i realized how bad they are for me and distanced myself from dating for 5 years, going to therapy during that time, trying to get my shit together. recently, i started dating again, and i'm still in awe. it's like a fucking fairytale. we are so "perfect" together that it's like a perfectly smooth and stil lake. how can i introduce some POSITIVE intensity into our relationship?
You're right that you sound like a crazy person.
>>17006812
>a crazy person
i'm aware. i try to keep it on a leash. but can you help me find GOOD and HEALTHY ways to keep a realtionship exciting?
>>17006814
What kind of excitement?
Ok guys, I lurk here on a daily basis but rarely post. However today is the day I need your help.
Me now:
-Finishing my master's
-Will find work in almost any medium to highly populated area
What I want:
-cultivate my own food
-breed hen and rabits
-go fishing/hunting
-cook dank stuff
-DIY the shit out of my place
Problem: Can't do the 'what I want' within the next two years cuz masters, money, location etc..
WTF should I be doing till I get there?
(I recently hugely lost interest in vidya)
i don't get what's your problem? are you bored? need a new hobby?
Same bruh. I'm currently working on my masters, and my degree is in a field that is both highly employable, and happens to be stupidly high in earnings, even at starting rates.
And even though I don't have the degree yet, I'm already working in the field anyways as an assistant. I'm literally just killing time until I get my degree, make some money for a few years, then disappear.
I mostly play vidya and workout when I'm not working or at class. I suggest you exercise, and find a way to start earning money while you're working on the degree.
>>17006732
kinda, yes
I fell for two girls super hard, harder than anyone I've slept with.
Both were crazy and narcissistic as fuck, one was just off in her own drugged up world with a history of cutting and the other one walked all over me. Canceled last minute on dates and bangs all the time, was openly rude to my face very often, but had this weird aura around her that kept drawing me in.
Likewise I'm sleeping with one girl right now who treats me with respect, offers to make me breakfast, doesn't flake, and is well adjusted... And I can't fucking stand her!! The niceness feels really weird and out of place... And boring.
I miss the crazy emotionally unavailable girls in a weird masochistic way. I don't want to try and "save" them but when I see a girl who is a walking mess of BPD PTSD any brand of "mental" crazy my heart starts fucking beating.
I've heard stories of crazy girls completely throwing HUGE bitch fits at their boyfriends, then doing some really crazy drug/orgy shit, or be super manipulativr in some way. Instead of saying "thank god I'm not dating her", I feel "I want some of that".
What's wrong with me??
>>17006719
Right now I'm fantasizing of a neurotic girl just losing her shit and swearing at me, accusing me of cheating or not loving her enough or some crazy shit and then we'll have hot crazy mental sex.
Only the crazy can give me the love I need.
well, in the life of a maladjusted girl, everything is fucking intense. you should try and find an ex-neurotic idiot. they try to be welladjusted enough to be bearable but you will get fits of crazy from time to time too.
What was your mum like, if she had some crazy traits that could be your trigger for being with nutters. We seek what we're comfortable around.
Probably going to come across as psycho but just need a different perspective.
My boyfriend and I were in a skype call and he said that he'll be back in a sec. That was nearly 3 hours ago and there has been 0 contact and now I'm worried hes slipped over and is bleeding out or something.
Hes the kind of person who doesnt really leave his computer and if he does he takes his phone.
The skype calls still running, any advice on what you would do in this situation?
I've text him once, an hour in to him not returning as well as once 45 minutes in on skype and then again 2 1/2 hours in.
bump please
>>17006718
He prolly got high.
maybe he fell asleep. does he do drugs? was he tired? had to run an errand?
but agreed, that's weird
How to stop liking every hot girl you see with your eye balls plz help.
you can't. it's too deep rooted. but why would that be a problem?
>>17006711
gonna need a bigger pic of that
get rid of your insecurities and find your own girlfriend.
Hi /adv/, I've been having some really bad pains in my body the last 6-7 months. They sparked up with my first anxiety attack, and have progressively gotten worse as time's gone on. The pain specifically radiates from my chest, shoulders, abdomen, and arms. This caused me to have my first anxiety attack in my life, and I was taken to the ER by ambulance. My first anxiety attack struck me so hard I believed it was a heart attack, and of course it was not. I was diagnosed with General Anxiety Disorder, and well now things are a bit shaky in my life. I feel the pain constantly now, and it makes it terrifying to even consider working out. I want to get my life back together, as I've recently started a relationship with a great girl, and the last thing I need is to let simple aches and pains cause me to believe that I'm dying every time I get them. Doctors/Therapists have given me very superficial advice as to how to fix these problems, and have done precious little to help with the pain as it's the only real trigger for my anxiety attacks at this point. My general physician told me the first time it was muscle pain, and when I returned and told him it was consistently getting worse he told me possibly a neck injury/GERD. The former is unlikely to me, but I do have a soft point on my neck that could've been injured during weight lifting. The latter is possible because I have developed acid reflux problems since being diagnosed with anxiety. I've had tests run on my heart multiple times to confirm I was fine cardiac wise, but the pain still makes me paranoid.
