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I'm from Canada and I'm currently studying German. I love German culture and I am doing this as a hobby. How to improve my German without uprooting myself and moving to Germany?
theres no future in germany im afraid, id change to something like russian or hungarian
>>17196023
Listen,
study (grammar and vocabulary with flashcards),
translate (from english to german and vice versa)
and read A LOT (at a comprehension level just above your current one, but feel free to read through much more difficult texts too so you can get a general feel for the language. see pic).
start praying 5 times a day facing mecca
Get fit, work out, eat right. Go to social introvert group. Get rejected. Why? Life?
>>17196014
I'm sorry to hear that, but we are not in the heads of the people who rejected you, so we cannot tell you why. What did they tell you?
It's good that you are taking better care of your body. But might it be that the problem isn't your looks, but something else?
>>17196022
'youre a really great guy, but...'
>>17196091
But what, fuckface? stop yanking us around, you're not important enough for us to wait on your ass
(I posted this in /b/ but it didn't get much attention)
I'm assembling/thinking about assembling a badass backpack and I need your suggestions for useful stuff
For context I'm doing some urban exploration and bokken sparring w/ some buddies for exercise. And also general day stuff
I don't want to have everything for every time I go out, just need some ideas for some stuff on the side that I can have ready to go.
But no prepper survival things pretty pls
So far I have:
-A small first aid kit
-A small bluetooth boombox, no more than $40
-Soju (or a few of those little $5 plastic vodka bottles you can buy)
-Some extra cash in a secret pocket
-A pocket version of stimulating reading material (I'm thinking Hagakure or Marcus Aurelius' Meditations)
-A waterproof notebook and a two pens
-A small knife/Leatherman/Swiss army knife
-Chewing gum in a little plastic box that fits in your pocket
-Deodorant
-A couple of loyalty cards for some cafes etc. nearby
-A waterproof flashlight
-A small amount of weed
-A few glowsticks
-Permanent marker
-Coffee-tasting chewy things
-A lockpicking kit
-A pair of headphones with wires threaded through shoelaces
And /b/ added:
- a powerbank compartment at the bottom of the bag with a hole for the usb chord (like those holes made for earphones)
-a flashlight on the strap to light up the way ahead of you at night
-a solar charger
Anything else? Welcome to unique suggestions
Ah yes, the "one year in jail when a cop searched because I was trespassing" backpack.
>>17195970
Two jars of peanut butter
Fish oil. High calorie, and Omega-3s are one of the only nutrients you can't synthesize internally.
Vitamins
Potassium iodide pills
Water purification solution
Physical water filter straw/cup
Sunscreen
Tarp/Poncho
Lightweight (under 5lb) tent
First aid kit
Epinepherine pin
Instant coffee
10,000 dollars cash
10 pairs of socks
One change of clothing
Twenty feet of nylon cord
A water bottle?
A lighter and some kind of cord.
A blanket.
Sanitizer and one way gloves in the medical kit. Also add antihystamines and pain killers. And steri-strips! Those are crucial.
There's more, i'm sure.
So I've been dating a girl for about a year now and I love her and want to marry her, however there is one thing giving me pause. She's cute - really cute, but tells me time and time again that women in her family don't age well. Also her parents aren't terribly attractive and her brother is an absolute troll - hideous looking guy. I'm fairly attractive and the rest of my family is as well. Is it shallow of me to consider not pursuing a life with her because I'm worried our kids would be ugly? I don't care about her getting ugly as she gets old, as long as she doesn't get fat. I feel really bad, but also can't help recognizing that this is a worry I have. I don't want ugly kids.
>>17195906
So adopt
>>17195910
that is not a good alternative
>>17195906
I've seen attractive parents have ugly kids. But typically the kids look like the parents, of course. So if you're both attractive you're kids are probably gonna look fine. Having a kid is genetic gambling, there's no absolute guarantee of the outcome.
>make plans with someone
>they always cancel a few hours before the scheduled event
why does this always happen to me?
what is wrong with me?
