Archived threads in /adv/ - Advice - 1017. page
- Home
- Board: /adv/ - Advice
- Reading: Archived threads in /adv/ - Advice - 1017. page
Why are girls so scary?
Why do I feel like girls are scary vagina monsters?
>>17004550
you grew up putting them on a pedestal and now thats all they are to you.
>>17004553
What should I do about it?
>>17004587
the only way to get over fears is to face them.
go out and talk to girls. old ones, young ones, normal ones, weird ones, hot ones, ugly ones. make conversation with them all. realize that the reason their reactions are all varied is becuase they are human. they are just like dudes, and each one will respond differently, same way dudes would.
My head is spinning now and i could really do with some advice about my ex girlfriend.
She left me after many years together, it was mainly because i was being an asshole, the usual stuff, taking her for granted, zoning out, not giving her enough attention, being a dick sometimes, you know. Anyway that was 6 months ago. I would still like to be with her.
We generally maintained light communication over the last 6 months although we did have a few weeks of no contact. I was trying to talk to her mostly and she would give me short one word answers and almost no conversation. I am aware that that is contrary to all advice in this situation, which is to just walk away, but I didnt want to do that. Regardless she was acting how you'd imagine an ex who left you would, totally disinterested and semi annoying.
Anyway for the past month things seem to have completely turned around, she is talking to me almost daily, she initiates, she tells me about her life, her problems, she shares her hobbies with me, when she makes a new song etc she'll send it to me, and we often end up talking online for a few hours a couple of times a week. Naturally I'm loving this but also feeling confused, its so different to her previous behavoir. Does she want to get back together? I google it, look for the signs, and she's basically displaying every sign of an ex who wants to get back together apparently. Whenever she leaves she's always like "Talk soon" "Talk to you later" etc. You should also bear in mind that I am quite different to how i used to be, i had some extensive therapy and sorted out my issues, which i think she has noticed.
cont
>>17004533
But then we talk about deeper stuff sometimes, and she admits to me she cant get over me, that she misses me so much and still loves me, she says no other men compare to me. But then she still says she doesn't want to get back together, her primary reason being that it was such a hard decision to make to split, that she's so stubborn and can't go back on that decision, like its her pride at stake. She has always been an extremely stubborn person.
So I don't know what the hell is happening or going to happen here. If she isn't going to be with me, why is she talking to me constantly, where does she think it will lead, are we just going to talk forever as friends when we're clearly more than friends? Surely it must be torture for her, she more or less wants to be with me, but won't let herself. She says she isn't trying to lead me on, but then what is she doing, surely she knows if she isn't going to be with me that its a terrible idea to keep this up.
she keeps talking to you because: she aint got no other options: she left you becase some BS reason and now regretting what she said hoping you will take her back.
this what you do: you dont take her back, because ex is a ex for reason. once you take her back she will rember why she left and will leave again.
its the old:
>i cant have you but i dont want anybody else to have you either...
best thing for you to do is close the book on that chapter. start with a new page next time she contacts you say you have found somebody else.
its closure for her and for you.
>>17004609
Well no, I don't believe that once you break up you should never get back together, seems like a pointless philosophy to me. The reason we split is fixed, its at least worth another shot. I know plenty of people who had major break ups and then got back together and worked out.
The thing is she does have plenty of other options, she's a good looking girl with a lot going for her, she could have any man and she knows it, but she doesn't. She went on a date with a guy and spent the entire night talking about me apparently.
She also tells me to date other women, she tells me to move on and to see other people, she encourages that, its like she wants me to be unavailable so that she can't have me because she wants me but doesn't. Its fucked up, but thanks for your perspective.
>sleep at 8pm
>wake up at 5 am
>try to get work done
>after a while, head starts pounding
I don't get it, isn't 9 hours of sleep enough?
>>17004456
It's actually too much, 7-8 is ideal but more than that will just make you feel tired.
