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My long term girlfriend was a functional alcoholic she finally finished rehab but the problem is I met and fell in love with her while she was drinking, she was funny, easy going and everything we did was a big adventure. Since she got sober her personality changed and I no longer feel the same way about her...I don't want to be a dick and break up with her because she stopped drinking please help.
How long have you been together?
Almost 3 years
>>17185158
I mean is she capable of drinking responsibly at this point, or is she so destructive that it's sober or binge drinking?
Fiona keeps on being a bitch about how I smell like onions, sweat, and go on the internet too much. It makes me want to kill everyone in my swamp.
How should I kill them all?
Make it extremely painful - you're a big guy.
>>17185110
blow your ogre load in donkey tonight ;)
>>17185140
FFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFOR YOUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUU
>GF breaks up with me cause "don't want a boyfriend right now"
Whether this is bullshit or not (probably is) and she's lying, Why do I keep thinking about it? I keep saying to myself "It doesn't matter, I'll never see her again anyway" but it never stops it, as autistic as I am I even had a dream about her last night and I don't even like the bitch anymore
Channel your rage towards the pursuit of things that will make you better as an individual
>>17185005
Its just human biology. It sucks and its gonna continue but for a mentally healthy individual it will pass.
Do what>>17185009
Suggested and channel it somehow into something positive.
>>17185005
she might just honestly not want a boyfriend and wants to get her life on track first. That would be great and all but if she's still getting railed every weekend that's a little fucked up and shit like that happens.
my ex who I've been talking to tells me she still loves me and has sexual attraction to me but just doesn't want to date right now so we're stuck not doing the things we both want to do just because even though we love eachother she would only have sex in a relationship....
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Give it to me straight, /adv/...
How important are contacts and just generally knowing people to getting a job?
I have no particular area preference, just something easy and with as little human contact as possible. Pay can be very low, I'll only ever be supporting one and I have cheap tastes. It just seems like absolutely nowhere will take me, even things that don't fit my criteria at all. I get the feeling it's because I'm invisible online and have no friends, as I can fake sociability well enough for long enough.
>>17184987
Contacts can get you in the door. Someone who owes your father a favor may agree to interview you for that reason. But he won't hire you just as a favor to your father.
Having a friend in a particular company means that he might alert you to an opening even before it's advertised, so you can be the first to apply. But he won't get you the job. You still have to sell yourself and deliver what you promise.
>>17185193
This. Unless your contact is a god king or owns the company he's not influential enough to get you more than an interview.
not important as long as your local job center isnt complete shit
Can I get anyone here to agree with me that depression is weakness?
Before today's politically correct, SJW bullshit, "depression" was stigmatised for a very good reason - it is a sign of weakness. Everybody gets depressed at some point, but you don't fucking rabbit on about it, you get on with it. Think about those who fought in the war, did they complain about "being depressed"? No, because they were more concerned with NOT BEING SHOT.
You realise why these lies are pedalled these days don't you? Because it keeps the population...
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You're either 14 or on the autism spectrum. Probably both.
War veterans didn't talk about their mental illnesses. But a disproportionate number of them did kill themselves over them. Being able to talk about mental illnesses saves lives. Fact. Glorifying violence and fights, which have no relation to the topic at hand, is just stupid.
>>17184982
FUCK I KNEW IT. The lies have infested everywhere
I'm 25 actually
Your lies probably kill more people than they save to be honest because suicide rates are higher than ever
Also I bet you're the kind of guy that likes watching somebody fuck their girlfriend aren't you
>>17184993
Suicide rates are higher than ever because suicides were covered up in the past if the deceased had any family. Because suicide was a crime.
You moron.
And nah, I'm too alpha to be a cuck. I'm just not completely ignorant as to the science behind mental illness like you seem to be.
