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>don't talk to anyone and keep to myself
>people think I'm a weirdo sperg school shooter in the making, get "talked to" by officials about how I need to improve
>talk to other people and try to be confident
>make other people visibly uncomfortable, girls in particular show fearful body language and a subdued desire to just run away
cool tumblr post
>>17132579
You sound like you a 15 year old asspie with no concept of normal, human interaction. It's cool thogh, just watch another episode of justice league, you'll grow up in a flash.
>>17132629
>15 year old
>watching justice league
it came out in 2001
24 year old male.
Went to the gas station the other day, was high as a bitch. Eyes redder than the devils dick.
There was this really cute girl working who complimented me on my shirt, it was of george bush sucking blood out of the statue of liberty. I was gonna go with the "Oh the guy who drew this pic actually drew batman" but I didn't want to sound like a fucking nerd, so my high ass says "Yeah I actually got this from goodwill"
So now I just look like a scrub but the girl was laughing anyways, she was super cute.
But I wanted to get out of there, the entire reason I was at this gas station was because the one I normally would have went to had gotten robbed and there were a bunch of police in it, and there was a man in the store with a tear drop tattoo signifying he had either killed somebody or saw someone die. So I grabbed my cigs and dipped.
I've been thinking about this girl since, and I think i'm going to start going into that gas station more now and next time I see her ask her to get breakfast with me b/c i work 3rd shift. I'm sick of having "What ifs" constantly because I never make a move
First of all, did I already fuck up?
Second of all, is it appropriate to ask girls out at their work place?
Third of all, I have some coupons for this gas station, am I gonna look like more of a scrub if I use these?
1. No
2. Yes , but you can wait for her to end her shift and ask her out
3. I dont think so
>there was a man in the store with a tear drop tattoo signifying he had either killed somebody or saw someone die.
lol just how white are you?
>First of all, did I already fuck up?
no
>Second of all, is it appropriate to ask girls out at their work place?
no
>Third of all, I have some coupons for this gas station, am I gonna look like more of a scrub if I use these?
yes
>>17132575
By the time she ends her shift i'll be working 3rd shift, the gas station is usually dead-ish at this time of night, its a town of about 60,000 and i was in there at 8:30 on a friday, wasn't super busy at all
Ok I need some advice.
I live in middle east, Iraq to be exact.
Needless to say the security in here is non existent.
I live with my family and my uncle lives next door, with the two houses connected.
The situation is like this
a few months ago a woman in her late thirties, came to my uncle house after his wife died, requesting some money as a charity in the name of his late wife.
His daughter was home with my mother, and invited her in and somehow managed to walk away with 200$.
After asking around no such charity even the place she described didn't exist.
Today she came back, and one of my cousins and my uncle faced her with that the place and the charity didn't exist.
She avoided the questions, So I showed up, and kicked her out.
Was it the right thing what I did?
>>17132531
Yes.
>>17132561
I took a few precautions as well.
I wore a baseball cap, came out from my uncle house when I kicked her I said, "Thank you for caring about the orphans, please leave now we have nothing to give you"
In a firm rude way.
Though my family fucked it up by shouting my name.
I suspect she's in some gang watching the house to rob it.
the family is worried that they might retaliate.
Is there bases for their worries?
>>17132561
Could have been better way to do it?
How can I help my gf gain self-esteem?
>>17132490
Post something of her. What's the issue she struggles with?
>>17132513
She has quite a few issues, to be honest. She thinks she's stupid, incapable and ugly. She's incredibly shy and feels like she never has anything worth saying. She doesn't have the confidence to make a lot of decisions and usually panics until someone else makes the decision for her. She can see that these are problems and that they make her unhappy, but she doesn't think it's worth trying to face them. She cares a lot about other people's wellbeing, but doesn't bother about her own.
She's studying for a PhD at the moment. I think the fact she's got so far academically is pretty good evidence of her intellect, but she's convinced her good grades at uni were purely the result of the help she got and that she was offered the PhD position out of pity. She's afraid she'll fail and works overtime and at weekends to catch up for time she spent panicking, so she doesn't have a lot of downtime.
