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>go to bar.
>see girl there.
>she keeps grilling me on how she know me.
>we go through a bunch of people over 5 minutes. Get to my friend.
>The moment I tell her my friend's name she says "oh shit nevermind bye".
>A year ago.
>she went on date with my friend.
>He tells me they fucked and yes, she seemed pretty slutty.
>She has a kid, she's been with at least 10 guys since high school, self proclaimed bisexual.
>When at bar, we got along fine.
>Outside bar and it closed, 2 a.m.
>my friend and her are making out.
>walk off so they have privacy.
>They call me back and ask me whats so interesting. (yeah, like I want to sit there and watch you guys make out?)
>some big girl is fucking a guy in a car next to my friends truck that they're making out on.
>they notice and say something about it.
>I say "so is there a line for that"?
>she gets weirded out by it, even though she was talking about her sex life in bar.
>We all go back home.
>Friend tells me about how good of a lay she was.
>now, one year later, she treats me like I've got the plague and runs off.
>Never talked to her beside that one night.
I don't get it. What would she think to react like I just ate a kitten in front of her?
Anyone?
>>17010451
Were you drunk when making the OP??
>>17010524
No?
>Gf hates coworkers
>I tell her I don't talk to them so she can shut up about them
>Afterwork
>My car battery dies
>My phone dies
>Coworker offers to help
>We try to jump it but fail
>He lets me charge my phone in his car
>Call gf
>She gets mad that I'm with my coworker and hangs up
>I tell me coworker he can go and call me brother who jumps my car
>She is pissed
>>17010345
she is crazy dump that bitch
>>17010345
And she hates your coworkers why?
She sounds like a fun girl
Ladies, have you ever been with a guy who was shorter than you? How was it?
>>17010289
lol manlets, when will they learn?
>>17010289
Fine. But then he wasn't obsessed with his height, so it never mattered.
My ex gf was 4 inches taller than me. It was never an issue because neither of us made it an issue.
Help
>Met gear that is wheelchair bound at work
>She had some accident as a kid, paralyzed
>Been working with her for a few months now
>We hang out, outside of work
>She is cute as all fuck
>Like white porcelain skin, black hair, blue eyes
>Hnggg every time I look at her
>Started to fall for a bit after hanging out so much
Should I ask her out? How does dating usually go with someone bound to a wheelchair? Do paralyzed people even date?
She is definitely really fond of me, but I don't know man.We're skyping right now, and I could ask her out, but I won't if it is a bad idea.
Any advice?
>Do paralyzed people even date?
No. Why else do you see so few of them? Cause they rarely reproduce.
of course disabled people date, what the fuck kind of question is that?
ask her out idiot
And when I say paralyzed I mean from the waist down. Not anywhere else.
>>17010149
I don't know, I've never seen paralyzed people on a date.
I'm still a virgin male and everything but casual sex just seems so boring and pointless. I feel inadequate in not participating in it/wanting it though. Is this feeling justified?
Stop thinking about it so much. Not everyone is having sex, let alone all the time. Chill. Have compassion for yourself.
I'm about to do some tumblr level shit but whatever.
Have you ever considered that you're asexual?
Literally means someone who is not interested in a sexual relationship (different then a romantic relationship).
so, by the fact that there is a community of people that are sexually like you, I'd say you shouldn't feel inadequate.
-another asexual
>>17010138
>everything but casual sex just seems so boring and pointless. I feel inadequate in not participating in it/wanting it though.
Do you mean everything ABOUT casual sex seems boring and pointless? I'd say that's a more common view than you'd think.
When I was younger and single, casual sex was not my bag--I had a couple of awkward promiscuous years and finally discovered that, at least for me, new conquests are only theoretically exciting, and sex is dramatically better in relationships.
Not for mushy reasons, (love makes better sex, etc.), although I've heard from many people who feel that way, but for purely practical reasons. Practice makes perfect, basically--when you've slept with someone more than a few times you know better how to please them and vice versa, and hopefully you're comfortable enough with them to communicate.
But if you're saying that you don't experience any sexual desire, even sex in a relationship may not be your bag--barring physiological, psychological, or neuro issues (low testosterone, drug interactions, depression, some ASDs, etc.), perhaps you really are asexual, as >>17010183 suggests. The internet tells me it's a real thing.
hey /adv/,
What does this mean? I am a girl trying to hang out with a guy that I miss and care about. Why is he putting me on standby?