>>17004464
what if i sleep 7-8 but still feel tired after i wake up
>>17004476
tired all day? or for a little while?
most people feel tired when they wake up because they wake up in the middle of an REM cycle. this is 'deep sleep' and its the part of your sleep where you are dreaming, so its hard to go from that to awake, as opposed to just the lighter sleep phases which arent all that different from being awake, and thus an easier transition.
if your head starts pounding, go see a fucking doctor, sleep has nothing to do with that
Posted this in ask opposite sex thread, but fuck it I want some more answers:
Girls, does your arousal hinge more on psychological factors (i.e., flirting, build-up prior to sex w/ date or fun activity, etc.), or is pretty much split between that and just being plain horny?
I read all the time how arousal for women is soo much more complicated than men, that it takes time and build-up to get her in the mood, whereas most men are just dtf anytime. Seems kinda gay to me I'd have to spend all this energy on dates, flirting, and dropping little subtleties to slowly build her arousal, shouldn't being in love and attracted to one another be enough to wanna fuck? Yet they write books on this shit and the science behind it.
You got that a bit mixed up, anon. yes, it IS comparably more difficult to get a girl in the mood. But that has more to do woth something else than you "wooeing" her. You see, guys seem to focus on the sensory aspects of sex a lot more. Just the feeling of a mouth around your cock, a warm and tight pussy or some nice boobies and you are hooked. Girls (especially in a relationship aka with somebody they care for) tend to give more weight to the "intimacy" part of sex. The kissing, the "spending quality time together", the "feeling attractive for your partner"-parts. I'm obviously over-painting the pic, but you get the idea.
This leads to some missunderstandings. It's not that you need to do specific thing to "get access" to her fun bits. It's more a question on wheter or not she feels like being intimate with you right now. And THAT has a lot to do with stuff like making her feel beautiful/comfortable around you, make her feel wanted and apprecciated. Give her your undivided attention from time to time (not just when you want some, more in general). Be empathic, caring and attentive. It goes a LONG way, OP. She needs to feel big enough emotional connection to be willing to share such a "delicate and personal" thing with you. Ofc thus obly applies for sane girls with a somewhat normal way of dealing with sexuality and intimacy
>>17004442
>seems kinda gay to have to have a heterosexual relationship in order to have heterosexual sex.
wrong, its actually gay to just want to fuck. cuz thats what gays do. we get turned on just by seeing each other and wanna stick our dicks in any hole we can.
your reasoning is flawed anyway.
>shouldnt being in love and attracted to one another be enough to wanna fuck?
clashes with your view of men which is
>dtf anytime.
you are essentially asking women to be men. if you want men, sleep with men.
women arent a fatality you gotta press just the right buttons to get. if you are in a relationship it is a matter of working her up, but its not particularly difficult. it can be as simple with starting with a massage, cuz the sensual side quickly transitions in to sexual, as womens entire bodies tend to be effected by sexual arousal.
unfortunately even if you wanted to try and use 'logic' with the
>shouldnt being in love and attrated to one another be enough to wanna fuck?
there is the whole flip side which is
>how can she know if you really love her if you want to fuck but not do any of the being in love parts?
just because you are the way you are doesn't mean you are right, or better. you also arent wrong, or worse. just different. it sucks. but if you wanna get laid, you gotta play the game.
or just go to a gay club. or just hang out in the locker room at the gym. easy blowjobs let me tell ya.
>>17004442
the main reason is girls are more emotional than boys are: its a fact.
sometimes guys do need more than just visual stimulation to just "get in the mood" too
with girls you have to preheat the oven before you stick your meat in. not expect a girl to be like a mirowave done in a minute and half cooked.
expecting any woman to act like a man aint going to happen in any universe. i get it you are a lazy fuck, want her to do all the work but unfortunatley
*some effort required
even that the people that are still married make the effort to stay in love.
Sup /adv/, I'm in a bit of a situation, last year I started a drug habbit which has been going for a while. However I also met a girl, whom I'm in love with for some reason.
