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Why should I do other things if I am already happy.
I'm a NEET living with my parents and I feel like I've already achieved happiness but my parents are forcing me to go to college and do really well when that is the only source of stress in my life.
I have a very nice home to live, food and siblings to talk to. Why should I submit myself to such strife when I am always content in my situation now.
>>17183896
Because you're a manchild right now and those things aren't always going to be around for you. Mommy and daddy are going to die and you won't be able to provide for yourself.
You may feel happy now, but for how long do you think it's going to be that way?
From where are you going to get the money to support yourself?
What if everybody in the world decided to stop working?
>>17183896
Are you able to support yourself? Then do whatever you want. But as long as you live in another person's house and use up their resources, they have every right to ask this of you. They won't be around to take care of you forever.
How to be the cool guy that everyone wants to hangout with, take pictures and go to events? What kind of mindset to have? What to avoid doing during social interactions? Special traits/job/hobbies to have?
Well there are a lot of different things that go into charisma, which is likeability. Sometimes it's just some special mix of things that make people like you, but most importantly it's sense of humor, confidence, agreeability, openness and some virtues mixed with looks and background and stuff
https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/How_to_Win_Friends_and_Influence_People
>>17183875
Jus b urself.
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Desperately in need of a new hobby, preferably something cheap but it doesn't have to be.
At the moment my one real hobby is this online video game, and even though it has opened some doors for me to the point where I'm getting paid to coach, I'd really rather do something more practical with my time.
Gimme your best, /adv/.
Hearthstone?
Speedcubing? PC gaming? Masturbating? That's done stuff I do
aquascaping
In six hours, I'll be seeing a psychiatrist for the first time. How do I not fuck this up?
>>17183845
Just don't say you'll harm yourself and anyone else and you won't get locked up.
>>17183845
Just be honest, a psychiatrist can't help you if you're holding things back. You don't need to spill your guts and tell him or her everything about you and your life, but don't give half truths and lies, if there's something you're not comfortable talking about just say that. A psychiatrist is not somebody to impress so if you feel embarrassed or self conscious about something then just try to let that go, they don't care, it's like showing your doctor your dick, he's seen a hundred dicks before and isn't going to judge you.
>>17183845
It's a psychiatrist. He/she will ask the generic inventory of questions for your issue, probably throw a pill of some type at you, and send on your way.
Hey /adv/,
Could really use some potential guidance at this point. I've been in a relationship for almost 4 years now, with a pretty great girl. Recently my girlfriend was diagnosed with endometriosis. It's a reproductive organ disease that causes extreme pain, cramping, and very painful sex. For the past 2 years symptoms have been progressively getting worse, and they're going to continue that way for many years. Our sex life went utterly downhill, maybe 1-2 times a month if we were lucky. We're both in our early 20's. The thing is, her libido has almost vanished; but mine still remains the same. We've talked about it plenty of times, tried to spice things up, worked on things to make sex better (positions, lubrication, varying times in the month regulating around menstrual cycles). The problem is this. She acts like it's perfectly okay, she doesn't push for sex; or even seem like she has any desire for it.
The thing is, I'm 23 years old. I basically crave it 24/7. She won't do blowjobs, tease me, suprise me, rarely shows any reaction to kissing or making out. I understand what she's going through; I'm trying to be there for her whenever she needs it. I'm really struggling with this though, I feel rejected consistently and I'm not getting my needs met in this relationship.
I genuinely don't know what to do. I don't want to leave her for something she doesn't have control over (or maybe she to some degree does). I love this girl, but I feel like I'm running out of options for making this a fulfilling relationship.
What say you /adv/?
>>17183825
relationship without sex is friendship. she isn't even trying, you shouldn't too.
Uh, well then.
My story
>she has endometriosis
>Her sex drive vanishes
>I keep nagging her and making her feel like shit for not wanting me.
>get jealous because i think shes having an affair or isn't attracted to me
>I've lost 60lbs in 3 months
>still nothing
>makes me insecure, we fight about it
>Break up a few days ago
It all makes sense now. Gosh. I am retarded.
