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Okay, so I've been crushing on this girl for a while. I've recently discovered we share a ton of interests, including movies/shows/etc, and have similar values and ideas.
We've hung out for a while the past few days and I'm trying to gauge if she's interested in me. I realize there's no 100% foolproof way to tell because it's always possible she's just being friendly.
With that being said, yesterday she was talking about her ex and her reasons for breaking up with him because they weren't compatible. She keeps talking about how "in sync" she and I are. Is this a clue/sign? If so, what should I do?
I've never dated a girl before so I'm completely lost. 24/M if it helps.
>>17182248
There is a 99% foolproof way to tell. You ask her.
>>17182248
make a move.
>>17182270
I realize that, obviously, but I've never done it before and it makes me crazy nervous
I know this question seems a little bit stupid since nobody can precisely tell me what should i like to study but hear me out. To keep it brief, i have to go to uni next year(im 18 dont worry) and my parents are basically forcing me to chose something to study. I have no idea whatsoever what i wanna do with my life and except for math and programming im pretty much medicore at everthing.What should i go for considering that im super lazy and i dont really wanna spend my whole time there studying but also has some decent job prospects just so my parents won't complain about my choice?
>>17182232
forgot to mention, i hate programming despite being quite good at it so cs is out of discussion
>>17182232
>what should i go for considering im super lazy
community college. maybe just entry level wage cuck work if you're super lazy.
>>17182325
I live in eastern Europe, there's no such thing as community college here
I broke up with my exgirlfriend 2 months ago i triet to get back with her till 4 weeks ago, well then after she told me she didn't want to be with me NOW, i just gave up and started to have sex with another girl as friends.
Well today my ex called me today.
And i still love her like the first day, we've been together for 2 years and we broke up because we had a really bad discussion.
Well my problem is.
Should i tell her that i had sex with another girl? We werent together but i think she would be sad or angry idk.
Thanks guys.
>>17182139
carry that secret to your grave. never mention it again, even to jesus.
how many people know about it?
4 people know about it.
1- my best friend who is in contact with her and he knows why i did it, because i was very depresed.
2- A girl on the internet , who does not know my ex and has no chance of talking to her.
3- my best friend on the internet he knws her and talks to her.
4-her best friend who is one of my best (girl)friends knows only that i kissed that girl and she knows that i knew she wouldnt get back with me.
If you can't be honest you're doomed to fail again already.
How to get a girl like her? Especially if she is older than you.
>>17182128
be hot. be charming. scope out girls like her. attempt to date them.
Treat her like a human being and not like a 10/10 sex goddess - since that's how everyone else treats her. She will appreciate honesty and not being seen as an object
>>17182128
>Bellucci
Fuggetaboutit. The boss is angry you disappeared again.
Best way to make money illegaly?
>>17182077
Drugs, prostitution, selling guns, smuggling, etc.
drugs > if in UK and growing (police only care for dealers, make sure they aren't rats tho)
drugs > if in US, expect rambo cops to attempt to run after you for the shittiest extract of stuff.
selling guns > Easy to do, possible?
smuggling > Dont know if you want to shove stuff up your ass, or run between mexico etc.
prostitute > You're better than that, have other people do it for you.
Bitcoin mining >
>Be IT at company.
>Have access to servers etc.
>Run Bitcoin mine.
>Illegal profit.
>If contract allows you to do whatever to servers: Illegal legal profit.
>Make hacking program that forces people to pay (n) money through something (Worked for the indian/nigerian scammers)
>Learn spy shit:
-Look for rich house
-No security? Check
-Owner weak? Check
-2 Friends + stolen van? Check
-Stolen shit (wearing ski masks fml) Check
-Richer? Check
-Burn clothes, dump truck in woods.
>>17182077
Rob a bank
First time posting here. I'm a teenager. Friend in class. Amazing girl. Kind, honest, helpful. She's in my batch (we work together and chat for 3 hours per day). Never connected with anyone the way I've connected with her. I've never been in love (ultra-comservative society I live in ) don't know what it's like. Now I feel weak, think about her all the time, get nervous for no reason with her, can't sllep at night... Just lying down in my bed thinking about her. Only few days left with her, will probably never see her again after that. I know I can't ask her out (average looking -slightly obese). My heart is breaking. Do I distract myself? How? What would you do? Need help please
>>17182058
>amazing girl, blah blah
>I've connected with her, blah
there are like 4.5 billion girls in the world.
