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I don't understand. I thought people were just bsing when they said "I think too much." It has to be code on terms of being weird or something unknown. The people I hang out with just say "be you." Even my parents say they don't understand me. I don't relate to anyone on any level. I think it's my nasally voice that makes everything I say as if it's a joke. I don't understand! It hurts so bad not knowing. I'm trying I think. Buckle-up for the ride.
Well what are you doing that is making your parents and friends not understand you?
I'm trying REALLY hard to figure this out. My friend said I ask questions that no one else would ask. People say I'm always on edge. For example, they see me shaking, but I don't know why. They say I'm just nervous, but the problem is that I don't feel nervous. I feel like I have no control. I think there are things that stimulate me, but I can't identify it yet. I'm acting certain ways, but I feel like I don't have complete control.
>>17014149
>>17014198
Go see a psychologist
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Before you post a question, check here to see if it's already been answered
Keep your questions short and sweet for more answers.
And please no derailing arguments.
Avoid asking these common questions:
>Do girls/guys like <insert specific look>?
>Is my body part big/small enough?
>Am I short/tall enough?
>Would you date a virgin?
><Random insecurity>
Some do, some don't. Preferences differ, but complexes are always a turn-off.
>I'm shy and afraid of people/rejection. What do I do?
Think positive, and get over it by practicing and exposing yourself to it, little by little, step by step. There is no single magical moment that will instantly change you forever. It takes hard work, time, and effort.
>I like someone. What do I do?
Ask them out.
>How can I tell if someone likes me?
Ask them out. This is something we cannot explain to you. You either have learned to intuit this or you have not. If you have not, the only way to learn is experience--there are no shortcuts. So it comes back to: Just ask them out.
>Where do I meet girls/guys?
Anywhere outside. Or online.
>Someone did something insignificant. What does it mean?
Nothing significant. Stop overthinking it.
Alternative answer: we don't fucking know.
>XYZ happened. Did I fuck it up with this guy/girl?
Maybe, maybe not. We're not in their head, we don't know. No amount of your walls of text will fix that.
>This person did something that hurt my feelings. Why do guys/girls do this?
Because shit people are shit people. It's not a gendered thing
>Someone has made it abundantly clear they're no longer interested in me. Do I still have a chance?
No
>Where do I go on a first (or subsequent) date?
Pick one or more of the following: coffee, lunch, dinner, drinks, ice cream, movies, zoo, aquarium, museum, art gallery, <activity in your city>
>That one guy who keeps asking about cuddling in platonic friendships.
No one wants to cuddle you. Stop asking.
>Brandon
Fuck off
Girls: Who's your favorite superhero?
>>17014185
I don't really follow superheroes. Who's yours?
Guys, what's your favourite meal? Including dessert
I dont fucking get life anymore.
Anyone here just want to chat?
Why are people being such fucking pieces of shit to me.
Let it out bro,
tell us what's going on with you.
>>17014134
Life is a music video.
What's on your mind?
>>17014134
Because you are a piece of shit. You are no benefit to the society. You will do better to society if you just kill yourself.
How to come to terms with the fact that the person you thought were in a loving relationship with was actually just using you for various things and has now blocked you out once he had his fun?
I don't have much experience with guys so I can't imagine being able to trust again. Girls, how do you do it? Is everyone supposed to go through a certain number of heartbreaks?
>>17014108
Wouldn't you be annoyed if a guy told you, "I thought I was in love with this girl once, but it turned out she was just using me, so I pretty much don't trust girls anymore."
Yeah. You would.
It really sucks that that happened to you, though, I'm sorry. No promises, but hopefully the next one will be a lot better.
>Girls, how do you do it?
It's not a girl thing, dude. It's a people thing.
>>17014118
I'm afraid I wouldn't even get close enough to anyone to bring up conversations like that.
From experience, you let go and give yourself time to mourn the loss of the relationship. By accepting that it's not for you, you let yourself grieve and move on. It's not going to happen overnight, but you give yourself time, focus on you, and then work your way back up when you meet someone new.
If you go into every relationship thinking that it's going to be the same, you may end up creating self-fulfilling prophecies. Take this experience and try to figure out some signs to learn from it to avoid potential issues in new experiences, but don't hold onto it.
I WANT A FRENCH GF AND I WANT HER RIGHT NOW
ENOUGH IS ENOUGH
That's silly
Then go to France you retard
>>17014097
bonjour mon petit ami :)
voulez vous couchez avec moi?
What should I bring to a friend's BBQ?
It's a friend's bbq, he said there's about 8ish people. When I asked him about it, he said it doesn't matter but if I want, I can bring beer. My friend has TONS of beer. So what I should bring?
How long until said BBQ, OP?
