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Girl cancelled our "date" this evening. She gave no reason, really, just saying that she couldn't and that she was sorry. I simply just thanked her for letting me know.
Is it worth texting her when morning comes, and letting her know that if it ever does suit her to meet up, to let me know, and otherwise a good luck with everything? She didn't respond to my last message.
She's very clearly the shy/awkward type and I'm betting nerves got the best of her, or she took advice from friends and just didn't do it (we have never met face to face, but she has sent me a lot of nudes). We're in the same college town.
>>16575560
>l'm an incredibIy sociaIIy fucked faggot who can't get girIs in person
Pathetic/10
>>16575560
>I simply just thanked her for letting me know.
You dun goofed son.
Anyway, the ball is in her camp now, she should make it up to you
>>16575565
I know.
>>16575563
I'm a waiter, so I'm not socially fucked. I just work and go to school all day, so it's hard to meet people sometimes.
I'm in college and I'm not a talk active person, I only start a conversation if someone asks me something, but generally I'm really awkward, I don't like the girls in my college cus mostly they are brainwashed to follow the herd and they don't have anything special about them, probably only pretty faces.
But I met this girl 2 years ago that I really liked, she was special in some way, like you can feel that this person has a different personality and has probably gone through some shit in their life unlike the spoiled sluts that I go to class with, being the socially awkward person that I am, I try and read people see what they like, usually this works but it didn't work with her, she didn't tell me much, and was pretty shallow with her conversations.
then the following year I tried being close friends with her but she started feeling uncomfortable talking to me, and that usually means 2 things either that person hates you or doesn't find you interesting, or that this person has a crush on you, I tried helping her with her studies and stuff, but whenever I tried opening a normal conversation with her she would try to end it quickly.
So I finally took my chances and confessed to her, I didn't do it face to face because I lack the balls, so I sent her message and she responded with "I don't want to hurt you, but I can always be your friend" I apologised and couldn't stop thinking about it for a whole year, because I don't even know what's inside this girls mind or why she acted all awkwardly in the first place.
a year later we still talk and I usually throw a joke at her from time to time, but I can't help but wonder is she shy?? Was she the type that want you to show a sign of commitment like proposing to her parents or something, or does she really dislike me? What do you think???
>>16575474
She probably doesn't like you because she realized you casually refer to other people as "spoiled sluts" and you think you're better than everyone else.
Anyway, it's pretty obvious she wasn't into you.
>>16575484
But she did talk to me sometimes, and sometimes when I talk to other girls she likes to be close to me and be the one that is most talkactive
>>16575474
I didn't read all your shit, because you don't know how to paragraph, but...
>I don't like the girls in my college cus mostly they are brainwashed to follow the herd and they don't have anything special about them, probably only pretty faces.
Listen to yourself, nigga. In any case in which a guy has said this, the truth has been that he hates himself. Girls are great, dude. You aren't. It's not the other way around, homie. Stop lying to yourself. You would love yourself a little more (and the girls would love you a little more too) if you had the courage to face the truth.
Hi, I punched a collogue during a Christmas party and have been subsequently dismissed for gross misconduct. Up until this incident I have been a model employee, and had no animosity towards the victim - I don't even remember doing it!
Any advise on how to approach this in future job interviews?
I have seen a lot of posts saying people should tell the truth in interview if they have done something to be dismissed, although who would employ someone who has been dismissed for violence?
Should I lie?
>>16575386
Ideally you feel bad about what you did and are showing remorse for your actions by not drinking or not attending parties, etc.
From what you've written, it looks like you're trying to avoid accountability, especially in this line (I have been a model employee, and had no animosity towards the victim - I don't even remember doing it!).
That is the wrong attitude to have toward the incident, dude.
I feel awful about it, I take full responsibility. This is a fact though, this is my only instance of misconduct.
Also, I agree and I have not wanted to drink since due this.
But the question is, how do I approach the incident in interviews?
>>16575401
I feel awful about it, I take full responsibility. This is a fact though, this is my only instance of misconduct.
Also, I agree and I have not wanted to drink since due to this.
But the question is, how do I approach the incident in interviews?
Hey guys i hope you dont mind i wana post my life story. Im trying to wrap my head around this mindfuck i call my life. Feel free to leave criticism, advice, gtfo faggits, whatever. Sorry i would just journal this but im poorfag and dont own a pen or paper. Here goes;
Cureently im 25 male.
