Archived threads in /adv/ - Advice - 1000. page
- Home
- Board: /adv/ - Advice
- Reading: Archived threads in /adv/ - Advice - 1000. page
So I've lost some weight and am out of a cocoon but feeling awkward with my new body. I pretty much kept it casual low key as a lardly lady. My weight made me feel subhuman much less like an attractive female. I was ocd with personal hygiene for fear of being a smelly fatty. That and my subservient nature makes me typically feminine, being a nanny. Cooking, cleaning, nurturing, mothering. I've got all that down. I just don't know how to be a feminine woman. Beauty wise. Hairstyles, make up, clothing really, feminine energy type outward things. I'm weirded out and new to it.
I like organic as possible when it comes to skin and hair. I healed my thyroid so don't want to unbalance it again.
Advice: any girly girls or boys or anyone who would consider themselves feminine, how do you actually go about it? Any good naturalist beauty type of pages/sites/blogs that you (and not gooogle) can recommend ? Pic related to how I feel walking into Sephora section at malls or into an Ulta beauty shop.
Fuck organic shit.
Get your hair straight.
Then you can deal
If you don't know what do from them, ask for a hime cut.
After that, just be yourself with a smooth bod.
The truth is that the most attractive woman is one who knows she is attractive.
Sure you can be the doubtful girl.
Lots of guys like that.
But nothing sends a guy over the edge like a girl who can wink and promise more
Unless you're ugly, then you're screwed
>>17010102
I have literally never seen a cat do that with its eyes, is it photoshopped or can they really so that?
If you're going into Sephora I recommed getting someone to help you, as you're trying to be natural I suggest only going with a foundation so you look fresh faced, if you want lipstick make it out of crayons.
>>17010118
Interesting I'll look into that. Yeah my clueless charisma has landed my current bf, who is happy me not being high maintenance or whatever but he doesn't get it. Just that I'm trying to finally embrace my femininity now that I don't hate myself. I'm not terribly ugly lol, judt actually healthy now.
So I'm 21 and a kissless virgin I have a possible chance to lose it at a party next month but I don't know if I should lose it to a random slut or try and find a girl make a relationship and lose it to her. Am I too far gone being 21 and still a virgin to have the choice for losing it to a girl that I make a relationship with? Or should I wait until I find a girl worth losing it to?
tl;dr
>21 virgin with two choices
>lose virginity to a random party girl next month
>or hold out and find a girl worth losing it to
>>17010021
Which one do you want to do?
Life is too short to wait for true romance at such a young age, go for the random party girl
I was in same boat as you, did not want to drop it on some random at a party because "omg it's the first time" but also did not want to waste opportunities being picky. It sucks to have to choose that, but you have to decide what is more important to you, living life as it comes or living it to your plan. I decided on the latter, but figured I wouldn't rule out bj's, making out or fingering or any of that. If she wants to fuck.... sorry, it's a party, would rather do that with someone I'm closer to.
I have accumulated $50,000 in savings at age 30 after painstaking grind of being socially retarded, introverted loner working 9 to 5 jobs with minimal human interaction and very little sex. I don't know what I should do or what can even be accomplished with this money. Shoot me some ideas.
Give me 5k so I can get out of debt.
>>17009988
this.
That's all i need.
>>17009984
Invest it conservatively. You could have a decent nest egg in 30 years if you do this consistently.
>26, beta most of my life.
>anime, videogames, yu gi oh.
>get gf, been 4 years with her, not getting married though.
>recently started lifting.
>Life changes, drop most fedora ways.
>Teach at college.
>Super cute girl, 18 is into me.
>She asks me out.
>She looks like Haruhi. Fucking Haruhi.
This is friking hard, she even lives 3 mins away from home. There are no rules regarding relationships with students, but it might be seen as unethical, I have a lot in my head right now.
>>17009982
go for it as long as your gf doesn't mind
>>17009982
its a bad idea bro
even if she is 18 they are going to think you are taking advantage of her, that shes some kind of major weirdo etc
If you plan on sleeping with this girl I would break up with GF first. You're reaching an age where you just become more attractive to all women, so if you were a beta for a long time you're probably going to want to fuck 18 year olds for awhile.
5 Year Suicide continues. I'm getting deep into a klonopin and alcohol addiction.
This programme continues from the start of 2016.
So I have most of 5 years left to live.
I have researched a vasectomy. I'd never willingly 1) give another person these genetics 2) I couldn't commit suicide if another person's life would be hurt when I commit suicide.
I'm really scared about the surgery (I get nervous and dizzy when I even think about a simple needle poking deep into my shoulder for a flu shot :S )
My next job is to start contacting american states, Switzerland, Belgium and a couple other places that have legal euthanasia programs. I am also worried this won't be anonymous in the future and a perfectly physically healthy person will legally commit suicide and any part of this will be in news : S
Have any of you: done vasectomy, contacted euthanasia organizations?
pic related is one of my biggest role models, she committed suicide with a very big running leap off a parking garage. I'll never be as brave as her, but thinking about her gives me a ton of strength and resolve and makes me feel really good.
