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Tomorrow is my first day of work after being a neet for 5 years. I'm still a social retard but I cant get any more autismbux so I have to work now.
I'm gonna get 12 hour shifts all around the clock, day, night, noon, evening.
What can I expect? Any advice?
I dont wanna :(
I didnt even start yet and I already feel like my life is over.
But my life was already over cause I didnt archieve anything for the past years.
I dont know how to feel
>>17181510
12 hour shift? Holy fuck
I'd rather die than make anything over 8 hours o 10 hours with a 2 hour break in the middle, literally die.
Hi all,
I've come here because I don't know where else to turn about this.
My father is on a knife edge 24/7. Me and my mother have to tip toe around him. If you don't act the "right" way, he lashes out emotionally, for example storming out, slamming doors, and then being in a mood. This will continue until an apology is given.
Its quite disturbing when you are in the right, and have been hard done to, but are expected to be the one to "make up" and apologize.
I could provide examples if anyone is interested.
Has...
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>please use the search function to see if there are any threads on the same topic before posting
>>17179890
>>17181254
Alright, allow me to be more specific.
My brother had a breakdown and had to move back in with my parents, where I live also. He is an ex-gambler and puts a strain on my dads already short fuse. My dad tends to get angry at things he doesn't understand, and if he feels inadequate, he will lash out. He is the kind of person who also needs to vent throughout the day about things people have said or done to annoy him, as most things seem to anger him. He is a book snob but incredibly inpractical and is very...
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>>17181281
(cont) to his problems, I just didn't want to specifically listen to problems about my brother. I gave him the advice to be straight with my brother and say all this stuff to him in a calm manner rather than penting it up inside. All this time my mother is distraught. She always wants me to be the mediator, she agrees with everything I say about him, but she says "he's the one with the problem" and "I just want everybody to get along" (this means it's me that always has to do the...
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I feel like a social pariah at all times. I used to just be slightly depressed, but now I'm actually convinced that there is something seriously wrong with my brain. Also no gf, since I can't bring myself to strike up a conversation without feeling like a creep.
I have a job and hobbies that keep me busy, but it doesn't change that I'm barley faking being well adjusted in public.
I need advice on how to fix my brain.
>>17180737
same boat as OP
>>17181609
Me too.
>>17180737
It's something in the air.
So there's this new girl at work, and she's very pretty and just generally my kind of girl. She seems to be into me, too. There's just one problem: she's 16 years old. What do I do?
Don't do anything. If you ever have sex and she regrets it she will fuck you over.
>>17180519
How old are you?
what style of girls are you attracted to ("jersey shore", preppy, alternative, hipster, goth, etc.), and describe yourself as a person?
>>17179804
I like females who are kind, classy and caring, me being attracted to them physically, emotionally. I keep my mind open in terms of 'style'.
>>17179821
there isn't a type of fashion that you prefer more over than the others?
and what are you like?
attracted to hot women. I'm not hot.
Why do girls always walk with their arms crossed? Girls, are you really perpetually on guard?
>>17179032
yes.
>>17179032
I sometimes walk with my arms crossed because I'm not wearing a bra and don't want them to bounce too much.
I'd imagine it's more because they're perpetually cold (which if you ask any girl, they usually are)...
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How do I become a ladies man
>>17178987
Why are girls so flaky
Don't even pretend that guys flake as much
>>17178993
>How do I become a ladies man
Step 1. Gain confidence
Step 2 Apply confidence
Step 3 ???
Step 4 Profit
For real though, the more foolproof method is to work on yourself til you have something worth being proud about, and the women (and people in general) will follow.
>>17178996
>Why are girls so flaky
>Don't even pretend that guys flake as much
1.)...
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I was complaining to my FWB that no guy has ever liked me in a romantic way and he's like "I like you" and "yeah we're not in love but it's not just shagging"
I replied by saying that was interesting.
I'm not attracted to him physically or mentally I just close my eyes and pretend he's someone else
Advice?
>>17182623
Why not just find a guy you like?
>>17182631
They don't want me
>>17182633
What are you looking for
Like what are your standards and say a thing or two about yourself
You never know what you find out
I want to get back with my ex.
But that's always a bad idea, right?
>>17182608
9 out of 10 times it is a bad idea.
>>17182608
bad idea yo
>>17182608
Depends why she left.
I'll be going to college this year (I'm 18), so I don't know whether this stuff will be too overwhelming. I'm going to a basic state college if it means anything.
