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How do you spend your day? Please list every activity, as I was raised by wolves and thus don't know how people outside TV shows actually live.
>>17199806
TV and Videogames. And then trying to work up the courage to kill myself.
>>17199806
Work, Tv, video games, lifting, and sleeping.
>>17199806
You're asking on 4chan, so you won't get wholly normal answers. But here's some of my general schedules:
Monday through Friday:
>Wake up at 6am, hit snooze
>Wake up at 7am, hit snooze
>Wake up at 8am in a panic, jump out of bed, strip naked, hop in the shower
>Shower for 5 minutes, brush teeth, throw on clothes, run to work
>Stare a computer monitor for 8 hours pretending to work
>Come home, cook dinner
>Clean up from dinner, sit on 4chan or play vidya
>Go to bed
Saturday and Sunday:
>Make plans through the week to see friends
>Fulfill 2 hour obligation to see them over lunch
>Return home for Netflix
Is it possible to feel a strong sense of love for a man without any sexual attraction?
Is it still gay?
It's weird, cause I have this strong sense of kinship for my best friend, but neither of us is gay. In his case, he's slept with over 200 women, and while I haven't slept with THAT many, I don't feel myself attracted by men either, nor gay porm or any of the like. In fact, gay porn, yaoi, and the idea of gay sex are a huge sexual turnoff for me. Like, I wouldn't have a problem with coming out and saying I'm bi personally, since women and female eroticism always get me going, but like I said, I just don't find a sexual turn-on in men or any of that.
However, when it comes to my friend, I genuinely care about him a whole lot, like more than any girl I've ever met. For both of us, we go out and frequently meet women and such, but also, we've both gone out and have been with so many girls and in so many relationships, that we kinda understand the female mind a little too well, and we both know that no woman will ever fulfill or satisfy us quite as we'd like to. And yet, we're surprised to have found a kindred spirit in one another. We're traveling together, we're working on various projects together, we're two creative minds with a similar purpose and near-identical worldviews. We've pretty much shared our entire lives witg each other, and trust one another immensely.
I think he best described it when he compared our friendship to Ragnar and Athlestan in Vikings. "One slightly off key extrovert, and a daring introvert who play off each other very well. Homoerotic undertones."
And like I said, I care about the guy a whole lot, provably a lot more than any woman I'll ever meet, despite that, I'd never kiss or shag him.
What do you make of that /adv/?
>>17199740
You've found a bro for life. Enjoy your lives together. Get wives. Have each others families over for BBQs. Watch your kids grow up together. etc. etc.
>>17199740
<3 so beautiful, post pics so I can make yaoi
>>17199757
...women
i don't know much about computer gaming, and Insurgency looks awesome. My pc will run it?
ATI Mobility Radeon HD 5650
Intel(R) Core(TM) i5 CPU M 430 @ 2.27GHz
RAM RAM
Minimum: 4 GB
You Have: 4.0 GB
thx m8s
>>17199703
It's like 2 dollars on steam sale, why does it matter
>>17199708 cause i need to borrow the money
>>17199722
You got bigger problems then. Work more, game less
Hi adv,
I am on the verge of breaking up with my girlfriend, I have just had enough.
After her leaving college she made no attempt to get a job for 3 months, so I forced her to interview for a position at my work after asking her for months, she asked to move in with me and I agreed and started the job. While living with me she made NO attempt at helping to pay for anything or to do chores, after 2 months she was lay-off from work. After being lay-off she hasn't attempted to get a job again or apply anywhere, when I got home from work she would be just getting out of bed or would be watching internet videos or playing games, it made me insane how lazy she is being.
The next thing is the sex, and flirting it's just terrible. She puts no effort in. I have to tell her what to do, make all the moves all the time, even to just kiss. It's like she is a robot and there is no "spark" or spontaneousness, she gets offended if I ask to send nudes or will just ignore flirty messages rather than flirt back.
A few months later, I have now lost my job and couldn't afford to pay rent. So she went back home and asked her parents if I could stay until I could find a new job and they said "no", it infuriates me as all I have done is help them and pay for their daughter under my roof for the past year, so it would have been nice to support me for a month to get back onto my feet, rather than moving far away to my parents.
I recently found a new job, after a month of no work which will mean me moving far away. She want's to move in with me again...
