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>Likes girl
>Girl from NZ
>She's leaving in two months
>known her for 8 months
What do I do /adv/?
I want to tell her but I'm a pussy
stop being a pussy and tell her man
>She's leaving in two months
you MUST tell her within the two months
asap and pray for the best
>>17013380
thanks anon
kek to you
I'll do it on monday when she gets back from LA
Long Distance Relationships are the best.
none of that sex shit to muck things up
How do I meet girls from other side of the planet?
maybe chat with her online, get her all horny so she jumps some local guy, and then i can pat myself on the back and say "I did that" got some guy laid, without really trying.
do you think she'll send me pictures so I can be a cuck? that would be so cool, don't you think?
>23, 5th year college senior, male, most people in my social circle are new-grad/working people in mid 20's
I fucking LOVE vidya and fantasy shit. I listen to mass effect, guild wars and other vg music so much. I reminisce about my high school days where I'd openly talk about WoW, Warhammer, Orcs, LOTR shit and just live that life. Yeah I was pretty cringe mode but it I had the time of my life.
Then I realized I was gonna get 0 pussy and not have a 'real' social life so I dropped that shit when I went to college. I joined a frat, bulked up, forced myself to go to parties, fuck girls, and turn myself into a Chad.. and it worked briefly. I get a lot of validation. I do get sex which is nice... but it all feels empty. It isn't 'me'
It's piled up on me now and I can't take it anymore. I want to be a nerd again. I want to find a qt LARP fedora girl who I can nerd out with. I want to go back to wearing graphic t shirts, flip flops , smoking weed, listening to viking death metal, and playing WoW all night, or playing whatever new game is hot nowadays and pretending I'm a fucking wizard or something.
I feel that if I go back into embracing that lifestyle, nobody will respect me, I won't have any social status at all and I'll become a neckbeard.
But the designer clothes. The collared shirts. The lifting 5 days a week. The fake girls at the bar and on tinder. The bro-y 'friends'. It doesn't satisfy me. I want to bring the nerd fantasy life back.
What do?
tl;dr closet nerd facades as chad but feeling disappointed and unsatisfied with life
Here's a secret: if you act confident in your lifestyle people will gravitate towards you. Don't be fake.
>>17013219
You'll never have the same powers though since you expended all of your mana and respecced early to a Chad
>>17013219
It doesn't have to be black and white. You can hang out with other people and do that stuff. Changing clothing might be noticeable, but you can probably stop lifting so often. No one is gonna judge you for interests as long as don't shove it in their faces all the time. Hence, other friends with mutual interests would be useful. You can maintain both and if you realize that it really is as good as you remember, then make the full transition if you're willing to.
I'm about 12 hours away from being homeless. I'm currently a student. Jobs are scarce where I live and the ones you can get are minimum wage (7.25).
Lived with GF, random break-up. No family to stay with, it was all very sudden and I didn't have anytime to plan for this. Any advice on how to survive out there? I live in KY.
I have web development and design skills besides restaurant experience.
TL:DR - homeless CS student needs tips on surviving.
self-bump
you're going to need card board and a marker.
try to think of something witty to write like "family kidnapped by ninjas need money for karate school"
I started repeating the lyrics of a song over and over in my head two days ago and it wont fucking stop unless I focus and calm myself or focus on other things. Looking in to it it seems to be OCD related, and intrusive thinking, but how do I know Im not just fucking crazy? Will I be 95 years old in some home somewhere repeating these lyrics? Im freaking the fuck out here since before a few days ago this never happened
Bumping for good measure
Cmon someone has to know how to help
>>17013204
You need to listen to the entire song the whole way through. Your brain is looking for the finality of the song and unless your able to think of the entire song, beginning to end in your head, you won't be able to shake it. Go listen to that song, beginning to end. Give your brain the musical closure it's begging you for.
>friends with this dude for about two years. Never thought about being together with him cause we're just good buddies.
>during the whole time he sometimes joked about what if he wants to get to know me or can we date or so jokingly.
>thought he was joking.
>once when we were smoking outside in the balcony he holds me and ask what if we are dating or have I ever thought about the possibility of us being together.
>still think he just joking.
>my brother pretty much know all about his past. (He was my brothers friends) That all he ever wanted was just to fuck around and never wish for a proper relationship.
>warned him to not having any idea about him together with me.
>we still being good buddy. >Go to cinema together,dinner,playing casinos and all,most of the time was his treat.
>but never done anything beyond the line.
