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Whenever I'm around new people before we even say a word to each other it almost always feels like they're judging me and already deemed me not good enough for them.
It's crippling me socially and I honestly have no idea what to do about it
>>17138409
Do you judge people and deem them not good enough for you when you first see them?
>>17138409
You're good enough to have a conversation with. That is why you're talking to them, right?
>>17138434
I guess yeah, wow that's actually really shitty of me, especally when I'm struggling with literally that.
I'm actually going to try to be a lot better about that from now on.
>>17138439
It isn't necessarily with people I'm in direct contact either. For example about 2 months ago I went out to the bar with my friends. The whole night they were coaxing me to go around, chat with some girls, dance, whatever. But I could never...
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Is telling a guy you love him during sex as much of a boner killer as the movies make it out to be?
more, actually
just don't talk
>>17138397
It isn't if he loves you
>>17138397
It shouldn't come as a huge surprise. If it's a quick hookup and the girl suddenly screams that she loves him and wants to make babies with him, things go downhill fast.
Do any of you know of any long distance relationships that worked? I've always been against them but destiny is a fucking bitch...
>>17138390
I met my partner on a game and here we are six years later moved in together. He lived a few hours away originally. I don't know why people say they don't work. Make it a point to communicate as often as possible and see eachother. I'm as clingy as it gets I'd cry when he wouldn't be here and I managed. If I can do it you can.
>>17138396
I think the real problem is I don't know if I'm strong enough for that or if I even want that with this person. She's literally the greatest person I've ever been with and I'd hate to see her suffer because of me because I know somewhere along the lines I will do something stupid and hurt her.
My parents. Or, for that matter, my wife and me. Yes, I realize this makes me some kind of unicorn.
>>17138396
>I don't know why people say they don't work.
Because they might as well not work. For every success, like yours or mine, hundreds fail. They're emotionally brutal like almost nothing else. They have their own rewards, IF you can make it, but that's one of the biggest ifs known to humanity. I cannot in good conscience recommend them to anyone.
I was wondering if some other people could share experiences about having loved ones with mental illness. I just had to have my girlfriend committed to an emergency room and put in the psychiatric ward for suicidal threats. I feel absolutely awful for doing it, but I know I did the right thing.
She has severe anxiety and sometimes panic attacks that she leans on me for, often disrupting my work and putting my job at risk so I can go and help her. I know this can't go on forever and am trying to get her help.
What is the best way to deal with this? Has anyone...
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>>17138345
>dating someone with a mental illness
NOPE. NOP. you should leave, the stress, headaches. Emotional distress and pain you'll feel while they do whatever they feel like and then justifiy with 'oh but my X was acting up'. Is terrible and not worth it at all.
they constantly play victim and you are expected to eat all their shit and smile or else you're 'toxic and not understanding' their issues. I dated one(didnt know she had issues until...
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>>17138345
I had one with legit autism and the other was depressed with suicidal tendencies
It can be hard
Remember you dont owe them anything and you dont have to stick around how ever bad it sounds
It takes a strong person to except it and deal with it
Look at it like they hsve parts you can rate on individual, you can put looks, personality or anything in it
And see if they as a complete person are a greater then the sum of their individual parts
If your answer is yes then id say its worth to stick around
The autist was really hard sometimes, impossible to handle but she was really funny and sweet, she was interested in the same things as me and she would actually feel comfortable with me and she would get better so id stick through the panic attacks and other shit
>>17138345
u know what helps someone more than throwing them in a ward? listening to them.
I am 22 years old, I do not wear heavy make up my hair and eye colour is similar to pic related. I have the facial structure to pull off a septum and I have wanted to get one since a young age. I do not do wild things like piercings the only piercing I have is my ear lobe. I told my mom I was thinking on getting a septum and she told me it look like I was trying to look like a teenager.
Do you think it be tacky for a 22 year old to get a septum? I dress very bohemian chic and I am in a creative job.
>>17138344
holy fuck if you look like pic related you could pull off almost anything
>>17138344
The girl in OP's pic could rob a bank based on looks alone
>>17138349
T-thanks Anon, but do you think for someone my age it would not suit them? When you think of septum piercings do you think of someone who is fifteen?