>I know I can't ask her out
why the fuck not?
If you won't be seeing her forever after a few days there's not much you can do - probably best not to get involved because it'll only hurt more when she leaves or whatever.
On the other hand, if you really think you're in love with her, and have connected with her like you said, then just ask her out." Don't make it weird; if you act like it's weird when you ask she'll think it's weird. go for it at the very start of a conversation after saying hello - "so want to go for dinner tonight/tomorrow/another time. Most people say dinner is a shit first date but I swear by it. And you can have a litte (and I mean a little) alcohol to lubricate your interactions with her.
Another tip - don't ask her where she wants to go. Pick a place, a time, book it after she says yes.
On the date all you need to do is talk shit basically. Hold eye contact, turn your body to face her, sit at right angles to her, not opposite, tell her she looks nice at least twice and PAY THE FUCKING BILL.
If things are meant to be, then distance shouldn't ruin you...
>>17182058
>>17182147
also, if you need advice on actually how to ask her out that's cool too since you said you're nervous around her.
Reason why dinner is so good is because restaurant staff know you're on a date and treat you nice. You can talk and talk. there's so many moves you can make at dinner too, locking eyes, touching her fingers, footsie. and then there's a chance to go to somewhere else after is all goes well.
one other thing. when it's dinner it's so clearly a date that there's no confusion about what you're asking her to take part in. "table for 2" means man and woman on a date, universally.
I just got out of a relationship of 7 years.
Ask me anything
>>17181974
>>>/reddit/
Why did you end it?
what advice are you looking for?
So I live in a rural mountain town in east coast of the USA, and the police in my county and the county next to time haven't did shit.
Last year my mother had two cars from her stolen, by my sister in the neighboring county and the warrant that was filed was dropped. We believe it was dropped due to her boyfriend being family members with a judge in the local court house.
My sister stole medication, a controlled one, and was told that they do not handle stolen medication so warrants cannot be filed. And yesterday she breaks into my shed and steals some expensive lawn equipment,
With two police departments doing absolutely nothing with my family's situation and for everyone else for that matter what could be done about this? Is there a way to at least contact someone about how shitty the police department is?
>>17181952
If they're so shitty there shouldn't be any issue with you killing her if you keep it quiet.
>>17181961
this
or just rob her, lol there's no law where you are. ofc you could get her in federal trouble. At least state, ur county cops blow
You're going to have to do all the legwork,op.
Setup basic security cameras, record all phone calls, everything documented with your encounters with dirtbags, and local Leo.
You may have to goto state cops.
So I've been seeing this girl lately and we really connect, have almost all the same interests and just really vibe together as people
But I really don't find myself sexually attracted to her
And I'm frustrated cause I like her as a person but she's just not really the kind of girl I go for. Little heavier and all that. Maybe I'm sballow, I can admit that, but I just don't find her terribly attractive
Most frustrating we share the same kinks.
Any advice?
How long have you been going out?
Keep dating her, perhaps as you grow closer you will find your sexual attraction increases.
Though there are some girls that, simply, are just meant to be friends.
>>17181914
Bout a week and a half. I'm worried it might get too serious.
Part of my fear is that I'm 21 And I've only ever had one serious girlfriend in my life. Loved her dearly and she was amazingly gorgeous and I'm worried that in running out of time to sleep around and goof off you know?
>>17181910
You are shallow if your only caring about the physical attraction of her, I'd kill for a girl that liked the same shit I'm into but I have to settle for hoes and the most boring of women
Girl is 20, I'm 22.
So I met this girl. She asked me to have sex with her. We had FWB for about a week, then things got serious. We spent a ton of time together, started dating, and then she admitted she was in love with me.
It turns into the most genuine and caring relationship I've ever had. We never argued or even came into conflict, everything was fair.
Then we got separated. She's living in another country. We had plans to move together and get married after college. We were apart for about four months.
