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This is really dumb.
Girlfriend of almost two years has never posted a picture of us and for some reason I just feel bad about it. I know it shouldn't matter. I feel bad about it because she has pictures of friends but not of us. So I get jealous of her friends. It's obvious that she's in a relationship. I just for some reason get irrationally upset that she never posts pictures of us actually together. Everyone knows she's in a relationship and it's pretty clear. I just feel like she's embarrassed of me or something.
Does she post her own pictures?
My ex never posted us together but she thought she was disgusting and i dobt like taking pictures so yeah
>>17135440
She does, but not much. She barely posts stuff anyways. She is pretty insecure and whenever we take a cute picture she says she doesn't look good and deletes it.
English major here.
When someone posts a picture of something, IMO, it's like saying, 'This is me' or 'This is a part of me.'
Clearly you view your girlfriend as a part of you, but it sounds like she may have reservations about how well you mesh with her.
Obviously this is just speculation. There are a million other reasons for why she doesn't post pictures of the two of you.
I remember my last girlfriend talking about how we needed more pictures together and I was always just kinda eh about it. Looking back, I feel...
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I have a girlfriend and I don't know if I can keep her entertained and interested.
So, after 17 years of celibacy and some failed attempts, I now have a girlfriend. So far, everything is going well. We have had a few issues, but we both made a deal of being honest and genuine so that helped squash things quickly. We have gone on alot of dates and enjoy eachother time alot, and so far we've never had a dull time together. However, we are riding up on our graduation from high school, and I'm not entirely sure if I can keep this up, especially after we graduate....
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>>17135431
Do you have a job or income?
>>17135442
No, but I will be working during the summer. I decided not to work during my schooling since I figured it would be too much. I do have a little bit of money for allowance and working some oddjobs.
You sound like you're transitioning from the "new and exciting" phase of your relationship to the "old and comfy" phase. This is certainly not bad, just a different experience. You're at the point where you don't need an adventure to prop up a date. You don't need to keep the conversation flowing constantly. Just being near each other makes you guys happy.
Will you guys be living far apart after graduation? Do you share any interests you can partake in together like playing video games or running marathons? You could also learn...
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I have strong feelings for a girl.
I can't explain the whole story, but in short, I want to be by her side but I also feel agony.
It's some sort of cliche romantic suffering.
Anyone else have gone trough the same situation before? What happened when you two managed to end up together?
I need to listen to your stories.
>>17135429
>What happened when you two managed to end up together?
I have some bad news, Anon.
>>17135446
He's implying that he never ended up with her. Chances are, you might not end up with this girl either. Your options are
A) Get to know her a little, ask her out, pursue relationship
B) Do nothing, get over her
Only one of these has a chance of you ending up with her OP, choose wisely.
Hey /adv/
It's been 10 fucking months since we broke up, and I still think of her every day, sometimes I even dream of us getting back togeather. How can I just get over her? How can I finally not think of her and fantasize about us being togeather?
have you tried finding a new gf?
>>17135399
Such is easier said then done
>>17135411
you were charming enough to get one gf, you can get another
THE LUBE HAS WORN OFF
I HAVE A PENCIL STUCK IN MY ASS
HELP
ALSO IT'S NOT THE SHARP PART
I DON'T HAVE FUCKING AUTISM
BUMP
THE PAIN
THE FUCKING PAIN
BUMP
MY CHAIR ALMOST FELL
IF IT DID THEN MY ASS WOULD BE IMPALED BY A PENCIL
MY LIFE IS GOING TO SHIT
Hey /adv/
So in the past month my life went from pretty alright to absolutely fucking garbage.