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Am I missing on much due to my lack of sex life? It's not entirely by choice, though the last two relationships I've had were LDR and I only ended up having sex once with the one I did see. It was a special thing, call me corny, but I would rather be in a relationship where there's some love involved instead of trying to stick my dick in everything that walks. Thing is, I've had sex maybe 30 times in my entire life and most of it was throughout my childhood/teenage years, literally only once in my adulthood and that was a year ago. I definitely do desire...
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>>17138447
Do you feel like you're missing out on something?
If Yes, then yes. If no, then no.
If what you want is a relationship, then do that. If you don't want to have sex outside of it, that's fine too. No one gives a shit, as long as you're comfortable and don't have a complex about it.
Pic related.
I went out on a "date" with a highschool friend of mine after three years of us not seeing each other. It wasn't really a date but it was sort of a date.
Anyways, we went to the cinema and I paid for her ticket and food (which she didn't eat much like popcorn), but am wondering, should I have had offered to pay?
Since we're not really going on a "date" but are going on a "date" since we haven't talked in three years and met up for movies.
Check this screenshot out /adv/... (Old thread got archived)
How do I protect myself from this humongous faggotery?
Note how stupidly geographically illiterate she is – In the text I said I was in the US (as a joke when I wasn’t) and she still wants to meet. TOTALLY IGNORED like a narcissist and then REVERTS THE CONVERSATION TO HERSELF.
All day, all night she and others texting. 24 hours a day. No matter if its 1am, 3 am, 12 pm – the texts continue.
Sometimes I wake up in the middle of the night with 25 fuc*king missed calls.
11am I no...
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>>17136490
>Just tell them you no longer give handouts to anyone.
I tried. And because of giving a direct NO was forced to travel far away under the suffocating blazing heat because the grocery store refused to sell me food due to the gossip already spreading like wildfire.
If someone doesn't want to do something they never say "No"... instead they concoct an entire elaborate shakesperian drama as an excuse and say they are very sorry and they...
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>>17136491
>Wait, why do you give out your number?
I don't
>Or is your gf so retarded she gives it out to her friends or what?
They all do... my GF is not special in regards to that... everyone is retarded.
It's a nation of gossipers and bigmouths, man. It's the national pastime. Respect and consideration for other's people is a totally alien western concepts as real as leprechauns.
I do a single...
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Can't tell if bait..
On a side note, is it expensive to live in the Philippines? How far would 100k take me? I could totally deal with all that shit.
My gf has major bouts of anxiety and panic attacks. I've tried cuddling with her, taking her out for a spa day to reduce stress, talking it out with her pretty much everything. A friend of mine said that smoking weed helped him with his anxiety. Is it true? are there any side effects to this?
>>17138230
Everyone reacts differently to pot. Personally, being high made me 10x more anxious.
>>17138230
>>17138230
>>17138230
I can get paranoia and anxiety attacks from smoking weed
So there is that
But hey, the side effect of some anti-depressants is suicidal thoughts
>>17138230
Being high always made my anxiety worse both while high and not high. You'll hear a bunch of people saying it's some sort of miracle drug, but that's just overblown.
I just found out that I'm not capable of driving, what's a good place to move where I can walk everywhere I need to go.
Any Big City with a good Public Transit System
NYC, SF, Boston etc.
london
Why not?
someone explain watching sports for me. i have no idea what's so appealing/addictive about it.
my boyfriend is a complete nut when it comes to watching sports. he even has this little app where him and his friends and some others organize a fantasy league and bet on games.
what confuses me even more is why people cheer for teams outside their country/province/state.
also, what can i do to start enjoying this activity? i shit you not, every single guy i've dated were into watching sports and expected me to know something about it. every single one....
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>>17138135
are you a girl or a gay guy? If youre female you might just want to accept you'll never really get into it.
>>17138141
i'm a girl, and i'll give it a try for the sake of my boyfriend.
even the girls around me seem to know more about sports than i do. i feel a little embarrassed at my lack of knowledge and a bit disconnected from my bf who apparently loves this shit.
i'm browsing /sp/ right now and all i see are numbers and teams... are there some dank memes i can at least get into and try to understand?
