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>>17190356
Mention there's a girl or a guy you like involved. Then /adv/ will come flocking like flies to shit

>>17190413
Well, Im passed that part of my life..

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What's the absolute latest age where being a virgin is still socially acceptable?

Pic unrelated.

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>>17190133
Anon I feel like I'm in the same boat as you.
I'm a very apathetic person that needs my space.

I feel very little interest in many women, even though usually I have the "problem" of women interested in me, but I don't return the feeling.

When I do find a girl however, I just don't know what to do. I immediately want to jump into the exclusivity stage when I do. I know it would come off as borderline crazy even though all I wanna do is skip that "winning her over" stage.

I don't really have any advice, but just know you're not alone on this.

>>17190133
Ok first off, you look pissed.
Why? One simple reason: no smile.
Show me a smile first, genuine one, eyes smiling too.

>>17190360
Not op here. Thats a pretty creepy request considering that has nothing to do with ops problem. He already said hes a cold person. Why should he pretend to be happy on the outside? Even if he was happy on the inside a lot of people in his case lack interest in trying to appear happy because they dont care. If your whole point was to get him to send a pic of him smiling to say "look now do that and girls will think youre friendly and more attractive" then thats not the advice op needs. OP, im in a 2 year relationship and what you need to do is find a girl with not a lot of friends and who doesnt wear a lot of makeup. Why? Because it shows they dont feel like they need to be accepted by a lot of people which shows they arenr needy. It also shows they arent high maitenence because of the whole no makeup thing. Get a girl whos laid back and loves you without needing to go out everynight and who wont fuck your friends behind your back. The whole "winning her over" stage will be pretty easy if you treat her with respect and go on more personal dates than texting dates. Trying to get to know someone should happen naturally. If youre feeling a girl, ask her if she wants to go to a festival/ mall/ whatever. Pick a spot with a lot of people also there and a lot of things to do so if theres ever an awkward silence you can break it by saying "we should go to this store next" or just talk about the scene in a humorous way. If she bites, she bites.

>>17190064
I recently moved and I don't have time to go out and look for a relationship right now, and don't see this changing over the next few months while I get settled in a new city and new job. However, I really enjoying the sexting part of dating. How do I go about finding a safe, sexting only relationship? I recognize there will always be risks inherent with sending nudes to a stranger and am aware of measures I can take to protect myself. I am wondering two main things: how to communicate that I only want a digital relationship so I don't mislead someone into thinking there is the potential for more, and where I should start looking?

IIN to be a 20-year-old woman with no sexual or romantic experience?

I'm not interested in promiscuous sexual relationships and I'd rather wait for someone I'm emotionally interested in but I don't know how common that is

>>17190177
Personally I see selectivity and valuing sex as virtues. The only concern you should have is whether or not you're happy.

>>17189961
Being a straight male is basically a lesbian. You are more than half way there. - Plato

>>17189961
What do i do?
kill yourself

>>17189961
You dick her so hard she turns straight obviously. There's no such thing as a real lesbian so it shouldn't be hard.

>>17189949
Read "Meditations" by Marcus Aurelius.

>>17189949
Why would you feel terrible? It's her fault she's turning into an eatmonster. Never regret a good chuckle. Laughter is extremely therapeutic.

>>17189952
Thanks, looks interesting. I've been big on self improvement since we broke up and felt like I made some real good progress, but taking pleasure in something like this felt like a huge step backward. http://www.philaletheians.co.uk/study-notes/living-the-life/marcus-aurelius'-meditations-tr.-casaubon.pdf
I found a pdf online if anyone else is interested.

You need structure. You need direction. Have you considered joining the military?

First off, calm the fuck down. Honestly. Your "procrastination" / clearly depression that you're too anxious and self-conscious to confess for can be solved by just CALMING THE FUCK DOWN.

You don't need to play video games, you don't need to torture yourself anymore.

