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How do you spend your day? Please list every activity, as I was raised by wolves and thus don't know how people outside TV shows actually live.
>>17199806
TV and Videogames. And then trying to work up the courage to kill myself.
>>17199806
Work, Tv, video games, lifting, and sleeping.
>>17199806
You're asking on 4chan, so you won't get wholly normal answers. But here's some of my general schedules:
Monday through Friday:
>Wake up at 6am, hit snooze
>Wake up at 7am, hit snooze
>Wake up at 8am in a panic, jump out of bed, strip naked, hop in the shower
>Shower for 5 minutes, brush teeth, throw on clothes, run to work
>Stare a computer...
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Is it possible to feel a strong sense of love for a man without any sexual attraction?
Is it still gay?
It's weird, cause I have this strong sense of kinship for my best friend, but neither of us is gay. In his case, he's slept with over 200 women, and while I haven't slept with THAT many, I don't feel myself attracted by men either, nor gay porm or any of the like. In fact, gay porn, yaoi, and the idea of gay sex are a huge sexual turnoff for me. Like, I wouldn't have a problem with coming out and saying I'm bi personally, since women...
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>>17199740
You've found a bro for life. Enjoy your lives together. Get wives. Have each others families over for BBQs. Watch your kids grow up together. etc. etc.
>>17199740
<3 so beautiful, post pics so I can make yaoi
>>17199757
...women
i don't know much about computer gaming, and Insurgency looks awesome. My pc will run it?
ATI Mobility Radeon HD 5650
Intel(R) Core(TM) i5 CPU M 430 @ 2.27GHz
RAM RAM
Minimum: 4 GB
You Have: 4.0 GB
thx m8s
>>17199703
It's like 2 dollars on steam sale, why does it matter
>>17199708 cause i need to borrow the money
>>17199722
You got bigger problems then. Work more, game less
Hi adv,
I am on the verge of breaking up with my girlfriend, I have just had enough.
After her leaving college she made no attempt to get a job for 3 months, so I forced her to interview for a position at my work after asking her for months, she asked to move in with me and I agreed and started the job. While living with me she made NO attempt at helping to pay for anything or to do chores, after 2 months she was lay-off from work. After being lay-off she hasn't attempted to get a job again or apply anywhere, when I got home from work she would be just getting...
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Just break it off. Think about how amazing it'll be with a better girlfriend in the future.
It'll hurt for a little while, but you'll be fine in a few weeks.
Shes either depressed or just a neet. If you don't like the thought of being in a relationship with someone like that get out NOW before shit goes any further.
>>17199674
>I am on the verge of breaking up with my girlfriend, I have just had enough.
Leave her. But I'll finish reading your post, promise.
How do I convince my boyfriend to let me eat the booty like groseries?
He says itd make him gay but I love eating ass (clean of course)
Tell him you like to feel like a dirty girl sometimes? Have you seriously found a guy that wont let you eat his ass? Jesus. And here I am wishing more girls were keen for it...
>>17199681
I've done it with 2 others but neither were long term things. Been with my boyfriend for nearly a year now and I really want him to at least try it :/
>>17199694
I'm Bi so I've had the pleasure of giving and receiving with both sexes. Maybe just start with blowing him while he lies on his back, move down to his balls then taint etc. Then see if you can talk him into a shower before bed so you can go the whole distance. Once he feels and sees you getting into it hell be yours.
So about a month ago i started talking to my ex again after like a year, now she has a bf. One night I texted her and she said it's not good text her and that she's fine with us talking in person.
Is she already cheating?
Fucking what?
So she's your ex
And she said it's not ok to text her but talking is fine?
How is she cheating
>>17199828
it's because she texts me. it's like she's sneaking behind her bf's back
>>17199974
She's your ex why would you give a fuck if she's cheating
This is probably not gonna make any sense, I just need to get this off my chest.