I'm not sure how much detail you want so I'll stop here for the time being.
>>17132582
Dunno, man. If that's her outlook on life it probably means you're a 3-4/10 because she feels that's appropriate for a dumb, ugly puppy like her. If she finds out she's a hot genius she may very well dump your ass.
Just stick with being nice to her, and tell her she's a demon in the sack.
Guys, I just realized something.
I am one of those people that constantly try to get compliments, to impress and to make others think I'm good at something. I have this inmature, undesirable, very primitive need for attention. I'm not sure where it's coming from, but it's been creeping on me for some time now. I will break up with girls because they don't meet my quota, I will constantly try to get validation out of people
And the worst thing: Since I think I was secretly conscious about what I was doing, I was doing it in the most subtle, bitch-ass effective ways. Always camouflaged, always subtly asking for attention.
I would very much appreciate any input on how to detect where it's coming from and grow out of this inmature, undesirable trait and become a proper, confident, complete person.
>>17132489
Does it directly affect your professional life?
>>17132498
It very well could affect it. In very subtle, yet real ways, this need for attention could shine through my persona, and make me fundamentally unlikeable. Which is an undesirable route to take when you're trying to fit in, become your coworker's mate, and just retain your position, you know, just do good in it.
My boyfriend doesnt seem to want to talk to me anymore. Before anyone says it, no I dont think hes cheating on me because he is a shut in who doesn't seem to be interested in people in general.
If it was always like this then I would understand, but for the first few months we were constantly skyping, he was staying up late to talk to me and we would talk about anything and everything. We're ldr but we've seen eachother quite a bit and he spent a few weeks with me recently.
Its like he isnt interested, everytime we talk it feels forced and I'm starting to give up.
I dont know what I can do to try to better the situation.
I've tried talking to him about it, he doesnt seem to think its a problem and puts it back onto me for not coming up with conversation topics. Its almost as if hes gotten too comfortable with me and no longer goes out of his way to talk. Our conversations are basically "what are you up to, cool, I'm going such and such, how was your day?, im going to go play a game now'
He is always playing games, which is fine with me but he doesnt tell me hes going to, so im waiting by my phone for a text message back for an hour.
I just dont know what to do anymore, its to the point that I no longer try to put aside time for skype calls because hes too busy on games, and I dont want to take his mic away while hes raiding or whatever.
Anyone have any adivce that isnt 'dump him!'.
I want to try all possible options before ending something I've commited to because I do love him.
>boyfriend
This is an internet thing right? You have never met in real life?
>>17132488
>We're ldr but we've seen eachother quite a bit and he spent a few weeks with me recentl
Long distance relationships aren't actual relationships, they're just a way to pass time before finding a real connection with someone.
He seems to have known that, why didn't you?
I was over ar my boyfriend's place and he let me borrow his PC while he was doing something. I was looking up stuff for one of my classes so I opened up his downloads folder and I found porn. Lots of porn. I then checked his browsing history and found shitload of porn sites that he visited almost everyday. I have talked to him about it but since we don't live together and can't have sex regularly I kinda understood and told him it was okay. But I just can't stop thinking about it. It makes me feel like I'm not good enough for him for some reason? He watches porn starring girls that look nothing like me and I'll never be able to look like them even if I tried my hardest because natural huge tits. And that's what turns him on. I don't know what to do. It makes me feel like I'm not enough
I know it's normal because, well, that's just the way it is, I can't always be there. But it just makes me feel down and so fucking anxious and I don't know what to do
>He faps because he gets horny
>implying you aren't fucking the horny out of him
>implying you have to have sex to get him off
So why aren't you on his dick right now? No need to fap if he's empty.
Either you handle it or he does.
Porn = fantasy
You = the real thing
men are such pigs
ugh
I'm about to buy a BMW M4 but is it worth driving it in the winter?
Any advice?
