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I want the feeling these pills give me so bad. Ecstasy is just a fantastic thing, live seems so dim without it. What can I do to make it better?
Wait it out. I recommend listening to music, it'll get better eventually anon.
>>17013489
this is why i will never take it
>>17013510
I was once like you
Tl;dr is it better to hold out for true love or settle for stability with ex?
My ex husband is a crazy son of a bitch I have a long tempestuous history with. He was my moon and stars before the divorce. We married early before either of us knew anything about relationships and it was a huge mistake. When we divorced (he initiated) I developed oneitis for the lawyer I was referred to. It might have been mutual, probably just erotic transference but it got me through the proceedings and over my ex. So now anyway, after three years of being for the most part single, just thinking about dating then eventually finding the right person and all the years before marriage and starting a family seems like a monumental task. Especially while balancing a career. Dating alone particularly seems daunting and exhausting, but I'm getting depressed and just want somebody to hold at night.
My ex has been wanting to get back together for a few months and while I can be comfortable around him, even after all the unforgivable things he's done, I just don't feel attracted to him anymore. It took a long time to get over him. In the beginning I practically begged him hoping he would come back. Well we made out tonight, I was curious just to see if there was anything there. He felt it and I didn't. I actually started thinking about the attorney again.
Now, I don't expect to end up with my old lawyer but there's no denying that there are other people who I am able to feel a stronger connection towards. Is it naive to hope for a happily ever after kind of love with butterflies for someone I'm attracted to? Or would it be more wise to settle and take a shortcut to the 2.5 kids, a dog, cat, and picket fence if that's what I ultimately want? At least it's assured companionship and stability. I would know for the most part what to expect this go around. He can also provide very well, and has changed in some ways, and I've made a lot of progress with personal development.
What would /adv/ do?
>>17013479
Honey, you really need to take a break from dating. Seriously. You wrote a goddamn novella here but failed to realise that all your options are kind of shit.
Just be by yourself for awhile, you sound like you need the space.
>>17013484
I appreciate your straight-forward comment -
The thing is that I'm alone too often and really haven't dated all that much. I've been on six dates in three years. That's it. My work schedule is very demanding and doesn't allow much for socializing. When I'm not working I'm unwinding at home enjoying nothing but me time.
>>17013554
I meant relationships, not dates. Re-read your post, it's a train wreck. You need to find out who you are without these people. That's the point.
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Applying to college, need grammar corrections only. Essay incoming in 30 seconds.
often picture myself fifty years from now as a tool to assess the direction I’m going in. When people are dying, they sometimes have last-minute regrets. I don’t want that to be me, so I take regular account of what I value, what I want, and where I am in relation to those goals. When I imagine myself, I see a lithe woman with silver hair. She’s reading in a soft, oversized armchair. There’s one cat next to her and another on the floor. The living room is open and bright. It’s decorated with keepsakes from her travels. Many of the trips she went on alone so as to more...
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.....Many of my peers were changing their major after having completed twenty, thirty, forty credits in an unrelated subject. It seemed a waste of time to aimlessly take classes, so I withdrew and took time to give it meaningful consideration.
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>>17013469
the first word is 'I' it got cut off.
Is dating your half-sister as bad as dating your full sister?
Pretty much, yeah
No, it's only half as bad.
>>17013459
There's a book called The better angels of our nature.
In it he goes over topics of incest, etc, and he makes it clear that when people say it is wrong, when pressed for reasons why, they revert to begging the question with "it just is".
Decide for yourself. Don't have kids, or get abortions if you get her pregnant.
Hey /adv/, I need advice on how to troll /adv/. Any suggestions?
Make blatantly misogynistic threads that don't even ask a question.
Ask loaded gender-specific questions.
>>17013451
Get a new hobby, idiot.
At a local cafe I go to most days works a girl I'm completely infatuated with, I have 2 possible ways of approaching
Option 1. One day I go in and simply ask her to do something. Modesty aside, (I need to be as clear as possible about my situation to get the right advice) we're about equals in looks.
