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Guys, I'm panicking. I've been panicking ever since this has started. I have no one to talk to except for my brother about this anymore, and it's gotten worse and worse.
First of all, I fell attracted to this girl on facebook. 2nd semester started and I found out we walk the exact same route on our way to 4th period.
At first, I was like "oh cool!" then I after envisioning what could happen, I hit myself hard. I fell down a fucking dark spiral staircase of fantasy. I basically hate myself for what comes next.
God what's the...
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>>17137544
You know nothing about this girl, make wild made up fantasies about you and her, and you feel this way after 5 months.
Stop it and really consider never acting like this again. Nothing she did made you warrent this type of behaviour. It was all your delusional behaviour.
>>17137561
Yeah i know i beat myself up so bad about it.. Do you think my reputation is gone? Like is it really that bad?
>>17137561
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I never really done anything bad, I don't get beat up at all. I just have acne, and i barely talk
Posted a few days ago, here's a clearer photo though; anyone know what this is? Had it for about a year
Plantar warts, go see a podiatrist.
>>17137472
100%? don't want to go there and it not being it
Hi /adv/ I'm currently living in UK got 1500£ debt for moving many times in year time because of many fucked up things - I'm sick of hard working Mon-Sat doing overtime for around 50h/week and not being able to afford a night out, date-whatever for a year now because of costs of living/bills etc. I'm alone and my family lives 2000 km away don't want to go back as it is a shit hole with no future. I'm considering getting away from all this shit but I've no experience in this so I need advice about how to act - Can I take a credit to let's say...
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>>17137190
Come to Murica!
We got plenty of room .
>>17137191
Can't visa has to restrict requirements I'm just a qualified Carpenter after vocational school with 5 years of experience.
Bumpiritsu
I'll make this short and to the point; I want a vasectomy, but I'm 20 and still financially bound to my parents who wanted to pay for my college education. I believe my parents will be adamant against me doing this because I'm too young.
How do I argue for doing this?
Ideas:
>would freeze plenty of sperm samples in a jar if for whatever reason I'd want to conceive a screaming little shit
>have some medical issues that would be inheritable.
>Doing very well in school, can make rational decisions for myself
>Sexually active, don't want to rely on condoms each time.
What should I do /adv/?
>>17137063
Get a job and pay for it yourself. Don't tell them. You're trying to make a case that your parents should pay for a procedure they don't want you for you, on top of taking care of your ass. Shut the fuck up about it already. Take some responsibility. If you're a big enough boy to be sexually active, you're a big enough boy to have some financial independence and pay for the privilege of your preferred method of birth control.
You can get the funds in 1 summer of minimum wage work. Man up.
>>17137077
Alright, sheesh. I was just asking a question. Sorry I triggered you.
>>17137084
No, he's right. Wait until you get out with your own place then you can do anything you want with your big boy pants on. If parents don't want you to, tough shit it's your body, unless you're a mama's boy that caves in easily.
Use condoms like every other guy until then.
I am 5"10" 155lb and my bra size is a 34 H. I an only 23 though I have tried everything to shrunk my boobs size I work out daily when I was very sick and 130lb my bra size was 32 F but I was not healthy. I wear sports bras to bind myself so my boobs are not too obnoxious.
Any suggestions please help.
will you be my gf
I think I'm an inch shorter than you tho
>manlet feels
>>17136988
Guys do not complain about a girl's boobs being big. This is a fact.
>>17136988
work on strengthening pecs or get a reduction. i dont usually advocate such a procedure, but if they are causing you problems it may be necessary. that shit can give you severe back problems down the line.
rip epic tits
When I see couples I feel really jealous and inadequate and sad that I'm missing out
How do I stop feeling so bad when I see couples?
Well, just because they're a couple doesn't mean they're not miserable. Maybe they're unhappy. You can't really tell from the surface. But in general, look for your own relationship
>>17136986
It doesn't matter if they're miserable they get to experience something that I can't
>>17136982
I know this feel. Especially when the girl is my type/my preference of girl. I have this same feeling, it's quite dreadful :(. I can't help but wonder and envy.
Picture this: your gf/bf has started Facebook messaging a person of the opposite sex. It's nothing new as s/he has a bunch of friends, but this one is new. You look at their phone when they fall asleep and see that they just met ("what kind of music do you like?" "Cool, where do you live?"), and that he/she is just their type. You go to the gallery just to see if any photos were exchanged and lo, you partner has saved a Facebook photo of them with their cleavage/muscles on display. Would you think something sinister is going on here? Am I just jumping to conclusions? I don't want to confront my partner until I know for sure so my original plan was to wait it out and see how their conversations go... is that acceptable? I just don't want to lose them, anons. I don't know what to do.
>>17136468
>Why this is happening
Your partner is bored. The spark in your relationship is gone and they want something exciting and fresh.
>Is it acceptable to snoop?
Nope. It shows a high lack of trust in your partner, which points to problems that already exist in your relationship. But you already did it, so if you come out to them with any info, you've outed yourself as a snooper. This is a no win situation.
>I don't want to lose them
Not up to you. If they're looking for someone else, there's nothing you can do to stop them from leaving.
>What can you do?
Talk to your partner. Your relationship is not healthy. Don't bring up the snooping, but tell them that you feel like the relationship needs some more excitement. Don't bring sex into the conversation. Excitement means more of the stuff you did when you first dated. Consistent dates out, fun things to do together, etc. That's what the partner is missing in your relationship--the "what happens next" factor, which they are seeking by talking to other people.
If your partner is not receptive to this plan, or continues to bury themselves in phone/online conversations rather than work on your relationship, let them go. Don't be some beta bitch who waits for them to end it. You end it, and walk away with some dignity.
yeeaah he/she wants this other guy/girl
not u
>>17136468
>see that they just met ("what kind of music do you like?" "Cool, where do you live?")
