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We both knew her for a decent time. He's known her for 4 years and me only 2.5 years. Ive known my friend for 4 years.
We both had feeling for her, but I assumed it was strictly superficial. We were both friends with her, but desu, it was cause she good on the eyes. She has a potato personality.Her potato personality makes so much sense with my friends super normie personality.
They started doing more and more stuff together, so I guess you can say its looking pretty good for them. I tried to ignore it, but Ive grown more and more jealous. This jealousy has made me act slightly passive aggressive a few times, which ive realized and have stopped. I'm a very expressive person, and this jealousy has stunted my social abilities. I'm usually very charismatic, but seeing them together messes my rhythm up.
I dont want to lose our friendship over some girl but seeing him with her messes me up. Especially sense the girl iv been speaking to is not as attractive in comparison.
Be happy for your friend. One of the weakest things a man can do is let a woman get in the way of a close friendship.
Learn to be happy with the girl you're speaking with or leave her. If she is just a slam piece then you shouldn't care so much but if not, its not fair to her.
>>17137422
This
Based off of what you've said, my guess is that you have a inferiority or maybe even a superiority complex.
You call your friend a super normie (which is not a compliment) and you compare the girl to a potato. You're jealous and passive aggressive because you feel left behind and insecure about your self-worth.
What do you do when you're almost 27 and you've had extremely repressed suicidal tendencies for over 15 years, and then something happens and you feel like you can't repress them anymore and can't talk to anyone about what happened because you're ashamed and disgusted with yourself?
I feel like I can't talk to my closest friends about it because they'll be disgusted as well and I'll lose their respect and lose them.
I can't afford professional help... Do I just kill myself?
Bikes have been my only solace from suicidal depression and I was actually doing pretty ok that like until recently, but now I just can't stop thinking about riding full speed into something solid.
Talk to us
>>17137385
Last weekend I hooked up with a girl for the first time in 4 years. We were both pretty drunk and she came onto me seemingly out of the blue (I found out later that she apparently had a crush on me for a while, but I never noticed because I was completely shut off after my last girlfriend). So we had both been drinking.. I don't even know how much she had but after she kissed me, I started drowning myself in it.
Everything is pretty hazy, but I know I went to bed alone. And I know she came into my room and started trying to have sex with me, but I couldn't get it up so we both just passed out.
The next thing I remember, We were having sex. I don't even remember how it started, but I kinda just rolled with it because I didn't know what else to do, and she really seemed to be enjoying it.
That was Friday night, and she stayed with me all Saturday and slept in my bed again, but nothing happened that time. I was so excited at the prospect of a real relationship for the first time in so long, because it's not like she just left the next day.
Now it turns out she doesn't remember how it started either, and, in her words she just remembers crying about her ex and then 'woke up with me fucking her'.
There was no conscious point for me during it that she seemed even remotely asleep, and she definitely seemed into it, but fuck I don't know what might have happened in a drunk blackout before my brain woke up.
Now, even though she didn't say it in such a word, I feel like a rapist, which I've always considered the most scum thing in the world to be.
I don't even remember what happened, but even if what she's saying isn't true, how am I meant to get past my first sexual experience in 4 years after being completely repressed and shut off I've basically been accused of rape.
>suicidal for 15 years
>still too pussy to do it
Git out.
i was talking to this dude i really like and we got sexual and stuff i went really submissive and im super embarrassed about it but we haven't spoken since yesterday should i message him as i feel bad inside for some reason :(
>>17137371
So... you had cyber sex? Or real sex?
How did you go really submissive?
he probably liked it and you're probably the one that's in moral antagonism over it.
Underage ban.
I'm lost in life, I don't know what to do or where to go. I'm pretty much a neet except for the fact I have a part time job at a pizzeria. No general goals or direction, I'm researching how to find purpose in life and I'm reading philosophical books to help find my self but I can't seem to get a grip on what I want to do. I'm not saying "hey tell me how to live my life" or "hey read my mind and tell me what I want" I just want to know if anyone else has had this same problem and what event caused them to find purpose. Also a list of good philosophical books would be greatly appreciated.
