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Hey /adv/
I broke up with my gf of 8 years in December 2014 after I found out she cheated on me multiple times. It really fucked me up for a while because I thought I would marry this bitch and spend my life with her.
Since then, I've met a new chick who I'm quite fond of and we've been dating for several months. The problem is that I can't get my old gf out of my head. I think about her a couple of times per day. What's she doing? Is she enjoying life? Does she miss me? Shit like that.
To make matters worse, a year and a half since...
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>>17008965
mental discipline time.
Ex does not miss you . Stop letting her live in your head. make a conscious effort to think about something else when it comes up.Hate her for what she did to you.
She was part of your life for almost a decade so don't be ashamed to get some theraphy or something
New chick might be like "you still have feelings for her" and you might but this is not a movie and really you just got well fucked up by the decade girl
>>17008965
How did you find out?
Is it possible to learn to like sex just by having enough of it?
>>17008910
yes.
If you are a girl or a boy it takes time to get used to it physically and mentally. Then you can find your special buttons that work.
>>17008926
How long do I have to keep doing it?
I first had sex at 18 and I'm 22 and I still don't like it.
pls respond.
What should i tell him?
>>17008891
That you're sorry to hear he's hurting?
his "depression" is not your business.
just leave him alone.
"YOU CAN'T HAVE DEPRESSION IF YOU AREN'T A VICTIM OF OPPRESSION!"
I have the power to ruin the relationship of someone who really hurt me. Should I do it?
Bitch cheated on me, and left me for him, and then completely cut me off from her life on a whim cause she's bipolar. I really feel like I should, because it genuinely hurts when I think of how much time I devoted to helping her with her problems, and just being there for her, only for her not leave me, but to block me from her life and pretend I don't exist.
I have his email, and I can contact him. But then another part of me feels bad for wanting to bully a bipolar...
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>>17008852
Revenge is what most people strive for, but end up regretting after.
OP, either do what most people don't and let it go and find happiness within or be the majority.
>>17008852
>a bipolar girl with a drug addiction
you sure know how to pick em :)
Just move on with your life, man. Don't dig yourself further down the rabbit hole. You're better off without her, and you know it, so just keep out of each others' lives.
Shit like this just makes you look bad, and it'll make you feel bad about yourself when it's done. It's not going to provide you with the sense of closure you're looking for.
How can one overcome a massive, irrational fear of men without getting dangerously close?
Therapy.
>>17008845
What am I supposed to tell them?
>>17008859
>How can one overcome a massive, irrational fear of men without getting dangerously close
Hey /adv/, how can I get my coworkers to shut up and fuck off? I've been working my first professional job since January. They have a dogshit "open office" floorplan which means there are no walls and there is no privacy. Some of my coworkers act like it's a junior high; they slack off, talk loudly, run around, throw things, act crude, etc. Normally I'd just get on with my life but when I'm on a conference call I shouldn't have to tell these grown adults to pipe down about crossfit.
How can I get them to fuck off while I'm trying...
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>>17008822
You don't. Unless you become the boss and turn the open office into open totality it is impossible.
You have few options left:
>Change job. But open office is spreading all over big companies like fire.
>Learn how to work less. If your coworkers can slack off, then maybe you should ask yourself if they pay you enough.
>Learn how to ignore your surroundings.
I work in open office too, but I like it....
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>>17008862
>but I like it
Why? I feel like someone is perpetually over my shoulder and the constant noise and commotion is distracting. Not only is the loud talking difficult to ignore, people think I'm "accessible" while I'm focusing on something and don't hesitate to bother me while I'm in the zone.
>>17008822
That's how crossfitters are, they must talk about it 24/7 to everyone. Be thankful you don't work with vegans!
Right. So. Really need some advice.
Here's the situation
this is my first day on 4chan, been reading funny greentext posts on iFunny for ages though.
Thought I'd check this place out.
Went to Random /b forum thing. Mistake.
Having fun there for a while, shitload of porn. Loli stuff is a bit creepy but I put up with it.
