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>catch a cold
>home sick
>usually drinking tea helps me breathe
>not today
what do you do to breathe when you ahve a cold? this is suffering.
please no 'WELL GOOGLE SAYS'
what worked specifically for you only please.
Lemon water usually clears mucus, but if it's an issue with your lungs, it' an issue with your lungs and there isn't much that's going to help that.
Depending on whether your asthmatic, you could go to a doctor and get nebulized if it's posing a significant issue. Otherwise, just treating the root cause will lighten the symptoms.
>>17254776
Steam, vaporub, tiger balm around the nose.
>>17254787
thanks. makes sense, i take a lot of showers cuz of the steam. just bought a humidifier and hope it helps.
I don't know what the hell is going on but I need advice- whenever I have something im looking forward to coming up. I get sick to my stomach. Whenever I fly, I get sick before getting on the plane, before i go play paintball I get sick before the game starts, when I hang out with girls, I get sick. It's really pissing me off!!! I don't know why this happens and it's driving me crazy!!
The last time I flew, I felt absolutely fine all morning. But like 20min before the flight I get really sick and went and threw up in the airport bathroom. I almost missed my flight. I'm NOT scared of flying. I like flying, it's nothing new to me. I fly pretty often. Yet for some fucking reason I can't explain. I get sick before I board the plane. it doesn't make any sense.
Everytime I go play paintball I get sick to my gut before the game starts. And paintball is one of my favorite activities..
girls... Jesus Christ it's hell. Last time I met a girl. I was impressed with myself because I was feeling ok at first when we met up. And everything was going great. Then we went and got lunch.... I embarrassed the fuck out of myself. I couldn't eat anything. Literally, I couldn't even force food down. I'd take a SMALL bite of pasta and I wouldn't be able to swallow it. It felt like there was a wall in my throat preventing it. So I'd actually have to fucking force it down. Painfully. I actually started choking a bit. She asked if I was ok I said yes. Then 10min later I went to the bathroom and threw up and emptied my bowles into the toilet. SHE ended up finishing my plate (she's a fit girl too, but she could put food away) and I was so fucking embarrassed. I still am from that. but that same thing has happened before too.
Help me. I don't understand why this happens to me when I try to do good things
Bro it sounds like you're getting anxiety.
What you have explained is pretty much how it started for me as well, except instead of flying it was trains.
Most cases of anxiety start because of an underlying reason , but there are many people like myself where it just starts out of the blue for no reason, and that is half the problem, when you look for an answer and find nothing, it sends you into a massive overthinking stage where you question everything.
I tried breathing techniques, talking to my family, doctors, every drug you can think of, nothing really fixes it, but you can reduce the severity of it with some meds.
>>17254696
I just don't want to take medication. I don't understand why I get like this. It makes me nervous because I have 2 vacations coming up. And I don't want to be sick the whole time. One of my flights is First Class. I want to be able to enjoy it all
>>17254689
This is a very common syndrome - in little kids. I'm not putting you down. I'm pointing out that little kids, without what might be called speed-control on their emotions, very often get so excited about upcoming events that they become over-excited and ill.
As we grow up, most of us develop a sense of "This is exciting but not all that exciting" that enables us to handle most things. (But not all - I'd love to see the statistics for brides who throw up the morning of their wedding).
You need help in reminding yourself "This is exciting and it is normal for me to be excited. But it is within my familiar experience of excitement and therefore not overwhelming." A mild tranquilizer before you fly might do it, or a session of just sitting alone and reminding yourself "I've been paintballing before. It will be fun but nothing I can't handle".
If this affects too many different things, a short course in therapy - not deep analysis but just fix-this-problem counseling - might be worth it.
Anyone else had a problem with dust in their room? Even if I polish every object and vacuum, the dust will return quickly. I don't have a carpet or drapes, no clothes lying around, I just have a bed. Is there no other way to prevent it other than dusting every 2 days?
>>17254688
Do you have a fan or vents in your room?
>>17254694
No but I leave the windows open all day. If I don't it gets really, really hot.
>>17254697
Where do you live? Is your region heavy with pollen or other allergens? Your window might be letting that sort of thing in.
Hi /adv/, I really need help. I just recently turned 18 y/o, I'm living with a shit mother who verbally abuses me, pushes me down and put her weight on my shoulders. She's not working, she hasn't been for as long as I remember and she gets support from something called the Norwegian Labour and Welfare Administration, and constantly complains.
What I need help with is that, I can't live under the same roof as her. I can't contront her because her shitty excuse of a boyfriend will jump in to defend her. And my grandparents wont help either.
I'm still in school, and I wont get a loan if I live to close to my mom. I've applied for jobs but still no luck. It's all just going to hell. I need some help.
Any friends you can stay with? Do you have a car? The first step is to really focus and get s job. In the meantime, spend as much time as possible away from your house. Stay at school for as long as you can, hang out with your friends, go camping, go to the library. Get a girlfriend who has a car. As soon as you get a job, save up all your money and get a cheap used car.