>>17014069
Until Saturday afternoon PST. I would have made sangria if I had known earlier.
>>17014063
Eh, even if there is a lot of beer, it can be nice to bring some. Either it'll get drank or your friend will have some extra to enjoy later.
Popsicles could be a hit.
Or Jello Shots if it's that kind of thing.
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I need help writing my suicide letter. I am not 100% certain I will go through with it, but im writing my letter now for the possibility of me doing it tomorrow.
Is there someone that will talk with me? Help me articulate myself to lessen the blow for those I hold dear.
Just shut the fuck up if you're going to try to talk me out of this, please just shut the fuck up.
>>17014047
kek you found the strength to post on /adv/ but you lack the strength to not kill yourself lmao @ your life rite now
>>17014057
youre an absolute moron. I just need help writing a fucking letter
>>17014047
Dont do it. Or if you're going to do it, at least make it meaningful.
You could die alone for some poor soul to discover and clean up, or you could give your life for something meaningful.
Send a message to government or big business. Self immolate for world peace. Drown yourself in gasline for the environment.
Hey /adv/ I need help.
I'm starting to have suicidal thoughts and I don't know why.
I feel like a burden to my friends. Like that guy people invite in their group of friends out of pity and regret it almost immediately because of how annoying I am, but can't do anything because they don't want to make me feel bad.
I'm a burden to my family. I make my parents feel like they are doing something wrong, as I don't like going out, I don't invite friends ever, I almost never listen to my mother, go to church with her or visit my father. I'm a burden for everyone. I'm always doing something wrong and making a fool out of myself all the time. I can’t find joy in playing the games I used to like, or find enjoyment from sweets and candy I used to eat. I feel broken. I wish I could be as happy as the other people in my classes without having to drink alcohol or anything like that without having to pretend to be.
I want to kill myself, I want to die but I can't. But if I do, I don't know what my mom will do to my dog, whom she dislikes. I'm afraid she will give it away to some family or something. I need help or an advice to help me decide what to do. I already go to a psychiatrist, but I can’t tell her how I feel at the moment because I don’t want to disappoint her by letting her know I’m feeling the same way as 4 years ago. I can’t tell any friend because they will just think I’m just looking for attention or something. I can't tell anyone, because they will look down upon me.
>>17014012
Btw, sorry for the wall of words.
Also, I don't live in the US, so I can't call their suicide hotline, and my country doesn't seem to have anything similar to it.
>>17014012
What country are you from, first of all, that doesn't provide suicide prevention hotlines?
You have a chemical imbalance causing you to feel depressed and suicidal. Confront the difficulty and realize it for what it is nigga. Medication works wonders.
>go to bar.
>see girl there.
>she keeps grilling me on how she know me.
>we go through a bunch of people over 5 minutes. Get to my friend.
>The moment I tell her my friend's name she says "oh shit nevermind bye".
>A year ago.
>she went on date with my friend.
>He tells me they fucked and yes, she seemed pretty slutty.
>She has a kid, she's been with at least 10 guys since high school, self proclaimed bisexual.
>When at bar, we got along fine.
>Outside bar and it closed, 2 a.m.
>my friend and her are making out.
>walk off so they have privacy.
>They call me back and ask me whats so interesting. (yeah, like I want to sit there and watch you guys make out?)
>some big girl is fucking a guy in a car next to my friends truck that they're making out on.
>they notice and say something about it.
>I say "so is there a line for that"?
>she gets weirded out by it, even though she was talking about her sex life in bar.
>We all go back home.
>Friend tells me about how good of a lay she was.
>now, one year later, she treats me like I've got the plague and runs off.
>Never talked to her beside that one night.
I don't get it. What would she think to react like I just ate a kitten in front of her?
>>17013991
>self proclaimed bisexual
as opposed to everyone but her claiming it?
>>17014014
You know how people create stories about others?
>>17014023
im not sure what you are getting at. just say shes bisexual, you dont need to tell us that she admits shes bisexual like that matters at fucking all
Alright... So for the first time I had my dick sucked today and when I came on her face it was a weird yellowish color. Should I be worried? Btw it can't be a std I've never had sex before!
>>17013952
Do you smoke?
>>17013952
This can happen for a few reasons. Happened to me once when I was about fourteen.
Multivitamins, being an old fucker, not having ejaculated in a while, certain STIs, smoking, possible prostate infections, urine, prolonged dehydration, eating foods with a high sulfur content, e.g. onions or garlic, and there are a few others I can't remember right off the top of my head.
>Don't worry about it, broham.
I smoke every once and a while, it's just my when I saw my yellow splurge on my girlfriends face I was concerned but still horny so I didn't mind it. But thanks guys!
Am I biting off more than I can chew?
