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Am I at the wrong here?
So there's this girl I like and can't figure out if she's into me. She asked if I'd like to go to the movies yesterday. I said yes.
Two hours later she asked me if I can also invite this couple who we are friends with. Okay so it's not a date then but that's okay .
I meet up with the couple a few hours before the film for some coffee etc. The girl says she'll be late. A few minutes before the movie she messages us that she feels lazy and doesn't want to go anymore. Which is fine, I mean it...
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>>17199302
>she's pissed at me now.
How do you know this?
>>17199305
That's my guess from all of her "wow really? Okay... shame, seriously?" and her lack of response to my suggestions to meet up some other time
>>17199309
None of that indicates that she's pissed.
What kind of red flag is it when an underage girl (15-17) is in a relationship with a 31 y/o guy? How do explain that?
>>17199300
The pedophilia kind of red flag. You explain it by young girls being naive as shit and attracted to older men, and pedophiles being manipulative as shit. He's probably a rapist who is going to fuck her up and break her ability to have a normal relationship.
>>17199300
She wants to feel older and the 31 yr old is cool to her because of her lack of experience with adults.
He has a car, house, beard etc while she's surrounded by teens. Once she's an adult and sees how incredibly lame he most likely is the relationship will end. >>17199319
Calm the fuck down he just wants some prime teen pussy.
>>17199300
Anybody been to a swingers party? Good or bad experience? I'm in Spain right now, where I hear they're popular, so have been considering one.
Do you actually think this is going to be a way for you to get easy sex?
I have a friend that's been to these they say they're fun and the girls only go as far as they want usually not very far except for a few of them
Please anyone with experience share stories. This is incredibly interesting
>>17199325
Do those few just let anyone there fuck them?
Should i? Have any of you done it and what has it done for you as far as confidence goes? I cant really stop thinking about it and just wanna get it over with.
>>17199270
It will feel really sad and disgusting when you cum. Not worth it IMO and this is talking from experience. You will also be anxious about STDs and paranoid about the police. You may not even get hard.
>>17199270
Assuming you get past >>17199275 you will also feel like you cheated the virginity game. You will have no proof to yourself that you are capable of meeting, dating, and fucking someone who is actually interested. Your confidence will be rekt.
I currently live in the uk and as far as i know escort services aren't iligal. Also i plan on using a condom. Im just scared that it might actually lower my confidence knowing how i lost it.
I look like Chad because I'm a masochist and hate myself, but I'm super aspie and come off as an asshole. I'm helpless when it comes to women, which is why I'm a virgin at 25. Those who get close know I'm not, but I haven't had real friends in years.
I get the feeling people are spreading rumors about me at work. I think the guys have resorted to something like "he said you two were fooling around." Now some women get more cautious and I think my boss had been asked by the same guys if there was something going on. They can't...
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Start buying/cooking the guys at work good food. Nothing improves your reputation better than when you buy/make people good meals
>>17199274
That's a tasty looking burger there!
Sadly, we're in a kitchen. I don't really have any intentions of being their friends. I'm thinking that I'm going to Have to treat everyone the same, but I wouldn't be fair to myself if I did. I've been nothing but nice. Imagine having someone help you out with singing heavy, or complimenting your work, then having someone say "that guy's taking shit shit you."
You wouldn't trust the guy or look at him the same...
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>>17199274
Spelling errors, sorry. Re do
That's a tasty looking burger there!
Sadly, we're in a kitchen. I don't really have any intentions of being their friend. I'm thinking that I'm going to Have to treat everyone the same, but I wouldn't be fair to myself if I did. I've been nothing but nice. Imagine having someone help you out with something heavy, or complimenting your work, then having someone say "that guy's talking shit about you."
You wouldn't...
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In a pickle.
I'm dating an Armenian girl and her parents are controlling as fuck. She has to remain a virgin until marriage, can't stay out late, she can't even tell about me to her parents because according to her, either her mother or father would move in with her so they could keep her from seeing me and her brothers would probably beat me. To make matters worse, her parents are frequently hinting for her to marry someone and they are already in a way setting her up to marry her father's friend's son. The hinting is not very aggressive, but...
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She sounds like a dumb indecisive teenager not worth your time. Three months is fucking nothing, By the sounds of it you're already fucked, if she does traditional as you make it out to be you've got no chance.
Sounds like a lot of mental stress, with none of that puss pounding. My best advice would be to break up with her now and spend the money you were going to spend on her, on that one video game you know you're looking at.
Girls that aren't independent aren't worth your time.
>>17199295
I'm pounding her puss and I'm not spending money on her, should've mentioned that in the OP.
Thank you for your input.
I don't understand, why are you bothering with her? A serious relationship is never going to come from this, and you're basically wasting time you could be wasting on a girl who you could possibly have a future with.
It's really starting to take it's toll on me. It always leads to me feeling utterly alone.
More so, it makes it hard to find any potential girlfriends or fuckbuddies now that I'm single. I've been told by numerous women that I'm attractive so this is really my biggest issue.
I have the same problem, I don't think it really possible to overcome. I actually remember trying to find books, maybe even for children like "communation from scratch" or whatever. I mean I really need to be taught how to say Hello, what to say next, when to introduce yourself and so on. Man, what an embarrasing life I have.
>>17199249
>How to overcome social awkwardness?
Anon sits alone at a computer, not participating in social contacting, wondering why he has such a hard time in social situations.
You're like a sky diver who is afraid of flying, sitting on the runway wondering why its so hard for him to learn how to sky dive.
Get off the fucking internet, now, and go talk to someone and keep fucking talking until you get good at it. You're doing this to yourself and its time to stop.