>>17009909
I still say you are being inefficient. Nicholas Cage managed it in a month in that movie.
Rest in peace why do you wang to be retarded the rest of your life
So id like to write an article on ADHD and how much getting diagnosed and medicated helped me.
Long story short I've always been a "weird" kid and as I got older this spiraled into depression and then anxiety.
In the beginning of college I was having trouble with anxiety which was making me more depressed, and I was put on an Anti-Anxiety med that didn't work too well. Remembering that I had been diagnosed with ADHD about 4 years prior I asked my psychiatrist for medication for that.
The first time I ever took Ritalin there was such a huge clarity in my mind. For once in my 19 years of living my mind was dead quiet. When I wanted to do anything I just got up and did it. This helped my depression a lot, because it was rooted in feeling like I wasn't living up to my potential.
I stopped being so anxious as well. For the first time in my life I could fully concentrate on a conversation, and I was conversating with my body language, tonality AND words. Since there was nothing or very little going on in my mind I was truly LISTENING. It was incredible.
I wish I had known more about ADHD from the get go.
I'd like to help others by writing an article explaining what ADHD is and how it can often disguise itself as anxiety and depression. I want to clear up the memes about how ADHD is something that everyone "kind of" has, or that you need to outwardly be super hyper all the time to qualify as having ADHD.
What are the best sites that accept submissions and are catered towards about ages maybe 13-25 (mainly)?
>>17009906
Would like to hear more about this OP, since I feel like I'm the same as you and suspect I most likely have ADHD.
>>17009964
Well what would you like to hear?
I experienced this too
I just turned 18, got on 20mg Adderall IR a month ago, it was amazing. I remembered what I felt like when I was a kid. The euphoria fades but the ability to focus is almost as good. Probably gonna get onto XR or vyvanse or something cause 4 hours isn't a full day by any means and the crash sucks, but I know exactly how you feel. If you just got on it, here's a few tips I've found:
Tolerance grows FAST. Take even a few days off every now and then. It will help.
Magnesium also helps tolerance, apparently so does DXM.
If your tolerance is awful, look into microdosing. 1.5, 3, and then 6 MG over a 3 day period keeps your tolerance the same as day 2 for almost a year, or so I've heard. It is risky though.
Tums or baking soda an hour before, and when taking your Ritalin helps absorption a LOT. Also, avoid acidic foods. Amphetamine and derivatives are at their most availible in a very basic environment.
Set timers. I normally play video games until I come up, and if I don't set a timer I'll play video games for 8 hours straight. On the plus my K/D is around 5.50 now, and I frequently go 80 and <10, but I'd rather be productive.
Write a list of everything you have to do, estimate time for each thing, and then set alarms so you move on. Between each thing, take 5 minutes to eat some cheese or a cracker, drink some water, and stretch your legs.
Listen to music if you're doing homework, but be careful about getting too into it.
Tl;dr: amphetamine is magical for regular people and both magical and very useful for us ADDers, but you need to do a lot to keep it useful.
I want to learn japanese because I'm sick and tired of my world view being colored by a single languge, everytime I try to start it seems extremely overwhelming.
I want to hire a tutor later on, but can anyone provide advice on learning conversational japanese? are there maybe kids shows or games I could use to pickup the basics? I'm more interested in learning to speak first and read later.
Best advice is talk to native speakers as much as possible(internet,travel etc) and skip the paperwork/grammar crap as it just gets in the way.
Do babies learn to speak or write first?Re-learn the way you learned your first language.
Why would you want to learn one of the hardest languages for native English-speakers to learn if you're lazy?
It's kinda dumb.
>>17009903
I had considered french or russian, but decided that learning a language with plenty of media I'd enjoy would be the easiest for motivation.
I can't fool myself into living anymore. I've known for a while that everything is subjective and there's no real meaning to things unless you create it or are told it and accept it. I've stripped away meaning from absolutely everything and have zero reasons to live. I'm just waiting until I die at this point. Is there anything I should even do, or should I just kill myself, if so, what are the best methods?
>>17009725
Why don't you just create a meaning to live and be happy, or accept one you are told? I mean, dying is feeling nothing, its ceasing to exist, but
the feeling of happiness > not existing > suffering
So, if you can go back to feeling happy, that'd be much better than an hero.
Maybe there are no "true" truths, but there are human truths, and you can't escape those. Get some dopamine in that brain and turn that nihilism into absurdism.
>>17009792
I've tried to create meaning in life, but it all goes eventually and comes back to me feeling meaningless, then makes me feel like I'm suffering, living for no reason, all to create a fake meaning again in hopes of living a little longer, I'm sick of it, I don't see a point in living any longer just to repeat the cycle.
>>17009802
Can you explain absurdism more? Also about the dopamine, apparently my dopamine is too high, told by a professional as of yesterday, he also told me it was too low a few weeks ago. And another professional said my seratonin was too low and dopamine too low/high. So really, I don't know what's going on up there. And idk about fucking with Abilify, which is what I was recommended to take.