Why wouldn't it be?
>buying any "luxury" vehicle
HAHAHAHAHA
>>17132702
This. Such an incredible waste of money that serves no purpose other than dickwaving.
>mfw people go into debt for this shit
I'm a Canadian about to travel to the USA by car in a few weeks.
I'm going from Alberta through Idaho, and going to end up in Portland for a week vacation.
Last year I was arrested(bench warrant) because I didn't pay my "driving without insurance" fine, my friends came and paid it and I was in and out in 8 hours.
I have zero criminal record, but I was still technically "arrested".
Will this be a problem when I cross the border?
What do I say when they ask me if I've ever been arrested?
Also, if you get refused entry, how can you get into the united states?
Do you go through another border crossing?
>>17132430
If you've been arrested you have a criminal record.
A record doesn't just mean convicted of a crime it means all information pertaining to you in the criminal justice system.
So if you were taken into custody, even without charges, you have to put in an application to Parole Board of Canada to have that information removed.
What to do? Well that's on you. If you say you don't have a criminal record, and you get flagged, you could be arrested again. If you say you do, you could be denied entry. But they also might just let you enter anyway because you've not been convicted of anything.
best to give them a call for some solid facts.
>>17132508
>If you've been arrested you have a criminal record.
A bench warrant doesn't count as a criminal record.
>you have to put in an application to Parole Board of Canada to have that information removed.
I heard it's pointless because they don't share that info with the USA.
>you could be arrested again.
What would I be arrested for?
This site:
http://www.ezbordercrossing.com/the-inspection-experience/prior-criminal-offenses/crimes-that-will-make-you-inadmissible-to-the-u-s/#.VzMcuuQuPWE
says:
>Offences like fail to appear, causing a disturbance, common assault and impaired driving are not ordinarily considered in determining your admissibility to the country. In addition, multiple convictions involving crimes which are NOT classified as crimes involving moral turpitude ordinarily do not block your entry.
This may sound like the dumbest problem to have but I really struggle with it and need some guidance /adv/. Recently my female best friend found out her husband cheated on her. Shortly after she confessed to me she's been in love with me for 5 years. This keeps happening. Every friend I get close to falls for me and ends up leaving/resenting me for not returning the feelings. The worst part is I feel like they build me up and put me on the pedestal I can never live up to anyways. I am nothing speculator looks wise and I'm mentally crazy/emotional. But I feel like I'm going to be stuck alone forever because no one wants to be my friend. This is the second female best friend to do this. Last time she ended up hating me and we haven't talked in ages. I don't think I'm gay but I do absolutely love my best friend. I think she's beautiful and we get along like I never have with anyone else. But I feel like she's just reacting to her husband cheating(even though she assures me that's not it). I don't want to reject her while she's still going through being cheated on. But I don't want to feed into it and lead her on either. I keep thinking if I had just gone for either of these girls I would be treated so well and know we would always be happy. But am I gay? I have never been with a woman and I love men. I mean I'm pretty old fashioned and pro gender roles. What do I do? How do I make friends that won't fall for me? I'm not even worthy of any of these people it makes me feel like a fraud.
>>17132427
Let her watch you suck a few dicks. She'll lose interest.
>>17132427
>How do I make friends that won't fall for me?
This is such an adorable little attention whore question I just had to highlight it.
>>17132553
I'm not an attentionwhore at all. It's an honest question. I don't have many friends and when I do get close to one the same thing happens.
Is there actually a way to make your dick longer without getting surgery pls help
use a vacuum 30 min a day for a year if you want solid results.
Cocksleeve? How big are you?
No. Even surgery doesn't really work: the result looks bigger, but doesn't work like one of that size should.
I'm in my early twenties. I don't have a great deal of success with women, but I met a girl online and we went on a couple of dates. On the first date, I could tell she was interesting and smart, but clearly a bit manipulative and narcissistic. I didn't want to judge her to early. Then, I went on a second date, and all of this became more obvious, but she was still fun to talk to.