>recently he had a gf. He told me when he come back after his holiday. Jokingly said something like if his heart can be tearing out to two parts he could do just to have me or some kind of that.
> lately he got stood up by me for "not feeling like i want to go out" in the last minute when he was at the restaurant with other guy.
>didn't talk to me since. Didn't like my Facebook or instagram update.
>i met him again once at my workplace. He acted like I'm not even exist. I went with the flow,didn't talk to him too.
>now I'm feeling bad and dunno why he did that. That was not the first time I stood up him
>recently feeling like I've lost something I never had.
>he's leaving the country this July.
What do now adv? I know I can't be with him and I don't think he ever want to be with me or have any feelings for me but I don't want to lose this friendship.
And i don't even know why I thought about him a lot recently.
Bumpppp
>>17013131
There are many situations where guys fuck around but they give their time and attention to someone they really want to be with. You were that person, and instead of taking him seriously, you brushed off his feelings and made him feel like shit. He's to the point where he sees you as a user and a flake. He doesn't want you in his life anymore unless it's at his side. One-sided love hurts.
>>17013209
But if him pursue me maybe things will turn out differently.
He just cant be like because my brother said no so he goes with it. I know there's nothing I can do now because it's too late because he had a gf because he's leaving. I'm just feeling so weird,so empty and feeling like i lost something.
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>>17013125
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>>17013153
Oh, thank you so much! How would I accomplish this process?
So I am a father of a family that is well off. I have a house, provide food, and my wife doesn't even have to work. She raises our one child. I have to travel a lot because of business so it's hard for her to get a steady job since mine takes precedence.
Tonight she came home and told me about how rich her friend is and how they have a nice island in their kitchen, how nice their house was. She was in some sort of envious state.
Am I being a complete asshole for taking this in a bad light? I am quite fucking pissed. Here I am providing everything for my family and she comes home bragging about how much better some other dude provides for his family. I don't even want to talk to her right now. Is it insecurity or is she the one in the wrong?
I don't know if I am being the dick here or her.
>marry a gold digger
>get mad when she starts digging
Bruh. Senpai.
>>17013132
She's not really a gold digger. She does have jew blood and I can see it when I try to spend my own money and she gives me shit about it.
I have $50K in savings but god forbid I spend money on a video game.
>>17013147
>So I am a father of a family that is well off
>I have $50K in savings
Are you a democrat or something?
I like to play MMOs and I hate when there's a girl/girls in the guild. I'm a thirsty faggot so I get sort of jealous when other people talk to them, I think about what it'd be like if we were together,, etc, even though I know the chances of it happening are extremely unlikely and it wouldn't be nearly as fulfilling as a real life relationship. Anyway, I'm playing an MMO, all the people are nice in my guild, I wasn't attracted to this girl. Somehow I end up with her nudes, I start getting more attached, she has a husband, I manage to get less attached since I know nothing will happen. Had a chat with her and it made me feel better and helped me see her as a friend. Anyway, last night I got drunk and started doing shit I'm ashamed of like stalking her character. Enough to the point were she had me join a private channel and tell me to stop bothering her. Anyway, that sort of sobered me up, and I stopped. Getting to the point, today all I could really think about is her,, but I don't know if romantically. I don't know. My stomach has been in knots thinking about it and I just want to get it off my mind. And now I can't even talk to my guildies, it just feels weird and strained.
>>17013100
Continuing from that, I'm a 23 yo virgin, never had a gf, it's hard for me to talk to girls irl. I've tried online dating but it never got to a date and my area is slim pickings really.
Still live with pparents, graduated college almost a year ago, I haven't really done anything today and it's made me resolve to start sending out applications this weekend.
Anyway, I'm really wondering how I can stop having feelings for these shitty girls I know I shouldn't have feelings for and how do I get it off my mind and how do I repair my relationship with everyone?
>>17013100
Talk to other girls until you quit thinking about her, or talk to your friends about it to get your mind off of it. This is what I do.
If that isn't enough for you, bother the fuck out of her until she blows up on you. I've had some of my stubborn as fuck friends do this in the past, and it seems to work.
>>17013109
That's the thing though, where can I talk to other girls? I don't want to have this girl blow up on me because she's decently cool, I'd rather be able to treat her as a friend and not someone who I get jealous of when she talks to other people and makes me feel like I'm going to through up from anxiety
Fuck me, I just told her on facebook that I like her
How long should I stay off facebook becauses I feel like dying inside and I'm stressing out
Get ready for the "...Let's just be friends FOR NOW, anon, ok?"