My childhood wasnt exceptionally horrible. But it was no walk in the park. My father for the first 18 or 19 years of my life was a bad alcoholic who would beat my mom my sister and me. Not that often. But enough to leave an impact. My mom was worse with the physical abuse up until i was maybe 12 or 13. Then she finally quit hwr bullshit. But not her mind games but thats another story. I was left alone the majority of my childhood. I spent alot of time in the woods by my house. Just sitting by the creek thinking, collecting rocks or something, painting pictures on trees, riding bikes with a few friends. Some of my fondest memories are in those woods. A childhood most kids nowdays dont experience. Sad really. Ive always struggled with mt sexuality but in middle school i got my first bf. This was before all this anti bullying stuff. So i was constantly getting fucked with. By kids at school or my family. I wasnt no pussy either. I was constantly getting into fistfights. At school or with my family. After shit didnt work out with that bf. I met this girl who would stay in my life for a LONG time. I started experimenting with weed and alcohol and dxm and drugs in general in middle school at maybe 11 or 12 years old. I was maybe onw of the only kids in school that did lol. Alot of middle school is a blur to me. I think because i had to put up with alot of abuse from my family, kids at school, even teachers, my mind is protecting me from itself. I had my first near death experience in middle school. I overdosed on fkn robitussin (horrible drug) twice actually once in middle school and once in highschool. Anyway by the time hs started me and this girl were already broken up. I wen
Op here sry still typing might take awhile to finisg
Go on....
I went out with a couple of really great girls in highschool. Even a boy or two. Real unicorns. I was so naive and dumb and rage filled i had no idea what i had. Some of these girls are still married with the person they got with right after me...it hurts when that situation happens like 3 or 4 times. I was still getting bullied in highschool. Still fighting kids. Still fighting my dad. U know its funny these guys wanted to fuck with me for liking guys but i was banging more girls than they were. Other than that hs was ok. I had alot of friends. A few very close friends. I was always either skateboarding or playing music. I had a shitty jam band at the time. I started selling weed. Fast forward toward the end of hs. I passed all classes except math and maybe something else idk. I was a senior taking freshman classes. U know ppl dont rly fuck with you when youre a senior. Plus i had a reputation of being this kinda crazy druggie skater bad ass. So i would always see ppl fucking with these kids in my freshman classes even teachers. I would get so mad and put them in check even the teacher. I felt like such a boss. Eventually i got back with the girl i go on and off with. And we stay together for a good min. Idk why i guess from stress at home i just stopped caring about everything. Started doing more coke. Drinking everyday. The bs at home was in full swing. The yelling. The violence. Kicking me out. Sleeping outside. I fell so far behind in school i started looking for other options. I enrolled in a dual credit program where i took college classes along with hs clases. I milked the fuck out of this. I got to finish hs earlier than everyone in my grade AND i got my basics completed and a scholarship for 2 years in college. I got my basics done which is still more than most ppl have that are my age. My gf moved into my parents house. I was still selling weed. Still fighting my dad. I started selling morphine and adds at college to my college buddies. I had a
Hi guise. Been a while since I've been here but I've encountered a pretty (common) concerning issue with my significant other. We've got a good relationship, we trust each other, we're happy. We've got a decent house and decent jobs and a 5 year old kid. We're both 26 and from similar backgrounds. Been together for 6 years known each other for 8.
Last night, I was in our living room watching tv when he went in to the kitchen. I asked if he was alright and he relied yeah, he was quiet though so I peeked around the door frame and my phone clatters on the side as he drops it from his hands. I didn't any anything and he made some stupid attempt to excuse it by saying he's got chicken sauce on it. After a few minutes I picked it up and double pressed my home button and voila. My text messages were the last open app. The text message app I don't use unless my mother is feeling lucky enough to text, which hasn't happened in like a week or two. What's he doing? What's he thinking! I've gotten the hint that he might propose over Christmas which was always what I wanted.. But now? I'm wondering if he was trying to catch me out and doesn't trust me or am I jumping he gun? He could have been looking for something to surprise me. It's clearly bothering me and I'd like to confront him, but I don't want to be a dick if he says he was doing something nice. I've never given him any reason not to trust me but I'm beginning to feel like I don't trust him now.
Any /adv/ would be great appreciated. I'm on side iPhone so sorry if delayed responses.
>>16575247
He was reading through your texts, because he was worried you are cheating on him.
Is it such a big deal? Do you really blame him?
It's not like he cheated on you or something.