>>17199272
This advice is same thing like telling someone who has zero driving experience to get into SUV and hit the road right away.
>recently started therapy for social anxiety and possible personality disorder
>dont really understand therapist half the time and they don't seem to understand me either sometimes + can sometimes come across condescending
>been feeling worse if anything since I started
>been even worse since they've been in contact with my school bc school sends glowing reports to them every time I do something minor because im pretty sure it looks like im just...
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posted on my homeboard with no responses in close to half an hour but im pretty sure im having a drawn out anxiety attack so it feels like its been literally hours and the few irl friends I have arent online on fagbook or aren't responding if anyone has anything no matter how small that they think could possibly help in any way it would be much appreciated
Perhaps you should find some hobbies. Like cooking
Not sure what the problem you want advice on OP? You're saying therapy is boring and a waste of time? Yep that's pretty normal. It's rare to find a good therapist.
>start talking to girl on online dating site
>she agrees to meet
>comes over today around 5, we go get ice cream
>Shes quiet at first but opens up after a bit
>we river walk, rent a paddleboat and go around, shes having a great time
>Do some quick grocery shopping b/c we're both hungry and i need food anyways, head back to my place to watch movies
>Watch...
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>>17199196
Just let her set the pace, you were definitely moving too fast.
You are moving way too fast. She feels like a whore
>>17199196
Ask her when she'll get her work schedule.
Tell her hanging with her is better than hanging with your bros. chicks like this stuff.
Do not leave it for several days without being in touch with her. Girls gage your interest by how soon you message them and how often.
Why don't people help other people who are being attacked in public?
Exhibit A
http://chicago.cbslocal.com/2016/05/26/two-suspects-charged-in-attack-on-blue-line-rider/
>>17199163
Only a single exhibit? Why bother giving it a letter delineation?
As far as why, it has been the subject of heated psychological debate. It's referred to as the "Bystander effect"
The more people who witness the event, the less likely any one of them is to get involved. They usually think something like "no one else is getting involved, I shouldn't either". It's believed to be a survival instinct from my understanding.
The wiki article is a long read, but explains...
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>>17199451
I suspect it's a byproduct of growing up in a mass education setting where all children are expected to act roughly the same and you're a fag if you do anything different.
>>17199451
>It's believed to be a survival instinct from my understanding.
That's interesting, and seems to agree with my view: another big part of it is the fear of taking a hit as well. Easier to feel bad for a victim than to intervene and risk becoming one yourself. We're cowards. Humanity is fun.
Are my friends incredibly homophobic or am I out of line?
Our hotel room has two queen size beds. Originally it was going to be 4 of us, now it's 3. My two friends refuse to share a bed for the night because it's "super gay, and no straight guy would do that." They're brothers. I can't understand how they can't just sleep back to back, or with a pillow between them. So now one of them is "sleeping" on the wood floor.
Is this common? I feel like I'm taking crazy pills. Dude won't sleep at all, all so he doesn't...
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I shared a hotel room with a guy and ended up groping him in my sleep so now i sleep on the floor on the comforter. Also a lot of hotels have cots they can wheel up to as a 3rd bed. Just ask the front desk
>>17199146
No rollaways here.
...you groped him in your sleep? Amazing. 4chan with the stories.
Homophobic
How do I cure my depression ?
First of all, what's making you depressed?
Just deal with it, we are all depressed to a degree and if you're not you're super happy all the time annoying person
put 3 drops of frankincense essential oil in half cup of boiling water and inhale the vapors
So i may not be asking for advice in the right place but I am kind of lost. There is this really handsome guy that approached me and we started talking everything was going pretty well at the beggining. He apparently has had a husband and has a dark past that he is not willing to talk about. Which is totally fine, I have my own past as well. Anyway so I noticed things getting kinda awkward after the first time we actually chilled together. I had slept over at his place and we cuddled and it was nice. We went to a late night diner and had some laughs and good eats yum yum. We...
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Have you tried seducing him? Maybe he is too shy about making the first move and prefers you would
I know that he was raped and he literally just got divorced from his husband not too long ago. It was awkward because the day I stood over was the day he got his divorce papers in the mail. (awwwkkk) He was also in the marines but was medically discharged 7 months in. Any way slowly but surely he was pushing me away and I decided to try and dig deeper but was met with absolute rejection. He just said I would rather be friends and goodbye. I dont know what to do about him he is a super sweet and cute guy and he is definitely my kind of people but he is letting his past control...
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>>17199129
I have tried being cute and funny and starting up conversation but Im usually met with "im busy" or just in general 1 word answer syndrome.
How do I deal with dandruff, /adv/? I get it really bad, like if I scratch my head a whole bunch of skin falls like powder. It also gives me a really shitty feeling to sense it on my head.
Before I go to bed I scrape my head throughout with a fine-tooth comb and after a while I can get most of it off but it builds back up after a couple days.
Uh, do you not know what anti dandruff shampoo is?
>>17199075
Believe me I do, and it doesn't work.
Buy dandruff shampoo, moron. I tried Denorex and like it but googling dandruff shampoo just now i see there are many more recommended ones
I have a female friend who confided in me that she's going to be a porn star?
we live here in LA and she's absolutely gorgeous, so it will be easy for her to get in the industry... without coming across like a judgmental prick, how do i tell her that she shouldn't do it? I told her we'll talk tomorrow.
any advice is appreciated.thanks
Why does this matter to you? Why shouldn't she become it?
>>17199051
pic related?
Why not encourage her and support her? She's doesn't want to hear your shit
