Archived threads in /adv/ - Advice - 831. page
- Home
- Board: /adv/ - Advice
- Reading: Archived threads in /adv/ - Advice - 831. page
So long story short I hate my friends GF, and I hate how he never excludes her from hanging out when I'm trying to make it just the boys.
He asks if he can come over to my crib and I'm like "sure!" Then he brings his fuckin gf over without telling me. It's bullshit. I've brought up before and he just apologizes and say "I know I know" but it's like well fuckin quit doing it. She doesn't have to be around you all the time. Hang out with the boys, drink some beers and talk about guy stuff without bringing your fuckin woman over all the time. I can remember the last time we've just kicked it without her there. It's awkward and I feel like I can't just talk to my buddy one on one you know?
Also you can call me booty hurt but would you want your buddy's wife/gf around EVERYTIME you try to hang out with your best friend?
We both work full time, and have conflicting schedules most of the time so it's rare that we get to hang out and when we do all I wanna do is drink a couple beers, bullshit with the man, and catch up on what's been going on. Is that too much to ask?
Part of growing up is seeing all your friends become pussy whipped.
>>17133277
Just grow a vagina and some tits so you can meet all your buddy's needs.
Or stop being such a whiny little selfish bitch. Damn you sound like a little 8 year old girl arguing over who gets to be besties.
>>17133294
>>17133285
eh i don't know guys i mean imagine if every time you invited someone over they brought over a friend uninvited who caused problems ect. i would probably stop inviting them around. anyhow op needs to either stop inviting him to "bro time" or start doing things that aren't strange to have your buds gf at.
or you could just get over it i guess.
SO wants me to go deeper while sucking his dick. My gag reflex isn't terrible but it's definitely there. Looking for some tips to help me deep throat and not puke all over him.
You can practice it away. It will take a time, but it works. Use a toothbrush and insert it in your mouth slowly while keeping yourself as calm and breathing as steadily as possible. Bring it up until where it just triggers your gag reflex, and just hold it there while you try to breathe through the sensation. Obviously don't go so far you'll actually puke, just so you get a bit of the response. Do this regularly and you will eventually be able to take him a lot further.
Also, sticking your tongue out before taking him in your mouth really helps if you don't do that already.
>>17133260
Make a fist and squeeze your left thumb
>>17133340
Was going to say that but got beat to it. Good Head brand spray also works really well.
Why can't I cum while having sex? Like, it's normal that I make the girls reach orgasm several times with my fingers and tongue, but when it's time for me to get a blowjob, a handjob or even insert it, I feel absolutely nothing.
The only way I can get an orgasm, is by masturbating, that's the only way I feel any kind of pleasure. Man, this sucks, she gets all the fun on the ride, while I feel like a staff member making sure everything goes right for her while I earn the minimum wage.
Try not masturbating or at least doing it less often
>>17133208
You think that may be the solution? But I do like to masturbate a lot.
>>17133206
gonna have to go nofap+noporn for a while, anon. and stay off /b/.
Guys, I'm a really paranoid person.
I'm often correct in having these thoughts since they turn out to be true, but in some cases they're not and it really gets to me.
For example, if I don't get a reply from a friend I worry that they're ignoring me for a reason, when in reality they're probably just busy.
it's a horrible feeling and it really digs at me. I don't know what to do anymore because it's actually affecting my life quite a lot now, like I feel my life is slowly beginning to revolve around paranoia.
Am I justified in having paranoid thoughts, especially when you consider they usually turn out to be true? How do I stop it from eating me up inside?
pic unrelated ofc
take antipsychotics
they're cash as fuck, i had the same issue
>>17133163
I don't wanna resort to any drugs though, surely I can deal with it without them
>>17133157
There's a specific cognitive bias that could cause you to feel like you have a better track record with your paranoia than you actually do, so you should be careful about that.
Other than that, though, I can understand not wanting to deal with drugs, but you should at least talk to a therapist. They can help you figure out how big of a problem it is for you.