This thread of some guy asking for "naughty Dropbox links" appears
I venture in and see a load a few links. I click one expecting to see some sort of porn. I don't really know what I was expecting.
I...
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>>17008817
Don't worry. Nobody cares about 1 image.
You can delete browser history or throw your device into furnace to delete all evidence :-D
>>17008817
Oh man, you're fucked. You know the FBI tracks you through your IP right. Everyone one /b/ is using .tor for a reason.
>>17008850
That won't help.
>>17008857
This.
You shouldn't be going on 4chan without an onion browser. FBIs got snoops lurking 4chan and other sites in order to crack down on cp rings on the web. Dude, you are so fucked. There's a record on your ISP that you partook in the viewing of child pornography. No matter how minor, an offense is an offense. You better pray they didn't notice.
Someone please help me. I can't stop the cycle of self-hatred that goes on in my brain. I'm 25, live on my own, have a decent job; but for the past 10 years or so, I've developed a mentality of hating myself with a passion. It stems from being bullied ever since I was a little kid all the way up until high school when I basically went a little crazy and started trying to fight everyone.
I'm falling in love with someone at my work, but every time this happens I begin to come up with excuses in my own brain as to why they don't deserve me and why...
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>>17008808
pt 2
So with that being said:
How do I love myself? How do I be happy/confident in who I am? Because I'm not. I've been told I'm handsome by a lot of people and I regularly get girls hit on me, but I'm not confident at all. I feel like I'm just this walking, negative, self-hating black hole that can't make any friends and the times I ever do find love I destroy it for myself.
last bump
>>17008808
Therapy. Important thing is to find the right therapist.
Hey /adv/, I was just gonna ask something which is probably really retarded and teenagerish, I'm 18 in case you wonder.
I've been finding this one girl in a couple of courses really cute, but never really talked to her outside of class except for one time. I as the retard I am hesitated to ask her out until the last day of school (Just got out of a relationship, unconfident fucktard, wanted a better moment than when she was busy etc.) and turns out for some reason she didn't show up and I couldn't ask her out.
I was suggested by my friend to...
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>>17008757
is that Dr Dick?
>>17008757
I'm somewhat in the same situation with someone in my courses. I also waited a while to talk to her in private one on one. The girl and I have confessed feelings. But now it seems like were really out of sync
I'm contemplating the i dont give a fuck attitude now and sending her a text.
I get so nervous with these things I don't know whats the right choice or not
>>17008797
That is indeed Doctor Dick
Hey guys. I don't want to sound like an edge master here, but I think I hate everyone.
I'm what most of 4chan would consider a normie. I have a good relationship with my family, girlfriend and friends. Despite that I just feel like I want to be alone. I'm 22 and all my whole life I've been a bit of an introvert. I am good in social situations, but deep down I just want to be by myself. Sometimes I want to hang out with someone but after an hour or two I usually just want to be alone again.
What the fucks wrong with me?
>>17008752
I was told that if you had this kind of attitude that it meant you didn't deserve a girlfriend etc. And people should stay away from you. Funny that.
Anyways, there is nothing wrong with wanting to be alone sometimes. I wish I could feel like you do (well, minus the hate) and not feel so inadequate, or that my girlfriend will leave me for a more "social" guy.
>>17008752
I'd do the whole back-and-forth with you OP but too tired now, did it 3 times today already.
Long story short, you have schizoid traits/tendencies. Don't worry about it unless you start having serious problems, just work on your empathy, emotional understanding/communication, and expression of feelings towards/about others.
>I think I hate everyone.
Do you really? What would you do to them if you had the chance?
>>17008871
>Do you really? What would you do to them if you had the chance?
Not see them as often.
i'm what people consider a "career woman" i guess. i'm proud and love what i do and i only keep growing from the industry i work in. i'd still like to raise a family someday though.
i think i'd like to have a house husband.
my boyfriend's career/job isn't really going anywhere and he really doesn't know what he wants to do (currently works at a bar/restaurant as a server), plus he suffers from anxiety. he's also very considerate, hard working, responsible, and knows how to cook and clean... it's also a bonus that...
