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Guys and gals
Where can I find a shy girl or a girl that's more introvert than normal? I'm kinda burnt out on dating party girls and social butterflies.
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>>17140552
i used to have a gf like that
some nights i still see her in my dreams
>>17140566
Shy girl or social butterfly?
I knew this guy for a long time and we hung out/chatted frequently but we were both seeing other people, I knew he liked me because after the first time we met he sent a really enthusiastic text telling me that he wanted to see me again.
Anyway, 5 months down the line we happened to be on the same night out and I was upset, and he spent time looking after me and giving me advice.. eventually we kissed. Then we carried on talking for a month or so and we hung out once, he asked me at that time what I thought was going on with us and told me that he fancied me a lot.
We...
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>>17140516
>"I don't do relationships" .. then tells me I'm the "best person he's ever met"
He is either playing you to get between your legs or maybe scarred from that past relationship. But as it stands you're just a fb.
First thing is what do YOU want out of this?
Was he seeing someone when you two kissed and hooked up? Were you?
He sounds like a total douche.
>Exclusive
>Love
>Can't commit because don't "do" relationships lol
And then he feels apologetic so he knows he was in the wrong. The onus is on him to correct wrongdoings. If you crawl back to him after he was in the wrong following his being an asshole, then he'll lose all respect for you and you'll probably lose some self respect.
If he contacts you, fine. If not, well, there are other cool guys out there...
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I have a girlfriend and I've been with her for almost a year now, we came close to breaking up once but it crushed me and I think she felt terrible about it too.
Recently, I've developed a fucker of a big crush on someone else. They're quite similar people, and I think it's just the fact that this other girl is new so I get to have all the interesting conversations with her over again is why I'm crushing on her so bad. The key difference is that this other girl lives some distance away (not fuck off far like in another country, but she's about...
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>>17140482
fap and then decide who u see ur self marrying, and who u see ur self fucking for fun.
>>17140505
I don't have enough pics of girl from far away to really fap to her without having to use my imagination to fill in what I don't know. I could honestly see myself with either, and I guess fucking my current gf for fun more but only because I have no idea what new girl is like sex wise. She could be more into it than my gf, she could hate it for all I know. Either way, sex is a second priority.
So this Is my fwb
I want her to be my girlfriend but Idk she sometimes seems apathetic but then sometimes is like this
I invited her to a baseball game but she had an evening class to go to. Is GFing a fwb possible? As far as I know she isn't fucking anybody else and she'd probably tell me because I've told her when I fucked 2 other girls
I just want to make it official. We talked about it before and she thought I was kidding
>>17140425
>friend with benefits
proceed to bang her as usual
after bang hold her and ask her
Baby, I think I accidentally have fallen in love with you? What are you going to do with me now?
In the worst case scenario she will call cops and claim you raped her :-)
>>17140469
Whoa, omg no don't do this
Pro tip: communication. Don't just drop hints. Don't act like that. Lay it on the line.
Say something like "hey, have you ever thought of getting serious with me? It's unexpected, but i really like you a lot. Otherwise, we can just continue on like this." Idk tweak it to your strengths, whatever
>>17140469
confessing love after sex is the worst fucking thing you can do.
i finally got my first girlfriend 4 months ago and so far it's been a really sweet relationship (we're both 20 and never had any relationship before)
yesterday one of my seniors start texting with her and tried to woo her nonstop even though he knows that she has a boyfriend
what's the best step to take? i want to keep her all to myself but i don't want to appear beta or possessive because it might scare her out
should i just tell her that i don't like it?
>>17140424
Would you really want such an ugly girl that nobody flirts with her?
What do you want her to tell him? "My sophomore/junior boyfriend doesn't like that we're texting"? Is that really the non-cuck alpha male impression that you're going for here?
>>17140424
>how do i NOT be a cuck?
"Cuck" is a 4chan meme. Its not real life. Real life is not a meme. Stop.
>what's the best step to take?
If she is a smart, mature, trustworthy girl she will set up strict boundaries with the other men that try to hit on her. She won't need your help with this.
If she is a shitty, attention seeking immature girl she'll let these guys continue to hit on her and will probably...
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Tell HIM to stop doing it.
My boyfriend gets a boner if I tickle his feet. I thought nothing of it but then he explained why he got it and it made me a bit uncomfortable.