I'm ugly as fuck, and was bullied in elementary school. Then I went to technical high school, which meant no girls. Then I went to technical university, which meant very little amount of girls.
I'm 23 now, and I lack social skills to talk with girls and shit. When I talk to a random girl, all I can talk about is school or work (because everyone does either one of those, and I kinda enjoy and am knowledgeable about both). I'd say I'm fairly intelligent, and I can...
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>>17199647
There really needs to a be a megathread that deals in this kind of 23+ social retardedness.
And no OP, I've never seen anyone successfully escape this situation, it just gets worse and worse. And I'm talking about sociability as a whole and not the just "no gf" part.
Ask about them then use your knowledge to ask more specifics about them. Have they travelled? Do they want to travel? Where? Why? Replace travel with anything you pick up from them at first glance. Did you meet them at the gym? A social event? etc. Ask a girl about her and then give opinions of your own about their ideas.
>>17199672
Sounds good. My problem probably is the low selfesteem, seems like I could do this shit, if I decided to approach the girl first.
Like more weeaboo/more into anime, more introverted, etc
Is this bait or are you retarded?
>>17199539
Are you bait or is this retarded ?
>>17199539
I know /cgl/ contains more sociable people due to the fact it's inherent in the subject.
1) Bitch say she wanna grow old holding my hand
2) I say yes
3) Slave away for years to get schooling, house, moving in, marry, build business, etc
4) Accident happens
5) Bitch sees potential gains dwindled
6) One day open door: "Honey, I'm home!" but no bitch anywhere
7) Get text from her saying: "Don't look for me, I already have life partner"
8) I think: "Yes, I know... I am him"
Find her with ex
See her in street... pretend doesn't know who I am
Repeat 1-8 with ex
Find high paying job guy
Repeat...
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if this is true, and not bait. what she did was pretty fucking evil. i understand sometimes the flame of a relationships dies out and feelings go but she could of at least sat down with you and said she wants to end the relationship. personally, if a girl done this to me, i would kill her and hop to jail.
>>17199492
>sometimes the flame of a relationships dies out
It was not really the flame dying out, anon... it was an accident of losing my main business supplier and having to spend almost six months working like a slave to keep our home finances stable forcing me to spend less hours a day with her... therefore giving her leeway to fall on some other guy's hands.
>>17199528
that probably makes it even worse because you where struggling to keep you and her stable. i dont know what it is with some people who constantly need attention off others, why cant they just get a hobby.
/adv/, why do I feel self-conscious and embarrassed when my family tries to encourage me on anything?
For instance, I kind of want to start going running in the early mornings (5-6am, when it just starts to get light out) in the field behind the house we rent, but I just know that if anyone caught me doing anything that blatantly healthy they would say nice things or something when I'd really rather they just ignore it.
My psychiatrist and both the pdocs I see at the place I get ECT at all really want me to exercise -- my BMI is 22.6, so I'm not exactly...
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>>17199482
I'll give you a reply, only because I know how painful it is to seek advice and find nothing but crickets. Unfortunately I can't give you advice. I lack any experience in this field.
My best guess, although it's strictly a guess, is that it's a fear of having to keep up appearances. If you're complimented for your new running habit then you fear that you'll be rejected if you ever stop running in the mornings. It makes you feel trapped by social obligations and so you lose the...
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>>17199482
For me, it's because I know I'm a quitter and I'd rather people see me start less things so that they see me give up less things. If this applies to you, my advice is to tell people regardless of how you feel, because this cycle is what is killing me. If you make quitting guilt-free, it's going to happen.
Why would not want encouragement on healthy habits? I'd take that over being laughed at and being made to feel guilty about it any day.
Im looking for advice on what I can buy my boyfriend for his birthday thats coming up.
He's very difficult to shop for and refuses to help me or give me ideas on something he would like.
I have asked multiple times and he just says 'nope you find something, better be good" in a teasing way but still refuses to help.