I don't know whether to start a law suit or not. all my options seem really lousy. That someone that is seen as so good does so badly to someone :o/
>>17133102
You'd need to explain the situation better for anyone to be able to offer constructive advice, OP...
My intellectual property has been taken and it's reasonably blatant.
I've looked up some cases where people have successfully sued (pic related lost to C.Berry for example). It is do-able.
The lousy situation is that it feels so naff. "and then they got in loads of suits over 7 years and finally they bought a Volvo with the settlement"
I'd rather the people involved helped me out to do my own thing,
because they took all my thunder, made probably millions and have left me in a swamp.
they should help me.
"do it yourself" - well all of what was supposed to launch me they took it instead. I could swallow it but to leave me with nothing, and ill and the future I worked for wrecked ...sucks.
>>17133102
You'll need proof that it was really yours. They could easily lie and say they did it, if you don't have any proof who will know? It's not fair if they stole your work but you have to be able to convince a judge.
Dear /adv/,
This Friday, I'm turning 22. Up until I was 18, I was an almost friendless loner who got hated on by virtually my entire year in highschool.
I've turned my life around (changed my behavior and gained social skills) and I now feel happy, healthy and confident, but every day, I still think back to when I was younger and failed at life.
I'm no longer mad at the people who bullied me, but I still feel sad when I think of the past and the things that could have been. I feel like I wasted years of my life.
Is this normal or am I being petty?
>wasted years of your life
>22
Get back to me when you're nearing 30 and everyone you knew is married with kids
>>17133061
>Is this normal or am I being petty?
>>>
> Anonymous 05/11/16(Wed)19:31:35 No.17133061â–¶
>>wasted years of your life
>>22
>Get back to me when you're nearing 30 and everyone you knew is married with kids
Is this your situation?
>>17133055
>I feel like I wasted years of my life.
You're not truly happy and confident, then.
Does it exist?
All I want are a few nights to myself a week, and I'm always made out to be the bad guy in the scenario.
I feel like I used to have a backbone, or at least some respect in the relationship to be able to get what I want, but it's not like that anymore.
Well yeah, if you want time alone, your partner should respect that and give it to you. You shouldn't be expected to shower them in attention 24/7.
>>17133037
>a few nights to myself a week
I can totally understand what you're saying, everyone needs some peace & quiet sometimes, but you ARE asking for too much. You're looking for a fuck-buddy, not a relationship. You can't just expect her to be there when YOU want her, and disappear when you want to be alone.
Try to compromise. Maybe a quiet weekend once a month, rather than several days out of each week. Because at that point, it really just sounds like you don't enjoy her company. Put yourself in her shoes and try to think how it'd feel.
>>17133037
Does your girlfriend not have hobbies of her own/things to do? Because you could try and time your "me" time to when she is busy.
What do you do during your personal time? Are you just really introverted? Because I can relate to not wanting to be around other people all the time. I've made it work with my partner because we're both introverted and don't really need to be hanging out all time. So...maybe you're just incompatible.
I drink about 1/3 of a bottle of vodka each evening. Am I already an alcoholic? I mean, I never get drunk and I never drink more than I can take, when I notice that I should stop or else I'll be hungover the next morning, I go to bed. I also never drink during daytime, only in the evening...
So all in all I drink about 8 bottles of vodka every month + maybe a couple of beers during dinner.
>>17133034
If you can have a couple drinks and stop abruptly without discomfort or a powerful urge to continue drinking you are probably not an alcoholic.
You drink a bit more than recommended, but that's hardly a drinking problem and definitely not an alcoholic
>>17133043
size of bottle?
How can I stop my dandruff? I've tried everything from tea tree shampoo, that special tar shampoo, head and shoulders clinical strength, even no 'poo. It always goes away for a few days and then my scalp starts itching again. I don't want to have to shampoo everyday; I have amazing hair and I hate constantly washing out the natural oil because it makes my hair frizzy.
