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yesterday, i posted pic related. (bf in yellow, i'm in blue)
long story short:
>bf works at a shitty district night club where shootings happen. out of concern, i suggested he starts looking for a new one; he hates his job anyway. he's been giving me attitude since, which i did not expect...
last night he messaged me, and things seemed ok again. he mentioned how he understood why i said what i did in his text and that he was just frustrated. after his shift, we asked about each other's day and he mentioned his male friend jordan might sleep over. then it turned out he bailed, and i joked "haha ohh~ slumber party next time then :)"
then he abruptly said "sweet dreams xo" (unusual way of him saying good night) and haven't spoken to me all day. (also unusual of him) i haven't messaged him either because to be honest i wasn't sure what would be the wisest move.
should i let him message me first? i don't want him to think that i'll always come back to him when he's being pissy or let him think it's fine to treat me this way. and maybe he also needs more space and time to cool off.
or should i message first? maybe i should ask him what's up and if he's still mad at me about something? because i get he was stressed after i told him that, but i don't think he should stay mad at me for this long.
Oh god that was a cringy read.
You need to be 18 to post on this site
inb4 I'm in my twenties
God help you
>>17144399
It's possible your bf is a homosexual and you outed him.
Is a cross tattoo a good choice? I got a cross tattoo but I'm not sure if I made the right decision. Should I get it covered and if so would a koi tattoo be better?
Go kill yourself, you stereotypical trailer trash inbred fuck
>>17144336
Are you a Hindu
I'm a grill that just turned 18. I'm about to go to a community college and I'm kinda sad I won't have the dorm/university experience. I was 2 Kool 2 study. I'm scared I'll miss out on things. Any advice on how to make it the best experience possible?
Another thing Is that really awkward I think and I have a hard time connecting with people. I've never been in a relationship or even come close. I'm fit and I think I'm at least average, but it's the getting close to a person I have problems with. Graduating hs a vrigin feels bad man.
I guess I'm trying to fine some advice on how to be more comfortable with people especially going into college. Also best ways to meet cool people in the least awkward way without spilling my spaghetti.
>>17144331
I'm 18 and about to go to community college too. I didn't give a fuck about school so my GPA is pretty shit to be accepted intoto any real university.
Does your community college have a transfer program? If I do good in community college,my high school GPA won't matter and I'll be able to use my GPA from CC to get into a real university after 2 years. I'll save a lot of money too, which is great. You should really check, you might be able to live that dorm life after all.
>>17144350
Yeah they do and that's what i want to do as well. Still kinda feels like I'll miss stuff but hopefully I won't be a complete fuck up and be able to transfer.
>>17144369
just no life it for 2 years and then transfer. if you do the numbers it is only roughly 2.5% of your 80 year lifespan.
I need 50 cents of items to get free shipping on Amazon. Any suggestions?
>>17144299
Buy a nailclipper or something.
>>17144299
Get a used paperback
candy or gum perhaps?
Something like http://www.amazon.com/Orbit-Sweet-Sugarfree-multipack-packs/dp/B00DY60D9U/
To the ladies: Do you think that not having a Facebook or Instagram account is a red flag for a young guy?
I want to leave Facebook and i don't have Instagram. However, i have heard girls think it's suspicious if a guy isn't on Facebook, and i don't want to come across as weird to the girls i meet, so i'm considering wheter or not i should do this.
>>17144283
is that william dafoe from boondock saints?
Instagram no, Facebook potentially. Just make one and never go on it, problem solved.
>>17144283
>>17144290
Why exactly is not having Facebook a red flag? I'm 20 and never had one and have never had any problems
Any one know much about the British army, if I can't get a graduate job I've told myself I should consider the British army as an option, instead of becoming a neet.
Any one know if this is a good or bad idea?
Are you cool with potentially shooting people or being shot by people, blown up by mines, shipped off first if there's a war? (Not a military anon, you probably want to wait for one of them for the full picture / likelihoods of specific bad situations)
>>17144276
Way I see it, it was a plan B to just avoid ending up like depressed neet. I love my folks and I want to make them proud and not leech off them. If I can't land a decent job last thing I want to do is make them for it for years.
Honestly I don't know the answers to the questions you've asked, I don't think anyone can know until it's happened.
I'd recommend the navy instead, almost no chance of having to kill people or getting shot at. Its mission is much more peacekeeping oriented.
Wtf is this, I found it when I went to go swimming, but afraid to do anything to it cause I'm a pussy
>>17144140
Shave your dick, brah.
Damn.
That's my leg you cod player
Definitely a tick. Get a pair of tweezers, pull the skin taut with one hand, and grab the tick as close to the head as you can with the other. Pull gently, with a little bit of a twist. Don't crush it or squeeze it harder than you have to. You want to remove it, not kill it.
You want to avoid killing the tick because it can regurgitate its stomach contents back into your bloodstream, which can lead to infection. Removing it slowly and carefully and trying to keep it intact is ideal.
hi /adv/.