I'd rather them just not agree to it so I don't have to move my schedule around.
>>17195897
your age?
who are those people?
plans for what?
what do you think is wrong with you that's throwing people off?
>>17195945
21
75% of the time their people I'm trying to get a date with, other 25% are friends trying to hang out
A date
I honestly don't know. I really think there is nothing wrong but this sort of thing keeps happening so maybe there's something I'm not seeing.
>>17195967
How do you meet girls? Online? Uni?
Usually when they flake it's because they have a low level of attraction.
How much time do you spend getting to know the girl before you ask her out?
I can't keep my cool when it comes to women.
The issue is, a woman taking interest in me isn't something that happens often, so when it does happen desu it's a pretty big deal to me. I tend to get attached way too quickly and it always ends up fucking with me.
Another big issue that happens is whenever I first start talking to them and I don't hear from them for a while I get insanely paranoid. I start to panic, wondering if for some reason they're suddenly ignoring me, I did something wrong, etc.
Both of these issues together kinda lead to me coming off as super clingy right away. What can I do about this? How can I stop all this bullshit and approach these things like a rational person?
>>17195894
Sounds like you're sick of acting in a (clingy) way that throws girls off.
It seems to me like acting this way is beyond you, like you can't help but be clingy?
Normally I'd advise people in your situation to "just b urself" and get hurt to the point where the clinginess rubs off, so you get that bitter experience where you know acting this way will fuck you over, so you don't do it anymore.
But in your case.. idk.. Ever been in an actual relationship? How old are you?
>>17195955
20, In my life I've only been in 2 significant relationships, I'm currently talking to this girl I met recently and the whole reason behind this post is because I realize I'm getting attached to her insanely fast.
The weird thing is, it isn't a one way street, the same things happening to her too. Maybe something just clicked between us right away, idk.
>>17195992
if you feel like it's not a one way street, then just b urself and act natural
i can't tell you how many times i've had top ace game and failed to score, then other times i've moaned and cried about muh failed relationships and ended up making out and having sex, so in the end i've decided to not give much of a shit cos once things fit into place they just click like you say
no need to stress if u feel like its mutual
>girlfriend study on an engineering school, she's on her 3rd year
>she is friend with a few guys which is normal.
>one of them started to send her a lot of messages, being jealous that she spent time with other guys (and he's not even her boyfriend, I don't get why he was acting like that)
>end of the year come
>the guy fails his last exams
>says it's because of my gf that sometimes wants to be alone and not talk with him or anyone else.
>he piss her off by always complaining about stupid things
>School ask students to work on a project by group of 2
>The guy immediately asks my gf to works with him
>if she refused he would be spaming her with messages, and will be ranting about that every time they met at school
>she accept because she doesn't want him to piss her off
>they work on the project
>one day he asks her if she is avoiding him and if they are still friends
>she already explained him various time that it's not the case that sometimes she just doesn't wants to talk with people and wants to be alone, she have nothing against him and they are still friends.
>instead she laugh, and say with a sarcastic expression "haha, yes you're right..."
>he hits my gf. All that happened Thursday, she still feels the pain on her face.
>he start yelling and saying shit
>says 'sorry'
>my gf laugh and say "what ? you're sorry ?"
>"not you, I'm talking to that guy" (there was another guy in the room)
>he leaves
>he never felt sorry for what he did
what do ?
Some friends tell me that I should give him a lesson (I've been practicing martial arts for a few years now), others tell me I should talk with him (I got no clue about what and they never told me).
I don't want him to get along fine.
>>17195878
Break his nose, anon. Manlets like him go in the trash.
>>17195878
Assault charges, now.
There was an other guy, a witness.
No need to get physical.
>>17195891
There was no blood or anything. i don't think that can go anywhere.
I'm not in the usa where everything seems to go in front of a court
Why Are We Alive?
just to suffer?
we're trying to get a new highscore.
Nobody here can answer this and everyone will give you a different answer. Make of it what you will. There is no normal life just life, live it.