>graduated college as a high achiever
>burn out, drop out of grad school one week in
>work a couple shifts a week as a bartender
>spend the rest of my life in bed
>feel like I'm wasting my life but no idea what I'm meant to be doing otherwise
I feel like I always had a clear goal up until now, and working towards it was what kept me going. After realising law school wasn't for me though...there's...
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I feel the same man. After college was like a race to the finish, and since I've just been...free falling. Like the ground has been pulled out from under me.
Hope you get better soon. She's hot btw.
>>17184970
Sounds like you need to figure out what you want to do.. obviously..
Easier said than done, I know. I never figured it out and just by luck ended up spending 10 years as a field rep for medical equipment company.
Now I'm faced with the question again.. what to do. I know maybe 2 people who work doing something that love. The rest just earn money to live.
>>17185016
Just wish I knew how when I don't even feel like a person, senpai
I've heard people say " its the best 4 years of your life, it'll pass in no time. Yeah, the latter is true it's gone soo fast . Still I really do like it. It's not like I am bullied everyday , I go to parties I have friend but I'm awful at academics . I failed the standardized test for algebra and had to retake it. Also I'm taking geometry and algebra two my senior year, when ask if my friends are have taken trig and statistics. On a side not I've had a sort of "mental issue" I decide to ignore and its really bad now but I suppose...
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>>17184958
nigger it's 8:50 am you're supposed to be in high school right now
also no, if high school is the best part of your life you're in for a shitty ride
>>17184964
Lol that's what I've been thinking. If this is literally the best part of my life fuck that .
>>17184958
>the best years of your life
College (assuming you're young) are the best years of your life; once you graduate quality rapidly declines as everyone settles into jobs and families, but you remain unemployed and friendless as student loans and anxiety suffocate you until you expire.
Enjoy your life while you have one.
How can I keep my erection during sex? I am 110% diamond hard while cuddling with GF, eating her out and fingering her but as soon I slip inside her I gradually lose it, going down to about 80% and sometimes completely.
I am only 25 and no-fap didn't quite work. It did make me cum much faster though.
>>17184952
try a different position, try kinky outfits on gf, have her be more vocal and dirty talk, she should put out some effort to keep you into it...
is she ugly/is her pussy loose?
>>17185064
.gif related
>>17184952
Poster above brings up valid questions/ideas. I'll add onto that by saying "If you masturbate at all you might want to stop having any sort of sexy-times for a while."
The reason I say that is, as somebody who masturbated a lot, I found my "natural grip" was tighter than a woman's crotch which made it harder for me to stay erect and/or climax ( which, as it turns out, is not a bad thing when you...
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>>17184952
Do you use condoms? If you're both cool with it and trust her, try sex without them during her period.
Long story short: I kind of had the same problem with my second gf, introduced her to the "calendar method", she enjoyed it so much more, that she was the one, who brought up the pill. Went better from then on out.
I'm 6'3", am I too tall to dress like a girl?
Also, what does a feminine penis look like?
Not shitposting btw, legit question.
You are a boy
Do not dress like a girl
You will never be a girl
You have X and Y chromosomes
You do not have a uterus
>>17184936
I want to be pretty.
>>17184939
You're brainwashed. Stop looking stupid tranny shit up on the internet. Go out into the real world and do something not fucking retarded.
I've been with this girl for 9 months, I loved her more than anything, but she had problems with heroin use because of which she hooked up with her dealer. I broke up with her a year ago, it was ******* hard but I know I had no other choice.
I thought I would stop missing her after a while, I've slept with other girls with no string attached, I've even had a new relationships with ones who really loved with me, but each time I ****** up because I was emotionally detached and ended up hurting them in the process.
On some of my better days I feel...
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why the fuck did the board censor my fucking words
>>17184916
Yeah rehab sounds about right. You weren't even with this girl for a full year, she was a heroin addict, and you're still hung up on it? Not to mention you trying out these other relationships where the other person supposedly loves you, while you're an emotionally distant little shit - meaning you're fucking over other people just because.
Fuck you
>>17184916
>I loved her more than anything
No.