I have a problem with my father. He acts out and goes in "moods". He is extremely sensitive to criticism or if he makes any mistakes, so me and my mother avoid it entirely. she says his father mistreated him.
today, for no reason, he was in a foul mood in the kitchen. He always operates in the passive aggressive at first. I knew something was up. He was slamming pots and making loud sighs. I asked, "is everything alright?" to which he responded "don't even get me STARTED on it". His body language was aggressive, so i decided to get out of there as soon as possible, and try and calm down with a walk. I left, a bit worried, but couldn't relax for my walk.
My mother always tries to keep the peace, and it's me that has to bridge gaps. I am a bit torn up about how he treated me earlier and not sure if he's still angry, so i try and stay out of his way. This is interpreted by my mother as me "causing issues", when in her eyes they could simply be avoided by me acting like nothing happened. This is a regular occurrence. If an argument occurs I am always to blame, because she wants to keep the peace, and he can not accept he is in the wrong, ever. It is one-sided. I've tried to figure out why he is this way, I think he might be insecure.
He is downstairs like nothing happened, having a good time watching the Euro vision with my mom. I feel like it is like keeping a child happy. He has "acted out" and got it off his chest, but I have to sit with the pent up frustration at how he acted. It ruined my day and now it's still ruined my night.
Am I just being over sensitive? Should I just let things go? Do I have a problem with emotions or something? How do I handle this? I always end up blaming myself because Its always my fault.
>>17144074
I should add its likely the mood was about me.
If he feels a certain way on something, he has free reign to act out, it's "his house". I feel the example I gave in OP was poor.
Whereas for me, I am the "aggressor" if I get angry at anything. He often gets angry at people not acting a way he would like, such as using a phone when watching the TV, and he wants you to watch it. He will glance at you, then stare a bit longer, etc.
It's hard to explain. A lot of little things like that.
bump
>>17144074
Let me guess: femanon underage.
Your dad is just a regular dad with higher chance to get annoyed than normal.
>What do I do?
I would start by not getting him angry. You as his child have the best chance to learn his personality and his "triggers" and act like it. Maybe this will sounds dumb, but you just have to act like he wants you to do. I bet you can do this, don't you?
>I feel like it is like keeping a child happy.
Yeah, we call this phenomena social interaction.
Some people can tell with ease what others wants and some are just autists on 4chan, pondering over every detail.
>I have to sit with the pent up frustration at how he acted.
Lol. Maybe go read a book or something. You are really over thinking this.
>I always end up blaming myself because Its always my fault.
>I blame myself because it is my fault.
>tautology :-D
Just observe, learn and than use your brain to keep your daddy and mommy happy. It can't be that hard.
Is wearing band shirts actually a huge nono? A lot of my friends tell me it is.
>>17144066
Is iron maiden the one where the lead singer is a fag?
if you're past the age of 16 and I assume you are since you're here, then yeah, it's a huge nono.
Actually that depends anon. What context is this in?
Like, if you wear them frequently, that's a no.
If you collect them, that's a no.
If it's at the show or the day after the show, that's also a no.
But if you wear one occasionally in regular rotation that's not a problem, I think. Context and place are everything.
>be me
>in comp lab of uni
>decide to shitpost on 4chan
>see this girl I have a crush on leaning on desk all sexy
>take subtle photo
>except
>CLICK
>it goes off at max volume
>she turns around
>everyone turns around
>quickly put phone in lap
>just out my head down not to look at faces
>hear giggle
>sit there for 3 hours with head down listening to new radiohead till they leave
How the fuck do I fix this
I want to kill myself
I want to drop out , even with all this debt
I always lean over desks like that at work because it turns me on a bit feeling all vulnerable.
I don't look that hot though.
I forgot the point I was making. I think it was that they'll forget, it's not a big deal, you might be known as that creepy guy for a bit but they probably won't have worked out what was going on.
Why do guys act like creeps, and then cry when people think they're creeps?
Also
>those shoes
>How the fuck do I fix this
Forget it ever happened. Everyone else will forget too. Also next time you get caught taking creepshots just laugh it off.
fuckfuckfuckfuckfuckfuckfuck
>be last night at about 1 am
>am slightly drunk, thinking about how my friends have gotten girlfriends
>a chick im catching feelings for but I really don't know too well has this anonymous message bulletin
>drunk and tired me decides it would be a good idea to state my feelings for her over this
>don't say who I am but I give enough info stupidly for her to have a good guess on who I am
>two paragraphs of autism
>hit send and go to bed
>wake up this afternoon, check her social media because I remember doing this andI knew I autismed out
>nothing about me, I'm in the clear
>check again just now
>"whoever just posted that message last night just talk to me? I'm not gonna be rude about it"
>mfw
Idk what to do senpai. I'm gonna seem like a creep.
talk to her.
fuck it.
>>17143980
Let her know you think the current situation is silly, let her know you think this post you regret and your current problem really sucks.
>"So it was you who wrote that big shpeal?"
>yeah god this blows
>"It was really you then who wrote that?"
>this sucks etc
don't look too excited to talk to her, let her know you're sincere but honestly this situation is relatable to breaking something while visiting someone else's house or calling your teacher mom. try to get her to understand your point of view.