What you do about it is up to you. If you call him out or act upset he will just get more worried, 'Bitch must be hiding something or she wouldn't care so much I just gotta find it'
>>16575249
Do I really blame him? Yes. I've never cheated in my life and I would never - he should know that and if he doesn't the right thing and the grown up thing to do would have been to have asked me and talked about his concerns.
Is it just me, or is he invading my privacy and acting like a child?
>>16575247
He probably had a brief moment of insecurity that created a lapse of judgment. He was being retarded and he knows him.
Write this one off and if it happens again definitely talk to him about it.
if you graduate from community college, no one cares about your high school grades right?
I have a plan
>be me
>be 2 weeks before start of 10th grade
>decide to sign up for a class per season at local community college
>stop trying in high school so i can do well in community college class
>Decide to take one 4 credit class per season
>get A's or B's in all of them
> teachers at high school complain about my shitty work. fuck them
>comes time to graduate high school
>graduate high school with 70 average
>people laugh when i tell them i'm planning to go to real college, not fake college
>no one knows that I've already accumulated 32 credits at local community college and i have a 3.7 GPA there
>apply to ivy league and get in
Will this work? Have I figured out how to cheat the system?
>>16575100
you didn't cheat anything, you just started the race early
Depending on where you live, CCs may require a high school diploma
>>16575106
way easier than taking AP classes tho, amirite
Why is it that any time you meet girls who are warm, talkative, nice, friendly, and alluring -- they're always in a relationship (usually very committed ones)? But when you finally meet a single lady, they tend to be a little cold, distant, quiet, bewildering, occasionally a little hostile, sometimes coming off trifling dense and timid, and just very difficult to talk to?
After several years of denial, and starting the previous winter, I've been appearing to grow more concerned over whether something's off about me that I'm utterly and terrifyingly unaware of, and they're picking up on it and responding with mild, yet unconscious, contempt and disinterest.
>>16574904
The good ones get taken quickly
Because that's the reason a is in a relationship wilst b isn't?
Single ones have been stung and know the inner creep of man. Relationship ones are happy with their mate or oblivious to the incoming pain.
should I tell him I like it when he calls me a slut?
>>16574892
You are actually a male right.
>>16574896
I'm not OP, but I'm a male and I like when girls call me a slut. Whore, boy, cute, I have weird taste.
>>16574921
You should me the dominant one.
My dog died a few months ago. I did all I could for him, but I was still devastated. He was a lazybones and a bit of a dummy, but more trusting & loyal than any other dog I've ever had or even met.
I thought I was coping OK, but I just returned home for the holidays (left town after he died for school-related reasons ... and I just had to get out of there) and all the grief came rushing back. I'm lying in my childhood room and every time I shift position I expect to see his head pop up and look at me. I guess I just kind of pushed the grief aside rather than dealing with it.
I really need to talk to someone about it, but I feel really embarrassed and guilty being this broken up over the death of an animal when I haven't cried over a person's death since I was a child. It's not that I don't care; it's just with people, I don't feel it immediately for some reason. It hits me piece by piece over the course of months. With animals it's right there, right away. I know the people in my life will understand but I still just feel guilty sobbing this pitifully over the death of an animal, especially when I'm not really friends with any other dog people, and I think you'd have to be one to empathize with this level of a bond with a pet. I at least want to hug a stuffed animal, but I even feel guilty hugging one of them instead of my dog, even though he's dead.
I guess I'm just confused. I flatter myself to think I usually deal with death pretty philosophically, but this time the hurt isn't diminishing.
Pic sort of related; not him, but looks like him, except less lazy.
I hope you cope with it soon, but I feel sorry for people who have a harder time coping with an animal`s death than a human`s. I think that it might say one or two things about such people...
>>16574923
As I said, when people die, I don't feel it for a long time. I don't know why I'm this way. Frankly I wish I wasn't, but I can't help it. I can assure you I love the people in my life very, very much, and I think it's quite low of you to snidely insinuate things about me when my post is literally about how I feel guilty over this exact thing.
>>16574927
I don't feel this post is inappropriate here. It's not advice about an animal, it's "I am uncomfortable with my grieving process, w.r.t. both people and animals."
Thank you both for your replies nonetheless.
I made out with a guy yesterday and I have, what seems like, a cold sore that is starting on my lip. Can this be herpes?
He had no cold sores or anything like that. I've never had a cold sore.
Bump for sex disease advice
yep you've got herpes, if you ever make contact with your mouth to any part of anyone else's body ever again you run the risk of spreading it to them
sorry
>>16574879
Yes, cold sores are herpes. You can get them through skin to skin contact (like kissing), even when the person isn't showing symptoms. It's not that big a deal.