Problem: Don't girls hate trying to be picked up while working? I can imagine they would. But any other opportunity is stalkerish
Option 2. I've been looking for a different job, and I have years of Cafe experience. I kind of want to apply...
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>that's the most awkward shit for a long time till one of us quits
This is one of the main reason why workplace love is generally avoided. You should only approach her if you're certain that she would say yes or you're the workplace alpha guy.
>>17013458
Does that you mean think the first option? Or should I try and become the workplace alpha?
Depends. How often do you chat with her while at this cafe?
23/female
Been here 3 days and haven't found a good way to make money. Im used to pushing those Ls back in my old town but now I have a stash and no one to sell to.
Any advice, like I can't find normal jobs due to a lot of circumstances. But any advice would help.
Anyone from Colorado? ?
>>17013407
Pushing Ls?
Acid?
>>17013422
I think she meant Loratabs (hydrocodone)
>selling weed in a state where it's legal
Wow women really Are stupid!
How long should I wait before messaging my long-term girlfriend whom I just broke up or rather, took an extended break from because I'm feeling like I really want to say hello and see how she is doing but it's only been 5 days. I suffer a lot from mood swings and emotional problems due to bipolar disorder and have done this to her multiple times and am so torn as to how to deal with it this time.
>>17013403
You should probably leave her alone until you get your crazy fixed.
She has PTSD and severe depression. I have bipolar disorder and I take a lot of drugs we are a match made in heaven
>>17013416
This.
Work on getting your shit together before you continue to fuck someone else up and make them deal with your problems.
I dated this guy for a little while and he dumped me after we had sex. I got an infection because of him and had to go to the doctors to fix it. After i tell him what happened he gets mad at me. He told me to grow the fuck up that it was probably the condoms fault And didn't ask if i was okay. Then today he puts up a pic of a box of new condoms. So i guess he's already found someone else. I feel like complete shit considering I trusted him and he never cared about me. What do I do now? Why did he do this?
Sounds like a scumbag. What attracted you to him exactly?
Be insistant about your partner using condoms in the future.
>>17013396
We had a lot in common when it came to our interests. He also started off being really nice to me.
Lately I've become recluse and reserved. Mostly because I've been overwhelmed with failure when it comes to girls.
Currently in Uni I don't talk to anyone unless I have to. It feels weird. Rather I don't know ... am I deluding myself, by giving myself "time to heal"? Is this really right?
Instead of forming bonds and group with others I keep to myself.
I'm not a dick, I still help people if they need it but that's as far as it goes. I know I'm far from a special snowflake. I know I can be awkward socially but I just don't...
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You're not wrong, you just have standards for the relationships in your life.
>>17013373
>am I wrong?
Nah, there's no right or wrong here. You're looking out for yourself, same as everybody else. We live in a world that prioritizes extroversion, to the point that introverts are treated as defective and shit. Same goes for people who just want to be alone, etc.
I'm in the same exact position right now, man. Everyone is at arm's length, conversations are short. I'm not an asshole, I'm just tired of putting myself out there and getting...
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>>17013386
>>17013405
Thank you guys for helping me put this into perspective. I realize now that it's not as bad as I think. I only feel that way because of the social situations going on. It makes me feel like I have to conform as an outsider but I realize I do not. I thought I was alone in thinking that this is in my best interest, and to protect my mental health I should just focus on myself.
in this thread, we give advice, any advice, that we feel we should share. I'll dump what I got.
>do not call yourself an introvert if you are miserable.
introverts recharge and enjoy their alone time. if you are whining about how sad and lonely you are, then you are not an introvert, you are an extrovert who isn't getting enough attention.
>>17013358
>dont just hit on a woman
its no secret that women are the ones who are approached, and they make decisions on which men to keep in their lives. that being said, desperately drooling over each and every girl as if they are a potential love interest is silly.
give yourself more value by not letting a woman sway you on first impressions alone. before you ever begin to say anything remotely flirtatious, talk to the girl. see what she actually acts like when you interact with...
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