I hate the thought of being alone and its the only reason I keep going, with the possibility that she might change and mature.
Just break it off. Think about how amazing it'll be with a better girlfriend in the future.
It'll hurt for a little while, but you'll be fine in a few weeks.
Shes either depressed or just a neet. If you don't like the thought of being in a relationship with someone like that get out NOW before shit goes any further.
>>17199674
>I am on the verge of breaking up with my girlfriend, I have just had enough.
Leave her. But I'll finish reading your post, promise.
How do I convince my boyfriend to let me eat the booty like groseries?
He says itd make him gay but I love eating ass (clean of course)
Tell him you like to feel like a dirty girl sometimes? Have you seriously found a guy that wont let you eat his ass? Jesus. And here I am wishing more girls were keen for it...
>>17199681
I've done it with 2 others but neither were long term things. Been with my boyfriend for nearly a year now and I really want him to at least try it :/
>>17199694
I'm Bi so I've had the pleasure of giving and receiving with both sexes. Maybe just start with blowing him while he lies on his back, move down to his balls then taint etc. Then see if you can talk him into a shower before bed so you can go the whole distance. Once he feels and sees you getting into it hell be yours.
So about a month ago i started talking to my ex again after like a year, now she has a bf. One night I texted her and she said it's not good text her and that she's fine with us talking in person.
Is she already cheating?
Fucking what?
So she's your ex
And she said it's not ok to text her but talking is fine?
How is she cheating
>>17199828
it's because she texts me. it's like she's sneaking behind her bf's back
>>17199974
She's your ex why would you give a fuck if she's cheating
This is probably not gonna make any sense, I just need to get this off my chest.
I'm ugly as fuck, and was bullied in elementary school. Then I went to technical high school, which meant no girls. Then I went to technical university, which meant very little amount of girls.
I'm 23 now, and I lack social skills to talk with girls and shit. When I talk to a random girl, all I can talk about is school or work (because everyone does either one of those, and I kinda enjoy and am knowledgeable about both). I'd say I'm fairly intelligent, and I can talk about tech, science, politics and economy for a long time, and even make it iteresting, but not a lot girls like that. For example, when I'm in a pub with my lawyer guy friend, we can talk about interesting shit for hours, but I don't find that skill applicable to girls.
I think being ugly is a big part of the problem, since I don't approach girls just because I know they won't be interested. I plan to get fit soon, I know a lot about lifting, and I run regularly, just had to stop lifting because of school lately, but I think getting fit will help (so I'd have at least something physical that is good).
Anyone was in comparable sitation, and got better? Any tips?
>>17199647
There really needs to a be a megathread that deals in this kind of 23+ social retardedness.
And no OP, I've never seen anyone successfully escape this situation, it just gets worse and worse. And I'm talking about sociability as a whole and not the just "no gf" part.
Ask about them then use your knowledge to ask more specifics about them. Have they travelled? Do they want to travel? Where? Why? Replace travel with anything you pick up from them at first glance. Did you meet them at the gym? A social event? etc. Ask a girl about her and then give opinions of your own about their ideas.
>>17199672
Sounds good. My problem probably is the low selfesteem, seems like I could do this shit, if I decided to approach the girl first.
Like more weeaboo/more into anime, more introverted, etc
Is this bait or are you retarded?
>>17199539
Are you bait or is this retarded ?
>>17199539
I know /cgl/ contains more sociable people due to the fact it's inherent in the subject.
1) Bitch say she wanna grow old holding my hand
2) I say yes
3) Slave away for years to get schooling, house, moving in, marry, build business, etc
4) Accident happens
5) Bitch sees potential gains dwindled
6) One day open door: "Honey, I'm home!" but no bitch anywhere
7) Get text from her saying: "Don't look for me, I already have life partner"
8) I think: "Yes, I know... I am him"
Find her with ex
See her in street... pretend doesn't know who I am
Repeat 1-8 with ex
Find high paying job guy
Repeat 1-8 with high paying job guy
Find guitar player
Repeat 1-8 with guitar player
Find hippie
Repeat 1-8 with hippie
Repeat ad nauseum
WTF? 10 years and all I get is a cellphone text.
