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Depression
So you can be depressed because of imbalanced brain chemistry and there are plenty of pills to help balance that back you, thus making you happier. People with the problem are sad/depressed even though things are mostly (or totally) ok for them, but because of the messed-up brain chems they can't take joy from their lives.
But what about people who are just in really shitty situations? What do we do about depression?
I'm depressed but its just because my life is so absurdly fucked up and impossible to rectify, not because my serotonin...
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Also, anyone know what the % rate is of people who say theyre gonna an hero, and actually do or try?
>>17008875
Hi mate. I just got diagnosed with depression the other day (i.e. I talked to a doctor for 10 mins and she prescribed be Citalopram). She said I probably have imbalanced brain chemistry so drugs would be the way forward. The other cause could be a trauma like bereavement, child abuse, which would benefit more from therapy.
I guess you can have shit situations over a long period of time causing your natural balance of serotonin to lower because you're having a shit time most of the time. Then you can't...
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In my experience, SSRIs are complete shit that do nothing but make things worse.
I tried 5 different SSRIs before I realized psychiatry was bullshit.
My psychiatrist gave me some expired medicine and told me that the expiration date on some drugs don't really mean shit thus it's safe and effective to still take it. I don't have any friend with med major, so I did some research online but I got a lot of both yes's and no's.
So is it really safe?
>>17008688
Sounds like a scam
>>17008688
Usually, yes. I really doubt your doctor's lying to you. If it's like 10 years expired, then you should request a new prescription. But if you're only like a year or two past the "sell by" date, there's literally no difference between your meds and brand-new meds. It's not like food, it's not going to colonize with bacteria and start rotting
>>17008688
probably. Most drugs just become weaker as the expire.
How do I get disciplined ?
My life is a mess right now and it's getting worse. I need discipline.
>>17008551
Realize that nobody truly cares when you fail to follow through with your own plans. And that You are just wasting your own time.
Make a decision and stick to it once or twice when confronted with the opportunity to do otherwise. Then relish the pride you feel for having stuck to your resolution.
It might not exceed the discomfort you feel for having passed up the chance to be lazy, but that's the heart of discipline: being satisfied by pride even when it's the lesser of two rewards. You'll eventually get into the habit of being happy with "enough" rather than "what feels best."
>>17008557
>>17008558
I do take decisions and I always end up letting them go.
What the fuck do you do when you are hopelessly in love with someone who has a very low sex drive and sex happens maybe twice a month?
>4 year relationship
I've started to fantasize about other people and regularly think about cheating with a random.
Help me please.
If you've been together for 4 years, it's time to just sit down and have an honest conversation about it. Tell her that you love her, and you still want to be together, but you're not satisfied sexually and you're not sure how it's going to work in the long run. Just talk it through.
It's possible that some kind of open-relationship arrangement might be for you. Those things CAN work. But if you just bottle it up and act like things are fine, you're going to end up cheating, or resenting her unfairly, or something else. This will inevitably...
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>>17007890
Why not try to initiate it more? My friend she is asexual so in her relationships she would barely try for it but whenever the guy wanted it she would do it, maybe if you try to get her into it more it'll change
>>17007901
>>17007917
I have talked to him about this issue a lot over the years. I'm female and ashamed of wanting sex so regularly. He's told me it's off putting because now he sees me as someone who just focuses on sex. It's like the pink elephant in the room now. I feel ashamed and I'm sorry in advance that this issue is not from a male perspective.
He doesn't have a hard penis unless we heavily foreplay, I look better than ever and take...
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I've been with my girlfriend for 8 months now. She has a double major in business and is smart, kind, and very dedicated to her work. For the most part I have loved being with her, but some of her tastes and opinions are downright terrible.
>Thinks Creed was meh because "It had too much testosterone"
>Thought Anchorman was ok but was "Too random for her"
>Thinks Troll 2 is one of the funniest movies ever and is infinitely rewatchable
>Thinks...
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Every time I introduce a new show to my husband, he insists on watching every single episode back to back until it's done. It's funny at first, but gets annoying when I want to watch something else or do something with him.
Introduce new stuff to your gf OP. You complain now, but being with someone who likes everything you like would get boring fast.