Shave it or leave it?
shave
Shave. You've got a nice chin
>>17195911
Unless you're going to grow something worth a damn, get rid of the face pubes
How do I stop acting crazy in a relationship?
Before reading anything else, know that I'm not like this for no good reason. Every boyfriend I have had has broken my trust, And then i become like this. The current one has lied to me about porn, nudes of exes, talking to his ex.
Whenever I start seriously dating someone, I get so worried about what they're doing when I'm not around.
What if he's flirting with other girls? Watching porn? Doing drugs or drinking to the point of not controlling himself? I think about the endless number of horrible, deceitful things he could lie to me about when I'm not home.
Just thinking of all the things my boyfriend could do when I'm not around makes me anxious. I don't normally bring up how I feel about any of this to him, so it's just building up inside of me.
TL;dr
> Bf betrayed my trust
> Obsessive thoughts about bad things he could lie to me about
> How do I stop these thoughts? They consume my thoughts and make me have nightmares about him cheating on me.
I'm not an expert, but I feel that this a "you" problem.
I feel that you aren't happy/confident with yourself and thus need your boyfriend to be with for most of the time.
Take some time apart. Immediately. If that means break up, so be it. If not for your own sake, than do it for his. You need to get your head together, and until you do, you are incapable of contributing towards a healthy relationship.
See a therapist; make sure they're trained in CBT (cognitive behavioral therapy). It's immensely helpful.
Also,
> lied to me about porn, nudes of exes, talking to his ex.
I would have dumped him a long time ago. He is almost certainly cheating on you or will cheat on you. Your paranoia seems to be founded on reality here; not paranoia at all. It's your brain trying to tell you he's fucking other women.
My girlfriends Dad keeps flirting with me and his affection is making me feel loved.
Ever since we were introduced, he always seemed to give me a lot of attention. However, last night there was a family gathering all I was doing was rolling up the sleeves on my shirt in the dining room and he comes over to talk to me, I presume because I'd isolated myself from the group.
Then as we're talking, he's demonstrating different ways to roll your sleeves on me, touching my arms up and down, getting close to me. I didn't even feel uncomfortable about it, I'm pretty sure if he kissed me I wouldn't care, nobody has ever given me this much attention before, it was really cute.
When we're eating dinner, I can feel him glancing over at me occasionally, and he's being oddly quiet. After the meal, all evening he seemed to want to get my attention, I kept bumping into him in the kitchen when I got up to make a drink.
Then later as we're leaving, he gives us both a hug, but my hug felt so.. loving. He's a big guy, but his grasp on me completely overwhelmed me.
I think something might happen in the future, the question is do I let it? Ive been acting sheepish/ignorant about it, but I'm pretty sure if the opportunity came I would fuck him. Im risking a lot though (relationship, friends, possibly family).
Pretty gay post desu
I have an erection.
What the fuck is that in the picture?
So my roommate's grandmother/aunt apparently have a tendency to ignore expiry dates on meat and things, and have on numerous occasions (allegedly) given my roommate spoiled meat because there was nothing else in the house to eat at the time. I mention this because they came by a few months ago to drop off a care package of food and stuff, mainly soup and crackers, shit like that. However, they also brought with them three large, frozen Ziploc bags willed with ground...something. We did a "Taco Tuesday" thing for a while, and we were tight on cash so we decided to use one of the bags, though upon frying it to drain the fat, it certainly didn't look like anything I'd ever seen. It was sort of grey, and it didn't change color no matter how much heat was applied to it. It did acquire a sort of layer of fried fat on top of it that looked to be an average brown-ish, but that was about it. And it tasted odd, kind of a cross between chicken and beef with something else I couldn't quite place. When my roommate asked her aunt, however, she confirmed "it's definitely beef". Since then we've eaten a total of two of the bags, so about 2 pounds, and it actually tasted pretty good with the taco seasoning. And I even had some that had been in the fridge the night before, none of it made me even remotely sick.
So, adv, am I a cannibal?
I should also mention that her aunt likes to "hunt".