>>17138152
maybe, I find its pretty hard to just sit down and watch a sports game for 3 hours. I'll have fun if I'm actually at the game or at a bar and I'm watching it while I drink but idk how people can sit at home every night and do it.
Sorry I don't really have any advice.
How do i be a good big brother? My little brother (4) is around an bunch of chicks all day, so I'm worried he's going to grow up to be some kinda sissy. I can't really do anything fun with him yet (shooting, going out for a beer, that sorta thing) because he's only 4. What can I do with him to really make sure that he grows up to be a good man? I'm looking for something more then "just be there for him". I'm already around a lot (at least once every other day, most of the time every day) so I want some activities we could do that will...
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At that age, I don't think there are a lot of gender-specific things going on. Boy, girl, it's all just kids at that point and he's not picking up anything that will make him either masculine or feminine.
Otherwise you can play some sports with him or watch movies. Get some Nerf guns and go out and shoot each other. Play fight and stuff.
>>17138120
Get him into sports or shit.
Take him fishing.
Buy him some boxing gloves and a punch bag.
Shit, when I was a kid, I always wanted to join some sort of sports club or something...
Parents said it was too expensive.
Other kids got to do it, and they started well before they went to school, so when they first started, they all knew each other and had a good grasp of "working as a team" and shit.
But I didn't.
Don't get me wrong, I'd probably still be an...
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>>17138120
Man when I was 6, I was the class clown and all of the girls loved me. Now I'm 18 without a real relationship.
Point is, anything is possible. I'd say its okay with him hanging around some chicks, but balance it out by playing vidyas or exploring places with him.
So I'm 22, almost 23 and I'm a kissless virgin. Most of it is due to me being dogshit ugly and have a birth defect that makes me look kind of like the banjo kid from deliverance. Should I just get a prostitute and say fuck it? I'm tired of being a virgin and having all my friends telling stories about them slaying pussy and I just can't even comprehend what its like.
What do you guys think? Feel free to ask questions if you want. Picture unrelated.
Don't do it anon. Have you actually tried taming strange the legitimate way; finding a girl who has similar interests and connecting in a meaningful way?
If you have, have you been persistent at it? You're still young. I was 38 before I met my SO (was a kissless virgin too). She means everything to me now, and I don't know what I would do without her.
>>17138134
Countless times. I've even has 4 or so girls lined up for a hook up, but I've fucked it up every time. One of them wouldn't bang me because I was a virgin. Plus I think this would be a hilarious story to tell my grandkids one day.
>>17138157
Well there's your problem. Don't tell them you're a virgin. If you can get four girls interested in you, you're obviously not that bad looking.
> Be Me
>Norwegian
> Coming to entering the apartment
> Going Room
> Girl there where I do not know
> She hold tv and my iphone
> ohshit.jpg
> "Put down female!!!"
> She screams "if you touch me, you'll be RAPE ME !!!"
> I can not grip...
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You're the Russian that wrote about entering the wrong apartment on Christmas Eve, aren't you?
>>17137906
rofl, low quality bait
>>17137906
How do I reply to replies like this? I know she's interested, she laughs a lot at all the jokes I say and she was the one to message me first.
Girls too cool for you.
Best bet is change the topic on to something you're more comfortable with.
Start talking about something you want her to hear, instead of complaining about trivial stuff that only concerns you.
>>17137863
>Girls too cool for you.
There's no way, she's a dork like I am and again she was the one to message me.
>>17137866
I was just trying to get the conversation going (see first message) and expected her to follow suit. I didn't want to keep flip flopping the topic and have the conversation go all over the place. I reached this point and decided I needed an outside opinion on my next step.
Hello. Could you please explain me one thing: why is the penis not hard at all times? I mean, why bother with this flaccid- erect kind of thing?
>>17137760
If it was hard all the time, you would experience pain. You have to know what it feels like flacid, in order to enjoy getting hard.
>>17137760
Previous animals had dick bones, baculum in Latin. One theory I heard is that the ability to maintain an erection served as a good fitness test mates could apply and it was eventually bred fully into the population
>>17137760
Because it would need to be removed if erect for more then 4 hours. Or 8?
