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How do I accept that men truly are capable of genuine romantic love, and that it's merely I who is unlovable, without turning bitter in the process?
You don't have to accept that. I'm here for you as a potential love interest
>>17134192
Are you female? Just realize that men and woman are basically the same and it's only life experience that separates our thoughts and actions.
>>17134192
you don't accept it because this is 2016. anyone that wasn't born before 1990 is a normie.
Hi ladies and gentlemen of /adv/,
I’m a 25 (almost 26) years old guy from a little town in Italy, and I need to make a quick decision regarding a master’s degree.
During my teen years I was a very naughty boy, fucking with drugs, getting flunked at school and shit like that. Fortunately, I got my shit up together for the last year and manage to get the diploma. Thanks to my first gf who supported me through that shit, I even decided to enrol in university, for the only major I was kinda good at: Modern Languages (English and Japanese) (inb4 weeb).
Not to brag but against all odds, I managed to become the top student, so I got a full ride scholarship and I got sent to Japan for 6 months, all paid… Things were looking pretty bright desu. While I was there though, I met a girl - a succubus from Melbourne. To chase her tail, I regrettably started neglecting my studies, because I was momentarily losing interest in everything but her. I am so fucking retarded.
So we actually get together, and things were pretty good; we were fucking like rabbits, we traveled together, we ‘loved’ each other, the whole shebang. So when the time came to go on our own ways, we were - well, I was pretty heartbroken. My resolve was to do something crazy: move to Australia as soon as I got the bachelor degree.
At 23 (normal age for Italians to graduate, because we start uni at 19-20), I get this piece of toilet paper, work for the summer to save for the ticket and move there. Well, as you may imagine, things quickly became pretty shit. We stayed at her parents’ house, she refused to move out with me because she didn’t want to spend money, she treated me like shit, we almost completely stopped fucking… And this thing went on for about 1.5 years… at least we were working. Obviously when the visa was up, we broke up, and I had to move back to my rents’ house (that luckily love having me around, God bless their fucking souls).
(1/2)
>>17134169
(2/2)
Unfortunately, this shit period completely destroyed me psychologically, I still feel like I’ve lost my way, got very depressed, lost interest in all my hobbies, all my old friends aren’t around anymore etc etc. Hell, it’s been a year since I’ve had sex. I seriously wanted to kill myself for letting me come back to this shit hole… it’s now 8 months. The suicidal thoughts have mostly gone away, and I’m slowly trying to get myself back in shape.
But the sense of constant anxiety is still with me: I obviously have to do something with my life. My family suggested to do a master’s degree (in Italy it’s free, but it’s probably of shittier quality compared to other countries). So I tried talking to my old uni professors, and they suggested me or to go to the UK, try to work there and have a life or move to Naples, for a masters degree of two years in International Relations, with English and Japanese.
The university in Naples is pretty dysfunctional, like the city itself, but the quality of teaching is pretty good apparently.
The pros of it are that one of the professors is kinda related to me (muh nepotism), and if I’m a good student, I can go again to Japan, Tokyo this time, and get money for it. So the stay in Naples would be of only one year.
The cons are that Naples is a fucking shithole, the crime rate is pretty high and that it’s in fucking Italy (I actually want to move out of my country since I’ve been to Australia). Plus I’ll be 28 when this shit will be over.
What would you do in my place /adv/? Do the masters or try to move out of Italy and get whichever job, so I can have a semblance of a normal life?
Sorry for the long ass boring post, other than the eventual advice, I needed to vent too.
bump before bed
bumpino
I am literally never horny, and can't remember being it ever either. I do enjoy sex, but never orgasm. What is wrong with me and how do I fix it, to enjoy sex to the fullest and be less passive?
are you on anti-depressants?
>>17134141
I also have a low libido, the thing that helped for me was the watching/reading (hentai) of some of my fetishes before or with my significant other, this type of thing combined with roleplaying with them has resulted in very pleasurable sex (not only wet because of the lube, I WANTED it)
>>17134147
No, never been, although I have been depressed. I have been on birth control once, but quit after 2 months.
>>17134159
Porn doesn't do anything for me.
is the whole idea of privacy a western social construct?
pic related, took a few creep pics of this milf on weekend, had to be so fucking careful.
>>17134101
Everything is a construct.
Well, just ideas really- but you get the point I hope. Ps: don't be a fucking weirdo.
>>17134101
This isn't advice related. Take your Christmas cake over to >>>/b/
>Pic related as fuck
It's the same anon from before if you remember. I sent that text I wrote up, a little edited. She responds with pic related.
I think this rules out cheating, she also said she is safe and was not assaulted or raped or anything.
That being said, I need I could use some anons to help decipher this shit
She's breaking up with you.
Note: I didn't see the thread yesterday so I have no extra context.
She is breaking up with you because she is unhappy. No, it has nothing to do with you. No, there is nothing you can do about it. Accept it and move on.