Then I found out in the worst way possible she was sleeping around. I sent her the proof, and she started lying and twisting things. While I didn't get angry, I made it very clear how upset I was. Her apologizes felt hollow, and it sounded like she was more upset about getting caught than anything.
I broke up with her because I felt like she didn't care. She went to bed in the middle of a conversation where I was telling her how we could fix things. I was so upset that I broke up with her. She felt like a completely different person.
I asked if we could get back together two weeks afterwards. She told me things couldn't work with the distance. Later she promised she would see me again "one day".
It's been a few months. I messaged her to check in with her. Things were calm, but then I poured by heart out on her. I told her all I wanted was for her to care and love me. I got a little unpleasant by telling her that her actions "made me suffer so much" and that "she probably won't meet someone who cares like I do".
She finally told me to "please stop" with my emotional outburst.
tl/dr: I dated a girl who showered me with love, and I wanted to marry. She slept guys when we were apart, and gave up on the relationship. I didn't do anything wrong, but she just ruined it. Every time I think I've recovered from it, it comes back worse and I just end up blasting her with my feelings. Her responses are no more than a few words.
>>17181880
stop being so pathetic and drop the gutter slut, you have emotions for a whore. you'd be better off taking your money and seeing a prostitute and giving her money to have her tell you she loves you and then fucking.
>She asked me to have sex with her. We had FWB for about a week
You should've kept it FWB. It should've been blindingly obvious that she was not marriage material. WTF were you thinking?
>>17181880
>"she probably won't meet someone who cares like I do"
She doesn't want love, she wants cock, and she's drowning in it.
Am I crazy for having my biggest long-term ambition being moving as far from human contact as possible?
I like being alone, and if this choice was economically sustainable I'd take it in an instant.
I think you are lying, you would not be on this board if you really wanted to be alone THAT badly.
I would too. I don't know how crazy it is though.
Living without human contact is miserable.
/adv/ with dealing with shitty people on /adv/?
the worst is
>IM AN INTROVERT BUT IM MISERABLE
how can we nicely tell someone that they arent an introvert if they are miserable being an introvert?
>>17181759
>how can we nicely tell someone that they arent an introvert if they are miserable being an introvert?
The thing is, that's not necessarily true. Most introverts are not loners.
Generally speaking, an extravert finds being around people to be energizing, while an introvert finds being around people to be draining. This is literally all that it is; everything else follows from it.
And because of that, it is quite possible for introverts to feel lonely, and to crave human contact. There are other reasons that they might avoid human contact, but those have nothing to do with whether or not they are introverts.
So when someone says they're "miserable being an introvert", the first step is in understanding why they avoid human contact. Many people have this idea that they "shouldn't" seek human contact if they're introverted, or that being introverted causes them to avoid human contact: neither is true.
The next step is to understand the differences in the needs of introverts. Most introverts do need social contact, like extraverts do, but they need it in smaller doses and more intimate settings. An extravert may be able to keep on going until their body gives out, but an introvert is going to need some alone time much sooner: they get "peopled out" and need to recharge. The other thing they need is some method of recharging, which is going to be different for each person. Lastly, if they crave contact but avoid it anyway, the reason for this needs to be resolved.
An introvert who doesn't have these three things -the ability to reach out, the ability to get contact in small doses, and something that lets them recharge- yes, they're going to be miserable as introverts. But they are no less introverts for that.
Can you reword your post to make more sense? If not, can you at least tell me if I'm understanding you correctly? My understanding is...
>Be you
>People have told you that you are an introvert/are introverted.
>You don't think that is true because you are "miserable" and not happy with your lifestyle as if you desire to be social.
Did I get that right? In the event I did here is what I have to say...
This really depends on the definition of "introvert." If you are shy, lack the desire to have your thoughts known ( expressing them anonymously does not count ) by those around you, withdrawn from those around you, lacking in confidence and usually inward-looking then you most likely are an introvert. That is how ( American and many other ) societies define introversion.
