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Found out GF had an "ex" who abused her and forced her into a relationship, while beating her and cheating on her, before they were even 18.
His family is very rich and has political influence, to the point where they can bail him out of trouble- when he beat her up and she went to the police, the case simply went nowhere, and similarly, when he beat a guy up at school with a chair, his dad talked to the principal and the whole deal was forgotten.
Eventually she blocked him and they went to different unis, but recently, he has began contacting her saying...
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>>17182418
Some states have strict cyber bullying/stalking laws these days and their police department websites have forms and information on what to do, what types of things to save for evidence, etc. Recommend looking into that first. From your post it seems you're very angry and looking for revenge, I would refrain from that and make sure everything you do is legal, especially since it seems he has power and influence.
>>17182418
you cannot undo what your gf chose to do in the past. she stayed with him and if she wanted to punish him only she can. I understand your fear though. She may go back to him.
>>17182435
Are you retarded
That is not at all what I mean
She was forced into the relationship. He could hurt her family if she chose not to. He is a maniac.
I am not afraid of her choosing to "go back to him". He is hardly an ex. I am afraid of him stalking us and trying to hurt us!
>>17182432
He can bribe the police, it has happened before. I'm going to do everything I can to avoid him but it is only a matter of time until he finds out about me.
Help on how to stay awake?
I've been a good boy and gone to bed at 11pm (almost) every day for most of my life. now i'm out of school and I managed to get a job working night shifts, and I'm desperately trying to stay awake late so I can get used to it before I start.
it's hard. nothing interests me when i'm tired. yesterday I fell asleep at 1am, and now it's 10pm and i already wish i was asleep.
>>17182330
go tothe store and buy a 'starbucks energy drink'. i usually get mocha.
lay out a couple of movies or even better, a tv show that you've been wanting to watch.
you should have two shows. one erally serious and focus worthy. another more comedy and light that you've seen before, and can listen to while doing other stuff.
you keep your lights on, and you sit in a computer chair. you watch the serious show and/or play the serious game until you are way too exhausted.
then...
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>>17182337
caffeine doesn't really do anything for me, i've been drinking coffee since i was a kid
also... my bed is so waaaaarm....
>>17182345
do it anyways. better than nothing. also consider mixing coffee with soda, thts what i see em do in nightmare on elm street.
a starbucks energy shot is way more extreme than a cup of coffee. also invest in 5 hour energy if you must. load up and experiment.
>also my bed is so waaarm
so? you asked for advice not cheatcodes.
What should I do about my acne? I'm 20 and tired of it. Will I be able to get accutane?
>>17182307
>will i be able to get accutane
depends on your insurance but generally yeah.
Acne isnt as simple as parents made it out to be. if its only in one location its usually caused by a specific problem (for example (thisi s wrong but for example) acne on the nose would be a dairy issue). I had acne on my chin only, and thats a hormonal issue. however i cannot fix that as a dude (whereas women could just take birth control etc).
there are two approaches that worked...
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>>17182307
You should have already been seeing a dermatologist if acne had been a problem from your teens. There are oral and topical medications that can help. On top of that, experiment with changes in your diet, facial cleansing regimen, change your sheets and pillowcase regularly, cut your hair, change your shampoo regimen, stop touching your face.
>>17182317
>On top of that, experiment with changes in your diet, facial cleansing regimen, change your sheets and pillowcase regularly, cut your hair, change your shampoo regimen, stop touching your face.
Yeah well I already pulled those "natural acne healing methodes" for 1.5 years now. Got better, but isn't fully gone and I want it gone. Can't do this torturous regiment anymore no normal human would put up with anyways.
Im trying to do so, but its so hard. I see happy couples and, despite me knowing i can't have that, i still yearn for it. What do?
>>17182233
>stop watching anime
>improve yo self
>hygine included
>promote not only your success
>but your flaws
>get grill
>profit
>>17182233
I have accepted i'll never be happy but it changed nothing.
Acceptance is not the answer, anon. Wish i knew the answer though.
>>17182233
>never have a gf
people say this, but when you say
>i will never have a gf
what you are really saying is
>i refuse to have a gf
you can have a gf if you wanted to.
Finally broke up with my SO of fourish years on and off. How do I stop falling immediately in love with people with whom I'm going on dates? I've been single a total of... 6 months in the last 6 years. And before that I was underage and a huge sex-less lameo. Should I even be concerned that I'm already falling in love with someone new? Or should I tell my friends to fuck off and let me proceed at whatever pace I want...
>>17182196
fuck your mates, you do whatever the fuck you want. the wholepoint in going on dates is to find someone you like, and part of being a good person is acknowledging and accepting when they don't like you the same way.
Just keep doing what you're doing and don't be a little bitch about it.
>you're going on dates
you're already 30 years ahead of all the whuny virgins on /b/ for example so be proud and fuck loud.
stop being such a fucking beta.
if you want a girl, get ripped (eyecandy)
talking to people might also help.
>>17182245
>if you want a girl
Gay, 58 year old man*
>beta
I'll ignore that for now, since I'm clearly getting out there and not hiding behind my excuses/computer.
What is /adv/ opinion and male-female friendships. Can they work out or do the two always end up falling for each other and risking the friendship?
They can work if they keep contact to a minimum. Friendzoning girls work better over the long term than friendzoning guys.
>>17182084
It's fine. Depends on the people. I have platonic relationships with a lot of people of the opposite sex, it's not weird unless you make it weird.
cannot work out unless you are repulsed sexually by grill or sex friends.