I currently take painkillers to dull it, but this is only a mild solution as the pain is still present. Any advice on what is causing the pain, how to fix it, or how to manage it would be appreciated.
>>17006622
Hey man, GAD sufferer here. I haven't had GAD as bad as you're having in a few years now, but having a bad pain flare up from nowhere was very common and still occurs every now and again. I think you've got the order wrong: The GAD was already present before the pain made itself known.
Basically, what you are probably experiencing is real pain, but it's a response to your body's natural responses being all fucked up because of anxiety. If multiple tests proved nothing is physically wrong with you, then it's definitely anxiety. Heart attack false alarms are incredibly common with anxiety attacks, so I would think pains would fall under this category as well.
The closest things I had to what you're having were 1) a really bad neck pain for a day when my anxiety first became present and 2) repeated extremity numbness. Not as painful as what you're describing, but anxiety manifests itself in many ways.
tl;dr It's the anxiety man. Continue taking steps to alleviate your anxiety and I almost guarantee that pain will dissipate as well.
>>17006667
Thanks for the advice anon. My utter disbelief in the idea that it could be anxiety is just the fact that it's so new and terrifying to me. At least in the sense that it's never been this bad before.
The first experience I had was right after a weight lifting session, and it's always been on my mind of that happening again that same way. However you're most likely right, and muling over it and banging my head against the wall like a hypochondriac isn't going to do much good either.
I appreciate the advice, and I'll try and do more to be less apprehensive. Hopefully slowly work my way from all of these irrational fears I've been having.
Anxiety can mimic everything, it really sucks. I'd suggest going to a therapist, even though you might think don't need one. It does really, really help.
My buddy [19M] told me that his girlfriend [20F] told him that she wants to break up and get the "full college experience". They've been dating for 3 years now and I just signed a lease for an apartment with them and my girlfriend. Any advice I can give him/them?
Pic unrelated
>>17006598
"Nigga, don't be a hoe. I just signed this lease and yo stupid ass ain't fucking shit up."
>>17006606 His girlfriend is honestly quite a bitch/whore. She literally grabs his hand in public and shoves it down her own pants and into her vagina.
>>17006612
Pimp her out?
Is there any solution to dry mouth when I'm asleep? Its driving me fucking nuts.
>Go to bed
>wake up like fucking 2 hours later because my tongue is literally sandpaper
>guzzle water, go back to bed
>wake up a few hours later
>sandpaper mouth
I know it has something to do with me breathing through my mouth in my sleep. I cant just ignore it and sleep because it usually gives me sores or tender-spots the next morning from being so dry.
I just want to get a full fucking night of sleep, and not having to wake up every hour to either guzzle a waterbottle or pee because of all the water Im drinking.
Sleep with a humidifier next to your bed.
Drink more during the day, learn to breath properly ( for example by going for a jog and only nose-breath). And yes, make sure your room is cold and humid enough. Don't eat salty stuff before bed
Buy a chinstrap for yourself. I know they make some to help with snoring, so I'm sure there's a variety out there. At least, if you don't mind wearing the headgear when you go to bed. Also the other methods mentioned in this thread.
How the fuck do you leave your parents when you only want to live in expensive cities?
My parents are fucking AWFUL they are literally always home. My dad sleeps on the couch and sits there 24/7 so I can't do shit without him asking me about it. My dad stays up til 4 am cooking shit and eating like a pig and he stomps so hard the whole house shakes. They randomly burst in my room any time they want even if I'm sleeping. They walk by and do loud shit if I try jerking off. I can't talk on the phone without them bursting in my mom always gets drunk and screams at everyone. My dad sleeps literally right under me and he literally shouts moans and snores in his sleep all night long. My dad literally never stops making noise if my tv is off I just hear *cough* *fart* *sneeze* *stomp* *cough*
>>17006574
find a place with other people and share the rent
man up and get a job and move out like the rest of us genius
you're going to enjoy it when your roomates are being drunk idiots at 2 am on a work night.
>>17006634
>rest of us
implying we all don't live at home in the basement. kek
Girl I love stopped responding to my messages seven months ago, citing depression. I saw a picture of her with her ex of facebook a month after stopping our communication, but never confirmed that they were officially back together.
On New Year's Eve I sent her "why would you lie to me for so long" and followed it with "I don't even care I just want you to know you're a piece of shit as a person". I was hurt.
I went through a depressive state for the past seven months and then last week finally came to a point of closure where I can be honest with myself, and sent her "I miss you so much, every day." Eight days later she said, "There isn't a hour in the day that goes by I don't think of you in one way or the other."
What do I say?
You say nothing and leave it, because you just dug your hole deep.
>>17006552
What does that mean?
You're both retarded.
Can someone tell me what this bump is, I tried to pop it but nothing happened, then I tried to scrap it off. Wtf is it???
>>17006487
An ingrown hair.
>>17006487
anyone else think this looks like a pussy?
>>17006487
what part of your body is this?????