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Not a house husband, but I don't see the problem. If you can make due with only one income, anyway. If you weren't already with him, then I'd say you should find someone more on your level, but It's good to see that you're willing to stick with him.
I'd give up a server job in five fucking seconds to be a stay at home dad. Fuck working in restaurants.
>>17008764
the thing is, if i find someone on my level, i'm pretty sure they'll make me their house wife because it's the conventional method of raising a family... i really want to keep my career going though, as much as i'd want kids.
but yeah, he's definitely worth it.
>>17008768
yeah i figured... i remember working as a hostess at a higher end restaurant and it was atrocious. i can't even begin to imagine what being a server...
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Trying to post this again, posted a bit late yesternight.
I come to you for advice regarding my girlfriend. We've been together for almost a year and a half, which had its ups and downs. We're pretty intimate, both in terms of feels and physical stuff. We've yet to have proper sex, as my thing doesn't fit. No, I'm not well endowed.
Over time it seems she's mostly been the one to be getting hurt or getting insulted over things I don't notice I do. I rarely get bothered by her behavior, but she has admitted to me that many a time...
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bump :>
Maybe you should get out of this dysfunctional shitshow that you call a relationship.
Perhaps you could speak to your girlfriend about how her constant bitching is starting to effect your confidence and try and work out what steps you need to take to make both of you happier in the relationship.
What is my problem /adv/ ? I'm a straight male, good looking, athletic body, successful and shit, but I hate relationships, marriage and children. In fact, pregnant women disgust me and I look at people with kids as to some subhumans who reproduce like wild animals. I feel like I'm alone in this; all of my friends are getting married and have kids, while I find it disgusting. I do have sexual libido but I'm tired of meeting women. I don't drool over some hotties nor look at them. I'm not asexual I know that. I'm 26 years old and my parents think...
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It's no problem, imo and I'm femanon with kids. This is your opinion and you're entitled to it. However, I wouldn't be surprised if you'll change your mind when you meet the right girl, or when you're childless and 40. Because childless 40 year old men are sad.
You're too self-centered to allow that kind of responsibility into your life. That could be a good thing or a bad thing, depending on whether you're actually doing something productive and beneficial to society with all your free time.
It's not really a problem that you don't want to have kids, but your hyper-judgmental attitude towards anyone who keeps the human race alive is pretty weird. Maybe you should see a shrink if it's starting to affect your social/professional interactions.
>>17008719
>Because childless 40 year old men are sad.
Not necessarily. A 40-year-old man can still start a family if he wants to. A 40-year-old woman can't. Not to mention, men tend to hit peak attractiveness in their 30s/40s. A healthy bachelor in his 40s with a stable career can pretty much fuck everything that moves. Being a single middle-aged man is like being a single young woman.
Is it a good idea to travel while NEET?
Or will employers look down on it?
If you have the time and money to travel, you have the time and money to climb out of NEETdom.
>>17008707
You're asking if your employer will look down on you traveling while unemployed?
What the fuck are you talking about?
>>17008727
He's talking about future employers, who will invariably ask what he was doing during this gap in his CV. He wants to know if employers will look down on the answer "Oh you know, traveled a bit, Shagaluf m8."
Ideally I would wanna have a gf, someone to cuddle and kiss with and yeah I am attracted to grills.
but I would no way in hell wanna have sex, grills is my country and known for being notorious sluts, everyone probably wouldnt wanna be with a guy that dosent wanna fuck.
what do?
pic kinda related.
>>17008623
what country?
>>17008635
yeah, your entire country isnt known for women needing dick every 5 minutes. you guys actually have guys checking out of relationships because they are too impossible to get into, let alone get laid.
there are plenty of normal women who arent upset by a lack of sex, if you refuse to get it up at all then just go online and look for asexual girls or girls who want to sleep around but a steady date.