What do I do?
I don't know how to respond to this ambivalent text.
>>17010121
He said you'd figure it out, he's not saying no he just doesn't want to commit to any specific plans.
If he's enjoying hanging out with you then he'll keep hanging out with you, if not then he'll bail early.
He's an alpha, or trying to give off the impression that he's one. His time is valuable as he is a busy guy.
WHAT DO I SAY?
I am so confused with his reaction. He is completely unsure about me, and ambivalent on even hanging out with me.
What the fuck is his problem?
I feel like slapping him upside the head to make a real decision.
Hello /adv/,
I have been homeschooled my entire life and will be graduating in about one month from now. After that, I need to start pulling my shit together and start researching on what I want to do with my life. What is some general advice you can offer to someone who lived a somewhat sheltered life whose about to step foot in the real world?
my advice is to join the military, that'll pop that bubble real quick by forcing you out of your comfort zone and make you become a part of a unit with all types of people you never would have encountered otherwise
Failures are the only way you'll learn. Don't sweat it. Always act like you have no money because trust me, it disappears quick.
>>17010055
>>17010061
Thank you, anons. Quick question: general opinions on college?
>mom wants me to get a good education
>wants me to register to a prestigious school in Chicago
>the tuition is $48,000 per year
>I have to get Fafsa and other shit
>means I have to stick my dick in debt and fuck the shit out of debt and try and work my ass off to harvest off my hard work
>Her friend's son went there and got a degree in 3 years and got hired with a bomb ass job right away
>I suck at school but I feel like I Need to give this a go and take school serious.
>find that a degree in electrical engineering can get me great cash
>is only 3 and a half years
>I feel like I can do this
>mom and older brother are cheering me on for it.
I'm scared.
Should I go for it?
you're talking about Northwestern, right? You say you "suck at school" are you sure you can even get in? And if you "suck at school" what makes you think you'll be able to pursue a difficult degree you aren't even interested in other than cash you think you'll get from it because STEMmeme.
You'd honestly be much better served by doing your gen ed requirements at your local community college or a state school then transfer to NW if you're so dead set on getting a degree from there. The quality of the courses will realistically not be that different.
>>17009978
>mom wants me to get a good education
Is mom paying for it? If no, then you may as well bite the first bullet of adulthoood and tell her to fuck off.
>>17009978
Why private school?
If you don't dig school then you might work your way up with community college first, transfer later.
Help me continue this convo with cute girl adv
>>17009972
Don't double reply, you just met, post another pic when/if she replies.
>>17009980
Well anon, totally didnt expect that response. Wat do, number then date amirite?
This might be a strange one around here, and I know I'll catch shit for it, but I'll try anyway.
I work a job that involves traveling. Right now, I'm working in a city that is a bit far from where I live. I like working there because the work is good, but the commute sucks, and I won't be working there long enough to justify moving.
It just so happens that I know a girl who lives in this city, albeit not well; I've only run into her a few times and had short conversations. I don't see long-term potential between us, so I haven't bothered asking her out, but it might be beneficial for me if I could stay over her place now and again to cut down on my commute. I don't really want sex, but I understand it would be somewhat expected of me in order to sleep over, so I'm okay with that.
My question is how to arrange a relationship with her to serve this end. Thanks in advance to those who provide advice.
>>17009943
I guess friends with benefits?
>>17009949
I've never done this sort of thing before. How do I arrange something like that?
Couchserfing.com...or something like that. There is a literal website for this exact thing OP.
Hi guys, I just turned 18 and thought id commemorate this shitty event by asking /adv/ for help. This isnt a story bot ill greentext anyway.
>be me slighty socially-akward teenager
>not too bad looking, maybe 6.5 or 7
>lots of friends but have 3 very close friends. One is a nigger, the other a nazi descendant and one a friend ive had since i was 5
>Even though we so close will never tell them how i feel
> I wouldnt say that im suicidal but Ive thought about just ending it
> I meen ive only ever kissed one girl to this day(not that thats important) and have very little motivation to keep going
>I used to be a straight A student but now im barely passing
>no motivation to do well, succeed or make my parents proud again
>dont have a clue as to how im going to get into Uni
>dont know what to to with my life at this point, thinking about ending it
Please help...
have you tried anti depressants?