>she had problems with heroin
No.
>I thought I would stop missing her after a while
You would.
>ut I simply can't open up to anyone else, I just don't want to talk to anyone.
If you weren't this much of a emotional faggot.
>I've had depression problems and I've been on SSRI's which helped
Muh...
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I need to buy loads of 'things'. If I am a bit short on my rent can I even be evicted? Even if I was a bit ill? In Uk, ta.
you don't need those things. You need to pay your bills like the responsible adult you're pretending to be.
You can be issued a section 21 by you landlord, if your tenancy agreement has expired, and you will be evicted by the courts in 2 months, provided the landlord has complied with several standards.
If you are still in your tenancy agreement you can be given a section 8, which as long as you aren't 2 months behind in rent you wont be evicted by the court.
>>17184978
>hich as long as you aren't 2 months behind in rent you wont be evicted by the court.
Great thanks
bye!
Can I get convicted of a crime if someone says they heard me talk about it before it happened? Some kids house got shit stolen from it and the cops think it's me. They went to other people and shit and even assumed one of my friends did it with me and questioned him. They told the cops that I was at the basketball court saying I want to do it and that's not even true everyone else at the court was talking about jacking some weed dealer who I don't even know. The cops think I did it and the only evidence they really have is one or two people saying I talked about...
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nope i dont think thats enuf
you cant just say that you killed a man and have the cops come for your ass
It was nice knowing you OP.
Good bye.
>>17184874
But they said I talked about stealing from the kid and then the kids house got stolen from after
So, I found out recently that my girlfriend has been going out to bars with her girl friend(s) and basically standing around until guys come up and buy them drinks. Then they small talk with the guys for a bit and possibly go to another bar to do the same thing. When I made it clear that this is totally not cool with me, she acted like I was being ridiculous. Apparently no harm can come from letting strangers buy you alcohol, especially when you have a boyfriend.
Have I been living under a rock or is totally some stupid whore bullshit??
>>17184854
>Apparently no harm can come from letting strangers buy you alcohol, especially when you have a boyfriend.
What harm will come from it?
It's a little exploitative but really it's the guys fault for being chumps and buying drinks for girls they don't know
>>17184886
Oh I dunno, maybe the implication that a man buying a drink for you wants to have sex with you? It's not like they're drinking apple juice, they're at least getting tipsy. Girls put themselves at risk of either getting raped or cheating on their boyfriends when they do this stupid shit.
>>17184897
>Oh I dunno, maybe the implication that a man buying a drink for you wants to have sex with you?
The men who aren't buying drinks for also want to have sex with her. We're men....
>getting raped or cheating on their boyfriends
Do you think your girlfriend is a retard or something?
What do women like to know?.Basics 6'4 black use mostly dating sites.I know all women are different but trying to compile a list of questions to ask online.or bring up in public. When Im chatting with a woman.
>>17184822
Basic interests, things they feel passionate about, summer plans, school related talk, etc
Nigga just let the conversation flow naturally, dont force it.
>>17184856
yeah ask if she likes 4chan
If you treat female interactions as interviews you will fail.
>have an average of the average gf
>kinda cute, slightly chubby, 6/10 basically
>whenever I see a truly good looking girl while outside I die a little bit inside
>can't shake this feeling that I am wasting my youth by settling
>know that not only I cannot get that kind of attractive woman in my life, but that I can't even do much better than what I have at the moment
>know I will...
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Honestly I think you just need to think long and hard about what really matters. Is the sex decent? Does she appreciate and take care of you? Shit like that is worth way more than dating up a point or two.
>>17184812
I think you're not happy with your current gf and should dump her for someone you like better, if you're having issues like this with her now that it will just get worse and worse 5+ years down the line.
Your girlfriend needs to befriend male orbiters so you can truly appreciate her.
I felt the same about my girlfriend until she got a few male friends from uni that changed my perspective of her entirely. I started finding her more attractive.