>Enough bitching /adv/, point is: what are some shit-tier opinions your S.O. has had and how do you deal with them?
I grew the fuck up. Something you obviously haven't done yet.
>>17007716
You're well endowed in your knowledge of the fine arts of filmography, don't expect everyone will be aswell. Nonchalantly explain to her why you like (insertmovie) so much, give her the summary of why it's so awesome and it's just great. She'll either understand or pretend to understand because you explained how it's great yet she doesnt want to seem "too" stupid to understand the deeper meaning and will agree anyway ( But she'll think more deeply next time).
Win win brah
I've started becoming sexually interested in my son. I need help, /adv/.
My son is 16 years old, and I love him to pieces. Minus the fact that his father and I divorced a few years ago, I'd say that we're perfectly functional and happy. Ever since he hit puberty, I couldn't help but love that he didn't turn into a little macho man. I find him adorable.
Not only have I been sexually attracted to him lately, I feel like he's been lonely at school. He comes home every day and seems down, and that kills me. I feel like my mind is trying to tell me that it could be to his benefit if I were to try to boost his confidence and give him some excitement, especially since I can't afford to do fun things with him.
Of course I don't want to ruin our relationship, or destroy the only really normal and stable thing in his life. I also don't want to make him feel uncomfortable or ruin what bit of his upbringing that wasn't already harmed in the divorce. Am I insane to even be considering this? I feel like I need to be talked out of it.
wf. if this isn't bait, get therapy NOW
>>17006875
It is obviously bait. No mother on earth would think/talk/write like that.
Btw why can't I sage?
>>17006879
What exactly is the point of browsing /adv/ if you're just going to call everything bait? Aside from bad advice, you're the reason this board isn't great.
>sister's friend Susan(15) has affair with her 30 year old male teacher
>Susan tells somebody about it and it gets around and suddenly the police are at her house
>Tells them everything, gives all evidence she has (which is a lot)
>teacher arrested
>but not pleading guilty
>Susan has to testify
Any advice for her?
>>17005582
Tell her to plead the fifth, assuming she willingly had sex and has an honest soul.
If she wants to get him in trouble, then fuck her.
>>17005582
Is 15 legally in your state?
>>17005590
Fuck the teacher for not realizing that having sex with someone with such a low maturity level was a bad idea, double for the fact she was his student.
OP, just make sure she tells the truth, and dress her up like an Amish school girl, the teacher has no chance.
ITT: Advice you wish you could give your younger self
learn about intimacy before you indulge in sexuality
Don't watch porn at all cost.
Quit band class.
Be a better friend.
Appreciate the people around you because they won't be there forever.
"Kill yourself with Aunt Susan's revolver before she leaves this weekend. It's all downhill from here, kid."
At what point does a partner's number of sexual partners become a deal breaker for most men? Is it the number, or the situation that matters most?
Post age, gender, preferred number for your partner, your own number- and feel free to comment on whether or not you think situation matters (one night stands vs hookup buddies vs long term relationships)
>>17002837
>20
>m
>5
>>17002837
>>17002842
It should never be a deal breaker you sexists. It's not your business what a woman does in her free time. God stay in the dark ages more pathetic 4chan users.
>>17002860
Sorry I have standards, whore.
“Come to Me, all you who labor and are heavily burdened, and I will give you rest. Take My yoke upon you, and learn from Me. For I am meek and lowly in heart, and you will find rest for your souls. For My yoke is easy, and My burden is light.” (Matthew 11:28-30)
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“For God so loved the world that He gave His only begotten Son, that whoever believes in Him should not perish, but have eternal life." (John 3:16)
There is always hope in Christ Jesus. He is God and He died on the cross for your sins and mine. This is how much He loves you. Believe upon His name and you shall be saved. Strive through the narrow gate. Having love with Satan is short-lasting. The Love of God (Jehovah, Jesus Christ, Holy Spirit) is everlasting to everlasting. There is no Greater Love than this. Repent of your sins and turn to Jesus
Get in the Spirit and follow Jesus. It is said in His Word, "All Scripture is inspired by God and is profitable for teaching, for reproof, for correction, and for instruction in righteousness, that the man of God may be complete, thoroughly equipped for every good work." (1 Timothy 3:16-17). That's why it is important to read the Bible cover-to-cover and depend on the Holy Spirit for guidance
https://www.biblegateway.com/passage/?search=Psalm%2023
I've been praying to god for a gf for about 3 months now, with no results.