>Living with dad and fiance
>have shitty job but it makes the bils and has a nice atmosphere
>dad says corny jokes and is my closest relative
>relationship is great
>live willingly with father, he is not health savvy enough to live on his own
>but we are peas in a pod
>april 19th
>dad comes home acting strange
>dial 911
>paramedics come
>"i dont want to die anon"
>"you wont dad"
>paramedics ask me to leave
>they tell me he died
>last words i said to him were a lie
>cant afford rent anymore so have to live with astranged mother
>she is trying to be close to me but its only weird and uncomfortable given our past
>father gets cremated
>ask to get small amount of ashes in specific urn for me
>rest will be in mosoleum
>go to cremation office to pick up small portion in nice urn
>gives me ALL of the remains
>"sorry anon you have to take all of it, just deliver it to the cemetary yourself"
>carry my dad in a box out to the car
>"how does it feel to be holding your dad in a box" my mother says
>feel my soul leave my body
>dads ashes now sit in my living room
>right next to where my mother put a mattress down so i can sleep
>cant sleep
>put on weight cause depressed as fuck
>fiance gets horny
>havent had sex in over a month now
>lost all drive for art which i used to love
>starting to fail at my job
>boss knows my dad died and is trying to be sympathetic
>but i have no drive anymore
>cant blame them for being annoyed with me
>go to doctor for anxiety medication
>beg her for it
>"no no go to this psychiatrist they will perscribe it"
>have absolutely no motivation or willpower to do this
>panic attacks near constant
Now i lay here, with the only relative i loved dead, no house, listening to my mom have sex, have an unsatisfied fiance, and im getting fat.
Life is garbage guys, im pretty fucking over this life.
Post ending in dubs decides if i off myself.
Besides your dad dying, which sucks, your life is absolutely fine. Definitely not worth killing yourself over
Go to your psychiatrist appointment, get a better living situation move in with your gf if you can, if you don't have enough money to make ends meet you may need to get a second job or find a new job that pays better.
Everyone has a hard time dealing with the death of a parent, especially if you're close. I'm not gonna lie to you and say things will ever be like they were, after your parents die the whole world is a bit grayer and that never goes away. Atleast your mother is still alive.
>>17135383
Im a fat homeless mooch with no relative left that gives a fuck about me and a fiance that cares about his dick more then how i feel. Why shouldnt i die?
>>17135386
I have no energy anon.. I just sit around, smoke cigarettes, and stare at my fathers ashes. His funeral is on saturday. I have a few hydrocodone to get me through it, but i only have two pills left. I dont know what to do with myself. I just want the pain to stop.
Posting related memes...
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Hey /adv/.
So I met this transgirl over WoW on Thursday may 5(coincidentally on my birthday) and we started talking about things and it eventually led to sexual stuff.
She then told me some pretty depressing shit about her life and how much she wishes she could have a womb and give birth like a real woman and that that tears her apart inside. There's a lot of other things that were fucked up but I'll leave it at that. Point being, I've felt an extreme amount of pity and desire to make her happy.
Fast forward a few days and we're now calling...
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It's not a girl, it's a man that wishes they were a girl. That will never change.
>>17135366
I'm aware. Even if it is a mental disorder, I still think the best way for the people who have the problem to deal with it is through transitioning. They can always decide later on if they don't feel as if they'll pass as a woman/man since the effects of HRT are mostly temporary except for maybe voice deepening from testosterone and tits. My girlfriend, well, my friend, understands this.
>>17135362
Stop addressing him as she. It's a guy who wants to be a girl. You might not be gay but if you're attracted to cock you're 100% confirmed bisexual.
How to I get a job without references? Every job I apply to eventually require them. My problem is I don't have any nor know anyone outside of immediate family. What do I do?
Try a temp agency
>Make up a bunch of jobs and list your family members phone numbers with them.
>Get your family to pretend to be your old bosses
I'm assuming you're taking about character references instead of references to verify that you actually worked at the places on your resume.
You could use a teacher. A pastor. A family friend. Don't your parents have any respectable friends that have known you for a long time? Have you ever done any sort of volunteer work?
Also, what the above anon said. Temp agencies will take on anyone with a pulse, and you can reference the managers from the contract jobs they give you.