>making 60k out of college
>no student debt
Should I continue to consider myself a loser?
>>17009631
I thought so.
Ypur loser status depends on how you treat yourself and those around you, not your job or what you make.
>>17009628
you literally made a thread just to brag.
That makes you the biggest faggot here. So yes, consider yourself a loser.
Is anyone here a 911 dispatcher? I'm thinking about getting a job as one because I'm getting screwed at my current job.
Is the job mostly just boring standard work, with a few real emergencies a week or what?
I'm interested too, bump
My grandma did it for awhile. Not sure what it entailed really but she's computer retarded and made good money. Cops are dicks though.
Well I don't work as a 911 dispatcher but I'm an EMT so I deal with them on a day to day basis. It seems like a really hard job because they have to both take calls and dispatch the units which requires keeping tabs on the status of aprox 35 units at all times, which is really fucking hard since almost every single unit is always doing something. Not to mention they always have the bosses crawling up their asses since they dispatch out of headquarters and all the supervisors are dispatchers as well so they sometimes get in there when things get really busy.
Regardless though my company only promotes EMTs to dispatchers they don't hire them. IDK if things are different where you live.
So I got with my boyfriend a few months ago, after his boyfriend/my ex dumped him for a girl. We started dating a few weeks later. Today, he tells me he's trans and was born a girl. For reference, the ex we share claimed to be trans and that's why we broke up because he/she'd not told me before we'd dated. I don't want to make the same mistake again. How do I go about this?
Quit being a degenerate faggot
how old are you? why are you dating people long enough to call them a boyfriend without fucking them. avoid that bizarre mistake by having eyes and seeing people you're supposedly dating with them.
>>17009317
Lovely. But do I look like I care about your opinion on me being gay? Nope.
How long into a relationship do women expect sex? Third date? When you're "official"? A month, two months?
I want to wait for marriage. I know I'll get bashed but it's what I want to do with my life and it's what I feel comfortable doing.
I'm just trying to get a gauge of how much time I have to invest here. I know this is what the next few years are going to be: date, time passes, she wants sex, "no sex bae", she gets mad and breaks up, start over. That's fine that's what I've chosen. But what's a roughly normal amount of time?
I dated a bit in high school and young girls are alright if you don't want to fuck, but since 18 (24 now) been single, but things are coming together and I'm ready to start looking for a potential wife.
peoples ideas about that don't have a normal distribution. I'm sure you can find some other repressed simpleton.
Typically your best bet is religious folks who are waiting for marriage. Most people expect sex within at least the first few months and will otherwise bail.
>>17009283
There's no overarching answer. Some girls expect it right away, some want to wait until marriage, some never want sex ever, and a whole bunch in-between there.
The key is communicating this early on so you can find the right girl for you.
It is definitely possible to find a girl who also wants to wait until marriage/ for her life partner, and who isn't also religious. I am one of them.
itt: Hobbies besides internet
and how to get involved in with said hobbies
>>17009263
Well, what do you like doing other than the Internet?
I play paintball, grow vegetables and herbs, draw, try to refine my cooking techniques...
>>17009273
watch TV
>>17009263
Ever since college i haven't had the time/money to do my other hobbies (hiking, photography, etc) that involve large investments. I learned photo and video editing though. It's alot of fun.
>give friend 10 bucks to get me some pot since I don't know anyone to buy from
>comes back with hash
I'm new to weed and have only smoked up twice, Is there anything I need to worry about with hash? Any advice would be appreciated
Just smoke it. You're probably going to get more stoned than you want to sometimes. If that happens it'll pass in a little bit and everything will be fine.
>>17009158
Smoke it, smoke some more of it, smoke a lot if it, find lsd, pcp, dmt, existential breakthrough, enjoy.
>>17009179
This.
How can I get closer with my male roommate, he never wants to ask me anything personal only greets me and thats it and Im being polite and even offered him some free food,Im a male too.Our longest conversation lasted maybe a bad minute and of-course I have to be the one that starts it otherwise we dont talk ever, its pissing me off !
We live in a big college dorm.We had a small dorm party where everyone is still pretty much meeting each other, which if ok.But there he was talking to others way more and he never meet them before, right on front of me even laughed a bit.
We been roommates for almost 1 semester and we still haven't added each other on Facebook,its like he literally doesn't want to be friends and now Im scared of rejecting for asking him out for a few drinks, I haven't used Facebook like 5 years but that shouldn't matter
at that college party we meet a few people and some of them he already added on facebook, but me ?nope what shall my next move be ?
What are you 12? Grab some hard liquor, sit down with him and find out what he's into. He don't have to drink. Besides some people want to be left alone, that's not a bad thing
Don't 'make a move', he obviously hates you. Accept that and go about your business.
>>17009002
yea I know wat you mean
but he just doesn't want to, he was playing a game that looked like WoW but when i asked him about it he said it was lord of league or something like that and said how its different from wow and nothing else, I mean it was pretty obvious what I was trying to do, to just l get to know what interest he has but no go, he also never asked me how my day was srsly