The really bad part came when I brought up something about ethics, and she mentioned quite clearly that she doesn't care about the suffering of other individuals. Then she went on about how she bullied people in high school and laughed about it.
I felt sick to my stomach immediately, and threw up when I got home. Am I reacting too strongly? I was bullied a bit in school, but I think the real thing that got me is that it was scary to see someone like this who really didn't understand that hurting people for pleasure was bad.
It's not so much the fact that she was a bully, but that she had no shame whatsoever.
No reason to be so desperate, OP
>>17132372
You threw up? Jesus dude you need some mental help.
>>17132393
dont listen to this faggot
>>17132387
this faggot is right those issues will be a problem in the future anyways just cut contact
I CANT SLEEP FOR SHIT
I get mostly 5 hours a night and its driving me crazy, i'm almost always in a foul mood.
I wake up three or four times a night, can only go back to sleep with great effort, am completely unable to take naps; did so only a handful of times in my life.
I rarely drink or do drugs (weed once a week), i go to bed at around 11, get out at about 9 still really tired because of the aforementioned.
Wat do? ;_;
Oh yeah forgot to add, i've started taking melatonin recently and it's helped me fall asleep, but not stay asleep.
I'm also on antipsychotics but they shouldnt interfere with my sleeping.
>>17132360
Take allergy medication with diphenhydramine hydrochloride in it. You can find it cheap at CVS (I paid 23 dollars for 365 tablets). I take two of these every night before I go to sleep, and I haven't had trouble sleeping ever since.
>>17132373
Sounds like you're dependent on the drugs to sleep.
So I work at a McDonald's inside a walmart and this really cute girl works at walmart. She comes in and I can tell she totally likes me and i like her back.
However whenever I get a chance to talk to her my face gets all red and I can barely talk.
Any advice on how I can have a normal conversation and maybe ask her out.
Do I ask for her number or just ask if she wants to go out sometime?
Pic unrelated
>a McDonald's inside a walmart
What the actual fuck is America
>>17132344
You do not ask her while working there, cause that shit can get you fired.
YOu wait till both of you shifst end, and then ask her if she'd like to have coffee sometimes.
>>17132354
Our shifts never end. And I wouldn't get in trouble because I'm kinda the boss.
I know it's pathetic to ask this on an anonymous image board from people who doesn't even know me. But I really need someone's opinion cause I've been unhappy for a long time and I'm constantly torn apart between doing what's right and doing something to chase happiness.
I'm 21 years old and this is my first year in college. I'm studying on a wrong field, kinda. I'm studying business administration, but I actually should have studied marketing. I just didn't realize that until during my first year in college.
I'm too much of a pussy to apply for another university, cause I already got student debt and if I started all over again, I'd lose that 15k I've invested in my current uni and I'd lost one year of studying too.
So I guess what's smart is to push through this degree. But I really hate studying. I got too much spare time which I spent doing nothing. I'm not happy, I can't live in a moment and I always feel like like I'm trying to wait for my life to begin. I never feel like I'm home, happy with myself, doing what I love. I've been moving around a bit and I feel like that things and people come and go.
I don't know what to do, with my life or with anything. I know I should get a degree and focus my energy fully on that, but because I'm not happy or even mildly satisfied, everyday is a bit of a struggle. I've read all the self-help books and articles, but something is just missing. I got no passion for my studies or my life.
sounds like depression OP. also maybe you hate your major.
>>17132445
How to break out of this?
>>17132480
There is no quick, easy way to break from depression.
The first thing you need to do is know your enemy. Specifically one aspect of it in particular: when you are depressed, your brain chemistry is inhibiting all positive thought. The trick is to try to monitor your negative thoughts. Every time you think something shitty and negative, fact check yourself. Ask if it's really a well-founded belief or if it could be the depression. Once you make that a habit, you'll start to be able to unconsciously beat depressing thoughts.
Aside from that, focus on making your body healthy. Eat right, exercise, and get enough sleep. Healthy body leads to healthy mind.
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