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>long distance relationship
>gf wants to get drunk with her female friends in parties
Should I be ok with it? Because I'm not.
tell her she can get drunk at home like a normal person.
>>17004890
then dump her
you're not gonna be okay with it because you're not there, which is what sucks with LDRs. do you know any of her friends that would be able to look out with her and make sure she's safe?
Hello /adv/,
I come to you for advice regarding my girlfriend. We've been together for almost a year and a half, which had its ups and downs. We're pretty intimate, both in terms of feels and physical stuff. We've yet to have proper sex, as my thing doesn't fit. No, I'm not well endowed.
Over time it seems she's mostly been the one to be getting hurt or getting insulted over things I don't notice I do. I rarely get bothered by her behavior, but she has admitted to me that many a time she builds up expectations in her head and when I fail to live up to them she bitches out. Usually this resolves with me saying how it's unfair and she agrees.
Regardless, these sort of fights happen a lot; me somehow not living up to her standards or her misinterpreting what I'm doing and flipping on me ahead of time. Now, we always talk through these things, but it gets tiring.
The issue I come to you lot for isn't about this though, but I felt it's a necessary background for what I'm about to ask.
Recently my soldier has been cooperating less and less when things get dirty in the sheets, and to make sure I stiffen up I try and space the sexual encounters out some more. For some reason he stands up better if he has more recovery time.
Surely she'll notice sooner or later though. I feel as though all the fights somehow killed - or rather, made it harder to achieve - any emotional boners.
Wat do, /adv/?
Bamp :(
tfw no replies
you can get emotional boner pills
My ex texted me today. She moved to back California four months ago and I haven't interacted with her in any way since. We had a nuclear tier break up that was drawn out over the 6 months up until she left. We were together three years.
I'll post the other two screenshots. I can't look at this situation rationally so I'm wondering how I should continue.
>>17004840
>>17004840
I have the lingering desire from when I hated her guts to crush her soul, but honestly I mostly just miss her too and would love to talk to her. I don't know if that's the best thing for my like, life, though. I got hurt really bad and ended up loosing my job, some of my close friends and a lot of respect for myself during our breakup.
>>17004840
Not sure what you're asking. Do you want her back? Still have feelings, but want to get over her? Idk what the play is here
My wife, who is pregnant, has a coworker in the office who refuses to stop using a perfume which is very irritating to my wife's sensitive sense of smell. The coworker got really pissed when asked to stop using the perfume and said the office doesn't belong to my wife and nobody has to do anything for her because she's pregnant, etc.
The boss will be notified of what happened of course, and I assume they will resolve the situation with him somehow,... but I'm wondering for the moment what rights my wife has?
>>17004780
the coworker is a woman, btw
>>17004780
Your wide is being a self-righteous cunt and has no rights to make anyone else change for her convenience
>>17004788
Kind of going to have to agree with this, though not as extreme.
>Thought this girl had a crush on me
>Texted me 12 hours a day
>Sent bikini pics
>Invite her self over at random time
>Asked her out
>Negative Ghost Rider...Friend Zone
However she keeps texting me as if I'm her gay BF
>Got a 3am text saying she was feeling horrible
Nope not gonna be her 3am therapist...however our graduate class is pretty small and I have to be around her for the next 2 years. Need to at least keep things friendly.
>>17004752
>Need to at least keep things friendly.
No you dont, and this attitude is what got you into this mess.
>>17004767
Truth
>>17004752
Ok, i will tell you the answer to your problem
Girl: I have problems bla bla bla
You: STFU i am not your therapist
There you go.
what are some good jobs for a fat, lazy, schizophrenic dude?
>>17004751
Dishwasher
>>17004751
fry cook.
>>17004761
>>17004764
I will take it under consideration.
Hey /adv/
Pic related is how my office is set up.
Just ahead and above my desk is a hanging fluorescent tube lighting without any shade (raw bulb) and although nobody else seems to mind it the skin of my face burns every day (it's still burning now) and turns red on my cheeks. I also have to strain my eyes (I wear glasses) and pretty much can't look up since it's so bright, which means I get headaches almost every day.
I asked the guy next to me if he thinks it's a little bright or finds it annoying but he just said he doesn't mind but it's annoying if he looks at it. I was sitting at the desk behind mine (pic related) for like 5 months and had no problems with the lighting there since it's not above the desk.
