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So I've been talking to a girl for a while now but it's starting to fall apart. It was cool at first but now we our conversations are meaningless and it's kinda depressing do you guys have any idea to how to get the relationship back to normal terms?
>>17006484
You should be talking to her in person, phones should only be used to communicate when you're meeting.
>>17006607
Not OP.
I don't think he mentioned phones or texts. I often find that conversation in person can be dull and depressing because there's not enough outside world for distraction and stimulation.
OP, try talking about things that you like or that you enjoy. Ask her about the things that she enjoys. Then, ask her to join you doing something that both of you might enjoy. How does that sound?
>>17006484
you sound like me OP.
Sister is raging because I refuse to go to my nieces baptism
Thing is she invited three groups of people I hate who ask too many personal questions and criticize too much
Am I in the wrong? I was gonna get my niece a gift anyways not like she knows what's going on
>>17006475
Eat your sister out
She won't be raging after
>>17006482
Thanks for that mental image phamily
>>17006488
Fuck that tripfag, seriously.
Eat your niece out
She won't be raging after
so my gf and i are getting into sexy time. shes saying shit like you own my pussy im your slut while shes touching my dick and im fingering her. so i have her get on her knees and shes sucking me and i start jerking a little and she says no stop but i keep going and cum on her face.
she cleans up and goes up to her room and tells me she cant look at me and to leave through text. that im disgusting and that i didnt ask to cum on her face and that im disgusting for doing that.
normally when someone says stop i do but with her she will tell me to stop mid sex or when were starting but then keep bouncing her ass on my dick or shit like that so its confusing as fuck.
did i do something wrong? i feel like shes just being arbitrary with all this shit. like weve done anal and ive finished when she swallowed and thats ok? like theres some fucking list of things that are gross and i just crossed some line. like i thought anal was gross as fuck but i didnt tell her you are disgusting. you didnt even ask me if it was ok to take my dick and put it in your ass. i feel like complete shit now /adv/.
>>17006390
Safe word.
>>17006390
Lol are you dating that chick who posted on here yesterday about her asshole bf who came on her face without her consent and then waited to get her a towel cause you were too busy admiring your work?
>>17006426
Kek no that's not me but that's hilariis.
I've told her to use a safe word before but she never says shit
So I had a fuck buddy for about six months before she became my gf.
We were supposed to be exclusive fuck buddies but I was very sure she slept with someone else during this period and it looked like for a while we weren't going to see eachother anymore, so I slept with a different girl. Fuck buddy (current gf) also strongly insinuated that she we were no longer exclusive after I suspected her of fucking someone else, so in my mind it was justified. My GF doesn't know I slept with another girl at this time.
Anyways, since all this has happened, things got more serious between me and the fuck buddy and we ended up in a relationship.
Fast forward to now and I think I have Chlamydia. I haven't gotten my results back yet but the doctor thinks so and I match most of the symptoms.
>>17006366
>Cont
Here are the facts:
>Chlamydia almost always shows no symptoms in women.
>Shows symptoms 50% of the time in men
>When symptoms do show, they are usually 1-3 weeks after contracting the infection
>It has been 2 months since I slept with that other girl (and she was extremely inexperienced) - Only one previous sexual partner and over a very limited span.
>Me and my gf both got tested at the start of our sexual relationship and both came back negative
>This could have been a false negative on her part from having contracted it just before the test (wouldn't appear in results) - ie. she brought it into the relationship.
>It has been 3 mths since my gf likely slept with someone else
>I got a STD test immediately after my sleeping with the other girl and didn't have sex with my fuck buddy (now gf) until the test came back negative
>I got and STD test immediately after I suspected my fuck buddy of sleeping with someone else which came back negative
>My gf has no obvious symptoms but did mention something about possibly having thrush (so she may be developing symptoms)
So the possibilities are, She already had it with no symptoms and too early to test at the start of our sexual relationship - She got it from someone else since we've been seeing eachother - I got it from the almost virgin girl and it was too soon for it to appear in my std results.
What's interesting is that it is highly unlikely for me to develop symptoms outside the 1-3 week range after my encounter with the other girl. So the most probable case, is that it has been contracted recently by my gf.. Although I don't know when she would have slept around since we have spent almost all our free time together recently.
Why would you fuck a rando without a condom you nasty asshole
You probably have it. Shit sucks, bro.
Hey guys, I dont expect anyone here to be able to fix my problem, I just really want to know if anyone else has gone through something similar
>Been drinking heavily for a few years. Daily
>Been trying to quit lately, had to taper off cuz I startet getting DTs, have no med insurance to get any withdrawal drugs.