Introverts are not introverts because they enjoy being introverted or alone. They are so because they are incapable of and/or are bad at dealing with the social aspects of life. I know an introvert; he hangs out only with himself and one of my other friends and is almost incapable of grasping a lot of social concepts in spite of being well educated. Our get-togethers are almost exclusively in his mom's basement ( once or twice a year they may be elsewhere ) and when he does leave that sanctuary it is either for a family function he has no choice but to socialize in or for schooling/working.
He has stated in the past being introverted bothers him but he realizes he is. It sounds like you might be in a similar situation. If you feel I'm wrong point out why; we'll work together on figuring out a solution to your question anon.
>What are the red sings a woman is using a dude?
Whether cause she feels lonely ,needs something, or just wants to get to know one of his friends.
>Wants things, like money
Any women who constantly are asking for money to buy things, or just things in general can be using the man if they seem to not be thankful or really care what the male thinks about that kind of behavior
>women asks the man questions
Especially things that don't have to do with the male and his feelings/interests
>>17181721
do you mean in a platonic sense? its hard to say.
are we ever not using people to not feel lonely? i mean the whole point of interaction is to not be lonely. some people use it to a more extreme degree.
if a girl never wants to hang out one on one but is fine texting and social mediaing you, then yeah shes just using you to stave off boredom. if you arent comfortable with this relationship, get out.
if shes constantly borrowing stuff from you, or you are paying for your outside excursions but wont commit to 'date' you
>>17181736
Im not really talking about money, but about someone who hangs out with you when she has nobody else, seems interested but says otherwise
Pretty much the 3 things i said on the first post
I really like the guy I'm with, but the sex is completely one-sided.
I've tried talking to him about it more than once and it never yields any results. I even offered to coach him on the things I like and dislike, but it's as if he just doesn't remember any of it when the time comes.
I believe him when he tells me he's trying his best, but it just isn't working.
Help?
Did you meet him on /r9k/ ?
>>17181710
try until you grow too tired to try.
then give up. not much else you can do. you can always try to playfully withhold sex and control the situation, but there isnt a huge percent of a chance it will work or whatever.
>>17181710
Don't have sex or just leave
If none of those options are possible, get a hitachi and finish yourself in front of him
I am consistently compared to a coworker at work.
The situation feels very out of my control, but I don't know how to regulate it professionally.
I work a group of about 5 people, including a boss, closely on a daily basis.
The coworker I am compared to is very similar to me. We are similar in age, looks, our fashion sense, interests. It's creepy really. But she's been there about 4 years longer than me.
We're also the only women in our age group there. And we work with women about 10 years our senior. They seem to be very judgey and chatty.
Any time I wear something, coworkers will say, "Oh, I think *coworker I'm compared to* has that shirt? I guess you only bought it because she's wearing it." But like no, we are the same age, shop at the same places, etc.
So kind of passive aggressive shit like this all day. Even in my work performance, I am compared to coworker. And they say to do it like her, but if I do it like her, then they think I am mimicking her? I feel like I am in a constant lose-lose.
We don't even work in a competitive environment, no competitive pay.
My coworker has always been the apple of everyone's eye and it's tough to feel like I'm doing a good job (however my yearly evaluations are always excellent, this is more of a daily thing). And I feel like I have lost my identity in the workplace.
What can I do?
>>17181653
Be yourself and ignore those assholes.
>>17181653
Seriously, just ignore them.
Or start doing some cool off-beat stuff. Get a lizard or something. Take up a weird hobby.
Just do or be something that is so obviously out of character that this other bitch can't possibly do or be that same thing.
Or quit your job if it bothers you that much.
>>17181671
It just feels like on the long term, this is not particularly good for me. I am going to school to have the position my boss does. And in the field I am in, the longer I build seniority in one place, the more impressive my resume is. But if I stay in a place where my coworker will always biasedly be "picked first" over me, that's not good either...
Changing work places is an option, but my job is hard to get into. It's about who you know, and having the most solid background possible, a constantly switching person with my job title raises flags.. And I will lose my built up pay if I switch too. It's practically like starting over if I quit this job. I feel rather stuck here.
Whenever I attempt to start a new hobby and mention it, my similar coworker will say "Oh yea, I did that too... like in high school though." or even "OH I've been into that for years!" I feel so hopeless.