Well ok..
>he/she is just their type
Yeah but he/she's with you so you're better than someone "new"
>you partner has saved a Facebook photo of them with their cleavage/muscles on display
WTF ?! Huge redflag, like ok you can talk to anyone you want to but, saving a photo of him/her...
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Just how much do SSRI's impact your libido?
Honestly I've been struggling with depression for a while now, but sex with my GF is one of the things that still brings pure joy to my life. The intimacy and emotional connection plus the physical sensations.
I'm usually good to go every other day, we usually only have sex twice a week due to schedules and work and crap. But if taking an SSRI would make it so I don't want to, or take me to a once a month kinda person I don't think I could do it.
Most of the improvement psychotropics comes from placebo effect. So instead of swallowing some sugar pills with sideeffects, try CBT instead.
>>17136400
I did CBT for 6 months and although it did help, I still struggle daily. Some days are great and other days nothing makes me happy.
>>17136403
Ah well, if you really want to try it go on. As far as I know everyone has different reactions to different SSRIs so you'll have to try them to know how they impact you.
I am currently studying toward a general
>B.Sc. Psychology.
My particular university has a very strong focus on
>Cognitive Psychology
>Neuropsychology
>Biological Psychology
and neglect other fields of psychology in their B.Sc. programme (social psychology, clinical psychology, etc.).
>I learn a lot about the brain regions, neurotransmitters, gestalt psychology, fMRI research methods, etc. (almost no social and...
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>>17132483
bump for experiences and advice
I would steer clear of social psychology, remember how that independent panel went through a great deal of psychological studies were repeatable? The worst area they found was social psychology. The best were cognitive and behavioral. Find a professor you like, buy them a decent bottle of wine and discuss your options.
>>17132483
Adv will generally advise you away from social sciences since this board heavily subscribes to the STEM masterrace ideal.
They have a point.
However, if you love social psych and don't enjoy cognitive then maybe a shift is right for you.
One thing to consider is whether the course branches out in your second and third years. First year of any course is often quite proscribed re:module choice; do you get freedom to pick other classes later on?
TLDR talk to your mentor/Personal tutor
I know 4chan is not the place to ask for medical advice, but I do have a psychiatrist but I want to discuss this here as well.
How do you know a med is beneficial for you? When I don't take the Abilify (I asked for it specifically) I tend to space out and think about the past a lot, specifically a bad breakup.
However when I do take it I feel dull and lifeless, like my soul is being suppressed.
What do?
>>17131414
Explain these feelings to your psychiatrist
>>17131414
Finding the right medication for you can be a long and painful process, anon. So sorry you have to deal with this right now.
I had to try 5 different meds over the course of 3 years before I found one that helped my BPD symptoms.
I find that it takes 3-5 months before you can really tell if a medication is going to help you or not. How long have you been on Abilify?
If you don't like how the medication makes you feel, then definitely try a different one. Brains are weird and when you find...
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>>17131439
Abilify since the end of February but stopped taking it regularly in April and have taken it every other day the last week or so because of its long half-life.
I can't tell if its me making connections where there are none or if it makes me an asshole, based on events that have come up. I start to think maybe I'm just attracting bad things through medication via the law of attraction in metaphysics (my beliefs get crazy weird off of meds... my grandfather was schizophrenic.)
BPD... are...
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How do I break myself from routine?
I should specify.
Everyday is just the same, I wake up forcefully, commute, go to work, get back home, sleep due to lack of it at night (and I don't sleep at night because of it), take an extensive shower, because I feel dirtier than what I am, masturbate, then sleep late.
Rinse and repeat.
All of this, combined with my male impotence, failed ambitions, cynical outlook, have made me miserable.
>>17138112
There's nothing inherently wrong with routine. You're just sad.
So fuck off honestly
>>17138189
How do I fuck off?
Help me help you, by telling me how.
I was friends with him for a long time. We don't talk anymore because of some misunderstanding and because we're both have big egos that neither of us wanted to say sorry first. I met him again two days ago and I felt so heart breaking. I don't know I never considered myself to have any feelings for him so let alone loving him. So what is that? It's just like every where we went together reminds me about us and recall all the memories.
We met up with our friends days ago and when he said good bye I just couldn't look into his eyes.
Why so?
He's...
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Bumpppp
Be the one that says sorry first.
>>17138037
Dude it's not as easy as it sounds
>tfw 5'6
>5'7"
>5'9" gf
>gf likes pointing out when I'm getting checked out
>people have literally told me they respect and look up to me
Your height is not your problem anon.
Stop buying in to bullshit memes because you're too lazy to fix everything else in your life.
>>17137986
What's wrong with 5'6? I felt offended
I'm 6'4". You jus need confidence breh
So an acquaintance of mine wants to sell a vehicle with fucked transmission, carmax wants to give him 300 but he wants 1000 out of it. What should he do
BUMP
What the fuck kinda advice thread is this
fix transmission
/endthread
>A guy around the age of 18 is having a bad day
>He comes home and a 5 yr old family member is annoying him
>She annoys him to a point where he yells at her and pushes her with force and she falls on her back.
just sibling love.
>>17137907
Anyone who is capable of turning their physical aggression onto a 5 year old child has some serious, serious problems issues.
not completely related, but when i was in the last year of primary school ( i was about 10-11 i think) one day i went to go to the bathroom as normal but while i was taking a piss 2 kids who were much younger ( probably 6 or 7) started trying to open the door of the cubicle where i was pissing. cus my school was retarded they didnt have locks on the cubicle doors so my only option was to push the door.
this went on for a minute or so until they almost got the door open (by this time id finished my piss) so i kicked the door as hard as my young self could.
long story...
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