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What should i do.
Im INTP. We are atoms that can perceive their fucking existence. Im not interested in living in western society. its not like i hate it or any bullshit like that, it just doesnt appeal to me. I look through social dynamics so easily. Why does it all have to be rated, made good and bad. These are nonexistential things. I feel like im living among a dumb herd thats desperate for doing what they have learned all their live: Do what they are said. It doesnt anger me. It doesnt depress me, since it just is. But i still dont want to be part of it, or live among...
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Teach English in Japan or Korea.
>>17006083
I feel exactly the same way, except I'm questioning how I can even continue senior year of HS, I just can't get myself do jump through hoops in the system. I don't know what to do either, and I'm running out of time to decide. If I could I would leave HS, leave the whole system, and do my own thing, but I have no clue where to start or where it will lead to.
This is the curse of INT. I am J. I think you have it a bit easier because you aren't as judgemental
Can't take it anymore, done being a mindless commoner, no more grinding, can't live in the system anymore, would rather die than finish school and work a shit job, embracing death, what the fuck can I do?
Move to Alaska like all the other damaged goods?
>>17006057
Go off grid
>>17006128
I've thought about that but not sure how to go about it and stay in a good position.
How can I achieve higher energy levels?
I notice that some people seem to run like machines. Like they are just go go go sunup to passed sundown and they can run on 2 hours of sleep as if they slept 8.
I'm in decent shape, I work out at least three time a week. I eat pretty well rounded. I try to sleep at least 7 hours a night.
Are there any changes in diet or routine I can try?
I feel that my motivation is there, but I can't help but get fidgety after 7 hours of work, and working passed 11, my brain just slowly starts shutting off and the...
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Do you exercise in the morning?
I think it is, to some extent, determination. When you have a passion/drive for something, this almost seems to transcend physical limitations. Enabling you to just really go balls to the walls.
>>17006053
Get diagnosed with ADD. I have a prescription for 25mg of vyvanse every day and I notice a huge difference between days that I do take it and days that I don't.
However, it does kind of turn you into a zombie. The way I act makes me more introverted and focused on preforming tasks instead of anything else.
I'd recommend taking a smaller dosage, but taking this has made a major impact on how I act.
Im in a really horrible situation! My husband left my son and I and took all our savings. He took my name off everything. Im in nursing school and im afraid ill have to drop out. Thats the only hope i have right now for my son and i to have a good future. i wasnt working because my husband told me not to during school. he just meet a girl on tinder and no joke disappeared. im so scared and worried about my son! its such a long story but that kinda sums some of it up. what can i do?
>>17005924
Do you have an friends or family you can reach out to? Obviously you need to get divorced and try to get him to pay his fair share in child support. This won't happen over night though. In the mean time you need to rely on the kindness of your loved ones.
Start selling ass baby. Or go live with your parents... or, you know, get a job.
First thing first is taking care of kid and yourself. Is work study available at your campus? That's one possibility. If you haven't done so already, I would talk with an advisor, close mentor, or campus counselor about the situation- they have resources you may not be aware of.
I had sex with a prostitute a few nights ago and the condom broke towards the end (didn't realize until I finished). Today I've been noticing I get kind of a stinging feeling when I pee. Could I have symptoms from Chlamydia or something already?
Should I get tested?
Uh, yes and yes? You'll have to wait 1-3 months if you want to test for HIV though. I would have planned on getting tested regardless of physical symptoms once the condom broke, unless you are from a country with legalized prostitution that requires workers to be regularly tested.
The incubation time for chlamydia is pretty variable, but it is definitely possible to have symptoms a few days later. Average is 1 to 3 weeks, but there's obviously outliers there.
I wouldn't be too concerned, the same exact thing happened to me about a month ago. I'm just waiting to go get tested instead of sweating it. I didn't feel burning pee though...
I'm 20 and I feel old. I want to do shit that will make me feel young. I exercise,work, and go to school. I'm willing to do stuff, I just need ideas. Willing to help anon?