Take a fucking break from ALL technology and addictions (note on shitty food at random parts of the day).

Just go to some greenery, sit there, and allow yourself to just rest. No need to analyse. Realise that your brain is a lateral organ, you can have a clear mind at one point of the day, and it won't matter, because stimulus will pull you back up.

Maybe you've set too many high expectations for yourself. Just live in the moment, critique things intellectually and make an equally self-rewarding and rational plan to get your life in order. Watch motivational videos, look up different diet plans online when your curiosity asks so.

Synthesise mental impulses to push you away from bad habits for a while, manipulate your over-analysis to your advantage, be absolutely INTOLERANT and dedicate to a serious, logical thought.

Success isn't some fantastical thing that can be required at any point of time. Your mind is a biological being, you need to develop habits and coping mechanisms to survive.

And its not too late, I'm guessing you're still in yours 20s or 30s.

Start caring about "hobbies" once your life is in check. Once you're responsible and you've gotten yourself out of this self-fulfilled hell, and I mean in a job, an active timetable and routine and plans for the future, start having fun with musical instruments.

Here's the GOLDEN RULE:
ALWAYS have progress, even if you still do an addiction, NEVER do it the same way, always cut off certain games you may have played for a long time, keep moving forward. This is pretty natural for gamers anyway, but speed up the process.

Good luck

>>17189940
You're gonna die one day. And accept that. Accept everything. Nothing gives a fuck so rest. Let your brain be in peace, and allow your intuition and instinct to live a well-lived life take control.

Also, get used to accepting the past, even if it may have happened a few seconds before. You're a new person, you can act a new way, think a new way as you please and nobody will ever notice. Its your right and decision to do so and nobody else's to point a finger at you and stick ANY label on you.

And even if they do, even if there is conflict, go back to the fact that you're living a finite human life and handle it as best as you can with the available resources you have.

I recommend being happy, constructive and healthy. I also recommend entertaining relationships where you mutually keep each other happy, constructive and healthy.

>>17189386
A bit more info about your situation would be helpful.

>>17189386
Become a hypnotist

Nigga fuck that I wouldn't let it slide. First off he's talking shit about you TO YOUR GIRL and they're hanging out alone ??? Nigga what's your girl got in debted to him to hang out if he's bashing her "loved one". All around I would tell her to cut him out of her life if he's not needed.

Ps. Yes nigga that sounds like a date

>>17189341
>>17189341
I guess my issue is that this guy is SUCH a non-issue. Like he's fat, short, ugly, etc. One of those obnoxious people that talks about pepe the frog IRL. SO I feel like reacting super negatively is going to make me seem as if I perceive him as any sort of threat, which I don't. She's truly under the impression they're just friends.

Make a big deal out of it.

Get mad. Kill that guy.

You don't tolerate stuff like this. Ever.

>>17188865
forgot to mention, she said that last time she had anal was with him about 1 year ago and maybe she called him unconsciously, thats make sense since se was cumming so hard she almost fainted

I don't know what to tell you

If it happened with me it would be insta-breakup

>>17188865
it can happen inconsciously but yeah it hurts

Remove the ring. Your body is trying to reject it.
If it continues, skin will grow over the piercing and you'll hav to get it surgically removed.
This is scar tissue that won't go away. It'll stay large. Maybe not quite as much, but close.
(unless it's some huge puss infection)
Ask a doc

That image...the disgusting tongue mutilation and that gross pube facial hair really makes me want to vomit. please delete your image

>>17188751
if it turns out to be an infection, removing the jewelery is the worst possible thing you can do.

if you really wanted to meet people you would've done it by now

>>17188596
Got anything?

Anything at all.

You're going to get aids you dumb fuck.

I feel like killing myself.

>>17182965
whats up?

I know you are probably not interested. When I asked you out, and you said yes, that put me over the moon. Then your friend tagged along, hijacking the thing, while trying to keep us from getting too close. And then we never could properly talk around him. It seemed as if he was trying to control you to a degree.

