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Any of you have experience with taking xanax for non-recreational purposes?
I've been having pretty bad anxiety problems for the past two months more less after a good six or so months of heavy drinking and not sleeping much. I was feeling alright about 3 weeks in but fucked it up by getting drunk a few times. Was feeling alright last week until I started getting sick on Thursday. Beforehand I'd been taking about .25 mg xanax twice a week when things started getting rough. Every night since Saturday I've been having an anxiety attack and have been taking a small amount of xanax to calm down and go to sleep. The attacks seem to be decreasing in severity as I progressively feel less sick but are still pretty overwhelming.
Do you think if I continue to take a small amount of xanax every night until I don't feel sick I'll get addicted?
Also anyone deal with a months long bout of anxiety and get better without too much meds?
>>17180952
the people I know who have used Xanax for fun now live in crackhouses in philly and have been raped by black guys at parties.
Hope that helps!
>>17180952
I should add I usually have a fairly consistent amount of anxiety and derealization normally but it's usually managable.
>>17180954
I could imagine. Ive never taken it recreationally.
So nearly a year ago I met a famanon through the r9k tag on omegle, I was 18 and she was almost 22. I was a sheltered literal khv neckbeard (a cute one) until I traveled to America to spend a week with her. Before meeting and me she had done a variety of drugs, kissed people, sent nudes and blew one guy multiple times. Meanwhile I just sat in all day playing videogames. I went to America twice for her this year and both times it was clear we were very much in love, she hasn't had another human on skype or left her house for social reasons since we really started speaking. However I could just not get over the fact she's done all these things before meeting me and even once when we first met. I could never let go and always got angry at her for her drug use and whatever else. Why am I suddenly an asshole for putting down for her drug use when it's so morally wrong? or wondering what she was doing getting with a neckbeard like me when she could of had anyone else and had already kissed countless people? is it natural that i'm mad and insecure about it? am I crazy? she seems to like telling me so. Despite her telling me she no longer loves me and me ending up hospitalized after a suicide attempt from her rejection we still speak every day on skype and she still gets jealous of other girls I look at. Is she just trying to hurt me? Is this really all my fault for being so immensely lame and out of touch? literally autistic btw
>>17180943
yes
>>17180964
how so? is it because she's a woman therefore the blame is entirely on me despite her being an asshole in her past with absolutely no regrets?
wow you are really fucking stupid
>conversing with a girl for probably hundreds of hours
>girl doesn't even meet your crazy standards so you resent her
>don't even get basic physical intimacy
>get dumped by her after you travel thousands of miles
>take it so badly you want to die
>STILL being her shoulder to cry on and letting her run riot in your mind
this is all your fault. you should have known better on so many levels
get rid of her and find a local whore to cum in to and you will feel so much better
How to move on and forget your ex gf.
She was the only one I had.
Our relashionship wasn't the best but she was the only one that ever made me happy in a relashionship.
I feel like she hates me a lot and that they're will be no turn back from her.
I may have lied abt stupid things but nothing relevent or i never cheated or talked to other women on purpose when we were together.
Only thing she hated about me is that i was asking too many things and she wanted peace because she came out of a long relashionship .
Sorry for bad english and again thank you for your help.
Give her time. She'll come back if you were good to her.
Otherwise, it's time to move on.
DON'T meet other people, especially NOT women, it's gonna get worst.
Best you can do is stay alone.
Don't give her time
women are a dime a dozen and functionally the same as any other beyond physical appearance. The girl you lost out on is replaceable.
Pursuing her makes you look weak. Go after other women, and work on your dominance markers.
Usually exes try crawling back after they see you being successful and getting other women; ignore this and push that ex away forever. She's a loser with poor decision-making skills.
>>17181030
If i didn't care abt her, i'd be with other women already.
There are women talking to me and stuff but I just don't feel like going out.
It's just that with her, i don't have to be someone else, i'm myself.
How violent can a relationship be before it's a problem?
Context: Two male roommates with a brief history of romantic association and several years of friendship/sharing living spaces.
The more physically dominant of the two hits the other frequently ("playfully" but also in coercive or reproachful ways), pushes him around, calls him a faggot, etc.
Not serious violence, but consistent low-level pain and occasional minor damage.
Is that an acceptably normal style of intramale interaction?