Sartre is bretty good. Maybe you can join a humanist group near you?
If the answer is not within, its outside.
If you can't figure what to do about yourself, find someone to live for.
>>17137377
Thanks desu
is it weird my boyfrieend liked this pic on Instagram ? is he thinking of someone else? he doesn't usually like pics like this unless theyv mean something to him, I'm really freaking out and I was gonna ask him but i don't want to start a fight or seem crazy. so I just liked it too instead and so then he can see i saw it
Poor bait
>>17137355
???
help??
Hey guys, I was called a sociopath and think it's somewhat true. This is the first time I've spoken to anyone about something like this I guess. My relationships are pretty lame and last as long as the girl is interesting, then I tend to drop them. I realize my behavior is pretty ugly, and I do like the idea of having a nice stable relationship, but I can't for the life of me keep myself of getting bored.
tl;dr I got called a sociopath and I feel it's kinda true what do
>>17137238
You're just average.
>>17137238
First of all, are you REALLY a sociopath? I'm sure you've had situations where some animal or human was hurt (physically or emotionally), how did you react?
no
100% no
just end the thread here
>Be male
>Have gf
>Do some consultant work for her firm, see her at work today.
>Overhear her talking to some female friends about how much 'gay sex' we have.
Uh, what? Is there some hidden meaning that I've not gotten familiar with? I do want to bring it up with her, but not before I try to get some idea what the hell she meant. Anyone?
Well, the obvious question is what's your sex like?
Two possibilities that I see:
1. She's cheating on you with a chick.
2. She used to be a he.
>>17137217
Is it anal? Gay also means happy BTW.
What do people — especially victims of abuse — do about low self-esteem?
Go to programs for people with low self esteem
>>17137207
Go out and pretend you're happy, I could probably be an actor if I wanted and am getting better at accepting myself.
>>17137207
All the ones I've known just lived a destructive lifestyle.
Excessive sex, drug and alcohol use, etc. etc.
Gf sent me this video of this dumb lady pissed off because men like pics of wome on Instagram. I don't even have an Instagram. How do I explain to my gf that liking a pic on Instagram of a fully dressed woman is not the same as tapping a woman on the head in person. So lame
https://youtu.be/WOoaQlYlu2U
Tell her that.
>>17137160
You don't. She's the kind of person that thinks Seinfeld is funny.
>>17137160
Just send her a smiley face.
Bitches love smiley faces.
>take break with gf a couple months ago
>get back together and share what we did during break
>tell her I spent time with friends and cried mostly (I really love this girl)
>she tells me she talked to a few guys and hugged one of them
>no big deal
>be today
>somehow get her to tell me during the break that she made a tinder and exchanged pics with him and also went on a date with some guy from her job (who she told me she wasn't interested in before the break)
I'm pissed because she lied to me and she thinks I'm in the wrong and trying to turn things on me. Should I be mad at this? Am I just being a bitch?
You were in a break you naive faggot. Women always use that time to seriously look at their romantic options. How did you not know this/have no one warn you about this?
>>17137169
Well we both agreed on not dating anyone else, just take some space and breathe
>>17137182
So she lied to you once about it already, obviously I don't know either of you but if I were you, it'd at least make me suspicious.
Hello /adv/, I'm at a crossroads. I'm not going to disclose exactly what I've done (not illegal, but don't ask), because in the grand scheme of things it isn't really all that important because it's already been done, but let's just say I did something completely and irreparably fucked my life, financial future, and relations with my family. I've been living a lie for over a year now waiting for the inevitable, and now I'm at the point where I'll have no choice but to put it out in the open. The end result is going to be, no matter what I do, be me homeless, unemployed, friendless and with very little in the way of money or job prospects. There is no begging or asking for forgiveness because I'm 100% guilty, and for the personal reasons that I'm not disclosing they have every right to hate me for what I've done. There's literally no other way that this is going to end. Ideally, knowing for a long time in advance that it was coming, I would have prepared for this, but to be honest I was too depressed/suicidal to care and preferred to live in denial about it.
Anyway, I'll get to the point. Because my shame won't allow me to face my family and it really won't matter if I do or not, I've decided that I want to disappear. Maybe for good.