>>17254686
I try to spend most of my days out and with my boyfriend/friends. Sadly don't have a license yet either.. i just want to get the fuck out of here
Are you in hs? How old are you?
Hi, i find myself in a terrible situation. I work as a private teacher, and now that school ended i haveno salary. My father is unemployed since his copany closed 5 years ago. we counted on my mother salary, that is tearing herself apart in a 9 hours job. I made a living out o f little translations job, but the situation of my family just worsened with a letter form our landlords. they completely blocked my mother's salary, set to zero her bank account and suddently we don't even know how to boy dinner.
i had to write it down to aknowledge the situation. How can we get out of this? I'm so worried we will get throwned in the street.
Please, share something that might help us feel better. Has somone of you got out of this situation? How? please give me hope.
>>17254669
In which country do you live? Between which languages do you translate?
>>17254669
If you have the skills to translate and tutor, you have the skills for any basic office job. Or you can find kids (or more likely parents) looking for summer tutors. Or you can contact some of the places you have translated for before and ask if they have any work for you. Or you can call your local welfare or dole or emergency services or whatever it is called to get government aid. Or your father can get off his ass and find a job. Or any of a dozen other obvious things.
>>17254675
Italy. I'm getting a languages degree in October, I can translate from and to English and Spanish. I can speak french, too, but not enough to translate professionally. I have experience as a model and I used to be an anchorwoman for a music program and a sports program in a local tv. yes, I have a pretty decent cv, I even thought I would be famous someday. but the fact is I live in a small town because my mother's job is here. she will have to work for free until we pay our debts, so we can't move, and I don't even have the money to buy a train ticket because I aready used all my savings.
so I fucked my ex for a good two hours last night and today I tried to have sex again and she said no because she's worn out and it'll make her pussy look loose (my dick is only 8 inches) and she has a bf btw
is she full of shit???
>>17254668
I was literally eating her pussy and she started crying and I was forced to stop I'm so fucking angry
>only 8 inches
>only
You are full of shit
Go for the butt then
How do you deal with being irredeemably ugly?
And I don't mean like ungroomed, kinda fat or not having fasion sense. I'm talking legit even-my-mama-won't-call-me-pretty -ugly.
Focus on doing things that make you happy! I remember having a lot of friends who were horrifically ugly, one guy in particular I remember in high school. He was Muslim, super duper skinny, horrible hair, bad skin, patchy facial hair, lazy dresser, and a lazy eye. But he was really cool, always really nice and he had a lot of friends. He always shared snacks with me and had the best jokes. If you're generally a happy and friendly person, I think you'll find being ugly isn't the worst thing in the world. You could be me, a girl with a nice face but 5' 5" and 207lbs. Being a fat girl is worse than being an ugly one.
>>17254671
I'm also clinically depressed and suicidal about 40% of the time.
>>17254665
If your personality is good, and ure funny, nobody will care how you look. Legit guy who looks MAX 3/10 got a wife 7/10. Just cause hes funny, hes not even earning decent money. Also Ive dated a guy 2/10 not kidding... at all..I guess Im 6/10 myself. And I felt close to him cause he made me smile and we had a lot of stuff in common. So It doesnt really how you look, unless you want to date very wain girl/guy. Looks fade my dear. ALSO look how many hot celebrities looked SO BAD in theyr teens and 20's, in theyr 30-40's theyre hot bombs! So maybe you will mature, and show it
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Books like how to win friends and influence people, infographs, advice greentexts, life advice this is where to dump ot.
So I've talked about situations with this person before but it's still hard to go through. I know the common answer is to move on, but in the conversation could I have done better? I felt like we weren't understanding each other completely and I gets cut short.
Having someone I felt close to, do this again pretty much kills me. She 's not the first friend to do this and the people I talk to are always saying it's more on them but I think it's on me seeing how common this has come to in life. I did have very poor social skills when growing up so I always like to think of friends first but still, being almost 20, I think I should've gotten past this by now.
Getting past writing unnecessary long letters to people who reject you has nothing to do with age, son.
You either stop or you don't.
To answer you question, yes, you could have done better by just replying "alright, no worries", but it doesn't really matter.
The only way to change someone's mind about you is to change yourself, and go no contact until you have better game.
Your M I guess?
>>17254726
Yup
I'm a quiet person but lately I've been wondering if I'm too quiet. I'll try to start conversations but they never last since I run out of things to talk about. Doesn't really matter who I'm with I don't say much.
Recently, I was diagnosed with avoidant personality disorder but I'm not sure I agree with this doctor. I've already met with numerous (7) psychiatrists, psychologists, counsellors, and therapists and only 1 has briefly mentioned the possibility of aspergers.
I should also mention I smoke weed and I've tried acid before.
What do you try to talk about?
Maybe consider telling someone what you are passionate about (even if it is an autistic hobby) and gauge their interest. If they see you are excited about it they may become interested and add something tangentially related.
Just be wary of being annoying about it.
>>17254647
Oh shit. You seem like me.
I definitely see the stretch of silence as an issue, because it has undermined my ability to connect with people on multiple occasions.