>>17009919
IKTF dude. My Elephant (abbreviated as Me) is turning 18 (rather not get b&) in 4 days and I experienced this starting a month ago.
Me:
>turns 18 on the eleventh of april
>no high school diploma
>1 semester of college, then dropped out to work
>Drug addict, 2 years sober
>Extremely fucked up teeth
>No motivation
>essentially numb
>No car or job
>Psychological diagnoses: Major Depressive, Generalized anxiety, Adult ADD, Conduct disorder with expected Diagnosis of ASPD at age 18
Do you want me to tell you a bunch of bullshit that will keep you content and being a pussy or do you want some actual fucking man to man advice?
>>17009928
Yeah, and they don't do anything...
Im cool af, and good at almost everything (for real, no arrogance, just facts)
I am the most intelligent guy I know, also good at sports, funny, nice to people, always a helping hand, good body, friend of everyone, always the leader anywhere I go...
The thing is that I can't get a girl, is weird, like dating is something that have never been a part of me. I even got used to see how my friends were surrounded by pretendient (both my female friends and the males) and do their things in brilliant ways. I don't fear, is not like if I were a pussy, I'm really confident in my self, not arrogant though.
Ultimately, this never-dating thing has become some sort of obsession to me. Don't even know what kind of advive I'm asking for, maybe just opinions. Anyway, could somebody help me?
start planning your suicide
>>17009907
I had a boyfriend once who described himself like you did.
He literally had to say "but I'm not arrogant tho" all the time.
And guess what?
He was increadibly arrogant.
If you've really got all those things going for you then you must have some repulsive personality trait (like being arrogant, entitled, childish, etc) that drives women away. Not saying it's any of those in particular- but there has to be a turnoff or else women would have approached you by now.
Are you ugly? Post a pic if you don't know and I'll tell you
Well, I can say I am not arrogant because I only admit my own virtues in order to describe my self, like in this case. Actually most of my friends have said to my that I am "to modest" in most cases.
Do you REALLY be yourself or do you hide your true self?
>>17009880
Hide
I'm a cunt at heart, so no.
>>17009880
I'm always myself, but I show more of certain parts of myself to certain people.
For example, if I'm at a party, I'm going to show the fun party side of myself, not the quiet focused side of myself.
If I'm at a job interview, I show the respectful leader side of myself, not the silly jokester side of myself.
These are all components who add to who I am as a person, but I show more and less of certain characteristics depending on the situation, as most people do.
Never try to be someone you're not- but developing certain aspects of your personallity that you have yet to fully realize is not a bad idea. For example, if you're introverted and shy, you can still become a confident leader and be "yourself" if you focus on developing that side of yourself.
When people say "be yourself"- they don't mean "don't filter your actions and thoughts"- they mean "don't limit yourself by pretending to be something fake that you arnt happy with"
i have an interview for a telemarketing position tomorrow. if i get the job, what can i expect? i heard it's mindnumbing. is the job worth the money? most likely gonna get paid min wage plus commisions or bonuses or whatever.
>>17009872
I hate talking on the phone and bothering people. I also hate being a shill.
I'd rather clean toilets than be a telemarketer.
>>17009927
>>17009927
i feel you but it seems telemarketer is a very easy field to get in with a high turnover right. my craigslist is just filled with telemarketing job ads.
Don't.
Seriously. Don't.
>if i get the job,
You will, because no one else will take it other than people like yourself who don't know better yet.
>what can i expect?
Your boss will fire you at best, and berate you daily for not scamming enough people and threaten you at worst.
>i heard it's mindnumbing.
Calling telemarketing "mind numbing" is like calling prison time a "vacation".
>is the job worth the money?
Unless it's literally the difference between eating that day, no it is not.
>most likely gonna get paid min wage plus commisions or bonuses or whatever.
You will get no bonuses, ever.
Get a job at a fast food place or even walmart if you need some experience or money. Even those are leagues better and not very hard to get.
How would you define a Chad?
Any guy she likes instead of me.
>>17009856
The dude fucking ur wife/GF cuz his dick is bigger than urs and ur wife is unsatisfied with ur needle dick. Ur mate get enjoyment seeing ur ass get rammed by chad
>>17009859
>betas literally on suicide watch
