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Hi /adv/, this is a first and I don't know how to feel about it, I can't even think straight.
Some hours ago I was minding my business riding the bus home after sports class. There was this nice-looking (pretty average, actually, not a goddess, but okay) girl across the bus (as in we were both on the back portion of the bus, I was on e.g. the right side and she on the left side), who I gazed over to slightly, but not too much, the usual.
...then the bus more or less empties in the back part. The grill literally goes over to the seat in front of mine, asks me...
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Haha we're hopeless OP. I think it's a scam; she knew she could freak out the random lose on the bus by just asking for your number. You'll never see her again, probably.
Calm down, senpai. Experienced male 32 here.
First off, there aren't really any rules to this, but there Are some things that work better than others, and some things that in most cases leads nowhere.
Second, and important: What do you want to do and why? Ask her out? Date her? Fuck her and then leave? Why? For other reasons than getting your v-card out of the way? If another girl, better looking asked you for your number one hour prior to your bus ride, would you give bus girl your number still?
>>17004116
Honestly tomorrow or so I just want to call her in the first place, maybe meet up with her and chit chat. Honestly I don't mind just fucking around, but I kinda am curious to know why she came to me. I do, however, not think that I'd have given bus girl my number if what you'd said happened. I'd say I already had plans with someone else. Though if we talked a bit more and she really seemed to want it, I'd probably give it to her anyway, telling her maybe we can do something later (still saying...
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As a man, how can I stop being a pathetic sack of shit?
I went to the gym for a while but I'm convinced that just working out doesn't alone make you a man
How do I become a man with gigantic gonads and half an ounce of self respect?
>>17004095
Stop caring.
Learn to take an L, while not being emotional about it.
Work on making your posture better.
Get good at what you do, or begin something new and try and master it.
>>17004095
If you don't have a job: get one.
That will give you confidence and money.
>>17004129
>Stop caring
No but I do care. I care very much about the fact that I have been bullied my whole fucking life because I'm just not fucking strong enough.
>>17004132
Ironically I am NEET now, BUT I quit my last job (office job) precisely because it made me feel like a fucking useless beta faggot male.
A job where you are a code monkey destined to be the slave of "decision makers" for your entire working...
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Sup /adv/
So im planning to break up with my current gf of 1.5 years.
We get along very well and there are no major issues with the relationship (cheating, fights etc) but after really thinking about the types of people we are i just dont see it as being sustainable. I am very much an introvert and enjoy my personal time, i also always put career ahead of everything in addition i don't want children or to get married. She is very much an empathetic and emotional person (deals with anxiety and depression), is family oriented and always sacrificing for the sake...
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>>17004064
Why a public place?
Does she have a temper?
>>17004226
No not really. I honestly just thought it would be easier. My place would mean id have to ask her to leave after and she still lives with her parents.
>>17004237
Public places are only good for breakups if you are trying to protect yourself from your partner's temper. Or if your partner is malicious in some way.
Based on how you've described her, she's probably just going to start crying and want to crawl in a corner. That's just going to be embarrassing for the both of you in public.
Just tell her good-bye at her home. Her parents will probably hate you, but they're (probably) going to hate you once they find out you broke up with...
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My armpits sweat profusely. I bathe twice a day, I have tried all sorts of anti-perspirant deodorant.
Are there any different deodorants I should try? Anything else I should try?
Aluminum zirconium deos work pretty well. Sometimes it's psychological and a stress response
>>17004026
>Sometimes it's psychological and a stress response
agreed. it's mostly not a physical problem
I hear you can get botox in your armpits and it's supposed to stop people from sweating as much. Some guy on a TV show I watch mentioned he had it done because he used to sweat a fuckton.
Hey, i'm from the UK and wondering if getting a degree is really worth it.
I see alot of other IT jobs just asking for experience or industry qualifications.
So is it worth going to university?
>>17003966
That's such a stupid question. Try being even more vague next time, jackass
>>17003979
But the jobs i am referring to aren't exactly the best of pay
>>17003991
I literally don't give a shit about that part. It's simply a stupid question.
I don't know who the fuck you are. This isn't facebook. Your interests aren't listed everywhere you go.
Ever hear that university isn't for everybody? That implies it matters WHO YOU ARE.
So who the fuck are you?
argh, /adv/... i had to take antibiotics and also was on vacation, where i had to use a lot of public toilets. now i'm home again and have a vaginal infection. yes, i know that's gross, thank you.
problem is that my bf will come over later and that means i will have to tell him that we can't have sex because of my infection. i hate talking about stuff like that. how do i do it?
>avoidant masterrace
A yeast infection? Those are common with antibiotic use. Just tell him. If he's squeamish, so what. Men can also get yeast infections.
>>17003970
We can?
>>17003965
Just flat out tell him you can't have sex because you have a vaginal infection from sitting on nasty ass toilets.
Any rational person hearing that would just shrug it off. shit happens.
If he overreacts he's probably just a shitty person.
I had a best friend that had secretly been trying to steal my girlfriend for awhile, and got pissed at us when it didnt happen. She seemed happy with me which is why I was confused when one day she just cut ties with me and ran off. Find out later on she moved in with my friend and theyre a couple now.
Years passed. I got into shape. I got a new job and got new friends. I moved to a new city and began seeing other women. And yet I still feel pain and anger over it and haven't been the same since. I dont know how to get past it.
Out of nowhere I get contacted...
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>>17003952
Wow fuck those guys, that's awful. Sorry I don't have anything else to say other than that. Best of luck though.
>>17003952
>old female friend that basically admits that she teamed up with my ex-friend to ruin my relationship via emails and a bunch of lies.
That's why I'm always telling you gutless cucks to NEVER have female friends.