Is there a cause/cure for this? I've only really noticed it in the past 2 years. In my teens when I let my hair grow out I never had a problem with dandruff, and in fact girls used to compliment my hair (black girls would rave about how jelly they were). Back then I used to shampoo and condition with Garnier Fructis Soft and Smooth shampoo. I don't use these anymore, and in fact I don't condition period. Should I try switching back to this routine?
I just want this problem to go away forever. Tell me it's possible!
I used to use anti dandruff shampoo daily for years because otherwise I had terrible dandruff and I started to get sick of it and it was escalating to the point where I'd sometimes have to wash it twice a day if I was heading out somewhere nice that evening because it'd be back again by night time.
When I had some time off work I switched to 'no poo' with occasional dilute bicarbonate of soda rinses and a dash of tea tree. Over about two weeks it was cured. I kept up this routine with the occasion bicarbonate rinse maybe twice a month?
This was a few years back and I'm back using shampoo again, but only regular shampoo and I haven't had the dandruff come back. I suffered with it for fucking years. I'm also more aware of when it is starting to get kind of shitty and I back off on the shampoo and try and avoid washing it if I've a few days off work and I can get away with bumming it with a hat here and there if I'm just making a short visit out somewhere.
>>17133008
What's the concentration of the bicarbonate solution? Do you add the tea tree oil in to the solution or onto your scalp?
Hmmm, try apple cider vinegar. I hear it works well on dandruff.
Alright so I was rejected horribly by my love interest,and rather than use it as an opportunity to wallow in my self pain and misery, I am going to use this as a learning experience and use to turn over a new leaf in my life. I am and will become the alpha. But I need a few pointers first to get me started on the path I have chosen. Such as what are some good movies to watch that feature an alpha male type character, books to read, youtube channels, etc. Anything that I can read or watch that gets and keeps me motivated to become who I want to be in life.
I'm pretty beta myself so I can't help you buddy, but at least I can tell you not to try to act like a fictional character, that shit never works.
>>17132996
I know man, but I figure if I can see actual alpha thoughts and behavior in action, I feel like I can better adapt that into my own personal life.
Stop man, your going to embarrass yourself. One girl rejects you and you decide to change?
You do know that is beta as fuck right?
Ok so trying to keep this short. I have been friends with a girl for almost 4 years now. We have been good friends, we are there for each other if the other needs advice or wants an opinion on what do. We would often eat together, she would invite me over and make food for the two of us. Things that friends do. Every 6 months or so we usually get into an argument and it takes a week or two before things are normal. Lately it's been different. Last summer we got into argument because she guy she was talking to was bad so she became angry at me for saying that and we didn't talk the whole summer and she blocked my number. I told her at the end of the summer that if she didn't stop then I was going to walk away and she started to talk to me again. After that we were good, we went to the movies together, made food for each other, hung out, talked to each other, all the normal stuff for about 7 months. Then in March she started to become distant again and I found out she got a boyfriend. She kept ditching plans we made so I told her that just because she has a boyfriend doesn't mean she has to ignore me. She got mad at me again and blocked my number again. She wouldn't even meet up to eat for her birthday. I don't what to do. She told me she was begin distant because we hung out too much and didn't like how I would react to certain things. I told her we should talk about it because that's what friends do and move on from our problems. She got mad and told me we were never friends, which is a total lie and I told you that until she stops acting this way and lying just to seem like she is in the right then we need time away from each other. That was 2 weeks ago. I don't want what I should say to her. Our college semester is over in 2 days and I really want to eat with her before summer break because i'll be busy with a job and won't be able to see her much.
Drop her. She seems more trouble than she's worth.
You are a potential threat to any boyfriend she has and she understands that. Good for her, I wish my ex had the sense that your friend does. You're secondary to the boyfriend and that's the way it is supposed to be with inter-gender friendships.