Would it be autistic / selfish / rude / pathetic if I ask my boss if I could move my pc to my old desk and sit there instead because I'm having to strain my eyes and getting headaches where I'm sat right now?
The thing is he is sitting on the same row with a similar light above him (although he's next to the window) and since it's a "masculine culture" and I'm a pretty quiet guy who doesn't say much I can only imagine I'll be mocked for being "sensitive" or for complaining or demanding special privelege. It's just every day it's the same thing. 8+ hours under these lights and I am irritable, worn out etc. My eyesight in my right eye is already fucked despite the fact it was great before I took this job two years ago. I have very freckly skin and have always been sensitive to heat and sunlight etc but again I'm aware people will think I just want to sit by myself or that I'm being a wimp etc.
Please respond.
Please respond
please respond
Don't ask. State. Say "I need to move desks; this light's been irritating me" and then do it.
Any tips on getting over that awful feeling you get when someone you've loved for over a year breaks up with you...
(No joking please...I'm not in the mood for jokes...)
>he fell for gf meme
>>17004680
...
Hey /adv/, I have a not-so-serious problem, but still want god-tier advice.
>be me
>live in small town, not much to do
>drive up to a club a couple hours away with some friends
>not my thing, friends talked me into it
>drink some liquid courage to loosen up
>see qt3.14 and her friend on dance floor
>start dancing with qt3.14
>dance until the place closes
>ask her what shes doing after
>she says just going back to her hotel
>ask her if she wants to leave with me
>mfw she says yes
>leave club, walk on boardwalk for an hour
>talk and get to know each other
>her friend's completely drunk so qt3.14 wants to get her back to the hotel
>walk her back to hotel and qt3.14 gives me her number
>say goodbye and leave
>text her next day "Nice to meet you, hope to see you again."
>says she'd like to see me again too
This was over the weekend. How can I strike up a conversation with her without coming off as desperate or a creep? Has waiting this long fucked me? She lives pretty far away, so should I even bother?
What do?
>pic related, don't want that spilled
>>17004667
>i want god-tier advice
post elsewhere.
>>17004667
seriously though, wahts the issue? you want to see her again. she agreed. its been 3 days, and you think you cant message her without being a creep?
>>17004667
start with hi this is "insert name" i met you at "insert location" and go from there make small talk at least find out her name
How do I give really good head? I think I'm doing pretty okay, but how do I completely make him lose his shit?
>>17004654
practice practice practice you only get good with practice
>>17004654
intricate tongue maneuvering
proper teeth control
listen when he gives directions/makes requests
enthusiasm
prostate stimulation
youre welcome. call your guy anon for me one time to express your gratitude
>>17004700
>prostate stimulation
uh explain further?
Hey /adv/
Im a classically trained musician in NYC (got a performance degree and everything). I am hurting. I am about $200 short on my rent every month. I've played one gig in 4 months, and it was a catholic school's production of footloose. I am a good musician. Not a virtuoso, but I can meet or exceed the musical expectations of any door I walk through. Still, the opportunities are few and far between, and meanwhile, I am getting further and further in debt, with little to show for it. Some days I dont eat because I cant afford it.
I want to move back to Chicago for a year and get a paralegal degree. I already love law, I listen to all the supreme court audio online, and more hobby type stuff like that. Furthermore, the degree wouldnt cost me a penny (my mother teaches at the same school and my tuition would be reimbursed)
I see this as a way of moving forward. At the same time, I've been calling myself a musician since I was 12 years old. Its not just the only thing I wanted to do, but its the only thing I did.
Unfortunately, I see more and more how selfish a music career is. I am saying to all of you, "You must work in the fields and factories, so I can live in adequate luxury to practice my art." I am also becoming frustrated with musicians, and the fact that art in general is really con artist bullshit. But I cant shake the feeling that Im giving up on myself
How to cope?
>>17004649
>I see more and more how selfish a music career is
>art in general is really con artist bullshit
It really isn't. People need art and music just as much as they need anything else. And as you're finding out for yourself, it isn't exactly easy or cushy or luxurious to make your way towards an actual career. It's fucking hard.