Last week I was supposed go to her place to smoke some weed and I arrived 3 hours late, she told me to fuck off and blocked me.
The day after I got fucked up on benzos because I felt like shit, I got caught and ended up od'ing at the hospital. Luckily my family where the ones to discover me and I didn't get in any legal shit.
Now however she fucking hates me, so does her 2 best friends, even the one who's my childhood friend.
Shit already sucks balls and I made it even worse, I wrote to her friend that she's a fucking cunt for doing all this, and so are her friends. And guess what? Her friend told her so I'm even more fucked now.
I really have no fucking clue what to do, I just wanna get together being friends with them again, and stop doing shit like benzos. I can stop with drugs for sure, but until I fix my social life I'm afraid I can't.
What do?
>>17004419
Honestly it sounds like you already know what you have to do flush the drugs and let your mind heal then hopefully you can return to being a normal person
>>17004426
That's the thing, the main girl is a weed junkie herself.
Quitting my smoking seshes with her just makes me feel like pure shit.
quit being a fucking faggot
this relationship is toxic and it hasn't even started
cut them off completely
also.. benzos?? really... man the fuck up and stop being a dumbass
also stop saying weed junkie...
that's not a thing
it's pothead or stoner
Do any of you guys ever worry about how many you are? By this I mean
- Do you worry whether you are aggressive or forceful enough
- Do you worry about low testosterone levels
- Do you worry about how physically male your body is (due to hormones, and exercise)
- Do you worry whether the job you're doing is manly enough
- Do you worry whether your skills of assertiveness, boldness, persuasion (ie in a sales job), influence, are good enough
- Do you worry that you're not alpha enough
This is a genuine fucking question. What job can I even do to make me more manly? I could try and get a sales job. Or should I join the military? Or are all military positions apart from marines just populated by weak men just following orders?
>>17004411
How *manly you are. Well I royally fucked that one up.
I used to.
Until I went to do research in the Balkans, fell in love with a local girl, and was rejected for not being manly enough. At that point, I realize that this manly stuff is bullshit and totally about how the person across from you perceives that in you.
Better to not worry about those things, be true to yourself, and find a partner that appreciates those things in you.
I'm now married, and she's the best fit to who I actually am that I've ever been with.
As far as that in professional life, nah. Never.
>>17004424
Low testosterone levels are not bullshit my friend
They are biological fact
Also wondering, what job do you do?
I got a BS in Nuclear Engineering over a year ago. I've had zero luck getting a related job, don't have money for grad school, and just want to go back basic work.
My first batch of applications all came back with overqualified letters. Do employers take it as a sign of dishonesty if you leave degrees off your application? What's a good way to explain the three years (I worked for the first two years of the degree) out of work (that isn't as bad as getting a Bachelor's)?
Thanks. STEM meme and all that.
>>17004409
What sort of jobs?
Also maybe just put it to the end of your cv, that's what I did, and I got a job in a warehouse
>>17004421
<$15.00/hr, Highest Education: GED.
>>17004409
You gotta move to the more populated areas: Seattle, SF, LA, Austin, NY, DC, etc.
If you're applying for menial labor jobs, leave it off. If you're applying for ones that match your skills and degree, obviously leave it.
That said - network, network, network.
Hello /adv/anced people I have an art assignment for Tommorow and to make it short I need to know if you lot would count this as surrealism, cheers from an Irish teen
>>17004380
Surrealism is when you draw something illogical but in a very realistic manner. So no, you failed on the second part.
>>17004386
I just need advice Please
I'm crushing hard on a guy that I work with but the problem is that I'm 18, he's 24 and has a girlfriend. We exchange flirty texts sometimes but it's never escalated beyond that. I sort of want to make a move but I don't want to be a whore and I also don't know if he just thinks I'm just a dumb kid. I'm really shy as well and would have no idea how to do this. I feel like a terrible person. Help.