I'm a grown man, and I can run away from my problems if I damn well please.
I'm caught up between going on a soul searching trip backpacking across America (but I honestly don't even know if that's possible to with no car/money/friends) until I figure out what to do/maybe kill myself, or blowing what little money I have flying somewhere crazy and then partying myself to death. At the very least offing myself sober in a nice hotel room, go out with a bang.
I only have a few days to decide, so any information you could give me about either of those things would be very much appreciated. Any alternative ideas about what I should do, which I know is hard based on what little info I gave, are also accepted.
Also, should I leave a note?
Now I HAVE to know what you did
Are you a pedo
>>17137153
Cling to life like a flea OP, you never know how it might turn out. I can only assume the reason you aren't telling us is because we'd dislike you for it.
Soul search man, find new meaning, a job, a cause, hell even pure hedonism maybe even think about repenting if you can.
>>17137158
It's a long and personal story that I won't go into, even on an anonymous image board.
Like I said though, nothing illegal. Let's just say it started off as a small thing that I let spiral out of over the course of a few years due to depression, to the point where I had make a damned if you do and damned if you don't choice.
And that choice fucked everything, albiet the other option wasn't much better, and I've been living with it ever since. Full of denial and regret and all of that jazz.
So I got a 1240 on the SAT and I'm kind of worried about how that stands. The score system has changed since I last took it. Should I be worried about my score?
>>17137135
Depends on the schools you're applying to. Go check their admission standards and see if you're above, below or right in the average.
>>17137135
You need a bare minimum of 1600, 4.5 gpa, and 10 extracurricular activities(sports don't count) to get into any good schools
>>17137135
So are you telling us you got 1240/2400 and not /1600, which is what they changed it to. If so, that's a garbage score, and you need to retake it.
Hey /adv/ I had two job interviews today. One offered me a job, the other said they'll have a decision in the next few days. I had told the one who offered I'd get back to them with a decision by the end of the day. However, I really want the other one much more, although both are just an attempt to get out of my current job. Would it be ok for me to call them and ask to wait a few more days? Advice is appreciated.
>>17137107
No. You already told them when you would have your decision. Employers will give, at most, 48 hours to accept a job offer. But because you already committed to when you would have an answer, you have until the end of today. You fucked up.
Either way, you wouldn't have made the time limit for the current offer by waiting to hear back from the other.
Call the second job, tell them you have received an offer from a company and have to get back to them today. Explain that you really want to work for them (the 2nd company) and ask if there is any way to expidite the decision process. They will likely say no, they need time to decide all of their options. Then you have your answer and you need to take the first offer. NEVER wait for the second when you have a deadline on the first option.
>>17137121
Thanks anon. So it wouldn't be disrespectful or anything or look bad calling the second company right? Just making sure, I'd like to stay on good terms with both just to keep future options only.
>>17137126
No, it's totally fine to call. It shows you really want to work for them. This happens all the time. Just be sincere with them when you say you really want to work there, and just want to know if there's a way they can move forward with your application today. Like I said, it's not likely to work--you've put their feet to the fire in a matter of hours. But all you can do is try.
lots of kids doing drugs in my neighborhood. i found their phhhoto accounts posting a lot of drug pics. a lot of them are ghetto looking mexicans. should i report them or terrorize them with fear since i know too much?
>>17137090
Mix something highly toxic into a bag of meth and leave it out somewhere they will find it.
ffs just leave them alone fucking snitch
Theyre hurting their bodies not anyone elses
you must really be an unpleasant human being
She is 26 and I am 21. I kinda orbited a bit around her but nothing crazy. I want to wush her happy birthday so I might have a chance to meet up/date.
>inb4 find someone else
I wish it were this easy. She is non degenerate and has a amazing ass
>pic kinda related, she used to play very high level softball
No. Wishing someone a happy birthday won't get them to want to be with you, especially in your scenario.
Can't you just wish her happy birthday because you are happy she was born in this world on this day and leave it at that WITHOUT your stupid ass orbiting plans?
>>17137067
This. You sound like a 'nice guy'. Those are the slimiest