Now that we are finished with class, I won't get to see you again. Unless we hang out like we agreed, but every time I offer up a day, you are busy with no other day offered. Granted this happened once since we agreed to do something.a

If you are not interested, just tell me. Please just tell me.

I love you.

L,

Let me start by saying you are flawless in my eyes. The way you move is so gentle, but at the same time you exude this confidence that I admire so much. I absolutely love your hair, and your smile, my god, your smile is so gorgeous makes me want to rip my chest up. I'll be honest, when you giggled at my snarky remark in choir a year ago, my heart stopped, and I felt so happy, so satisfied for the rest of that month. I know this might sound creepy and slightly fedora-y, but you're not reading this so what the hell.

All that being, I'm never going to ask you out, partially for the reasons I had before (Low confidence and self esteem, etc etc), but mainly because I'm going to a university on the other side of the country, and chances are I will probably never see you again come the fall (I can't do long distance, I've tried). I'm not writing you to win you over, but to help you. I really do think you're misunderstood, and I really want to help you.

First, you really need to talk to people. I already know you're an incredibly nice person, so when one of your "friends" calls you a bitch because you didn't talk to them during one of their mental breakdowns, you can imagine how that makes me feel. But I've been in your shoes before; my first two years of highschool when I didn't talk, people assumed I was emo or something and I guess that intimidated people, because when I eventually came out of my shell, some would say that they wish they knew me sooner. So when one of your friends is having a personal problem, just say something. I know you may think you have nothing helpful or inspiring to say, but make your presence known. It will go a long way, and people will appreciate you more for who you really are.

(cont.)

>>17180010

On a similar note, if you're invited to a party, don't leave early. I don't like parties either, but by leaving early, you're saying that you have better things to do than be with your friends. So even if all they do is play a lame game of Cards Against Humanity, just stick with them.

Stop talking to those three guys, the lacrosse players that are twice your size, you know the ones. I've talked to them. All they talk about is sex. And memes. They are toxic.

This may be my personal bias, but I think you look best without makeup (I think that's related to the confidence thing I mentioned earlier), but I've been noticing that you've been putting it on more frequently, and in heavier amounts. Personally I think you're wasting your money

That's really all I can think of right now. You are a wonderful woman and you deserve the best. I don't think I'll be getting over your soon.

-A

Contact both. There's a lot of lines being crossed to the point he's going to your place of residence. Who cares if he loses his job

>>17176333
Is it enough evidence though? Should I take a picture of him standing outside of my apartment? I started writing down the dates and times he comes by. I guess I should clarify: he usually stands outside of the building, but one time he managed to get inside and walked up the stairway to my apartment door. I checked with management and no one by his name live there. I also moved since last year, he knew my old address but I have no idea how he figured out where I live now.

It's summer and we both live in the same town the university is, so I don't know how active campus security is right now, or other parts of campus "justice." I just don't want him to lose his job but keep on harassing me, I don't know if the university can actually detain him-- and I don't know if the police will think I have enough evidence to do anything about him.

>>17176314
Has he written you any emails or contacted you otherwise?

depression is a real thing and treatments really work.
You have depression. Go get treatment.

>>17191608
I don't want to be another person saying I've got depression and treatment is like $150 a session where I am and takes months to get n appointment. I can't help but avoid help because it's so hard to get

>>17191559
Yep, sounds like depression. The actual medical kind, not the "i'm sad" kind that goes away on its own.
Go see a psychiatrist.

>>17191622
>$150 a session
>takes months to get n appointment
pick one, you either have govt-funded healthcare or you're in the US (where you pay and get it immediately)
Unless you're in Niger or some shit.
If there's a gigantic waiting list, go write your name on it anyway basically.
Chances are you'll still have this shit in 3 months when you get your spot.

And oftentimes you get meds instead of therapy, meds don't require constant weekly appts