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Hey /adv/, I have a problem.
Look at pic related. See the packets at the bottom-left? Those are butter packets. See the little plastic covering on the packets? I may have accidentally swallowed one.
I would put them on the side of the styrofoam plate, and it was only after I was halfway done eating that I noticed one of them was sticking to the hotcakes, and the other was just gone. I have not been able to find the other one, so I'm starting to think I may have swallowed it while eating.
Should I go see a doctor? Is this going to kill me?
RIP. Better start writing your will.
How does someone accidentally swallow one of those? Do you just inhale your food, barely bothering to chew?
You'll just shit it out. I occasionally forget to take the little sticker off of apples and other fruit I eat and end up seeing it in the toilet. I believe I may be retarded.
I don't love my husband, he loves me a great deal. We never really fight and we get along great. We don't have sex much and I honestly don't feel romantically about him at all. I can't imagine not having him as a big part of my life, but I also feel really "held back" in terms of emotional expression and trying new things. He supports my hobbies since he doesn't really have any, but it's still pretty isolating to have the person you are married to make you feel foolish rather than your PIC most of the time. He doesn't do it on purpose, he is just a very boring homebody and I am not. So we don't relate well sometimes, and mutual respect and support isn't the same as sharing something.
We've talked about this over the years and never really come to a solution. I've thought about just asking for a divorce, but I also really don't want the hassle since I don't have a reason. He'd say ok. But family, friends, etc? What a pain in the ass. I also hate the idea of dating again, honestly.
No idea what to do.
>>17191997
>I don't have a reason.
>I don't love my husband
>We don't have sex much
>I honestly don't feel romantically about him at all
lol
you seem to like having a roommate, i don't see what the problem is.
Sounds like he's introverted and you're an extrovert. This situation can usually be worked out by making a compromise. Sometimes do what you would like, sometimes do what he likes. If mutual respect is there, you can make it work. However people usually don't change in their preferences. How come you got together with a guy like this so different from you?
The problem with dating is that it's unpredictable. You have no way of knowing if you find a guy who you for with better especially if you are not 18-25.
My problem is he doesn't like to do anything other than play games. He collects some things too. This is part of what we enjoyed together at first, but I have other hobbies. My solo hobbies are obviously not something I expect him to care about, and he will do things I want company on, like just the two of us paddling trips or travel. But it's pretty clear he's just there for me, and doesn't really appreciate it even if he overall enjoys it. It's clear he would rather be inside our small apartment following walkthroughs and skipping cutscenes.
I'd actually say we are both pretty introverted...he actually calls himself a shy extrovert. I spend most of my time inside and don't do group activities. He is my only friend. He just doesn't do shit. Not lazy, he just has no real interest in anything and doesn't care to discuss things that are topics many people have I speak with, men and women, seem to have some opinion or personal story about. He just doesn't give a fuck about anything. He has opinions, but he doesn't discuss them or get passionate about them. He is happy to listen to me ramble about anything, but it feels terribly one sided. He is very open so...I no longer feel it is an issue of trying to open him up. I did, and there is nothing inside.
However, this means his interests never conflict with mine, he never fights me, and he is zero drama in a way I really like compared to just about anybody else I've met.
So strawberries started to grow in my parents' garden. But we realized some of them keep dissapearing. We suspect it might be the neighbour little cunt bitch that's also always tresspasing on our property(mainly because we never tell her it's wrong to be there and her paretns don't seem to give a shit).
How do we keep away whoever is doing it?
>>17191996
Get a big dog that barks alot and is scary. I'd advice a German shepherd. They're protective of there masters and territory. I had a problem with neighbours swinging on my fence. Not anymore.
plot a little sign in front of the strawberries saying please stop taking them *insert neighbour's name*
>>17192005
It's sort of a small plot of land and we live in a urban place without fences so a dog would have to be on a leash but it's just too much work
So I have dust(mite) allergy and it caused my skin on my face to break out with rashes. I finally realized that my apartment is way more dusty than others cause I wet cleaned my floors yesterday and today it's already dusty as shit again.
Now I live at a really busy street with cars and trams passing by: does that cause so much dust to settle in my room?
This shit is eating up my self-confidence: any help is appreciated
>Now I live at a really busy street with cars and trams passing by: does that cause so much dust to settle in my room?
Correct
Buy an air purifier
>>17191978
so if I keep the windows closed it'll gradually reduce the amount of dust in my air?
Also what about nights when cars don't pass by so often?
>>17191981
Not worth it since I'm leaving soon
got drunk and high last night and had a sudden slew of unbelievably negative introspection. it felt like a sudden, hyperactive rush of negativity and self-loathing, like what Brian Wilson hears in his head or something. What is this?
It's called depression. Get ready because it's going to consume you just like it consumes the rest of us.
>>17191953
with that attitude, yeah.
It was scary. I was even wondering if I was autistic and no one wanted to admit it to me at one point. Psychotic break?
My self esteem is literally too low to have sex. Wtf do I do?
therapy mate
>>17191927
male or female? either way what are we workingh with? what do you hate about yourself?
>>17191927
How? Have you tried but couldn't get it up?