Personally I don't think I have any real mental health issues, but I've also never been evaluated by a psychologist.
I've been taking it upon myself to deal with it. Sort of like self coaching.
>>17254700
Not that anon, but to add on a point. When you talk about hobbies try to not get too technical about the hobby itself. Instead talk about what and why that hobby excites you, or how you started that hobby.
Doing anal with a grill. How long will one of the small bottle of lube last? never used one before.
>>17254640
Is it a new grill? If there's any rust on it you may have to use the whole bottle in one evening.
>>17254646
This grill hasn't been used before.
>>17254640
Just make sure you take the hamburgers off first.
How do you get good sex you might actually like if you're ugly and have no social skills?
Hook up with someone equally ugly and antisocial. Do it with the lights off.
>>17254604
Get better social skills, dress better, go to the gym, eat better and develop interests to become, shock-horror, interesting.
People always want to fuck if you're interesting/clever. I'm sure there are gaggles of bitches lining up for some of that Stephen Hawking dick.
>>17254605
How do you ensure that a guy is merely unsocial and not violently insane?
>>17254607
I'm human-sized and in shape, my clothes are whole and clean, I almost speak 3 languages and know a lot of pointless random shit.
What do you have to look like for someone to be actually motivated to make you orgasm?
What are some hobbies and passions that are attractive to have? You know, like when people ask you what you like to do.
Because in my case, I make indie games but I'd be unconfortable sharing that with people irl. I'm learning some musical instrument but not nearly good enough yet. I like writing stories but I never finish anything. I like drawing but I haven't drawn anything in a long while. I like watching movies but that doesn't count I guess.
>>17254585
>looking for hobbies to impress other people
That defeats the purpose, silly anon. Some people might not like indie game designers, but nobody likes a poser.
>>17254585
I compose music and read cards because I enjoy it. What others think of my hobbies is completely irrelevant to me.
Just do what you like; that's the point of hobbies.
I like men to be a good combo of manly and nerdy/artistic. You've got the nerdy/artistic thing down, but what else do you do? I think it's very attractive when a man knows how to work on cars, fix things around the house, or has a job that requires coveralls and hard hats. Kind of like most guys like girls who are nerdy/outdoorsy, but also can be feminine and cook.
so I already have an electrical engineering degree with computer engineering concentration
couldn't find work as an entry level engineer after almost a year of looking
so currently I'm a technician but I've gotten job offer for an entry level IT position in one company and First Article inspection at another,
so i'm wondering what path I should take
should I stay in my current job as technician and try to work my way up in the company through there even though im not learning any new skills there and is basically like assembling legos with the occasional multi meter measurement here and there
or
should I take the FAI or IT job try to work my way to an engineer that way?
>>17254557
Take the FAI job, you'll be familiarizing yourself with relevant process, documentation, and industry standard all at once. The experience will be much more valuable than an IT position. You know how an FAI works right?
>>17254577
Vaguely from what the interviewer said
Just making sure certain parts documentation is formated correctly and uses testing from approved sources
>>17254704
So, I work for an aircraft supplier, but for us, an FAI is essentially proof to the customer that the process we are proposing can produce valid product. I'm going to go through how we do it because the way you describe it sounds a little different.
First, configuration engineering looks at the drawing/part model and in the FAI package and outlines every criteria that is relevant to the part. Usually this means combing the drawing for any notes that call for criteria governed by product specs; and calling out general requirements like dimensions, surface finish, materials, etc. From this, we generate an inspection checklist and manufacturing procedure that will be used later by DQR, a customer representative, to validate the product. Process engineering follows the WIP to ensure everything is done correctly up to inspection. The DQR will inspect, and is usually assisted by configuration, process, and quality engineering, and either approves or disapproves the product. If the product is rejected, engineering will find the problem and fix it and we try again. If the product is approved, the FAI is recorded, proof given to the customer, and we begin production.
It sounds like you'll be filling the role of DQR essentially, so you'll be responsible for knowing every specification thay governs your part. If you have a degree, the natural progression from this is to go to engineering. Even if you don't I'd expect that performing well could maybe see you going to quality engineering but it's unlikely. A decade ago people were much more likely to get promoted to engineering without a degree but now not so much I think.
I dropped a friend 3 days ago. I cared about her very much, but the relationship was poison for me.
I used to talk to her every day. Now I don't, and I don't feel bad about it. I just feel guilty for not feeling bad.
I may end up seeing her in a few days, but I think I'll try to just ignore her.
Any advice to keep myself from thinking about her or how to distance myself. Last time I did this the friend moved overseas for 10 months. made it tons easier to do.
Imagine she is a part of your imagination and doesn't exist. In her body there is her twin sister/alien.
It helped.
The ignoring part was horrible mistake tho
>>17254543
>The ignoring part was a horrible mistake tho
What do you mean by that?
>>17254560
It was in my case, keep in mind that your actions have consequences.
Though i cut out a different toxic friend and it feels awesome, we had no mutual friends or real connection.