His mom use to tickle his feet when he was a kid and his mom had to stop doing it because he was getting sexually aroused from it, he admitted to me that he wishes his mom would tickle his feet.
>>17140239
Yea, it's time to break up. Do you see yourself carrying this mans children?
If you're having fun for now, by all means, continue. But this is going nowhere.
That's weird. Never trust a guy with fetishes. Me, I have no fetishes
Weird. I have a foot fetish and that's just gross. Jesus man.
Welp, just got laid off from my 3rd job in 4 years and it's getting harder and harder to stick to a conducive daily routine if it's not forced on me much less pick up a new skill to be more employable in this job market.
Anybody here have success dealing with adult ADD/ADHD and care to share advice? I don't really have access to counseling or money for medication at the moment
>>17140158
smoke meth
>>17140160
Tried it. It just gave me really bad anxiety so I occasionally take ephedrine + caffeine whenever I need a boost.
Have you been properly diagnosed with it? Had a brain wave scan and everything?
Hi /adv/
I'm a type 1 diabetic which means that I need to inject insulin every time I eat. I don't want to inject insulin other places than home. I don't want to tell people I have type 1 diabetes.
This means that I cannot eat other places than home.
This is generally not a problem for me because I can easily go a full day (or 8 hours and I'm usually never away from home for longer than that) without eating. A problem is when I am expected to eat and I have to make up bullshit excuses for not eating. When my boss asks me to come over...
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What are your usual excuses? You can always say things like "my mom is making dinner for me at home, sorry" or "I have a lunch date with my (family member) today, I can't". People might be more understanding if your excuses include family members.
If they start getting mad over how often you blow them off, maybe you should tell them you're actually diabetic? I'm sure they'd understand. Best of luck OP!
Why not just go to the bathroom and inject insulin real quick?
The better question is why are you ashamed of it? Being a type 1 diabetic isn't like being a heroin junkie or someone who got lung cancer from smoking. This is a disease that you just happen to get.
>>17140116
This.
I am a heroin enthusiast; shooting up in a bathroom stall is easy, and only takes a minute, or two, if you prepare.
So im trying to decide if i should go to my cousins wedding tomorrow. Being a 24 year old autistic ugly neet loser idk if i should go. Any advice or tips?
>>17140075
Go.
If you feel like a faggot, go get a new haircut, go buy a nice suit and some shoes and just go.
>>17140075
go, obviously. just make some effort and be prepared to answer the "what are you up to" type questions
>>17140107
Why go though? What if its another bad experience for me? I already did all that stuff anyway just in case, but it still didnt not make me an ugly pos
So I'm 20 and my mother is slowly dying of cancer. I live with her and my dad.
Me and my dad have never been close. We have never really talked to each other and my mother has been my everything, and seeing her growing weaker and weaker every day really tears at my heart, and I don't know what I'll do when she passes.
I don't think I can handle the shock and I don't think I can handle the aftermath.
Does anyone on here have some tips/stories about how they dealt with the death of a loved one?
>>17140047
this isn't technically 'advice' but what you are going to realize is that literally everyone loses their parents. its rare to out live them. its not the natural order. you are not goign through any thing unique. you are not going through any thing that everyone else doesn't go through. you go through it earlier than many. later than some.
that isn't to say i dont feel for ya. i was in the inverse situation (lost my dad) and it sucked the sucker for sure.
but something isn't...
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My case is different because my mom died when I was so young. She passed away from cancer when I was 6. At the time it didn't hurt me too deeply because my parents were divorced, I hardly spent time with her and at the time I couldn't even process what was happening.
But as I grew older, it was clear how much it tore away at my soul. My dad also shut off from us to cope in his own way. He went on business trips often and left us (2 brothers and me) to fend for ourselves. When he was home, he played video games all the time and rarely cooked for us or ate with...
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>>17140076
>its bittersweet. but its what makes life so interesting.
I was with you up until this, lets cut the crap. People die because they're forced to, not because they want to make life interesting.
I'm been seeing a therapist for the past two years over feelings of gender dysphoria, but I am beginning to suspect that I may have other mental issues on top of that that it would require me to be put away in a straightjacket and padded cell.
So my question to all of you is this... if I go to check myself into a mental hospital, would they turn me away because they don't admit people with gender dysphoria or will they admit me for these other undiagnosed issues?