I'm in the same boat. 20 also, I missed out on the "college experience" because I had to work and support myself, and it made me mature, and now, even if I won the lottery and went to a party school I don't think I could enjoy the college experience, just like I can't enjoy playing RuneScape for the first time again, or catching my first pokemon.
Like sure, I could be entertained banging sluts and all that, but it wouldn't be cool or fascinating like it is for actual college freshman.
I like raves and different environments. Problem is that I have to be 21+ and we are in that weird lingo age. I don't want to waste it waiting to be 21. Every fucker I meet says dude, just be 21 0_0. I want to do stuff
You have to much structure, throw a little chaos in your life. Motorcycle is good start
I'm in my first year of college and i'm still not entirely sure of what I want to do. My current major is biology, but i'm going to fail my chemistry class because I can't, nor have I ever been able to, into math or memorize the dozens of equations that are taught. I'm ashamed and extremely disappointed in myself. I've never completely failed a class before. Sometimes i'd pass with flying colors, and other times i'd just pass, but i've never outright failed before.
I want to know what some of you guys in school are studying,...
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If your degree doesn't involve math it just isn't fucking worth anything in the job market. Even a shit tier MBA requires Calc 2 at most schools.
>>17005899
>memorizing equations
This is why you fail. You do not know how to learn.
You do not memorize equations. You understand them as true statements. You must know not just that one quantity equals another, but why this is so. There is always a reason and you will continue to fail until you learn to seek it.
How do people have a problem with memorization?
Just study for a respectable amount of time,and the answer should come to you during the test. I've never had a problem with tests so I don't understand.
Your brain holds millions of pieces of information, but it sorts them quite efficiently. You probably aren't being given an overwhelming amount of information weekly. Just take it week by week and study hard and effectively.
When you meet a girl online, when's a good time to give up if she is taking too long to meet up?
Usually, I'm able to meet up with someone in about a week or so if I really caught their intention and they often don't make excuses or bullshit.
Recently, I've been talking to a girl for a while but she keeps making excuses, has a lot of free time, but claims that she's not yet comfortable because of all the stuff that's been happening around the world.
I am 27 and she's 23; however, I don't think she takes meeting at seriously and imperative as I do. I find it a waste to talk to someone for a really long time, meet up with them, and then end up not moving forward because of something I could have spotted 2 weeks in.
>>17005877
I wait a very long time. I want to determine if someone is interesting and can hold a conversation with me online - kinda vet the process and make sure their listed interests are real interests. The last thing I want to do is deal with someone who won't invest their time in me, and then shows up and is some ugly hambeast.
I get that you want to see if you have in-person compatibility, but I'd rather get the compatibility questions out of the way before I have to sit through an awkward as shit...
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>>17005930
I guess it's a bit difficult to wait because I have never really been in a relationship for more than a month and my experiences usually occur every 5 or 6 years. Can you blame me more being extremely impatient?
It seems like the girls you aren't really crazy about..... will meet up with you no problem.... but when there is a huge probability that she might be awesome as fuck, she want to make you wait 2 years before you can meet her in person.
>>17005877
up to a month if she hasnt got a camera because... or some other way or wants you to send money thru western union (untraceable) its a scam. google reverse image search. its not rocket science bro
otherwise meet some people IRL
I'm too much of a pussy to ask my landlord to get rid of my cockroach infestation and no stores seem to sell stuff that kills them. should i just end it?
Pretty sure this is something your landlord wants to hear about, you'd be doing them a favor.
>>17005835
This. Why are you afraid of your landlord?
You could clean your damn house.
LOOK AT THIS KITTY!
It's a very cute kitten, OP.
>>17005815 I don't know what it is about kittens, but when I see them I want to hurt them. I just want to bruise them up. Nothing major, just bruised.
>>17005889
You probably feel powerless. When I was a toddler living with my abusive parents I would wrap my cat up in a blanket and jump on it. I just needed something to take my aggression out on.
Is it true that genetics can make it more difficult to lose weight or is that something fatties say just to feel better about being fat?
>>17005814
Both, but mostly the latter.