So get your paralegal degree, get a side job, but don't talk yourself into giving up on music. You can do both. Music can be a lifelong passion, it's hard to turn it into a regular JOB, but that doesn't mean you just have to stop and leave it behind.
You don´t cease to be a musician because your career is different. Most people, even performers, have different daily jobs
You are becoming an adult and realizing how the adult world works. Now that you realized that Santa doesn't exist, get a real job like most of us. Play music as a hobby like most of us but work work work work work.
Girls reject me and no one takes me seriously, what can I possibly be doing wrong? All I do now is sit in class reading because no one will talk to me besides to say a few words, I never have actual conversations. I'm tired of this life. I'm not ugly or anything.
Hold on a second while we try to guess everything about you so we can answer your question!
>>17004645
If you're genuinely not ugly, then you're probably socially awkward and/or weird.
>>17004645
>what can i possibly doing wrong?
any number of things. lets start with first impressions. post a picture of yourself. clear ones. if you cant even do that we arent going to help you.
>plan a weekend trip for 2 weeks
>bust my ass off in college just so I can manage to lose a weekend
>don't manage to study enough, but fuck it
>the day is almost here, hyped as fuck
>2 days before assholes bail
>completely fucking demoralized
>contemplating of going alone like a fucking sad shit and wallow in my depressive thoughts at the bar while drinking beer
At the moment, feeling furious and sad at the same time. I was looking forward to this, to break the every day monotony and same old shitty routine I fucking hate. I for fucking once plan a social activity and people bail like retards. If you had something important, you would've known 2 weeks before we fucking planned it.
If I don't go my options are:
>Study
Which may or may not be counter-productive
pic: unrelated
>>17004614
Where are you heading to, anon?
Go anyway, invite whoever else you can think of and don't choose to be a sad sack of shit. Let's not mince words here: it's a choice. If you walk into a bar to mope it's because you chose to. You can't control every emotion but you can control your legs.
>>17004614
why would you go be depressed? just because none of your friends are going? if no other friends can fill in just go alone but dont be a sad shit, damn.
How do I get with boring girls?
I'm really thirsty lads. Thirsty and lonely. So I've decided to lower my standards a bit but I've had no luck with this one girl. Chatted with her for a couple of weeks and tried my fuckin hardest to keep the convos going. But I got really tired of it near the end and was only sending the odd message.
This was a girl who was quite interested in me beforehand (liking *every* social media post). Should I have gone in for the kill quite early by just having a short convo and asking her out for a drink, or should I have just stuck it out a bit longer with the boring arse conversations?
Also what have you all had the best results with? Asking them out for a drink, or round yours for a drink?
Any advice on meeting girls in general is very welcome. My friendship group is quite small and I don't really have a solid way to meet girls out and about.
I just can't take the loneliness anymore.
I just with I had more female friends.
>>17004570
>I just with I had more female friends.
Why?
youre not gonna get laid by being friends with em
As a guy in a similar position i suggest heavy work outs, the kind that really REALLY makes you pass out
I practice some martial arts and go to the gym so when i come home i mostly just pass out and dont have time to think about how lonely life as a single guy is
If lifting and sports isnt your thing then i dont know, maybe reading?
Doing volunteer work could also soothe your loneliness, plus its a great way to improve your CV
>>17004570
its all about the vibe. you dont always get the vibe or interpret it right. but if you get the vibe she'd fuck you invite her over to your place for a drink or some netflix. if you think she needs to be won over, you do sattelite 'dates' first.
most girls like EVERY post they find, cuz if they do it it makes boys think they are interested and return the favor so they get a lot of likes.
if a conversation gets boring but she insists on talking more (as in its not you forcing conversation) then simply ask her to hang out in person.
>>17004590
I'd like more female friends just because I love girls, man. I don't expect to fuck all of them.
>>17004591
Probably would have been best to just casually hang out with her yeah. Cheers though man.
I want to know everything about hanging yourself. How to do it properly, what to do before etc.
Should I be drunk as fuck before doing it in order to make it as painless as possible?
>>17004555
Do you really think that people here, alive people, would know this stuff?
>>17004564
Maybe someone, which is the reason I ask. Worth trying.
The drop needs to be 6 feet AT LEAST in order to snap your neck and kill you instantly. Too much and your head will pop off which is fine I guess but too little and you'll be there dangling for a while in pain and afraid.
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