I think it depends on tone more than context. If it doesn't feel cool it's probably not cool. If the roommate being pushed around doesn't feel comfortable with it, it's not cool
Any action becomes a problem when it is non-consensual. People consent to different things. Two people in a bdsm relationship could hit each other heavily and it would be ok as long as it's consensual. Does this hitting looks non-consensual to you? Can you identify other signs of abuse?
>>17180862
Uh, it's me, so yes, I can say it's nonconsensual. I hit him back to "play along" a lot recently, and a couple of times have lashed out more seriously, but I weigh 115 pounds and he weighs 250+ and is much, much stronger than me. He's pretty deaf to complaints too, or telling him to stop. Kinda just does whatever he feels like, and often lately that's hitting me.
I don't know if it's really a problem though or if I'm just being a bitch. It's not like he's a bad person, he just has some issues.
I'm a virgin, but I usually don't care about it until a friend mention they had sex or anything about it. I just get uncomfortable about me being a virgin in does moments.
I don't want to have sex just to not be a virgi, but evertime sex is brought up I just get all awkward and sad
Same Bro, it means sex nowadays is not only an activity but also social status. You should try to improve yourself in other ways
>>17180834
Just lie about your sex life like everyone else.
>>17180834
Your friends are all lying. Join in.
Alright. I've been struggling with acne for 9 years and I thought I'd grow out of it, but it's getting worse and I'm 19 now so it's embarassing. I'm not talking about a couple pimples here and there, they cover my entire forehead. I've used everything, but it's like my skin won't work with anything because it's so damn oily you can see little drops of oil covering my face, especially my nose, but when I wash it with anything, even water, my face will peel the next day while still being oily. Fucking hassle, I don't know what to do. I use moisturizer too but it makes it worse. What am I suppised to do?
see a doctor. It's hard to treat acne that severe with natural or over the counter remedies. Improve your diet if you haven't already, and try not washing your face more than once a day, excessive washing may cause your skin to actually produce more oil.
>>17180809
T 3 mycin find it apply
Yeah have you ever looked into acutane? It's worth it to see a doctor now before you get more scars, I wish I'd gone years ago
How does one balance school, a job, and a social life? Seriously, I was chilling with my friends, and all of sudden I get a call from work asking me to go in tomorrow at 7:00 in the morning. The manager that I was talking to just laughed when I was talking and said welcome to adult life. Holy fuck, is growing up as fucked up as everyone makes it seem. I'm 18 by the way.
>18
Yeah. Adult life is a lot more challenging but can be more rewarding.
>>17180772
next time you're chilling with your friends and work calls, don't answer the fucking phone. and if you are going to answer, be prepared to say that you're out of town and can't make it into work at 7am tomorrow morning
>>17180772
>all of sudden I get a call from work asking me to go in tomorrow at 7:00 in the morning
What's unreasonable about this?
This might sound retarted, but im so angry about it i have to share this.
My ex-GF used to love handsome male actors. I didn't find the picture for you, but one time she posted a picture on the facebook with a crying man accompanied with a text something like 'i would leave my boyfriend because of Outlander'
(Outlander is some super handsome male actor)
So, i know this sounds retarted but i got fucking angry because of this. We are already broke up (not because of this exact reason), but i'm somehow still very angry about this and occasionally i get just so mad and hurt because of that memory.
/adv/ what the fuck is wrong with me? Is it reasonable to get so angry about something like that?
>>17180740
>retarted
Didn't read further
>>17180740
Outlander is a television series. Your gf posting that picture probably has more to do than just the handsome face. She's enamoured with the plot and how the male actor (probably the main male protagonist) interacts with the main female protagonist. They have some really steamy scenes. She probably wishes she was the main character in the series (a time-traveller hooking up with some medieval hottie).
>>17180754
i know. This is ok to have fantasies. I have many sexual fantasies with hot girls myself.
But is it ok to post a picture with a text like that to facebook?
How do I be more intimate with my mother?