So I found a phone and decided to keep it for myself (I'm a dick, I know).
I both hard- and soft-reset the device and removed the SIM-card.
But i read that the previous owner can hand over the IMEI-number to the police who can then effectively brick the phone.
I'm fine with that. HOWEVER, I'm not fine with the idea of the police getting my real phone number and ID.
So, my question is: can the police see my phone number using IMEI alone?
How about:
1) Fuck you
2) Seriously, fuck you
>>16574534
>can the police see my phone number using IMEI alone?
yes
>>16574542
Geez, he didn't steal it. I found $10 in Wallmart, do you hate me too?
My country sucks.
I just wish there was not so much corruption.
> People are very futile and influenced by the media
> Country without technological advancement, delayed education
> Rude people, who dirty the streets and have little notion of civility
> Politicians seem impressively only have one goal: to fuck you
> Absurdly It's unbelievable how the government sucks money from the population and it is not translated into improvements, and the people only know swear on the internet, nothing changes.
> Shitty music (not that I care too much about it, but nothing good is produced here)
> Idols shit (no major military or major political)
> Inverted values
> Value the bad
> A country where if you are not "trickster" and not knowing take advantage of everything, you are "stupid"
> Many drug traffickers.
> Just wanted to grow up in a different environment
> I am poor, although I have many ambitions in life. I just do not want to accept this vicious cycle of a sick society ...
Just wanted to maybe get out of here, or achieve success, take advantage of capitalism, and be successful financially and in all areas of a nice life ..
> What the Europeans and Americans is that almost all are different from Latin and African? Why their countries are so civilized? What is the secret of progress?
> Why they are polite and do not like to interfere in others' lives, unlike these backward societies with late minds?
> How would you live in a country of this? What do you think of corrupt nations and with a rude and foolish people?
> How to get out of this vicious cycle of mediocrity?
note: do not live in Africa, and I'm not nigga
I thank those who respond. Thank you anon's. I am grateful to 4chan for many things !! That's it!
>>16574370
Europe/the West plundered the gold and natural resources of Latin and North America for hundreds of years. Therefore, they became extremely wealthy. Therefore, they had the Industrial Revolution (technological improvement and economic growth) before everyone else did. And they figured out how to manage this tech improvement and economy before everyone else did. So that's why they're "civilized". Also "civilized" Britain/France/Spain fucked up and murdered/tortured millions of people in Latin America and Africa, so . . . those societies lost their wealth and resources/were massacred and fucked up = of course they're having trouble now. It takes a long time to undo the shit things the assholes in England/France/Spain perpetuated in Latin America and Africa.
>>16574384
So how to understand the development of the United States?
Yes, these countries were screwed. But today there is no breakthrough in people's minds, basically. I understand that these countries could try to create a new story, at least evolve as a society. Exploitation and failure is no excuse for a sick society, see Japan after so many disasters and wars ..
>>16574370
Tell me the country, just curious
I am 21 and I just moved into a new house in tennessee and I'm from Chicago. I am so scared its unreal I'm in my bed right now in the dark and alone I'm this strange place. Guys how can I become more comfortable here?
Just go out tomorrow, hit the local shop and places you'll be going regularly, get lunch at a cafe or a diner or something. Check out your new neighborhood, be nice to people. You're gonna be fine, there are gonna be little differences but deep down people are pretty much the same everywhere
Go to the Stax museum and check out Isaac Hayes' car. Also walk through life like you own it.
What part of TN are you in. And I guarantee that any part of TN besides Memphis is better than Chicago in every way.
i fell so fucking pathetic all the time because i don't have any friends or a gf.
what can i do to feel like i'm not worthless?
>get a job
i'm already in the university
>exercise
i exercise 3 time a week, that's more than enough
>i'm already in the university
Is this supposed to be an excuse as to why you can't work or something?
>wanting a gf for the sake of having one instead of falling in love with someone an wanting to be in a relationship
you're a jerk that's what. no cure for that
Join a club you like faggot. A sport works too. And:
>3 times a week, that's more than enough
That depends on how long each session is. If it's an hour or so. You could probably do with four sessions a week. You a guy op?
What anime should I watch next /adv/?
Watch this season's new animes, e.g OPM, Osomatsu-san, JK Meshi (lol)
If you're looking for an on-going series to follow, Iron-Blooded Orphans
If you want to marathon a completed show, Bakemonogatari.
>>16574223
>filename
HAHA doesn't matter. Still would give him the dick.