>Tapering is going pretty good now, hardly drink at all anymore with no bad withdrawals.
>but, now I just feel empty, and alone, I have friends and family but I dont feel like talking to them will help me feel better. I just feel like I'm all alone in a strange place
Anyone else go through this?
>but, now I just feel empty, and alone
its called being sober anon. whats left of your liver will thank you
Go to AA or similar support group. 85% of those programs is about rebuilding and maintaining a healthy lifestyle (mentally, emotionally, physically)
>>17006462
>>17006473
thanks guys, Ill look into AA but I live in a really small rural town and dont think theres a group anywhere nearby
I don't want to escape the friend zone, what I'm interested in doing is trying get my friend to let me bang her.
as a relationship it would be a disaster but I really want to get it in just once
is this a surmountable obstacle? how do?
come on, gimme some love
>>17006459
oh, I tell jokes. Problem is she quit drinking so I can't even use it as a crutch.
I'm a simple man, I don't ask for much in life. just want to flip it doggy and get in that ass
I'm twenty one in college and I still feel like a kid. Someone told me I was a man and I replied in shock. I'm struggling as a CS major in my junior year, I've been fucking up grades. I defiantly put enough time and effort, I just don't use it efficiently. I never had to think logically this way up until now. The highest msth I took in grade school was Algebra 2 and Geometry, whenever I was failing a test I'd just cry and my special ed coteacher would walk me through. Now I'm having to think on my own and I don't know how. I think this is why I don't see myself as a man. I'm not unfortunate, I come from wealthy parents. I feel I haven't had much life experience, I went straight into College after high school having one job, and no relationships. I had terrible experience with a girl having bpd, she left for someone else two different times. I've felt like shit since, she said she saw me from a mother's perspective rather than codependent relationship, it hurt a lot
. There's this girl who's been in a few classes the past two semesters. We both would stare at each other in class and smile. My friend and I agree, she's dead shy, more awkward then me. Everytime I try to talk our conersations are jagged. Sometimes I think I don't actually like her, I'm just trying to get over my ex. At the same time I don't want to pursue her because she I don't think I'd better her. She defiantly gets better marks on exams, I don't want to corrupt her with my drug lifestyle and overall negative mindset.
If your parents are so wealthy ask if they'll pay for you to talk to therapist
>>17006651
Both my sister and I've asked. They don't get it, they can't see past the stigma of being a patient. I went to the schools free one, on my first visit analysis I basically spilled all this out.
>>17006344
Damn dude I'm impressed how smoothly that paragraph went from maturity to school to crying.
Anyway stop fucking weeping and decide what you're going to next. If your grades are your priority (which you should be, you/your parents are not paying for you to shit around and take dating for a spin) then eliminate distractions and focus on studying. Stop chasing women and get your life in order first. Start setting achievable goals (certain gpa, getting projects done far ahead of time, etc) and go about achieving them.
You shouldn't need counseling for this. If you're actually mentally disabled then you should have some kind of counselor at college already, use them. Once you've set a few goals in your college life and met them you'll start feeling better about your situation.
At that point maybe start thinking about how to approach women. For the time being stop worrying about it. I'd give anything to go back to college and do it over without worrying about all the stupid shit I worried about at the time.
My 20th birthday is coming up and I want to do something for it but I cant figure out what and thought I would ask adv. My boyfriend is coming up and he is currently unemployed so it would need to be something more on the cheap side of things. I plan on taking a week off to spend time with him while hes up as well as doing something for my birthday.
Any ideas? I'm kinda stumped
Go out on a date and do free shit that's around. Then go home and fuck. Sounds like a good bday to me.
>>17006318
this, plus bake a birthday cake or cookies together
watch a movie at your house and make dinner together
I'm a straight guy who also likes chicks with dicks. I want to experience sucking dick and see what I think, but men are out of the question, no interest whatsoever.
I suppose then I should find a shemale, but where do you find those? I'm just an internet shut-in who doesn't know these things. I do know of a gay bar about 40 minutes away, do shemales go to such places?
tl;dr want a casual hookup to suck dick, but only on shemale
>>17006277
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=jItbWZY9SwQ
I'm curious how you will ask random lesbos whether or not they have a dick, lol.
Buy a dildo and suck it for now, I guess.
there's probably a dating site for it by now.
I tripped at work and my inner thigh fell on a metal rod which went into my leg 3 or 4 inches in.