>inb4 wincest
Let me give you a brief summary of my mom
>She came to the US from China when she was 20 something year old to marry my dad who was 30 years older than her
>She did this because she wanted to get her family into the US
>However, she did try giving my dad a shot at loving him
>But my dad was still in love with his first wife (who died from cancer) and never trusted my mom or gave her much freedom
>this lead to a loveless relationship, eventually divorce
>her own family that she was able to bring to the US through the marriage used her and abandoned her
>tonight, when I came home back from a semester at college she cried to me how alone she feels
>told me how we never talk as much, how I'm always in my room playing games
I feel so shitty. I wish I was a better son and could be more open and communicate with her. But I honestly am not good at spending time with her. Mainly because we have no similar interests and the slight language barrier (she can speak English, but some things she doesn't understand because it is not her first language). I want to spend more time with her, but I just don't know what we can do. I'm terrible at having a conversation with her, I don't know how normal sons and moms interact.
Do college kids spend time with their moms alot? I kind of thought the dad and mom kept themselves company. I feel like it's my duty now to keep my mom company because my dad isn't here for her.
>tldr: How do I spend time with my mom without feeling awkward about it?
How about threating her with homecooked meal? Talking might not show enough affection but actions speak more than words.
>>17180721
That's a good idea. I'll try that.
My mom wants to go on evening walks with me. I'm not really into that and I don't know what to say when we do. I just feel uncomfortable at the thought of hanging out with my mom. And I really wish I knew why.
She once planned a trip to Hawaii with just me and her. I felt really weirded out by it, so I was able to convince her to bring her god daughter along who is closer to her age. I don't wanna do vacations with just my mom, it's weird isn't it? Isn't it weird?
>>17180780
Go on a walk with her. Dont go for the activity/food/event, go for the people.
I'll green text it to make it easy.
>I am 23 years old
>I have been dating a girl for 6 years. we live together. she is reasonably attractive and sexually openminded enough. she is studying to be a chemical engineer and marrying her would mean (more) wealth for me.
>I rarely feel emotions so this relationship works pretty well. especially since she's okay with my lack of emotions and she does all of the housework and cooking.
>Stumble upon girl I used to know's Facebook.
>Havent' seen her since we were 10.
>First crush.
>Immediately become irrationally infatuated with her current photo
>I know that I don't know her. I know that these feelings aren't real.
>But I really want to get to know her again and feel like, romantically attracted to her. And I didn't think it was possible for me to feel that way.
So what do I do?
I'm not opposed to going behind my girlfriend's back, I just don't know how I would even be able to do that. Our relationship is very public.
And I know it isn't worth it but it's been a week and I can't shake this feeling.
Help me /adv/.
>>17180648
She's probably not into you and won't ever be into you. So tell me, did you like her because she's pretty? Did you even know her? Do you like her now because she's pretty? That's not the basis for a relationship, if you're actually serious about her you're going to have to break up with your girlfriend first, give her a chance to find someone who deserves her.
>>17180654
Well, she used to like me back then.
And while she is 'pretty', that has very little bearing on my situation. I know plenty of 'pretty' people.
As for my own odds, there's no reason she wouldn't be into me. I'm very good looking, wealthy, and charismatic.
To clarify, I have no interest in 'hitting it and quitting it' with this girl. I'm interesting in getting to know her and deciding how I want to proceed from there.
Marry both
What the fuck should I do with my hair? I literally just walk in and go "you're the expert" every time and it's very hit or miss. I'm not socially awkward, I just always got whatever haircut my dad told them to give me. I live on my own; that was the last thing I always had my parents do. Now I want to make my own choice for hair and I have no clue.
Instead of cutting your hair you should cut your fat. A haircut won't boost your appearance nearly as much as losing some weight and getting rid of that mess on your face will.
Your hair, even the pubes on your face, are way too long. Trim all of that shit. In fact, you should probably get rid of the facial hair altogether if you're not going to put daily effort into it.
And like the other anon said, losing a few pounds would make much more difference than your pubeface.
skin fade on the sides, lose a little length on top, invest in some pomade to style it. and tweeze your eyebrows. they're almost touching. i'd also take some length off the beard if it were me but i'd never tell another man what to do with his bear.
I practice meditating frequently and are a very sensitive person. I gave been getting medical help for my sevre anxiety disorder for a while. I am considering trying to see a healer to try it.
Does antone here have any experience with it?
Anyone**
I practiced meditation and self-hypnosis and eventually figured out that everything we do is just a function of willpower. If you're jumping from one New Age thing to another, then you're looking for a magic fix that doesn't exist. I can guarantee that you're not taking your medical treatment seriously and skipping on medication.