How can people treat family as trash and be so evil and cruel to the ones they love the most in the world?
if this is true, and not bait. what she did was pretty fucking evil. i understand sometimes the flame of a relationships dies out and feelings go but she could of at least sat down with you and said she wants to end the relationship. personally, if a girl done this to me, i would kill her and hop to jail.
>>17199492
>sometimes the flame of a relationships dies out
It was not really the flame dying out, anon... it was an accident of losing my main business supplier and having to spend almost six months working like a slave to keep our home finances stable forcing me to spend less hours a day with her... therefore giving her leeway to fall on some other guy's hands.
>>17199528
that probably makes it even worse because you where struggling to keep you and her stable. i dont know what it is with some people who constantly need attention off others, why cant they just get a hobby.
/adv/, why do I feel self-conscious and embarrassed when my family tries to encourage me on anything?
For instance, I kind of want to start going running in the early mornings (5-6am, when it just starts to get light out) in the field behind the house we rent, but I just know that if anyone caught me doing anything that blatantly healthy they would say nice things or something when I'd really rather they just ignore it.
My psychiatrist and both the pdocs I see at the place I get ECT at all really want me to exercise -- my BMI is 22.6, so I'm not exactly fat or anything. (My diet is terrible, though.).
>pic unrelated, but it is very impressive
>>17199482
I'll give you a reply, only because I know how painful it is to seek advice and find nothing but crickets. Unfortunately I can't give you advice. I lack any experience in this field.
My best guess, although it's strictly a guess, is that it's a fear of having to keep up appearances. If you're complimented for your new running habit then you fear that you'll be rejected if you ever stop running in the mornings. It makes you feel trapped by social obligations and so you lose the freedom to decide your own schedule. That's merely a hypothesis, though.
>>17199482
For me, it's because I know I'm a quitter and I'd rather people see me start less things so that they see me give up less things. If this applies to you, my advice is to tell people regardless of how you feel, because this cycle is what is killing me. If you make quitting guilt-free, it's going to happen.
Why would not want encouragement on healthy habits? I'd take that over being laughed at and being made to feel guilty about it any day.
Im looking for advice on what I can buy my boyfriend for his birthday thats coming up.
He's very difficult to shop for and refuses to help me or give me ideas on something he would like.
I have asked multiple times and he just says 'nope you find something, better be good" in a teasing way but still refuses to help.
He doesnt like novelty stuff like starwars pens etc.
I'm honestly stumped. I cant buy Cologne for him because if he doesnt like it he wont wear it, cant buy clothes because if the material isnt right he wont wear it.
Does anyone have any experience with picky people and buying gifts?
He likes harry potter, lord of the rings, starwars, firefly, dr who etc if anyone has any ideas on what I could get him
A great blowjob with deepthroar and swallowing. That will make him happier than any gift.
>>17199496
Probably a bit personal but hes too thick to actually fit in my mouth. Jaw wont open wide enough.
Anyone else have any idea?
>>17199498
Anal
My friends were all talking about the boyfriends they had as teenagers and I'm really jealous. I wish I could have nice memories like that, all I remember is boys being forced to sit next to me and sexual frustration
How do I deal with this shitty feeling?
>>17199458
Lie. That's what they're doing.
>>17199458
Scars never heal, they only fade.
I'm in a similar situation, but it extends far beyond just boyfriends / girlfriends. I basically lived an entirely different life from all of my peers. I can't talk to anyone from high school without them mentioning names of kids who were known throughout the whole school who I never met or heard about. Everyone has favorite teachers, I don't remember any of them. Everyone talks about this summer trip or that party they went to. I spent my entire high school either:
>Getting bullied
or
>Hiding inside playing vidya
I have zero happy memories and relatively few memories at all. And it carries with you. In college you try to talk to someone interesting and they start prattling on about some sport they played or some community activity they were involved in and your heart sinks and you realize there's nothing interesting you can say about yourself. It will affect every relationship you will ever try to have and some nights it will hit you especially hard and you won't be able to get out of bed.
Time only marches forward. You can't "fix" your past. Once the rock is shattered, it will never be whole again. All you can do is wait and slowly the past hurts less and less.
>>17199458
>I wish I could have nice memories like that
This is going to sound sappy, but you need to be a kickass person now. And when you have attained some level of kickass (you never stop improving, grasshopper), you look back at all the shit that happened to you in live and you realize that you wouldn't be who you are without it, so you wouldn't change any of it.