How do i get the hairstyle that she has and what is it called?
I have about the same lenght of hair that she does
I´m asking for advice because /adv/ actually helped me last time I was in need.
Long story short, I fucked up. I had a stable relationship with my girlfriend, and after my best friend told me she had feelings for me, I broke up my relationship, because, as I told her when I ended things, it wouldn´t be fair to her to be with someone who as not 100% committed to her. Then I came down and realized, without a doubt, that she is the only thing I want.
So after 3 weeks of trying to talk to her, we talked and I told her that I was sorry for not telling her earlier that my bestfriend had told me she had feelings for me, and I told her I missed her. Of course we could not start dating again, but this was a good opportunity to get to know each other as friends (we started dating almost immediately after meeting). In the end I told her that I still had feelings for her, and I would wait for her because now I know what I wanted.
Here is where I need your advice or some perspective: We have hung out some times, and I believe she still enjoys my company, but I don´t know how to get us to a dating dynamic again. If I don´t talk to her, she doesn´t talk to me, if I don´t make plans, she doesn´t make plans.
Can you weight in on this? I can give more details if necessary
keeping this thread alive
>>17191914
girls like when a guy makes them feel special, like they're the only girl they wanna date, your breaking it off the moment another opportunity came along completely destroyed that chemistry and now she feels like she's plan B and that it just didn't work out between you and the new girl so now you're crawling back to her because you're lonely.
it's gonna take time, but keep pushing to hangout, even if you have to text her first every damn time and have to setup and pay for everyone hangout. you messed up severely and it's going to take time to repair that.
>>17191943
I know that is the impression I give, but I really want her back because I think she is special. Since we broke up there have been other girls that came on to me and I had no interest in them, because they weren´t her
So, this is something I have been mulling over for quite some time. When I was a child, around 12-13 years old, I was informally diagnosed with Dyspraxia. (By informal I mean a professional diagnosed me through meetings at school, but there was no follow up or medical certificates to prove it beyond this.)
Having done some research now that I am older, and briefly reaching out to others with Dyspraxia, I am certain the diagnosis is correct. I fit essentially every hallmark of the disability, going all the way back to being an infant.
So I have a few things that have been bothering me a lot. First off, should I go and get rediagnosed now by a professional and get my certificate? I am not sure that I need it, but I feel like it would bring me a little peace of mind. Theres a slight problem though, I no longer live in my home country, so I would have no way to prove I was previously diagnosed, and getting diagnosed from scratch as an adult is much more difficult (as you learn how to unconsciously hide the symtoms as you age, even at 12 I was masking most of them so the diagnoses was slow.)
I am also unsure if my insurance covers elective tests like this, so it may be an expense I can't deal with for a while.
Next, I worry about having children. This is more of a moral struggle for me, so it might not be possible to answer. But Dyspraxia is hereditary in most cases, with it being passed down roughly 4x as often in males. After struggling through years of this disability (for a long time not realising I was different from everyone else), I find myself torn - I would love to have kids that are biologically mine (with my current girlfriend when we get married) but knowing what I went through, and knowing the high chance of passing those difficulties on (and not to mention my girlfriend was a premature baby, which I hear is also sometimes hereditary) I don't know if I have the right to have children if it might just bring them misery.
Cont.
Pt2
Lastly, a personal isssue that I am not sure I should stick my nose into or not... But my biological father (now dead, and good riddance, he was not a nice person for the most part) was probably the one who passed this onto me. Now I could care less about him, as I haven't seen him or anyone on that side of the family in years (mostly by choice.) But he got married after my mother left him, and according to an uncle, had two more sons. I warned the uncle that they might have Dyspraxia, and practically begged him to make sure they got tested, but I have had zero contact with any of them since that email. I have a gut feeling that they will have just ignored me, and I really do not relish the idea of contacting any of them (if I had my way, i'd never hear from any of them again,) but I feel responsible for making sure those two boys get tested (no matter who their father was they don't deserve to suffer in ignorance.) So should I force my way into their lives, potentially stir up a hornets nest, only to disappear later, or should I just abandon the idea, potentially leaving them ignorant of why their lives might suck worse than most?
Any insights to these problems would be much appreciated.
I guess a TL;DR might help here, so:
1) Should I get a formal diagnosis for a disability as an adult even if it might be more trouble that it's worth?
2) Is it morally wrong to risk screwing up a child by passing on my disability?
3) Should I butt into a family I basically don't know to try to get other people diagnosed for the disability I have?
Anyone?
Im a man in my 30s. I've no interest in having children ever, i don't like dealing with kids, i have no patience to be a parent and although I'm economically stable enough i know I'll be a shitty parent.
Lately I'm being pressured by friends and family alike to settle down and start a family. Is it that strange to not want to have a family.
Is something wrong with my way of thinking? I
'm no Mgtow, i have no problem dating women, but i see the misery alot of my friends deal with when having children or divorces or the money sink and gamble a kid is.
>>17191894
By gamble i mean having a kid that may turn out to be a shit. Neet/gay/whore/thug
If you have no desire to have kids, simply don't.