>Decided to fix 1 of 20 typos
lol
>>17180616
I am taking my medical treatment very seriously I am just having a very bad streak the past couple months I am stuck in a rutt. I have been having non stop bad luck. While I am calm because I have been meditating I am hiding from the reality of my current situation with my business I work hard and have done everything possible but there is no market for it in my area. I do not have the health to currently work for someone else and I am moving out with my husband in six months. I feel like there is something else I should be trying but I can not figure it out I am stuck in an endless loop.
Okay, so I'm applying for a job to work at the local ralph's where I live, and my mom is worried that I won't get hired because I have a vulgar presense on facebook. Tell me anons, are the people at ralphs actually gonna look at my ranty FB posts? should I take them down?
Yes, they can and a lot of the time will look at your Facebook. Make your shit private or quit being an edgy sperglord.
>>17180591
Maybe, maybe not.
As someone who employed people in retail for a while 5 years ago, I can tell you that I never bothered with their Facebook profiles. I didn't have time. Work was too busy, and I really didn't care.
But, I'll tell you I lost out on jobs for just having alcohol in pictures, or references to alcohol, when I was over 21 and that was perfectly legal. I didn't find out until after the fact. I cleaned up my act on social media and it seemed to help.
I am personally more tolerant of Facebook profiles than most, but now I'm in a situation where I'm hiring corporate professionals who have a resume that allow me to overlook this shit, not someone who has never held a job. My boss probably does more drugs than your average 17 year old but she knows how to build an online hotel booking platform while drunk and high and you don't.
Just clean that shit up.
Try not being a spergy pile of shit on a platform where real-life people can see it.
While you're at it, don't do it anonymously, either.
You're going to look back on these days and cringe.
Long story short, I've got a dark sense of humor. That's typically the only stuff that makes me audibly laugh. My girlfriend however has a more adult humor, but it isn't offensive like mine. I keep on her level of humor so I don't offend her (She doesn't care if my humor is offensive, as long as it doesn't offend her, so I watch what I say) and I make her laugh.
The thing is though, she doesn't make me laugh. She says things that are clever, and I react and smirk/smile make a comment about it, but she's never made me genuinely hunch over and almost cry from laughter. This bothers her. I've asked her why it bothers her (I've told her it shouldn't and not to worry." and she says she doesn't know why, but me making her laugh, and her not being able to make me laugh makes her feel like she's not as great as she could be, because of reason just stated.
I've told her I love her and that I love everything about her humor, but she says "If you loved my humor it would make you laugh, wouldn't it?
We've already had the talk a few times, so I can't just pity laugh, or she'd know what I'm doing. What the fuck am I supposed to do? It doesn't bother her all the time unless if she says something she thinks is really funny, and the most I do is smile or do that thing where you grin and exhale out of your nose.
Help guys? I honestly don't know why this bothers her, but I just want her to stop feeling bad about it.
>>17180586
Have a tickle fight maybe? Seriously, try it.
Just tell her that peoples sense of humor are different and that she really shouldn't worry about it.
It's the same as having different favorite bands, films etc.
Her making you laugh isn't even what she is supposed to do as a girlfriend. A lot of men, me included, typically fake laugh at a girlfriends jokes because we like them and don't want to offend them.
It doesn't mean a thing.
>>17180586
tell her you find her funny but you're indulgent and kind of a narcissist when it comes to humor so you don't always laugh at other people's jokes. you know it's a flaw, but you don't want her to stop cracking jokes because you really do enjoy them.
it's a reassurance-self-deprecation-reassurance sandwich. works on girls everytime.
My female friend, who I consider very close, has asked me leave her alone because she thinks I'm being a complete tool by becoming "the other guy" in this girl's relationship.
I agree I'm being a dick, but I'm going through a tough time in my life and this isn't something I plan on letting let last forever. I can't help having strong feelings for the girl regardless of her relationship.
Is there any way to salvage my friendship? I know I should hold myself to a higher standard.
She doesn't have to keep people whose morals she doesn't agree with in her life. You've shown her your true colours, and she doesn't like those true colours. To be honest, you've probably fucked up the friendship.
>but I'm going through a tough time in my life
Oh bawwwwww
>>17180558
Alright, fuck the excuses, this is what I want. Is that enough honesty?
>>17180556
I mean, hypothetically, if I really did end this, is it salvageable? I know I can't give all of the details but she's not the only person in my life who never saw me becoming this guy. Is there any chance of proving this is unique?