>>17132984
A threat? How am I a threat? I just want to continue to hang out with her the way we would before she got a boyfriend.
so due to some unfortunate circumstances, my boyfriend and i will likely be living even further apart. currently, i can only visit him twice a month. in the next month or so, i'll only be able to meet him maybe once every few months. the next time i might have the possibility to move to where he lives is one year from now.
i just feel like our inevitable option would be to break up because of the distance and lack of time spent together and whatever...
does anyone here have any experience with long distance break ups and what happened after wards?
we've been together for almost a year, and he is easily the best boyfriend i could ask for.
>>17132952
Catposters need to get the fuck off /adv/. I'd like to help you with your problem, but you need to try again without using an image of a sad cat to illustrate your own sadness. This is fucking ridiculous
>>17132975
edgy as fuark
My gf lives 8,000 miles away in asia. I'm here in the midwest. We still vist regularly and it works. We'll have a house together soon.
My advice to you is make sure both of u come from rich families.
Also, vote trump
okay /adv/ I royally fucked up
I ended up scheduling two (actually 3 but I got out of one already) important things on top of each other
> 1. An athletic game event that I've been training for for months. I joined it as part of my ROTC team.
> 2. a music festival that a girl I like invited me to. I've blown over a hundred dollars on the ticket + other stuff for this event
I've decided to go to the music festival. I feel like a shit person, but I wasn't going to get close to winning my events anyway. I'm going to be able to cancel and drop the team a little over a week before the event.
The excuse I've come up with is
> my parents just informed me that I'm going to my cousins wedding over the weekend
> they always schedule stuff and forget to tell me until last minute
> I never told them about the event cause why would I? they figured I was free since it was a weekend and they thought they already told me
> They already bought the tickets in advance so I HAVE to go
> I bought 2 tickets for the flight there and back for $800 (wew) and I plan on showing my team leader the flight receipt (I can return them and I will immediately after)
Do you think this is a good plan?
Do you think it will work?
Do you have a better idea?
Am I a horrible person?
>>17132941
update to plan:
> claim that my cousins wedding videographer flaked on him last minute and he needs someone to do it
> he asked me
I have done professional quality wedding videography so it isnt a huge stretch
somebody pls give me advice
>pls respond
>>17132941
I can't help but think I wouldn't spend that much money on a shitty music festival, and I can't help but think I wouldn't leave my bros for a girl that isn't even significant and obviously just riding your theoretic golden cock.
I know the answer Im just wanting objectification this is objectively right. GF says she's coming over last night so means Im drinking and can't work all night and morning even thought guy called in want ing to hand me $50 profit! Right as Im telling him no I can't do my job (cause gf said she's coming over) she texts me she's not coming over. She says she's coming over tomorrow morning to make it up! Its 11:13am and not answering my calls or texts when she was saying 10pm she was too tired. She is just lying right!? This is objectively not acceptable right!? Always have problems 0-2 times a week about not answering, returning my calls and texts. I feel this is too objective to let slide!!! Right!?
Pic related how I felt last night. Went over and demanded my money back that I lended her and before that said burn in hell! in a text We are done right!? and if she tries to play this or that I should not taker her back right? I can see it now I was tired and slept in; its 11:20 and she wakes up over here at 8!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Bitch just texted back! Trying to spin it saying I cried all night and shit! I don't see her over here like she said our over here last night!? Still no call just saying she cried all night and told everyone we broke up
!
So today I'm meeting up with a girl and her husband to fuck her while her husband watches. I've never done anything like this before. We're gonna all smoke weed first.
Anyone have any advice to make it not too awkward?
>>17132920
well the weed should help
>>17132920
The husband will be touching you and likely massaging your butt or balls. It happens all the time.
>>17132920
Just tune out the fact the husband is watching unless it's their thing to do otherwise.
I used to have sex with a coworker while her husband watched but it wasn't what you think would happen. All of us would talk about what was happening and I quickly worked out they liked discussing her body, her pleasure and what I was physically feeling when I touched her.