*filled, not willed
>>17195764
Go roleplay elsewhere Hannibal.
>>17195818
...I'm not, I genuinely want to know what the fuck I ate. Because if it was beef, it sure as shit didn't taste or look like it.
Gonna get a blood test done for the first time in my life and i'm really afraid. Have always been healthy, but it seems my thyroid is acting up and i'm having heart problems. So I can't just wiggle out of not doing a blood test.
I don't care about the the needle, since I'm gonna get it done by a family member who has been doing this for over 12 years. For some reason i'm afraid that i'll get a collapsed vein or something.
I kept reading all the horrible stories of people having collapsed veins that hurt alot and they faint.
How do I get over this fear? What are the chance of veins even collapsing in the arm from a blood test and how horrible it is if it even happens?
In regards to the whole thyroid and heart issues, I don't think heart issues would appear on the blood test unless they are doing a cardiac cell lysis test and that's really only for heart attacks, thyroid yes but isn't it good to get it identified.
Collapsed veins, well I've never had one, but I've had blood vessels pop and it's only slightly painful. My father was a heroin addict, and when he got his wisdom teeth out the nurses collapsed quite a few of his already weak veins. He said it sucked but obviously something not worth a story in a old man's book of tales. You'll be good anon.
>>17195762
Well my doctor said I need a blood test to check my thyroid. Not sure what it is exactly, but he said that this will make it easier to get a full diagnosis and a dosage of medicine if needed, rather then going in half blind.
I guess I'll just need to breath and get it over with. I mean even if a vein collapses it just ends up being a bruise, right? I keep getting this weird fear that my heart will stop or something if that happens.
>>17195744
What happens when you're dead?
How to deal with ingrown hair like this? Only reason why it's bleeding on that right side is because I keep picking at it. The two left one over there are annoying and just sticking out like sore thumb, I don't know what to do. It's painful when I pick at it hard.
>>17195738
Are those skin tags? Do you think that skin tags are ingrown hairs?
don't shave.
if you can't let it be, use a straight razor and learn proper shaving technique.
>>17195753
Op here, I don't know what skin tags are. Just looked it up. What do I do?
So, I'm turning 20 next week and I still live at home. Most likely my birthday "party" is going to be my parents taking me out for dinner. I'm unemployed and not in school. I pretty much spend all my time on the Internet.
Until about 6 months ago I was part of a really close-knit group of friends. We saw each other literally every day, and spent long nights smoking weed and joking around.
Very long story made very short, I ended up alienating all of them. The problem is that I'm naturally an extremely antisocial person. People apparently consider me attractive (though I don't), and I know how to keep up a conversation when I want to. But I have serious problems connecting to other people; either I come across as needy and too vulnerable, or callous and just plain mean. To top it off, I don't really feel emotions the same way other people do. Either I feel nothing at all, or far too much over little things. I'd never really had real "friends" before this group. I tend to eventually drive away anyone who gets close to me, and that's exactly what happened this time.
Now that I'm alone again, I've massively reverted to a complete shut-in. I'm incredibly depressed. I've basically wasted an entire year on being a piece of shit stoner that I should've been spending getting in to college, so I'm only now applying to university. But it's so easy for me to slip into my old antisocial loner habits when I'm dropped into a new environment. It's either that, or put on the facade of being a witty, charming person, a facade that always works for a while but slowly slips, leaving the people who get to know me when the facade is up utterly confused as they watch me degenerate into a withdrawn emotional wreck. How can I change? How can I not be this way? Have any of you had similar experiences/circumstances? Am I doomed to repeat this cycle of being briefly happy and "loved", and then friendless and alone, for the rest of my life?
>>17195720
I could be completely wrong, but this sounds very similar to me, and I've been recently diagnosed with Aspergers. Might wanna check out the symptoms.
>>17195726
I've been diagnosed with bipolar disorder, but having looked into it quite a lot, I feel like borderline personality disorder is more on the money. Although it very well might be aspergers. I have no clue.
>>17195726
I was going to say something similar