what's the fucking point
>>17002122
Jesus said, "...seek first the kingdom of God and His righteousness, and all these things shall be given to you." (Matthew 6:33b)
Seek what His Will is in your life. God is always right. I can guarantee you that from my own experience. There are certain thing He denies, just as a loving father denies his children from being spoiled. There is a reason and certain things must happen before certain things can occur: "To every thing there is a season, and a time to every purpose under the heaven"...
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how do i have conversations that are fun and flow? how do i make jokes?
>be me
>socially retarded
>no friends
>never talk in conversations
>talk with coworkers
>usually just me asking them questions, answering theirs, and saying "yeah", "oh" or "nice". don't know what else to say
>don't really connect with them....
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watch some standup comedy.
>>16988264
Pay attention to what other people say and ask them how they are doing .
If they don't ask a question about you within 20 minutes , though, drop them and never talk to them again. They aren't worth bothering and are just self centered .
>>16988264
>literally makes money by existing
The patriarchy is so oppressive that women get a free pass if they're hot
So guys I'm in a predicament.
I'm a University student, 2nd year in. Male, 21.
Last year, during my first year, I broke up with my gf of 2 years. Straight to the point, I was devastated.
In the last year I essentially whored myself out, by seeking fulfilment through sexual endeavours.
In the last year I ended up sleeping with 5 women, only 2 are worth mentioning.
1 is a 18 year old, red head, open minded, gorgeous and crazy about me...or my cock. I'd known her since she was 14, she was always pushing for sex...and I mean we had...
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>>17010814
take your bs fanfiction back 2 reddit
>>17010824
What?
Get fucked you desperate wankstain.
FYI. Real situation here....
I figured I'd come here because /b/ is a zoo and I need actual dialogue and conversation from rational folk. So I've been in a 5 year relationship with the love of my life and best friend of 11 years. She is amazing and funny our chemistry is fantastic. We never fight and we communicate. That's the best part is neither of us is afraid to communicate what we want this has led to some amazing sexual encounters between us. Now here's where I need /adv/ my gf is super sexually liberal and open. When she saw my ex girlfriend texting me in a flirtatious manner...
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OP here please forgive the shitty typos I'm typing this on my tiny phone and I don't have my glasses
>>17010732
>Should I endulge her.
She gave you FFM like it was nothing. You had to know where this was going. You can't really back out of this now without bad shit going down.
>Is it better or worse than the here say?
That really depends. With FFM, if the girls aren't too into each other, it's going to be entirely about your pleasure. But unless you're into guys, MMF is going to be entirely about her. You'll probably feel left...
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>>17010741
Good points. Hmmm yea she's always been on the perverted side I did see this coming a mile away. Still I'm not weirded out by it though feeling left out could be awkward. Like with ffm the girl who wasn't being fucked could make out with me or get fingered or eatenout by whomever isn't busy but I'm pretty starkly not gay. And of course protection is absolute must even with my ex I used protection since she'd been with others since. I do enjoy seeing her spoiled. She's got a very...
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I recently quit weed and porn. Now i'm overwhelmed with emotion and my dick is screaming. I realized I have no life, no friends, no relationships. How do you even make friends, let alone get a gf? I dont know what to do. All my life i've been the lonely, weird, socially retarded fuck.
>>17010642
Age? How many people live in your city/village? Looks? How social retarded/10 are you?
Hang out at the bar
>>17010642
It's easier to just go back on the weed and the porn. Once you realize how utterly fucked you are it's pretty much your only option.
Alright guys I need advice on how I can pay for college. I forgot to fill out my fafsa(because I never thought I would get accepted anywhere) and now I'm looking into ways to get student loans but they all require my fafsa. I think I'm screwed. What should I do, I really need to find a way to pay for college.
>>17010472
Sell your body to old men.
Nigger the FAFSA is the first thing I do on January 1st every year. It's just a part of going to university in this country.
>>17010472
You'll get paid retroactively if you fill it out.