>>17134075
>Dear Simon, for reasons I won't tell you I will not interact with you in any way until I see fit.
Man, you are now on relationship holiday. Enjoy. Maybe write back you expect reply until D days and that you still love her no matter what. It seems to me there is nothing more you can do right now. Maybe find new girlfriend?
Never thought i would come here….but i need advice from my fellow normans and neckbeards.
So my wife and i got married last april…she has demonstrated nothing but utter distrust for me over the last 5 months.
My friends own a vape shop (i know i know, kill ourselves) and It's been my main hang-out and my main source of IRL social interaction and entertainment and became the hub of my social life. The Owners and employees would also come to my house frequently to hang out and work on small projects with me.
A young girl entered our friends circle.
One day she asked me over facebook if i could give her a ride, and I didn't think to mention that i was giving her a ride to the shop. My wife knew who she was, and even ate dinner with her at our Christmas party, and to top it off i was literally driving her one mile away from her house to a public area. I figured i was just being friendly and courteous nor did i go out of my way to hide this from my wife
Apparently, this was wrong of me to do. And now (5 months after the fact) it is her main excuse for not wanting me to hang out at my friends shop, or go off to do anything by myself.
Now, i am no longer allowed to hang out at my friends shop for longer than an hour or invite them over when she is either home or at work.
(I hit the character limit, there is more in the replies)
I Always have to make sure that she is "ok" with me doing these things. If i do otherwise, she treats me like shit and curses me out for not being at home and comes up with all sorts of excuses to demand my presence at home. Even with her "Approval" she still makes excuses and blows small problems out of proportion in order to get me to come home.
I've been asking her for months now to go to couples counseling with me, but she refuses.
Her overall excuse was that i didn't care about her feelings when i gave that girl a ride so it's OK for her to treat me like i am fucking 13.
But at the same time, i didn't care about her feelings because she was accusing me of a rather heinous (IMO) act without proof or evidence.
I'm prepared to show my therapist our text messages on my phones. I KNOW i am not perfect, and that part of the blame does rest on me.
That said. How do i save my marriage guys?
I feel so cheap and used right now.
Stop being her bitch man
You can do whatever you want and she cant boss you around
Marriage too soon. Had trust issues while walking down aisle. Unresolved. Will not improve without major work. Also passive aggressive dis associative tendencies. Did not address problem she had promptly. Only months later
I've been told I need to cut my hair short. What style should I go for?
brush your teeth dickhead
just cut all of it very short, uniformly and let it grow, you'll figure out how long you should keep it this way. Because yeah, it's too long now.
And remember that fancy haircuts are for faggots.
>>17133948
Get it cut in a way that it'll grow out in a length and pattern that you like
>>17133969
Describe fancy
I'm in a two year relationship and for the first time I've met someone I want to be with more than I care about this relationship. Should I break up with my partner now to get things moving or do I hold back in case I'm rushing into something I could regret?
I don't even want relationship with them, but I have to have sex with them. I've felt this way strongly for a wee while now and I just feel I'm ready to sacrifice this relationship for it. Am I being crazy?
>>17133941
if your relationship is shit you leave.
god what is wrong with you people.
My relationship is healthy. Until now, I'd never even considered sleeping with anyone else but with this person I feel I just can't get them out my head, like I just need to get them out my system and move on.
>>17133963
>I've met someone I want to be with more than I care about this relationship
>My relationship is healthy
Would I fuck myself over if I got a CS degree?
Are you interested in CS?
>>17133876
Yes
Money is good but you're going to be fucking miserable, according to my CS friends.
I was gonna do CS too but did Environmental Science instead, now I'm a park ranger in a national park and I just drive around in a jeep with the cool wind in my hair and giving people warnings, $60k a year. Couldn't imagine sitting in a chair for 8 hours straight busting my head.
>be me
>attractive guy (not to sound like a douche, but girls make it obvious with their signals and behavior around me)
>see this 10/10 goddess waiting in line at college shop
>she is giving me all the signals. "accidental" touches, looks at me like a lot, playing with hair, etc. it is fucking obvious she thinks i am a qt and wants me to initiate the conversation.
>i don't do shit
>to worsen it, we head out the same way. she smiles and looks at me, holds the door open thinking okay this big boy gonna gimme a good time, but I just needed to go to the bathroom
>mfw ill never see or get the be with the literal 10/10
>head to library to think about suicide
>see a actual capsule case of adderral someone left behind
>thinkong of chugging the whole shit and sayanora world as i write this
why am i such a fucking cuck spineless piece of worthless god damn shit? and this isn't even the first time. why the hell am i so pussy to talk to a girl /adv/? and it isn't even the fear of rejection that is holding me back.
>>17133754
You're bored with life and realize that you'll never be long teem good wnough for her, and you won't get anything from the relationship except fleeting ecstasy.
>>17133766
Does this ever go away? I hate it but can't escape this feeling.