At least that's been my experience...except the sex friends part ;_;
Regardless of how much my ego tries to fight it, It seems obvious to me now that Free Will does not really exist.
Many of the greatest scientists and philosophers are either determinists or compatabilists, compatabilism being the idea that free will and determinism are compatible.
We are free in the sense that there's no restraint on our decision making, but our will is pre-determined based on genetics and past experiences which will formulate our decisions in all circumstances.
We have no control over any of our actions. We simply have the illusion...
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>>17182064
Why are you worried about this?
You really shouldn't be bothering yourself with shit like this. Why the fuck do you think people like Wittgenstein constantly tried to tell his students to study something other than philosophy? Accept that life is the way it is and live your fucking life
>>17182064
dont think about it. me and my ex used to talk about this. its depressing to think about but the key is to pretend that free will does exist.
Anyone here try to dumb themselves down with drugs because they're too highly intelligent and it affects their ability to socialize and relationships (ie: dating someone more dumb than yourself)?
>>17182039
you're a social retard :- ) guess you're not too intelligent after all
>>17182039
*tips fedora*
In all seriousness though, it's how a lot of people cope with social inadequacies.
Not sure what advice you're looking for.
I used to. It is fucking retarded. You don't have a hard time socializing because you're so smart. You have a hard time socializing because tough can't sell yourself. Being smart is a positive thing that people like and admire. Just use your intelligence to be creative and do something fun.
>childhood best friend
>comes out the closet after hs
>tell him i cant support or be his friend anymore
>break contact and apparently after I did so did a lot of our mutual friends
>move back home 4 years later after college
>apparently friend became suicidal and found comfort in drugs
>currently under tight surveillance
>His...
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>>17182014
You should kill yourself for abandoning a friend over something that would literally make zero impact on your life.
>>17182014
dont go. you abandoned him for being a fag, so why bother trying to help him you know theres no cure.
>>17182126
I agree op is beta fag can't handle a guy liking dick because you're in denial about liking it yourself
Besides fucking up your lungs/liver/both, are there any other ways to make your voice lower/darker as an adult?
>>17181940
Singing.
Don't fucking smoke, it's not worth the health issues. You can train your voice. There are people you can pay to teach you that.
>>17181940
Vocal coaching.
>>17181962
I do sing, that's why I'm asking.
I could sing Cherubino's part in Figaro's Wedding and that's not very manly.
Also severely depressed. What can I do?
You need to find meaning in thinks that perhaps you don't currently or never did in your past.
>make friends
>get a hobby
>get further into an activity you already enjoy doing
>get a pet
>get really into music
>>17181788
Go to doctor / psychiatrist / psychologist... Start with whichever one of those is most convenient, they can refer you to another if it's not optimal for you
>>17181788
start shopping for a therapist.
also what do you want to do assuming you had motivation?
![wage-slave-small[1].jpg](https://i.imgur.com/PE8zKvl.jpg "wage-slave-small[1].jpg")
How feasible is it to be able to pay off most of your expenses and then live decently working 30 hours a week or less?
>being a wage slave
A smart man told me that no one ever gets rich off a salary, you need to do better things with your money besides spend it on things that don't last, buy assets that you can make additional money off of ie: land, stocks&bonds, even gambling to some extent. So ya, its feasible, but not preferred if you have dreams of living a luxurious life style
>>17181782
>30 hours or less a week
Dream on
I get paid about 1200 a month in a 40 hour week
It's not much but it's not nothing either
Spending 60% Saving 40%
Planning on going into trading later
Most higher paying jobs won't let you work part time, so you're looking at a life of poverty- only you can decide if that's what you're willing to echange for more time off.
hi i'm a noob how do i study effectively and consistently for university with 5 course load like university of toronto? i'm dying here
5 course load? pleb
I have 9 courses, I'm lazy as fuck and still I manage
Besides, you wouldn't go through with any advice given so you might as well leave
The exact same as high school you stupid shit. The only difference is that the professors will fail your ass now if you don't do the work.
>>17181765
>5 course load? pleb
>I have 9 courses
>>17181772
Does this mean you're taking 5 or 9 units or 5 or 9 classes?
There are classes to help you study more effectively, simple small weekend classes that will help with stuff like time management.
Study in a different room than you do everything else in. I go to my schools study rooms and get a majority of my work done, so when I...
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my girlfriend thinks that sex is just sex, and that its the mans job to do everything.
i think that sex is playtime and there isnt a job to be done, but to have fun.
overall, i get 'the job' done, and i do it well. but i want her to play more, and to be silly and just fool around. how can i get her to play, rather than just have sex? its really starting to kill my arousal. im not bored, i just feel like shes expecting me to fuck her and there is nothing else i can do. for instance, she has no idea how to use her body. i tell her to rotate her hips upward...
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>>17181754
Does she like sex?
>>17181756
she loves my dick. literally cant get enough. i try to tell her that if she does more in bed it will increase her pleasure,,subtly of course.
>>17181771
>i try to tell her that if she does more in bed it will increase her pleasure,,subtly of course.
Subtly? Dude, give it to her straight.
I genuinely believe my father is crazy
This might be the end for me
http://vocaroo.com/i/s1blgHzb3DHM
Damn, Louis. You need some help.
>>17181639
wanna come live with me in los angeles?
ive always wanted a european bro to play mario kart with and drink beers, and may be let me rub his feet.
>>17181639
what do you need to go 'cold turkey' on?