I dig crazy chicks yet I have no idea how to meet one.
Most likely that they're already at or near full capacity, so they'll ask you a few questions or get you to fill in a questionnaire.
They'll only take you in if they think you are posing a serious threat to your own life or to damaging the lives of others.
Also bear in mind these places aren't comfy recovery clinics, they're a hell on Earth full of people running around naked, eating light-bulbs and shit.
>>17139891
what are these issues and why do you think you need to be locked p for them? mental hospitals like this arent for treatment, they are for imprisonment as you said. why not seek therapy?
If a friend did something wrong, but they didn't really know it was wrong, can you be mad at them?
Like say, they didn't expect you to be offended, or they didn't expect a certain action to have certain consequences, can you still justify your anger? One of my oldest friends has been really pissing me off lately, but I honestly don't think he's doing anything to piss me off, but since it's either in my face or I know about it, it'll annoy me anyway. I risk looking like a bitchy asshole if I keep on bringing up certain things, but I feel...
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What happened anon- stop being so secretive about the sotuation on an anonymous message board. How the hell could anyone respond to something so vague.
>>17139870
couple of things here
>what are they doing?
context is key. tell us the context. one size doesn't fit all. it may be forgivable. they may just be willfully ignorant.
another thing
>its not an A or B situation
by which i mean there arent just two options. its not just
>blow up and be an asshole
or
>ignore it cuz he doesnt know
if he doesn't...
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>>17139870
It's not wrong if you don't tell them it's wrong, bring up that you don't feel comfortable with their behaviour, if they continue it after the fact, it's wrong.
basicly i told this guy i like that i really wanted to talk to him i probably sounded clingy and then i said that i really liked him and wanted to make us work (were at the first or second phase i think) anyway is there something you can say to fix the stupid things i said?
basically promise you that its not as fucked up as you think. if the guy likes you at all and/or finds you attractive at all he isn't bothered by this. if there was no hope there is still no hope. so you didn't damage anything. you'll get plenty of leeway for being a grill and drunk. you didn't even say anything dumb you got drunk and as drunks often do told the truth. why are you turning this into a big problem in your head? if you don't act all strange and send him crazy mixed signals after this "incident" then if he wants to put his dick...
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What did he say in response? What's happened since then?
Important things to know before trying to guess how bad it was.
>>17139861
>I told him the truth in a straightforward and pleasant way
>That was so stupid of me, how do I fix it
i don't think i'll ever understand girls
>bf in yellow, i'm in blue
some background: my bf works at a night club in a sketchy district. last night there was a shooting and 1 man was killed, and one woman was rushed to the hospital. he wasn't working that night, but stuff like this is common.
lately his shifts got cut because one of the clubs he works at closed down indefinitely, so he's only working about 4 days a week which isn't enough money for him. he hates his job and complains about it daily.
also, there was a period where his depression...
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>>17139860
He's stressed and took it out on you because you're available.
>>17139860
You did nothing wrong. He sounds like a real pain in the ass. He's a very poor communicator. That being said, he's obviously stressed out and has a lot of complex problems to dig out of. None of the stuff you two talked about in that exchange are things you can help him with, unless you magically had a few thousand dollars to give him. And even then, I'd call you nuts to do that. I hope you don't plan on marrying this guy until his financial shit is completely solved. You don't want those...
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>>17139867
should i have not brought that up at all? i don't know how to handle this and it sucks watching him suffer and complain. i just want to help him out
As anyone who has ever taken LSD/psychedelics would agree, it seems like the world around us moves in circles and cycles endlessly in a never-ending spiral.
All the psychedelic experiences, reflection on your life, reflection on other's lives, recognizing patterns, artists mentioning and creating with these spirals as basis, Fibonnacci's sequence, apparitions in nature, cognitive thinking, the universe and drawing similarities in all this, the nature of music and soundlengths. It is all eerie, really. Anyway, the secret to life might be behind there.
Lately...
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>>17139753
>can't escape the spirals directing our lives
Sounds like someone needs to read Uzumaki.
>>17139770
Why? What will it teach? I'm not big on manga/anime. Never heard of this to be honest.
>>17139830
It really just shows examples of spirals getting out of control - projecting forward too hard and kind of crushing into regular existence.
If it teaches anything, it's that there's nothing you can do about it.