>>17183825
I'm a woman in my 20s with endometriosis. I can say that, if she's on the pill, her libido will probably drop. But she still needs to put forth effort to make sure that your needs are properly met. Instead of twice a month, you should both aim for twice a week. And if she's still unwilling, I don't see why she can't offer you oral. It's hard to be interested in sex when your libido takes a nosedive due to medication, but she should look at her other options--there are many. She'll also need to learn how to get herself in the mood. It takes time.
Talk about this with her. If she's all talk and doesn't put forth the effort, you may need to leave this relationship.
Also, is she overweight? Because that certainly won't help anything.
This is probably the only time ill be in advice thread but if it gets me answers then whatever
Im looking to sell ANYTHING and EVERYTHING that relates to anime. Im sick of it now. The memes arent bad but when I see weeaboos it makes me cringe that I was like that. Thank fucking lord I got out of it. Anyway I have about 2'800-3'200 Canadian dollars worth of shit and was wanting answers on if I would make my money back. If not than in the least 2'000 To pay for a computer build I'm doing. Mods PLEASE don't 404 me like shit mods on /b/
>trying to sell $2000 neet starter pack
Got anything gory or demented? How about Kara no Kyoukai?
>>17183805
You'll be lucky if you make half that. Chances are you're gonna have to sell it peacemaker on craigslist, ebay, etc. You won't make any kind of return in one transaction either
My gf and I go to the same college, but we live over 9 miles away, so for most of the summer, we'll be in a long-distance relationship. We've done alright for a while, but now we're getting to points where we're texting and run out of things to talk about, and have hour-long gaps in our conversations. How do I fix this, and should I be concerned?
I don't live in a country where we measure distance in miles, but isn't 9 miles not that far?
>>17183739
Sorry, I meant hours.
>>17183739
dunno if this is a bait but 9 miles is nothing anon you can still plan and do couple stuff together..
I just broke up with my bf today and I don't know how to cope.
What are like the first steps? What helped you make this a little easier?
I just wish I could shut down my emotions and feel nothing.
>>17183734
Grieve for a bit but keep your mind busy. Pick up new hobbies, meet new people.
>I just broke up with my bf today and I don't know how to cope.
Then why did you break up with him in the first place?
>>17183743
He broke up with me actually. Sorry, I expressed myself wrong there.
I work at a restaurant. I've been there for almost 8 years so I've seen a lot of changes in management. The last manager we had was a complete piece of shit so he was fired and we got a new boss. He's been here about a month or so but I haven't worked with him yet as I work the graveyard shift and he works during the day.
Cut to now. Last Saturday night I was having a health issue. That coupled with the supervisor being an unfair beeotch caused me to make the decision to leave work. She said, "oh, okay." and thus I left. I texted my boss after I got into my car that I was leaving, and he replied the next morning. Obviously I told him the situation, but I still wasn't feeling well so I didn't go up to talk to him. Tuesday I received a text from him asking me to talk to him and the district manager on Friday. If he was going to fire me, wouldn't he just fire me right on the spot? Or is he going to make a public example of me for walking out on the job? I'm freaking the fuck out here as I asked him if I were in trouble but he didn't give me an answer. I also dropped off a doctor's note today and one of my supervisors said it didn't look good, but she didn't know what he had planned. What do you think /adv/?
I should also add that my numbers are consistently high and so is my attendance. I do good work, but walking out on the job is kind of a big deal especially for graveyard when there aren't a lot of people willing to work at night.
They wouldn't fire you on the spot, and if you get fired it won't be publicly. Explain yourself when you go to meet your boss and, if you really are a good employee as you say, you might just get a stern final warning.
Source: I'm a manager, but also a human being
No advice. Can't even imagine what you're thinking but what's really freaking you out?
Are you that screwed if you get fired?