He doesnt like novelty stuff like starwars pens etc.
I'm honestly stumped. I cant buy Cologne for him because if he doesnt like it he wont wear it, cant buy clothes because if the material isnt right he wont wear it.
Does anyone...
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A great blowjob with deepthroar and swallowing. That will make him happier than any gift.
>>17199496
Probably a bit personal but hes too thick to actually fit in my mouth. Jaw wont open wide enough.
Anyone else have any idea?
>>17199498
Anal
My friends were all talking about the boyfriends they had as teenagers and I'm really jealous. I wish I could have nice memories like that, all I remember is boys being forced to sit next to me and sexual frustration
How do I deal with this shitty feeling?
>>17199458
Lie. That's what they're doing.
>>17199458
Scars never heal, they only fade.
I'm in a similar situation, but it extends far beyond just boyfriends / girlfriends. I basically lived an entirely different life from all of my peers. I can't talk to anyone from high school without them mentioning names of kids who were known throughout the whole school who I never met or heard about. Everyone has favorite teachers, I don't remember any of them. Everyone talks about this summer trip or that party they went to. I spent my entire high school...
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>>17199458
>I wish I could have nice memories like that
This is going to sound sappy, but you need to be a kickass person now. And when you have attained some level of kickass (you never stop improving, grasshopper), you look back at all the shit that happened to you in live and you realize that you wouldn't be who you are without it, so you wouldn't change any of it.
Like, I doubt if you'd asked Chuck Colson about it he'd say he wished he hadn't gone to prison.
What can I do for my gf's birthday tomorrow given that we're on different continents right now? I'll buy her a present when we meet, but what can I do for tomorrow? We're both in our early 20s if it matters
>>17199457
Send her a clever or pretty animated e-card
send her flowers
>>17199457
There are plenty of delivery or catering services. You can have flowers delivered to her, have a cake delivered, etc.
I've got a idiopathic need for a semi-anonymous community. Somewhere that I can be recognized from one day to the next to establish relationships and carry one multi-day conversations, but where my identity is not tied to my offline persona so I can act how I wish or say what I want without it negatively impacting my real life or without social expectations from my real life driving my actions.
Where should one go to fulfill such a need? Options I've tried that aren't for me:
>4chan
The internet's hate machine...
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>>17199400
Try writing this again, in English.
>>17199480
It was in our shared language, but maybe you need simpler words. I'll see if https://xkcd.com/simplewriter/ can help me.
I feel like I'm sick because I have a need for a place where people talk together but don't know each other. Somewhere that I can be recognized from one day to the next so I can remember who people are and carry on conversations for more than one day, but where who I am is not tied to who I am when not on the computer. This way I can act how I wish or say what I want without...
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>>17199499
>7cups
For real and not making things up, no one comes to this place to talk unless they're sad. You spend 8 hours trying to make people choose not to kill themselves and 0 hours having conversation where you share things and learn things with people like you.
I plan to move to a different US state that's over two thousand miles away.
Can anyone tell me if it's still illegal to sleep from your car? If not, how can I achieve it so I can save hundreds of dollars by not sleeping at hotels/motels?
Don't get me wrong I'd love to stay for a night at a hotel but some can be super expensive. The max I'm willing to pay is $75 per day/night.
Advice? Thoughts? Criticism?
>>17199379
What state? It's not really illegal to sleep in your car
Depends on the state. I know in some countries/states you're allowed to sleep in your car, but there are a lot of rules surrounding it,, e.g. Can't sleep near a primary school, denizens of the street can call the cops on you if they want, etc. You could try sleeping in a mall carpark (24hr carpark), they're usually pretty good.
>>17199386
it is however illegal to trespass on private property (which many parking lots are), and many cities will write you citations for doing it in residentials.
Here's a website that lists safe places for RV campers to park overnight
http://www.allstays.com/c/camping-overnight-rv-parking.htm