>>17133828
maybe, if you find a chick that actually likes you.
try "dating down" you may be attractive physically but emotionally your like a 6. so find a girl who is like a 6 physically but attractive emotionally.
or you live with the self loathing. its what i do.
Me and my soon to be wife have been together for close to four years. I'm aware that many dynamics in a relationship can change, especially romantic ones. We've gone from always kissing, holding hands and generally being demonstrative. We had sex EVERY night. Literally. Nowadays, we never even touch each other, we kiss MAYBE once a day. On a good day. We haven't had sex in over a month. Is she losing interest in me, or is this normal. Experiences and comments welcome. Pic related, I play the drums.
>>17133748
She's fucking the neighbor or someone at work - get out while you still can KEK
>>17133748
Well golly, have you considered talking to hear about it?
> dearest wife, i feel like our relationship is less physically affectionate now. I miss that, how could i help rekindle the spark?
>>17133748
Relationships comes with phases.
The hot love sex phase lasts (according to unreliable sources) around 1 year.
You two getting married can mean she (or you) no longer consider the need to pursue the relationship and consider it 100% for sure -> getting lazy.
It is up to you both if you want to fall into boring stereotype of every day life or you two will do something about it. There are tons of materials on every good web portal, just look into category for women. Do the articles tell the truth? I don't know, but you can try them.
I need to lose much weight in an unreasonable anount of time.
Does bullemia work?
I'm a man
The way your metabolism works, eating at a controlled very regimented diet is always better than trying to eat noting at all.
But I guess you could always Christen Bale it (he a genetic freak and has an absurd and very malleable body type though), but there's no guarantee it will work.
http://www.mensfitness.com/life/entertainment/13-extreme-celebrity-fitness-transformations-0/slide/8
>>17133662
One of the fastest method of losing body weight is to not eat. But this will switch in your body "starvation mode" on and it will be very unpleasant. You will lose muscles first, probably your teeth will go worse with hair and other symptoms will show up as well.
There are even more dangerous ways *cought DNP cought*, but don't even thing about it anon.
Why do you need such a act anon?
DNP ALL THE WAY BROTHER
Couple days ago my mom found my porn.
I whent for a shower and forgot to close my laptop.
I have a large collection of maxhardcore, piss and hardcore gangbangs, inerracial shit and puke porn.
I know she went trough my porn collection.
While in the shower she screamed and knocked on the shower door. As I enterd my room, the door was open and it was cristal clear to me. Some hardcore gangbang scene was playing on the screen.
My mom has not spoken with me ever since. There is a akwerd silence when I enter the living room and every time I ask something she just nobs or ignorce me.
I think she is in severe shock.
How can I make things back to normal?
I cant watch and jerk off anymore without feeling guilty. I feel that I have dissapointed my mother.
I feel like a totall perv. I know my mom is disgusted with me. She probly cant get the porn she saw out of her head.
What do I do to make things back to normal?
Please help.
This thread looks promising.
She'll get over it.
>>17133610
Just tell her your friend was using it and he left. He left it on to make you look like a pervert.
What's the best way to open up your significant other to polygamy?
I've had affairs for a while now but they kinda make me feel like a dirtbag.
I couldn't care less if my significant other had some side action but she's the extremely emotionally clingy type who has her claws wrapped around me.
That being said I would never consider leaving her or telling her of my infidelities, I just don't believe she could handle that and she certainly wouldn't deserve going through that emotional turmoil. She is also perfect wife and grow old with material and I don't want to lose that.
>>17133440
Either people are open to the idea, or they're not. You can't force them to change their mind.
>>17133512
This. There is no way to "open a person up" to something like this. You're wired for it or you aren't, and most people aren't.
>>17133440
you should break up with your girl friend if you are cheating on her, you feel like a dirtbag because you are acting like one. find a girl who is into polygamy or open relationships, then have all the open sex you want.
I've been with a girl 6 years now. I was planning on proposing to her soon. I had not cheated on her during our relationship. She was always open to me flirting with girls as she thought it was healthy. Last Saturday I got drunk and kissed a girl. 3 second kiss...no one really noticed. I never got her number and was not planning on pursuing her. Since I wanted our relationship to be honest and open I decided to tell her what happened. I told her Monday night and she FLIPPED THE FUCK OUT. It seemed like she was having a nervous breakdown. She started referencing some past instances where other boyfriends had cheated on her. She left and I haven't heard from her since Monday...well but 2 texts that said pretty much nothing.
Our relationship was rock solid until this time...I believed. I am 33 and she is 30; if that makes a difference.
What the hell to think?
Well... technically you cheated. If she takes you back she's never going to trust you to flirt with other girls again.
Let her cool off and give her space while she decides how she feels about your fuck up.
I don't know, I'm pretty suspicious of people who don't mind flirting and stuff. I guess she was only pretending to be a "cool girl".
>>17133383
Was she actually okay with you flirting with other girls? Maybe she only said she was because she was afraid of losing you if she seemed too controlling. Then you kissing another person crossed the line.