I'm a full time student. I work part time (weekends) and am called in often, usually at least one extra day a week, meaning I typically work 3 days a week. I have therapy 1 hour every week. I go to the gym once every other day for about 2 hours. I also am autistic, battling depression, and I and need lots of rest and downtime between being social. I sleep a good 10-12 hours every Sunday after spending the weekend at work being social. And now I want to take on an 8 week class that's two hours once a week. I would also supplement this class with self-study which would take up even more time, and would likely take a more advanced class of the same subject later on.
Is this final class too much? I've always been super ambitious and because I had a shit upbringing that was very constricting, I'm doing a lot of stuff now that I have a stable home environment. My therapist is encouraging but also wants me to slow down a little. I'm often too critical of myself and by far my worst enemy. If I fail at this, I'm worried it'd be hard on me mentally and I might feel like failure. I'd also be out $200 dollars, but I've learned something about myself so that's a justifiable trade off.
>>17013942
OP you sound insufferable and that's coming from someone who doesn't know you. You type in a way that victimizes you to a ridiculous extend and is, in a way bragging about your workload. No one can determine what too much is for you, if you feel like you're being overwhelmed(from the way you type it sounds like it is) then tone it down. Don't victimize yourself from choices you've made however.
>>17013942
Yeah I was like that as well. I used to work part time and go to college fulltime. I just gave up. Im done with all that shit. I never had free time and im sick of work taking the majority of my life. I honestly cant see myself doing this my whole life. Im going to kill myself this year. Im planning on traveling and spending the rest of my money and then ending it. Yeah i get, suicide is for cowards, life will get better, lol emo fgt. I heard it all before. Dont let me discourge you op. You sound awesome, but my your post just reminded of how jaded and sick i am of this life.
bamp
>25
>Have fiancee who I've been with for 6 years, she is 24
>She was diagnosed with schizophrenia two months ago
>We're supposed to be getting married in a month
The meds she is on currently, sort of make her zombie ish. She's going to college and stuff, mostly night classes to work on her bachelor's that I drive her to and from, and she is struggling pretty hard. She used to not have any issues, but now she is failing all her classes. She tries to play it off, but I know she is having a really hard time.
I asked her if she wanted to postpone getting married, to figure things out, and she gave me a quick and adamant no. Pre meds, she was in fact hallucinating. Any time she was, she would tell me, and I would keep her distracted. Now on meds, hallucinations gone, but they've put her into this strange depressed state. She'll often wake up at like 8 am, and be up til 6 am the next day. She is lucky if she gets 3-4 hours a night most nights, and the later in the day/night it gets, the more depressed she seems to be.
We live together, both of us worked for a while to buy ourselves a decent condo. What do I do at this point? How can I better support her? I sort of feel lost here. She's made it really clear she still has every intention of marrying me, but I don't know. I just feel bad about all this.
Any advice at all, regarding any of it? I figured there might not be, but might as well try anyways.
I assume she is on anti-psychotics, which inhibit dopamine. This will explain the behavior. Has she been tested for toxoplasmosis? or has she ever tried cutting out caffeine as in some rare cases it has been reported that it can bring about schizophrenic symptoms in certain people.
>>17013947
>Has she been tested for toxoplasmosis?
She has actually, and it was neg. Also she consumes little to no caffeine at all, always been that way.
>>17013958
https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/evolutionary-psychiatry/201103/wheat-and-schizophrenia
Has she cut out wheat?
Also with the caffeine you have to be completely abstinent. That means chocolate & most soda too.
my question is:
> How can I become an alpha?
simple as that
all alpha stories and advice are welcome
20% of being alpha is working out....
>>17013858
by being alpha. and also being born with some qualities inherent to alphas.
i think the big issue is that if you are trying to be an alpha, you arent going to be one. its like wanting to be cool. or popular. wanting to be those things is counter productive. its like asking 'how can i NOT think about penguins?' if ur thinking about not thinking about penguins, you already lost.
being alpha wont make you happy anyways. those people are happy because they are doing what they want to do. do what you want to do and you'll be happy.
i drank some water just now but after i finished swallowing i had to keep swallowing for no reason.
An early sign of MS.
Maybe you're dehydrated
>>17013847
>after i finished swallowing i had to keep swallowing
You weren't actually finished swallowing.
Why do my eyes look like this when I wake up?
>>17013839
Because you stay up all night looking at cheeze pizza
>>17013839
Because you're tired/genetics. Put your eye cream in the fridge overnight. Putting cold cream under the eyes will help lighten the complexion - it constricts the blood vessels
>>17013865
my sleep schedule is pretty damn solid, 8-12 hours most nights.
My eyes are pretty bloodshot and sometimes hard to keep open though. Could it be my contact lenses?