I can't see a doctor. I think I still have tetanus shot. Washed wound with hydrogen peroxide. Treated with Betadine. Applied antibiotic cream. Placed a bandage. Taking anti-inflammatory pills. So far it's only swollen.
Should I do anything else?
>>17006257
So you have a stab wound? Have you thought about going to the doctor instead of saying you can't go see a doctor?
Why can't you see a doctor..? If you were at work, you could force your boss to pay for work injuries . If need be, sue. Lawyers love that shit.
Was the rod fairly sterilized ? I.e. Not a random 10 year old rod sticking out of the ground .
Get workman's comp and see a doctor, you fucking mongoloid.
>date guy
>ask him if he is tested for stds
>he says yes
>8 months into relationship
>pelvis starts burning like hell
>doctors say its not a UTI and that it sounds like an STD
>confront bf
>say I thought you were tested
>he says I was, and I only had sex with one person after but we used a condom
>this is the first time that he mentioned having sex with someone with a condom and not getting STD checked after
I feel like he withheld this information and put my health at risk.
Is breaking up with him too harsh? I feel this is a huge break in my trust. Condoms are not 100 percent effective, thus every time we had sex he has put my health at risk.
A guy who cared about me wouldn't do that, right? I feel like a guy would be upfront about his history if he cared about my health.
Sad thing is its his birthday in 2 days. And I am supposed to show up and be the happy loving gf. But i feel awful.
sounds inconsiderate. so did you find out what you have?
>>17006273
Not yet but even if I'm clean.. he still did this.
Life kind of feels like this:
Earn money.
Socialize and make valuable connections.
Form relationships with women and eventually have a baby with one of them.
Is there anything else you've found to give you purpose in life ?
This is not a shit-post.
You'll laugh, but my life had no meaning until I met Jesus. Only he gave my worthless ramblings and schemes any meaning.
And no, I'm not the OP that does the fucking Christian Advice threads and posts weird coloring book pages.
>>17006226
>Form relationships with women and eventually have a baby with one of them.
Sex is kind of big OP...........
You can protect Whites, Asians, Hispanics from Black immigration and help them so you know you helped people I guess.
Something to help people
Also raising your kids man.....
>>17006234
>You'll laugh, but my life had no meaning until I met Jesus. Only he gave my worthless ramblings and schemes any meaning.
This too.
>>17006234
>my life had no meaning until I met Jesus.
Same here. He offered to mow my lawn for $25 a week and how I have two hours every Saturday to relax and enjoy living instead of working in the yard.
This is another girl advice thread.
So in my sophomore year of high school I met a girl, and I ended up becoming best friends with her, throughout my junior and especially senior year, I started to fall for her. Being in a relationship I did nothing about it, and now we're both in college, she is still within a reasonable distance to me and I still have the opportunity to see her on occasion and will hopefully be able to see her this summer.
She has a boyfriend right now, as bad as it sounds I hope they've broken up by summer.
My plan was to just kinda hang out with her as much as possible, I really didn't have any other ideas on how to move from friends to more. My buddy seems to think I'll be friendzoned.
Thoughts, advice?
>be me
>fall for girl I may not be able to ever get
>feelsbadman
>>17006222
bump
nobody has anything to say?
Here.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=aemOWBkkUuQ
Does /adv/ have any tips for learning Chinese? I am trying to become proficient because I plan to meet my gf's family and her mom's english is supposedly pretty poor.
I am working on Rosetta Stone, and have Learning Chinese Characters for the first 800 HSK Level A by Tuttle:
http://www.amazon.com/Tuttle-Learning-Chinese-Characters-Revolutionary/dp/080483816X
It's becoming more familiar little by little, but it still intimidating when looking at the scale of the whole language itself and that can be a distraction from learning, especially trying to learn expiditiously.
>>17006204
be confident is the most important tip
look at this guy
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=v8jy51Aqdrk
He conveyed his ideas successfully even though he doesn't know dick about Chinese. I imagine the situation with your gf's mom is the same.
>>17006204
Do you have time to take a class? Before you get too invested, Rosetta Stone Mandarin has an accent (it's not standard Beijing Mandarin). If you're in a huge hurry and only have a few weeks, there are apps that teach basic phrases. You could also watch some subtitled tv shows. Immersion is the fastest way to become fluent- aka a summer program in China or one that promises immersion where you live.
>>17006243
I am in the military schooling/training atm so no real time to take class but I am motivated. She helps me on skype too. I am watching Empress of China just to get a constant stream of hearing chinese in my system.
how to find one? i hope he's cute.
i'm waiting patiently.
>>17006183
What the hell is a faerie?
>>17006183
delete this