Like, I doubt if you'd asked Chuck Colson about it he'd say he wished he hadn't gone to prison.
What can I do for my gf's birthday tomorrow given that we're on different continents right now? I'll buy her a present when we meet, but what can I do for tomorrow? We're both in our early 20s if it matters
>>17199457
Send her a clever or pretty animated e-card
send her flowers
>>17199457
There are plenty of delivery or catering services. You can have flowers delivered to her, have a cake delivered, etc.
I've got a idiopathic need for a semi-anonymous community. Somewhere that I can be recognized from one day to the next to establish relationships and carry one multi-day conversations, but where my identity is not tied to my offline persona so I can act how I wish or say what I want without it negatively impacting my real life or without social expectations from my real life driving my actions.
Where should one go to fulfill such a need? Options I've tried that aren't for me:
>4chan
The internet's hate machine does an amazing job at never forgetting a single mistake, even if it's just a perceived one. Say one thing that gets misinterpreted once and literally the rest of your life you can't post your identity without the thread derailing into a personal hate thread about you
>gaia
This place has become a mod-heavy SJW circle jerk. I used to post there when I was 13. I tried to go back recently and got a 3-day ban for literally asking someone to clarify their post.
For starters, the layout of the site makes this less of a community and more of a social tool. You're pigeon-holed into very specific topics and conversations are strictly single-threaded. I also found them to be worse than 4chan about getting really pissy. For some reason redditors think they have their own private playground and if someone new tries to join they instantly start judging them. If you don't pass the test, you're out.
>7cups
Literally no one logs into this site unless they're in a bad mood. You spend 8 hours trying to convince people not to kill themselves and 0 hours having enlightening conversation with peers.
>>17199400
Try writing this again, in English.
>>17199480
It was in our shared language, but maybe you need simpler words. I'll see if https://xkcd.com/simplewriter/ can help me.
I feel like I'm sick because I have a need for a place where people talk together but don't know each other. Somewhere that I can be recognized from one day to the next so I can remember who people are and carry on conversations for more than one day, but where who I am is not tied to who I am when not on the computer. This way I can act how I wish or say what I want without my real life friends or job getting mad or without what people think I should act like in real life driving my words.
Where should one go to find a place where people talk like this? I've tried a few places but they were not good for me:
>4chan
The computer hate machine does an good job at never forgetting a single bad thing you do, even if you didn't really do it but they think you did. If you say one thing that someone thinks you said another thing even one time then for the rest of your life you can't say who you are without everyone acting like it's a problem. It's not fun when people are mean.
>gaia
This place has a lot of people who tell you what to do and say. I used to talk there when I was 13. I tried to go back not too long ago and wasn't allowed to talk for 3 days because I asked someone to explain to me what they said when I didn't understand.
For starters, the way this place where people talk looks makes it less of a place to talk and more of a place to tell stories. You're forced to talk about a few things and can only talk to one person at a time. I also found them to be worse than 4chan about getting really mad. For some reason redditors think they have their own sand box and if someone new tries to join they quickly start to try and figure out if they like them. If they don't like you on the first day, you're out.
Simpler words are longer so I need to say more later.
>>17199499
>7cups
For real and not making things up, no one comes to this place to talk unless they're sad. You spend 8 hours trying to make people choose not to kill themselves and 0 hours having conversation where you share things and learn things with people like you.
I plan to move to a different US state that's over two thousand miles away.
Can anyone tell me if it's still illegal to sleep from your car? If not, how can I achieve it so I can save hundreds of dollars by not sleeping at hotels/motels?
Don't get me wrong I'd love to stay for a night at a hotel but some can be super expensive. The max I'm willing to pay is $75 per day/night.
Advice? Thoughts? Criticism?
>>17199379
What state? It's not really illegal to sleep in your car
Depends on the state. I know in some countries/states you're allowed to sleep in your car, but there are a lot of rules surrounding it,, e.g. Can't sleep near a primary school, denizens of the street can call the cops on you if they want, etc. You could try sleeping in a mall carpark (24hr carpark), they're usually pretty good.
>>17199386
it is however illegal to trespass on private property (which many parking lots are), and many cities will write you citations for doing it in residentials.
Here's a website that lists safe places for RV campers to park overnight
http://www.allstays.com/c/camping-overnight-rv-parking.htm