Hey /adv/ do any of you have examples of villains from movies or books who basically started out good but were told they were evil, or told they were useless shits and so they became that way?
Trying to find a character who's mentality is outlined as...
>people think I am horrible and will live up to nothing good
>thus I will become evil
The only person who I can think of is Elliot Rodgers, but I'm hoping to find someone from a fictional story so that my example is less dark.
If you're curious, I'm doing this because I'm trying to demonstrate the value of encouragement to someone, and also show him the contrast of discouragement.
Anyone?
The fox from Zootopia.
>>17183661
Damn, that's such a cliche but I can't think of any. Magneto I GUESS. He was a good guy at heart, but due to all the discrimination of being a mutant turns into kind of a dick. Fun fact though: He and Professor X are directly inspired by MLK and Malcolm X.
>have had 3 gfs
>currently have bf
Bi-scum
>still feel like a social reject no gf faggot
>sometimes have tfw no gf feels
whats wrong
i do love my current bf, but sometimes i feel like i shouldn't. i dunno
also i feel like im not actually into guys, im just desperate for affection and did this.
What do?
>>17183648
-bump
>>17183648
It's pretty simple. You either like penis or you don't.
>>17183733
i do, but it feels like i really don't, that im just prison gay
How would i know?
Should I move to Oregon, Colorado, or Florida?
I'm out of college in NC and I'm looking to move to somewhere else. I hate heat, but my gf loves Florida and wants to go there. I love the mountains and rain. What would your advice be?
where in Florida?? flordia mostly a hellscape other than Miami witch is still a hellscape but maybe 10% less of a hellscape. And by hellscape I don't mean the weather...
>>17183657
Probably around Jacksonville.
>>17183716
dunno too much about Jacksonville but I'm from Miami and I'm trying pretty hard to get out of this state...
4chan. Am I a retard for going to community college? I'm doing it to save money, and also because I was dual enrolled (taking college classes) in high school through the college in question. However, I can't shake the feeling that I'm taking an easy route, or wont turn out right. I do plan on transferring though, so that might redeem myself a little.
What do you think, 4chan?
>>17183616
You're going the smart route. Always take the core classes at CC, then transfer to university for the big stuff. The real question is, what are you going to school for? You don't want to end up with a useless degree after all that hard work.
You're taking the poorfag route, not the easy route.
When you transfer to a big school you'll be fine but might miss out on the freshman dorm experience. If you're OK with that, it's better off this way. You go to CC until 20/21, then go to a big school and you can buy booze. Going around to parties underaged getting sloshed isn't that great.
>>17183616
This is smart. You're honestly a dumbass if you think paying more money for core classes is better at a university. CC's are typically better at providing more one on one than a university where your merely a number.
I date a single mom and she wants to go out drinking with her friends. I have a problem with this especially since I'll be watching her kids. Is it wrong that I am this way? She says I'm controlling. I think it's disrespectful to me.
murder her kids. That'll show her
>>17183626
This board gets worse and worse.
>>17183615
Just break up with her. Single moms are gross, especially when they try to dump their kids on you to go party. You aren't their father, are you at a place in your relationship where you should be raising them?
So I just found out there is going to be a rave relatively close to me and I always wanted to go to one. I'm waiting for a friend that usually goes to them to answer me but I think I can convince him to go with me.
Since it is my first rave, what do you usually do in them? I'm 24 so I think this may be the best time for me to go to one.
>>17183531
Depends the kind of music for me, also depends if it's a true rave. Some raves are 21+ or 18+ usually 18+ can still have kiddies that sneak in and are just sluts and don't appreciate the music. Just listen to the music try to understand and flow with it. You can try dancing, but most raves are just chilling, talking to people, dancing when something comes on that's worth dancing too, doing stuff. Meeting new friends. Every rave is different, any more info on the one you're looking at. Undergrounds are the best but since this is your first I don't think its an underground.
>>17183627
By doing stuff I meant drugs.
>>17183627
>>17183633
I see. So are you saying I should stay away from underage?