>>17013098
Brace yourself pussy hahaha
well at least it soothes my mind to know that I actually t r i e d
though I'm not getting on facebook for the next 3 days
hey, /adv/. I'm in a bit of an interesting situation. I am a male, post puberty. For most of it, my penis length was 5in L by 5 in circumference. But in the past month, I've gained over an inch in length. The only explanation I can think of is a slight increase in cardio exorcise. any ideas as to what might cause this?
>>17013077
How old are you? Most men aren't fully matured physically until they are about 25 or so. Some mature quicker than that, others a bit later, but by 28 or so most men are physically mature.
Length can vary depending on how erect you are. I've been 4 inches when I fap a lot, to 5 and a half. Are you sure it isn't that? Or maybe you lost weight?
Anyone on antidepressants here? I'm on an antidepressant called citalopram. I don't feel depressed but I'm not really happy. Anyone here know the key to happiness or any kind of medication they might be coming out with that will make you happy?
>>17013062
>any kind of medication they might be coming out with that will make you happy?
yea its been out for years, its called weed
>>17013071
weed just makes me lazy forgetful and hungry. I don't really think it makes me happy.
>>17013062
Antidepressants don't make you happy, OP. They fix your brain chemistry to make you not sad/anxious/myriad other symptoms. Medication should be used in combination with therapy. First you fix your brain, then you fix your thoughts, then with introspection and hard work you can be happy!
How do you develop self-esteem when you objectively know you don't have anything to offer?
Manipulate people into thinking you do or go get something to offer.
>>17013036
You improve yourself to the point where you feel you have something to offer.
also as you said yourself
>objectively
>>17013036
Resign yourself to God's will and spread chaos
You will find purpose as an instrument of doom
>Started dating girl
>Know she has a promiscuous history
>Date her anyway cause she's cute as fuck and Im lonely as fuck
>Fast foward 4 months
>Practically everyone including her family is calling her a slut in some way or another
>Close friends and some family warning me about her
>Just now she denied having sex with someone I know before we started dating, even though I know for sure she did.
I know for a fact she's lying, but she keeps denying it. I don't know what my next move is. I don't care about her past, but it's the fact that she's lying about this that's getting to me.
>>17013026
>Date her anyway cause she's cute as fuck and Im lonely as fuck
This is never not a recipe for disaster
>>17013052
>double negative
What's the point of that, other than the fact you're a double nigger?
>>17013026
How do you know that she's lying?
We've been dating for a year now and get along great--same political views, same stance on firearms (love 'em!), on children (gross little money pits), religion, finances, similar enough tastes in weird sexual habits that it's neither boring nor approaching hard limits--but there's an eleven-year age difference between us. This has never bothered either of us although I've gotten negative responses from acquaintances.
We're serious enough to have discussed something more permanent than just dating with each other and our respective sets of parents and they're fine with us getting married, although they think we should wait a bit longer (which we're both fine with doing).
The age difference doesn't matter to anyone who matters to us but maybe we all have rose-colored glasses on...
Anyone want to share advice or opinions about this topic?
>>17013015
Google Dan Savage campsite rule. Depending on how young the younger partner is (Is is 20 and 31? or 40 and 51?) the older partner has a higher bar to clear to show they are not taking advantage of the younger partner. People may judge, and you should not worry about it, but at the same time the older partner should put in a little extra effort to prove that the younger one is safe.
>>17013015
11 years is a little steep and you will really feel that difference in the later years.
>>17013045
It's actually the opposite I think, less of an issue as you get older. Some people are just old souls. Also seems be less stigmatizing when the woman is older. I'm 32 and the last girl I dated seriously was 21. I had to turn down a seriously awesome 16 year old because of the stigma.
Introverts which have gf or had a long-term relationship,
What's your story?
>>17012999
Nice trips
Been married for 20 years, should have stayed single & watched porn
Have to watch porn 9 times out of 10 now anyway
Would have been cheaper & had more time for myself & hobbies
The end
>>17012999
>glued to girl I liked
>friend of that girl did her best to help me get her
>get her
>have a great time with her, love her and have great sex
>lasts 1 year
>she becomes pregnant
>my son is born
>she doesnt feel like playing mom
>becomes a super whore that wants to party and suck random dick in clubs while I work my ass off for our little family
I left her and our son lives with my exgfs sister now.
Got married to a young woman who didn't know any better. Lasted for 5 years, then she realized she could pull out of the top 20% of men who I am not. It was nice to be loved for a couple months, definitely worth the crippling financial losses. I'm lucky though.