>Intended Major
Biochemistry
>Classes
Biology 2, Chemistry, Calculus 1, English 2, and maybe Intro Mandarin Chinese
I can drop English 2 since I don't need to take it my first semester
>>17182575
For the first semester you should start with three classes, I almost screwed myself by taking on five.
>>17182587
Yeah, that's what I did. Took Calculus, Chemistry, and a writing class.
Do both Biology and Chemistry have labs? If so, you should drop another course. Two labs is doable, but not when you have five classes.
Okay so I'm 23 and was de-virgined at the end of last year. It's all going pretty well aside from the fact that I'm full-on terrified to go down on him. He's very understanding and hasn't been pressuring me about it at all, but I'm crazy about him and want to do this for him, and do it well.
What the fuck do I do? How do I keep my goddamn teeth out of the way, my mouth is small and my teeth are big. His dick is pretty big too, about 7.5 inches and pretty generous girth. I'm just terrified of going full cheese grater on his Johnson.
TLDR:...
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Practice with a banana or some shit.
>>17182442
Practice on a banana.
Step one: recognize he should never pressure you. That isn't normal.
Tell him to back the fuck off because pressuring you won't make you want to do the thing. Pressure doesn't quell fear or anxiety
I do not believe in psychics.
My father told me a while ago before he use to have his PTSD from the Gulf war that he was able to make predictions of things accurately.
I have been able to do this for a while I just thought it was just picking out patterns. Whenever something important will happen to me or those around me I will have a dream about it the day before. When my cousins baby was born the day before I had a dream that she was going to have the same medical conditions as me ( my cousin and I are not blood related at all and we live in different places)...
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>>17182400
It's more likely you were just lucky/were willing to assign "I had this weird feeling" to any event that fits and then just backed it up in your head to the point you've convinced yourself you're clairvoyant
But by all means: go produce some hard data proving your claims and change the world forever and mock nationally the nitwit who replied to your bait on a Cantonese Dressing-room discussion sit.
>>17182424
I have no need to be a "psychic" as stated I do not believe in that.
I thought I ask because I am curious as to why my brain does this. I think it may be because I am overly sensitive to people emotions and when I dream I play out everything in my mind then remember what I thought made most sense. I think my father was an active dreamer or something and it was just passed down to me. I do not know because I have no background in this matter I did not take any courses on psychology or anything to do with dreams.
I used to be able to do it quite often untiI began taking medication. I still can feel others emotions as if they are my own. You are an empath. I would dream about the next day and the exact thing would happen even down to the words people spoke. I always know when someone has died the night before it happens. Who knows but don't think too hard about it. Honestly I've never been able to find a good scientific explaination for it if that's what you are looking for! On the other hand you could try to sharpen your skills. Good luck.
I started 2 years ago at age 20 my self improvement journey. I got pretty much everything
>/fit/ like an athlete
>excellent hygiene
>nice haircut
>got a car
>I am /fa/
>few cool hobbies
>cool career
>starting to have a social life
>ditched vidya and low value friends
>more...
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>>17182384
>How to approach them?
try killing yourself
You could start by not being a guy who's not pretentious and an asshole, and then start doing things that other people actually do so you can relate to them.
>>17182384
Are you happy?
I don't understand what this girl is saying, specifically the line "...when you don't allow them to substitute enforcing bigotry for actual insight..."
>>17182319
She's saying that the artist is unable to make a cartoon that is inoffensive, noting that he isnt creative enough to. I think it's bullshit tobh, but whatever it's tumblr.
>>17182341
that line really confuses me for some reason. Maybe it was intended to?
>>17182319
>when you don't allow them to substitute [enforcing bigotry] for [actual insight]
>when you don't allow them to substitute [cliche jokes which enforce bigotry] for [insightful and nonoffensive jokes]
hope this helps
Is it possible to win back an old girlfriend you broke up with 8 years ago, and is now in a serious relationship? She contacted me to meet up 2 years ago but changed her mind then met her new boyfriend. Pic not related.
pffffahahahahahaha
no
>>17182281
Honesty just let go
>>17182281
Have you been pining after her for all 8 years? If so, you've got other problems you need to address. If not, it's always possible for people to reconnect, but it doesn't make sense if she's already in a serious relationship. Work on your own life and maybe you'll reconnect again at some other time when you are in the same place, romantically.