Look into a vasectomy, if you can go through that without second thoughts, then you know for a fact you don't want kids on any level, and you have the added benefit of never having an accident.
>>17191907
Im already in talks of doing that. Im just sick of everyone around me trying to pressure me into a family, i know how i am and i know im a short fuse when it comes to dealin with kids. But everyone around me is "children are a blessing" or "they are alot of hard work but they are worth it" i live a pretty comfy and easy life, i dont want none of that in my life. I guess it more of how do i get it through my friends and families skulls that i simply dont want a family? They all brush it off as "you'll be ready when you find the right woman"
The right woman for me is someone who also doesnt want kids
I have songs/pieces of music playing in my head all the time, enough to the point that it interferes with my ability to read. The common remedies are not very effective - doing puzzles, reading (which is what triggers it in the first place)
What do?
>>17191758
write the songs down onto paper? write how you feel when this is happening?
I have heard that sometimes when you write down stuff that is going on in your head, it sometimes makes life a little easier.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7QwmocPJp-Q
what's wrong with music OP? perhaps you should get into making music?
>>17191763
Will try this, thanks.
>>17191859
Nothing really wrong with it, just a little frustrating at times.
Canadian here.
I want to purchase something for a convention I'll be attending later this summer. The trouble is that this item costs 560$ USD and roughly another 70$ for shipping.
Does anyone have any advice to keep costs for getting the item shipped/imported to Canada low? What is my best option in terms of a currency exchange to purchase the item? People I have asked suggested going to pick it up in the US, but that won't be an option.
Pic unrelated
Here is the item for reference
http://compositeeffects.com/mystore/index.php?route=product/product&path=61_63&product_id=114
>>17191715
You can afford $600 for a fucking mask but can't drop $70 on shipping then you shouldn't be buying it...
>>17191723
More concerned about the conversion costs and import fees than shipping.
Was hoping to get some insight from others who have made big purchases from the US, and then had them shipped to Canada
>>17191715
>>17191715
>Does anyone have any advice to keep costs for getting the item shipped/imported to Canada low?
My wife is Swedish and we live in England. When she wants something from Sweden and we're not going there any time soon she asks her mum to either buy it in person or have it delivered to the house in Skanderborg. She then sends it to us via postnord sverige (the regular post office, rather than a courier) with the customs label marked to show the package as a gift. Although the delivery time jumps from two days to a week or so, it drops the shipping cost by about 70% and does away with VAT/import duty all together. The only time it's backfired is when I paid for a neclace we'd seen there on my credit card and had it sent to her mum's house. She put the package in an envelope and sent it to me. Customs decided to open in, and when the saw the commercial packaging and a sales reciept with my name on it I had to pay import fee's, VAT and a hefty fine so I ended up paying about £800 ($1170 US) for a £350 ($510 - everything is ludicrously expensive in Sve) neclace. Anything we buy now I paypal her mum the money and she buys it on her card, to reduce the paper trail a bit.
Whilst it's different borders you're crossing, the principle should work the same as long as you know someone relativley trustworthy in the US.
I had an explosive and very painful breakup. Went no contact, after about a month i sent a message for closure. No reply. Took that as 'ok bye'. About a month later the ex has just sent me a message of us kissing along with the words 'when i kissed you i meant it'.
I replied asking as to the intention of the message and if, even for closure's sake we have a chat. I got no reply.
Anyone any idea why they sent it? Was it just to twist the knife?
>>17191684
She misses you but she doesn't want to go back with you.
>>17191684
if they can't answer you need to stop twisting the knife yourself. whether or not that's their intention, doesn't matter. if you're getting no response its not gonna work well is it?
this person is psychotic. be glad you have less melodrama in your life.
female here
i masterbate and i never 'last' i probablay last around 5 mins
Do any females have any tips to last longer?
well, if yu do it yourself, you can perfectly fine decide how long you can last. just take away intensity or stop completely for a while when you get near the point of no return. you can also masturbate oover the course of a day, always stop before orgasming. makes for a mind blowing orgasm in the evening.
>>17191672
Guy here. I go slower when i masturbate if i feel myself getting closer to climaxing Idk if its the same for women. Also, where was that pic taken? Its so beautiful
>>17191705
Hm I'm unsure but its similar to the anime " higuashi"
Yeah i might try that
Worst flatmate ever?
I have one no-lifer in the other room whose life is about playing his shitty MMO-s after work (over 8 hours even) and he would never do the fucking house choirs. I never understood what's so hard in cleaning the plates after eating or do a fifteen minute cleaning twice a month in the hall. This asshole always wakes me up as well when he finishes gaming lets say at 1 AM and goes to EAT (yes at fucking 1 or 2 AM).
>>17191551
>house choirs
This sounds cool as fuck. Who wouldn't want to be part of a house choir?
>>17191551
I wouldn't want to do house choirs either though, OP. I can't stand singing in front of people, even if it's in a group
>>17191551
Well shit, at least the nigga works. My brother is shit and just wears the same fucking red shirt every day and plays a fucking ps3 all day. I'm gonna break it one day and then he will really be fucking done