Ever.
>>17003952
They tried to sabotage your life for their own means. What's there to think about?? Real friends protect you and stick up for you. Drop the manipulative fucks and hold your girl a little closer.
I *had* to move to another country and she didn't want to move with me.
But anyway it was ok because we weren't in a relationship. We just had feelings for each other and she felt alone and lost so I suggested she joins me in my adventure.
She refused but decided to have sex with me just before my departure.
>2 years later...
She fucking move to basically my same place but with another dude who followed my same path.
I cannot believe it. I want to see it for myself.
We meet, I try to be helpful to the couple.
...but...
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The answer is both. Both of you are the cucks. This girl is trash by every metric imaginable and you shouldn't put up with that behavior on principle. Fix your life instead of running back to her.
>>17004021
I second this.
>>17004021
>>17004053
What if I feel the evil urge to call her up just to make her think about me and maybe upset her current relationship (which is assumingly unbalanced as all of her relationships have been)?
What if I become the bad guy?
On the one hand, as I have written, I need her support (or I think I need her).
On the other hand, I wouldn't mind getting to know her life is shit or maybe see her crawling back to suck my dick. I admit after all...
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Can somebody please tell me what is the most painful way to kill yourself? Should I hang myself or something else like overdose on pills and if so where do I get these pills I'm guessing you just can't buy them at stores without prescription.
The most painful? stab yourself slowly in the place where one of your lungs should be. You'll be screaming for hours until you die.
Inject yourself with a large amount of platypus venom. Non stop excruciating pain. You'll probably die of exhaustion due to lack of sleep.
You could skin yourself starting with your arms and legs
How does one one make themselves come across as LDR/ marriage material to the opposite sex?
>Be 23
>Used to be extremely overweight, so never really had attention from women until a year ago
>Generally only get attention from women that I know sleep around (live in a smallish town), was having a casual relationship with someone that I started to fall for, and when I told her that I wanted to be more than friends she said no, saying that we wouldnt be ready to have kids at the same...
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*LTR, not LDR
>>17003898
>due to her being older than me
have you told her that you, infact Do want all that shabang? how old are you? is her concern reasonable or just an assumption?
>>17003908
She's 8 years older, I told her I wanted all of that but she made it clear it ain't happening. We don't speak anymore.
In February I went for my first psychiatrist visit. I've suffered from depression/anxiety/insomnia for almost a year now. He started me on Brintellix 20mg, saying it should help with my depression and anxiety. It hasn't touched my anxiety but it's helping my depression, he said he was thinking of putting me on buspirone or vistaril for anxiety. The problem is my ex gf tried those for her anxiety and gave me some. They didn't help either of us. I wanted to try a long acting benzo like klonopin. Is there a way to bring that up without sounding like I'm...
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K L O N O P I N
Are you happy now that your taking anti depressants? I take citalopram and I'm not really depressed anymore but I'm not happy. I want to be happy.
I've taken Klonopin for a short while for anxiety although I had no Idea it was for anxiety. I was just taking pills because I was going crazy I felt and had no idea what they were doing. I didn't really feel any different on it I would say though.
>be me
>wanted to get revenge on girlfriend who dumped me because i didn't want to marry at 20 so i post a nude on a closed facebook group
>some anon finds her and posts her screens of what i did
>I fear for my life now
>how to make her less angry?
>pic unrelated
Wow, you're a childish asshole.
>>17003828
also dumping someone for that reason alone is a dick move
>>17003832
No, it's not. She wanted to get married, you didn't. She probably felt you were wasting her time.
just recently had my first bj but didnt finish. Didn't feel much at first but than it felt weird and i wanted it to stop(sorta felt like tickling good and bad at the same time dont know how to explain). Anyone had an experience like it or advice?
>>17003758
please forgive me if this is a dumb question, but have you ever masturbated before?
>>17003758
>actually got head and didn't cum. What the hell is wrong with you I fucking wish I could get head I wish I could even just get a hand job
my bf has a similar problem. he just recently had his first orgasm from oral alone.
he's still not THAT fond of bj's. i can understand him. i'm a bit similar. it's just too much stimulation for me to get oral. at some point my clit just goes numb.
i think there are just people who aren't made for oral.
>be me
>22
>2 years into medical school. Got in for job security and $$$
>feel enormous stress everytime i open anatomy book
>just want the pain to end
>can't find a proper alternative..i like languages, but looks like getting a career that is somewhat lucrative is difficult.
>gf left me because i was stressing her too much
>feel...
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story of my life anon
>>17003701
Fuck. Same thing here bro, you're not alone. It'll get better. You'll go through all the emotions and eventually you'll accept it because your career is going to lead you onto better things. Someone who isn't there during the tough times (albeit this one of yours is minor) doesn't deserve you. Chin up bro date some med chicks
>>17003717
she was a med chic.
I want to change my whole personality save for a few bits. Is it possible to become an entirely differently person than what comes "naturally"?
>>17003651
> possible tumblrina
Besides that, why do you want to change yourself?
yes, it is. but the funny thing is, that you won't change completely. there will be the "core you", that's going to stay with you. but that's a very good thing. i changed A LOT. from my perspective, for the better. i have been actively trying to change. there are still a lot of things i am working on, but so far the changes have had loads of positive "side effects".
>>17003653
It's just an image posted by tommy Chong on Facebook, it just seemed weird to me. How do you change and just not tell anyone?
I want to change my tendency to default to people-pleaser mode. I always feel like it's my responsibility to make other people happy, or to help them out (picking up shifts even if I don't want to, talking to them at a party if everyone else is ignoring them, basically just going out of my way to make everyone else's life easier.
I also want to stop being...
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