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So I currently work at a dream job.
But there's a snag: I did that thing where I left a safe, full-time contract job back in my hometown>moved to the other side of the country for a 6 month deal (with the possibility to get a full-time position afterwards).
I personaly feel like I deserve that full-time contract: Im just a few sizes better then anybody else at what I do!
So... The 6 months are close to the end now and I still haven't heard anything about an extention so I am gonna bring it up with my boss today or possibly tomorrow (He was gonna...
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>>17190356
Mention there's a girl or a guy you like involved. Then /adv/ will come flocking like flies to shit
>>17190413
Well, Im passed that part of my life..
What's the absolute latest age where being a virgin is still socially acceptable?
Pic unrelated.
Ok so, i have a "love" problem i guess you can call it that. Im a pretty cold person, I keep my distance a lot, but I feel the need for a relationship, i just do, but even tho Ive been interested over a couple girls, I never know what to do, I feel like she'll think im a creep if i try do make a move and that makes it so i dont even try, now they're dating other guys. I have a very specific taste so theres not a lot of girls that fill what i want and the one that do just slip away, I dunno how to act, who knows maybe someone here can make it clear to me
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>>17190133
Anon I feel like I'm in the same boat as you.
I'm a very apathetic person that needs my space.
I feel very little interest in many women, even though usually I have the "problem" of women interested in me, but I don't return the feeling.
When I do find a girl however, I just don't know what to do. I immediately want to jump into the exclusivity stage when I do. I know it would come off as borderline crazy even though all I wanna do is skip that "winning her over"...
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>>17190133
Ok first off, you look pissed.
Why? One simple reason: no smile.
Show me a smile first, genuine one, eyes smiling too.
>>17190360
Not op here. Thats a pretty creepy request considering that has nothing to do with ops problem. He already said hes a cold person. Why should he pretend to be happy on the outside? Even if he was happy on the inside a lot of people in his case lack interest in trying to appear happy because they dont care. If your whole point was to get him to send a pic of him smiling to say "look now do that and girls will think youre friendly and more attractive" then thats not the advice op needs. OP, im in a 2 year...
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General /sex/ questions thread
Because at the end of the day it is all people want to talk about.
>>17190064
I recently moved and I don't have time to go out and look for a relationship right now, and don't see this changing over the next few months while I get settled in a new city and new job. However, I really enjoying the sexting part of dating. How do I go about finding a safe, sexting only relationship? I recognize there will always be risks inherent with sending nudes to a stranger and am aware of measures I can take to protect myself. I am wondering two main things: how to communicate that I only want...
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IIN to be a 20-year-old woman with no sexual or romantic experience?
I'm not interested in promiscuous sexual relationships and I'd rather wait for someone I'm emotionally interested in but I don't know how common that is
>>17190177
Personally I see selectivity and valuing sex as virtues. The only concern you should have is whether or not you're happy.
I fell in love with my best friend. The only problem is she's a lesbian. What do i do?
>>17189961
Being a straight male is basically a lesbian. You are more than half way there. - Plato
>>17189961
What do i do?
kill yourself
>>17189961
You dick her so hard she turns straight obviously. There's no such thing as a real lesbian so it shouldn't be hard.
A pic of my ex showed up on my fb feed and she's gained a lot of weight. I feel terrible because I think I'm enjoying this. How do I be a better person?
>>17189949
Read "Meditations" by Marcus Aurelius.
>>17189949
Why would you feel terrible? It's her fault she's turning into an eatmonster. Never regret a good chuckle. Laughter is extremely therapeutic.
>>17189952
Thanks, looks interesting. I've been big on self improvement since we broke up and felt like I made some real good progress, but taking pleasure in something like this felt like a huge step backward. http://www.philaletheians.co.uk/study-notes/living-the-life/marcus-aurelius'-meditations-tr.-casaubon.pdf
I found a pdf online if anyone else is interested.
Im a young adult, very shy all his life but getting more and more isolated with the time. I hide myself behind my monitor and was hiding myself in the toilet in the last school years, because i didnt want people to see that im alone. (just a random anecdote to get a picture)
"I" fear the future and i do everything to avoid confronting it. I wasted one year now with doing nothing essentially- i didnt travel, i went to university for a bit but didnt go there after 2 months or so- i didnt talk / socialized with ANYONE there.
Im unable to socialize. More...
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You need structure. You need direction. Have you considered joining the military?
First off, calm the fuck down. Honestly. Your "procrastination" / clearly depression that you're too anxious and self-conscious to confess for can be solved by just CALMING THE FUCK DOWN.
You don't need to play video games, you don't need to torture yourself anymore.
Take a fucking break from ALL technology and addictions (note on shitty food at random parts of the day).
Just go to some greenery, sit there, and allow yourself to just rest. No need to analyse. Realise that your brain is a lateral organ, you can have a clear mind at one point of the day, and it won't matter, because stimulus will pull you back up.
Maybe you've set too many high expectations for yourself. Just live in the moment, critique things intellectually and make an equally self-rewarding and rational plan to get your life in order. Watch motivational videos, look up different diet plans online when your curiosity asks so.
Synthesise mental impulses to push you away from bad habits for a while, manipulate your over-analysis to your advantage, be absolutely INTOLERANT and dedicate to a serious, logical thought.
Success isn't some fantastical thing that can be required at any point of time. Your mind is a biological being, you need to develop habits and coping mechanisms to survive.
And its not too late, I'm guessing you're still in yours 20s or 30s.
Start caring about "hobbies" once your life is in check. Once you're responsible and you've gotten yourself out of this self-fulfilled hell, and I mean in a job, an active timetable and routine and plans for the future, start having fun with musical instruments.