Never tried it out as a teenager, bought some because I had a cold, and now I have a good amount left over.. I'd say 75% of a small-medium size bottle left.
I don't have shit going on tomorrow, and was thinking about sipping the rest of it down once I got off work tonight, is it worthwhile?
anyone?
Why the fuck would you do that?
>>17143761
tell us full name of medicine.
>Parents out for weekend on business trip
>Specifically state no one is allowed at the house, specifically my sister's boyfriend
>I'm in charge of holding down the fort
> I set up in living room so I can keep an eye on all entrances to the house that the cameras can't see
>I even sleep down there just in case
>9 AM today
>Alarm goes off, but all doors are closed
>suspicion.jpg
>my sister rushes downstairs and talks nonsense and jabbering
>I notice footsteps upstairs
>She says it's the cat
>She goes to work
>I'm super suspicious still
> I grab the family machete and try to get into parents room
>It's locked
> I pick it and see no one inside
>I'm really losing it.jpg
> Just for fun I call out "Have a nice day anon"
>Set the alarm off so it counts down, it's really scary sounding.
>It gets REALLY LOUD AND FAST
>"ANON, I'M COMING OUT. DON'T HURT ME" I hear.
>His face is red and he looks really scared. He starts apologizing like crazy and is too scared to walk down the steps past me.
> Eventually calmed him down and got him the fuck out
If I tell my parents, my sister will probably get put out, she's 17 without a driver license or financial abilities. This isn't the first or second time.
On the other hand, if I don't tell them, I'm going to have to lie to them and Idk if I can stomach that. Should I make her tell them? Should I wait till they get back? I'm really confused and panicky right now because I almost killed that kid.
Pic related
Tl;Dr do I snitch on my sister for fucking a guy in our parents bedroom when they were out of town
Naw just make her do your chores or some shit but you did miss the chance to kick the guy in the balls
Make her "help" you out in front of her bf as pay back
Before you post a question, check here to see if it's already been answered
Keep your questions short for more answers.
And please no derailing arguments.
FAQ:
>Do girls/guys like <insert specific look>?
>Is my body part big/small enough?
>Am I short/tall enough?
>Would you date a virgin?
><random insecurity>
Some do, some don't. Preferences differ, but complexes are always a turn-off.
>I'm shy and afraid of people/rejection. What do I do?
Get over it by practicing and exposing yourself to it, little by little, step by step. There is no single magical moment that will instantly change you forever. It takes hard work, time, and effort.
>I like someone. What do I do?
Ask them out.
>How can I tell if someone likes me?
Ask them out. This is something that cannot be explained. You either have learned to intuit this or you have not. If you have not, the only way to learn is experience--there are no shortcuts. So it comes back to: Just ask them out.
>Where do I meet girls/guys?
Anywhere outside. Or online. Don't complain that this isn't helpful; stupid questions deserve answers like this.
>Someone did something insignificant. What does it mean?
Nothing significant. Stop overthinking it.
Alternative answer: we don't fucking know.
>XYZ happened. Interpret this for me please
We're not in their head, we don't fucking know. No amount of your walls of text will fix that.
>This person did something that hurt my feelings. Why do guys/girls do this?
Because shit people are shit people. It's not a gendered thing
>Someone has made it abundantly clear they're no longer interested in me. Do I still have a chance?
No
>Where do I go on a first (or subsequent) date?
Pick one or more of the following: coffee, lunch, dinner, drinks, ice cream, movies, zoo, aquarium, museum, art gallery, <activity in your city>
>Brandon, that one guy who keeps asking about cuddling in platonic friendships and fart guy
Fuck off
Something is wrong with one of my friend
She didn't talk about it with me so asked her by message if everything was okay
It was yesterday
I know she connected on facebook since but didn't look at the message
How much time should I wait before messaging her again ?
>>17143702
Maybe just leave it until she reads the message and responds. If there's something wrong, she may just not be checking her facebook properly.
Give her a few more days then maybe ask if she's ok.
Guys in their 20s (please state your age):
Say you meet a girl who is very mature, self sufficient, independent, and attractive (basically your perfect girl) but she's 18, would you feel okay dating her? Or would you find her too young? Would you worry about what friends or family would think?
My boyfriend wants to have sex too often, and it's really annoying. What can I say to him in bed to discourage his advances, but not crush his spirits so much that it affects the rest of his life (i.e. his job)? It's a fine line to walk, and I don't want to screw this up.
>>17143614
relationships are give and take. the thing about sex is you can make it a really easy 15 minute experience jsut to get it otu of the way.
if you arent willign to take half an hour a day to please your partner, then you probably shouldn't be with him. same goes for him
how often is too often? how often do you generally WANT to have sex?
>>17143614
Compromise, compromise, compromise. That's what a relationship between two people is all about when you run into little bumps like this. You both need to communicate and come to a compromise that leaves both of you satisfied.
It will mean you BOTH have to put in mutual sacrifice and effort for it to work (I.e. Him not getting as much sex, but you also pleasing him even when you're not "in the mood")
this relationship is not going to work out, no guy likes being constantly rejected until their partner relents and gives them quick unsatisfying sex where they're just lying there to "get it over with"