>>17004361
Get your own man stop going after taken ones you fucking whore
You are a dumb kid and if you got with him you would be a whore. This is because he's going to flirt with other girls the same way he flirts with you now. He'd only be with you for sex and he'd reward you in turn with meals and gifts. Trading stuff for sex is prostitution.
Stop flirting with him. I'm absolutely sure you'll find a new guy soon enough.
I would say wait for him to be single but don't stop yourself from meeting others. At 24 hard to say if he is thinking of marriage or not.
What does pussy/vagina taste like?
salty coins and milk
>>17004316
Yogurt
raspberries and cream
I really like eating pussy though
Just lost my job at burger King and I have no income to help my mom with the rent. I also dropped out my only class at a community college.
I have been applying to every job I can think of but no results....all I have to my name is my HS diploma and my experience as a cashier. My gf lives with us and she's working and going to school.
I cannot help but feel totally useless. I have zero skills I can put down on my resume since I have had only one job.
Help /adv/ I'm starting trade school in September but I need to help pay rent. I am skilled with computers but that's not helping me so far.
First off, congratulations on trade school. This sounds like an excellent choice for you.
As far as looking for jobs, apply everywhere. Make it a mission. Apply online where you can, go in where you can. If you're from even a small city you should be able to find a job, at the very least, washing dishes.
What you need is the drive to go out and find a job. At your level, they're available, you just have to go get one.
looks like its about time to start sucking dicks in a trailer
>>17004276
I enjoyed college but I need money to live on my own. Do you have any experience with trade school?
I'm sort of afraid about asking about this in real life out of fear of seeming like some sort of schizophrenic. So I thought I'd ask here.
Does anyone occasionally get the feeling they've already done what they've done before? Do you occasionally get dreams that give you a glimpse into the future, and when that moment comes you're like.. oh yeah. I remember dreaming about this.
I don't think I'm crazy. But I keep having dreams of events that happen in the future. Sometimes the next day, sometimes months ahead. I can't be the only one.
>>17004238
yes. when i go to new places, i often feel that i've dreamed about being there before. idk i guess it's just a coincidence though, doubt i can actually see the future lol.
You're not the only one, OP. Don't have any answers for you, though.
>mfw every decision in your life has already been predetermined and you're just a spectator
How do you know if a girl likes you or just sees you as a friend?
if you have to ask....
>>17004222
nice trips
but yea
:/
still not 100% true
Watch the eyes feet and watch for sexual tension or compliments betond jusy being friend
Like two girls
Like one more and she is better over all, but she has blonde hair and if I have a son I don't want him to get fucked over with piss hair
Blonde hair is recessive right? it is very unlikely to pass on right?
I was born dirty blonde that changed to black hair later on by age 8ish, will this hurt the chances even more? or will help some gene to make sure the hair turns black pass on?
What do /adv/? Or should I just go for the girl with black hair? or just fuck it and go with the Blonde girl and take the chances?
Git fugged.
>>17004161
I came on her for strangers to just tell me what to do because I suck at decisions
Tell me whut to do M8 and stop posting pics like a faggot.
>>17004167
Do you really think about what hair color your children will have when deciding on which girl to ask on a first date? But why?
Also if your hair is black your children are much more likely to have black or brown hair.
I've been friends with this girl for about three years. I suddenly find out she has had a boyfriend for eight months. I ask her about why she decided to go out with him. She says because he had the balls to ask her out. I panic and tell her I love her too, and I ask her who makes her happiest. She says she doesn't know. I've been sending her poems for a week now and once she responded by saying that she didn't plan to break up with her current boyfriend. I respond that the only thing I ever asked of her was to be with whoever makes her happiest. It's been three days I still send her a daily poem, but I haven't gotten a single response. Help.
>poems
What.
>>17004141
I'm a very good writer, ok, and she said that she liked them.
>>17004139
You're unsaveable