>>17005814
The latter. Unless you have thyroid problems. There are notable exceptions such as that, but they are few. In most cases they use genetics as an excuse. It's possible that being lazy and weak willed is genetic though so perhaps there is some validity to their claim. Basically they just suck though.
>>17005814
I can confirm genetics can aid in weight gain/loss as an unhealthy skinny person, but I think the majority of fat people are large because of their parents and unhealthy habits formed in childhood along with the fact that it's hard to lose or gain more than 7-10 pounds during adulthood.
A few months ago I bragged to a few people at a bar about being an amateur photographer, I showed them some pretty basic pictures I took recently and they were impressed (these were basically point and shoots). Over the past week we've chatted a bit and they want me to do a photo shoot tomorrow with them. Truth is I am extremely amateur photographer, as in I know only the very very basics of photography, I've never done a photoshoot before. I don't really know shit about photography beyond how the rule of thirds and some other elementary things. Well fuck. What...
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>>17005778
do some things to stand out i guess, do some abstract photographs something original
If you use a tripod and set up a light or two, you'll seem like a pro. Most people don't know shit, and it's not exactly rocket science even at a more professional level
>>17005792
We're not going to be doing anything too abstract from the sounds of it. The plan is to do the photoshoot at the beach.
I fell in love with and asked out this feminist girl who apparently has a boyfriend now, that is as sweet as I am. I got the help of the internet that doesn't know my situation and if I would have just been myself she would've said yes or at least talked with me more. It's been 3 months of no contact (which I suspect she is avoiding me) and she always looks away when I am around her.
Once again, I fell IN LOVE with her. I can't stop thinking of her. AND IT'S BEEN 3 MONTHS. I'm fucking graduating soon and if I can't stop thinking of her...
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The fuck is wrong with you. What are you even talking about.
>>17005770
I asked her out in a way that may be considered offensive before I discovered she is supports feminism, so there's a possibility that she thinks i'm just a fat slob that's just trying to 'get in'. If I didn't use the internets advice on something and saying something THROUGH A SCRIPT, I would've had a much better experience, without the regret.
I just want to hear what other people have to say because I want to move on
Can you return something opened to Amazon for a full refund? Anyone do this?
I checked their policy and I can't find any information saying you can't (within 30 days) unless you're buying from a seller which doesn't allow it.
I just want to buy a mic and use it for 2 weeks then return it, but it seems too easy. Anyone have experience with this?
>>17005748
its easier to keep it and say your package never came, and most of the time if you're lucky they will refund you
>>17005748
Yes, you can do that. Especially if it's an amazon seller. Their customer service is really great. They know that if they take a loss on this and help you out, you're more likely to buy more from them in the long run.
Also, the way the return works is they process the payment as soon as the tracking label they send you is scanned. So, you put the return label on the package, UPS scans it and they send the money back to you before the package gets to their warehouse. I've sent shit back in...
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>>17005847
It was a kayak paddle before anyone gets weird
So how do I get over my breakup? A little backstory, the last two years of my life had been hell. I hated myself, thought of killing myself everyday, and accomplished nothing and basically stayed in bed everyday. Then a friend of my introduced me to one of her friends, around October. We hit it off and started to do things together. I felt happy, I started getting out of bed, doing things I said I was going to do a year ago, and started to live my life. Then out of the blue she broke up with me. This was three weeks ago. The day she did I tried to OD on my antidepressants. Nothing...
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you entered into a relationship at the wrong time, for the wrong reasons. bad idea.
you should be happy being alone before dating someone. otherwise, they will just fill your void and if they go, you are back to square 1. or even worse, as you now have to deal with everything associated with a breakup.
so your options are either live your life continually seeking relationships that might not be the best for you, but they make your life bearable. or you can try and learn to be alone. find new friends, get a hobby, meditate, bla bla bla
look, the productive...
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>>17005803
But I can't find anything that makes me happy. The only thing I haven't done is meditating.
>>17005741
You need to learn how to be alone, man. Fuck. I can't imagine living like this, being completely lost without a partner.