Here's the GOLDEN RULE:
ALWAYS have progress, even if you still do an addiction, NEVER do it the same way, always cut off certain games you may have played for a long time, keep moving forward. This is pretty natural for gamers anyway, but speed up the process.
Good luck
>>17189940
You're gonna die one day. And accept that. Accept everything. Nothing gives a fuck so rest. Let your brain be in peace, and allow your intuition and instinct to live a well-lived life take control.
Also, get used to accepting the past, even if it may have happened a few seconds before. You're a new person, you can act a new way, think a new way as you please and nobody will ever notice. Its your right and decision to do so and nobody else's to point a finger at you and stick ANY label on you.
And...
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Someone please help me. Idon't know what should i do with my life.I really need your advice, it would be helpful.
I recommend being happy, constructive and healthy. I also recommend entertaining relationships where you mutually keep each other happy, constructive and healthy.
>>17189386
A bit more info about your situation would be helpful.
>>17189386
Become a hypnotist
I think my GF just went on a date with another guy
This puts me in kind of weird position, because she doesn't seem to realize that this was a date and that this guy likes her. He's been one of her friends for years now, and just recently has started texting her and hanging out with her a lot.
He constantly shit talks me (her boyfriend) and has consistently told her that she's "making a mistake" being with me, etc. she tells me all of this and doesn't ever take it too seriously. The guy has never liked me and I've never liked...
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Nigga fuck that I wouldn't let it slide. First off he's talking shit about you TO YOUR GIRL and they're hanging out alone ??? Nigga what's your girl got in debted to him to hang out if he's bashing her "loved one". All around I would tell her to cut him out of her life if he's not needed.
Ps. Yes nigga that sounds like a date
>>17189341
>>17189341
I guess my issue is that this guy is SUCH a non-issue. Like he's fat, short, ugly, etc. One of those obnoxious people that talks about pepe the frog IRL. SO I feel like reacting super negatively is going to make me seem as if I perceive him as any sort of threat, which I don't. She's truly under the impression they're just friends.
Make a big deal out of it.
Get mad. Kill that guy.
You don't tolerate stuff like this. Ever.
last night i did anal for the first time my gf , she was using a vibrator in the meantime and she we was really enjoying it.
but when she was about to orgasm she called me with her ex boyfriend name, she didnt realized it until i told her, she was very embarassed about it and she apologized, but i cant stop thinking about it, i feel kinda different about her now.
what does that mean /adv/? they were about to have a baby 2 years ago but she had a miscarriage and he became both phisically and verbally abusive, now he's just a drunkard with a shitty life and they occasionally...
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>>17188865
forgot to mention, she said that last time she had anal was with him about 1 year ago and maybe she called him unconsciously, thats make sense since se was cumming so hard she almost fainted
I don't know what to tell you
If it happened with me it would be insta-breakup
>>17188865
it can happen inconsciously but yeah it hurts
Got my tongue pierced about 3 weeks ago. What is this skin encompassing the bead?? is something wrong?? how can I fix it??
Remove the ring. Your body is trying to reject it.
If it continues, skin will grow over the piercing and you'll hav to get it surgically removed.
This is scar tissue that won't go away. It'll stay large. Maybe not quite as much, but close.
(unless it's some huge puss infection)
Ask a doc
That image...the disgusting tongue mutilation and that gross pube facial hair really makes me want to vomit. please delete your image
>>17188751
if it turns out to be an infection, removing the jewelery is the worst possible thing you can do.
Say there's absolutely no clubs or volunteer work in your area.
And meetup.com only lists female-exclusive meets and ones for old people.
How. The fuck. Do you meet people?
The advice is to know people already, and don't dare try to know someone who doesn't know someone you know.
But say you don't. You're starting from scratch. How?
>Online dating
>At your workplace
These are also out. A total void of results are very common from those two but people suggest them all the time.
if you really wanted to meet people you would've done it by now
>>17188596
Got anything?
Anything at all.
The thread must've died.
You're going to get aids you dumb fuck.
I feel like killing myself.
>>17182965
whats up?
Dear B,
I threw away the turkey because it was rotten. I'm sorry, but it had to be this way. If you cooked it, we surely could've gotten salmonella. Don't leave it outside of the fridge unless you're cooking it. I was wondering where it went for the past 5 days. Lo and behold, found it under the counter, in the cupboards after smelling something funny. Seriously, you made my kid dry heave with that scent.
K
I know you are probably not interested. When I asked you out, and you said yes, that put me over the moon. Then your friend tagged along, hijacking the thing, while trying to keep us from getting too close. And then we never could properly talk around him. It seemed as if he was trying to control you to a degree.
Now that we are finished with class, I won't get to see you again. Unless we hang out like we agreed, but every time I offer up a day, you are busy with no other day offered. Granted this happened once since we agreed to do something.a
If you are...
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L,
Let me start by saying you are flawless in my eyes. The way you move is so gentle, but at the same time you exude this confidence that I admire so much. I absolutely love your hair, and your smile, my god, your smile is so gorgeous makes me want to rip my chest up. I'll be honest, when you giggled at my snarky remark in choir a year ago, my heart stopped, and I felt so happy, so satisfied for the rest of that month. I know this might sound creepy and slightly fedora-y, but you're not reading this so what the hell.
All that being, I'm never going...
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>>17180010
On a similar note, if you're invited to a party, don't leave early. I don't like parties either, but by leaving early, you're saying that you have better things to do than be with your friends. So even if all they do is play a lame game of Cards Against Humanity, just stick with them.
Stop talking to those three guys, the lacrosse players that are twice your size, you know the ones. I've talked to them. All they talk about is sex. And memes. They are toxic.
This may be my...
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