I find that I am too sensitive and have problems dealing with myself and sensitive topics related to my life. I just cry a lot in general. My partner does not feel good supporting me, does not feel sincere or invested doing so, and usually I have to comfort her later about the same thing. What do I do? How can I just, cry less? or reassure myself? I think this affects how loved I can feel sometimes, but I guess the main thing is that WHEN I cry, it just compounds with the fact that I've probably never been unconditionally loved or something like that. I really just want...
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Bumping for this anon. I'm interested what /adv/ might say.
>>17135361
thank you @_@
i basically just can't cry or be down on myself, it's on me to bring myself up, and i guess i've learned that i do just put myself down in the situation and i can stop that, because she is not being actively mean to me.
>>17135368
When I was in middle school, in my young teen years, I used to cry quite a bit anon...
I got out the hard way, sucking it up. I'm sorry if this isn't the answer you wanted, but that's my personal experience.
Do you think some people are just born sad?
apparently depression can be passed along genetically, so yeah actually
>>17135311
so is there a way for those types of people to ever become happy or is their natural state by default just "sad" forever?
>>17135318
i hope so anon
Sup /adv/
Any word on how I can stop being so unbelievably mad all the time? I don't always fly off the handle, I probabley only lose my shit and rage about once every couple months at my best and 2-3 times a month at my worst
I try real hard I meditate, work out, and smoke pot occasionally but it's not enough, and I still find my self mad as hell all the time
So any advice
I'd suggest an anger counselor. If you find yourself flying off the handle it is because you literally just cannot control it. A counselor will teach you methods to keep yourself under control.
stop smoking pot. I have the same problem and you'd think pot helps but it doesn't. I'm much better at controlling myself when going straight edge-ish
>>17135372
Really? That's interesting thx for the /adv/ice
Right no I plan to get either Spotify or Apple Music. Both seem really nice. I have an iPhone by the way.
My main reason to get one is because my favorite free radio app Di.fm been acting weird and shit. The streams glitch to the point I can't listen without being annoyed. I Contacted their tech support twice but no one responded back. I can't even find out if other users are experiencing the same glitch. If I can get this weird stutter sorted out I would leave the worry about subscribing alone.
Is a subscription even worth it? Anyone here who use it,...
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I would subscribe to google play, but I'm just a shill
>>17135255
I like Accuradio and Radio Tuna personally, anon. Lots of genres, streaming without the need of subscribing for any fee and overall great for gym
>>17135255
apple music fucks your files senpai
>be in relationship with verbally/emotionally abusive guy
>finally about to leave
>he breaks down
>says sorry
>says he'll change
>don't want to break his heart, so I stay
>he changed
>he's a better person
>i still want to leave
>feel stuck
I...
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Who cares? And he didn't really change, he's just hiding his true self now because he doesn't want to be alone, as he's a cowardly sniveling little shit.
When you leave his fragile little emotions that he used to take out on you won't be your problem anymore.
Anyway, if you're so worried about hurting him, cutting him off now is better than leading him on any longer.
>>17135247
He's really changed I think
he really seems like he has
all his usual TRIGGERS don't trigger him anymore
He's still a little selfish though
Do women care about penis size? I have shit girth and 4 inches erect penis I don't think I'll ever get a girlfriend.
Is the first thing a girl sees when you introduce yourself your dick?
The answer to that is the answer you're looking for
Some do, some don't.
I dated a guy with the exact cock you described and it was some of the best sex I've ever had. On the other hand, my current boyfriend has the biggest dick I've gotten my hands on and apparently one of his exes complained to all of their mutual friends about how small he was.
Just find someone who isn't a size queen. This may be easier said than done, but it's possible.
What makes guys with small dicks suck is their massive insecurity. In theory, small dicks shouldn't be an issue, but the guys that have them often act like giant douchebags to compensate for it for some reason
just don't be an insecure douche and you'll be fine
Your biggest fear is....?
Biggest fear is becoming famous in the future having my past catch up to me. I frequently jerk off to dudes on Omegle and skype (like twinks and crossdressers). I pray to Christ that I haven't been recorded and its brought up years later.
dying suddenly because my family will find about my porn folders and other disgusting stuff
being attacked by a thousand giant cockroaches
