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I have visited both of these countries and want to get out of my current one and would like to move to one of them. I like them equally as much although in some different aspects. Which one should I go to?
Germany 10/10.
I hope I dont have to explain why.
Idk how do you plan getting a citizenship?
Are you from 3rd world country by the way?
Somehow 1 of my parents are from each
Poland
hi /adv/...
i need your help here especially from people who did self cutting or dealt with loving ones that did self harm
ive been with my gf since senior year of high school now that's 3 years now and because of life we went to different unis soo its been distance relationship for 2 years when i meet her after a couple of months being together i saw some scars on my gf's thighs it was surprising coz i never knew she did that shit and never heard about it i managed to make her stop cutting herself.
she did that without a reason her family is good with her,she has no social life problems, i never hurt her and her weight looks are all great. but now she started cutting again without no reason at all i ask her why do you cut yourself
she just replies i dont know.
im pretty sure she doesn't do that for attention coz she always cut her thighs and always hid the scars and she's ashamed of the scars no body knows that she cuts herself she never told anyone about it not even me even i found out myself.
soo i ask you people who had similar problems please help me out here
pic related
sorry for the graphics
i just wanted you all see what im dealing with
the thing about cutting is that at least for me, it's something i'm deeply frustrated and troubled about that i simply can't express. i'm 31 and i cut this year because of my marriage troubles. i don't have anyone to talk to and talking to spouse just results in an escalated fight that i don't have the energy for.
if everything seems "okay" and she's cutting, then it's obviously not okay. she's putting up a front and expressing her frustration in secret.
just talk to her about it and make her feel supported but without pressure. don't make her problems about you.
>>17257458
thanks anon.
it's really frustrating, i wish i could help. I'll try my best to figure out this mysterious problem she has.
what really bothers me is that we are not close to each other, i dont know about her daily life.
so what are you saying is that only big problems makes you think of cutting again or just small daily issues can do that too?
Did I accidentally lead on a girl?
>Asked for her Snapchat
>Flirted for a few weeks
>Stoppped for 3 weeks
>asked for her number
>Texted her for a day
>Stopped
Supposedly she's really into me and I had a crush on her a year ago. Am I fucked? Highschool just ended and I really want to salvage this. Bout to get drunk and tell her "I had a huge crush on you during chemistry class" or something corny along those lines. What do
If you had a crush, and it's still latent, why are you "accidentally" leading her?
>>17257407
Never really made a move.
Send her a corny text. I'd fall for it if I liked you.
Unemployed and have been looking for work for almost half a year...
Been applying for retail and drafting and getting rejections left right and center. Everyday it hits my confidence and enthusiasm.
Any advice? Tips?
Is relocating to an area that has more available jobs that you are trained for out of the question?
>>17257328
Is it a problem with the interview?
>>17257333
That's what I did though haha
> Be History/English Student (want to become a teacher)
> Hate it after just one year of University
> Decide to apply for an apprenticeship at a bank
> Get invited to interviews at two banks
Alright now here is where shit gets stupid.
One of the banks is expecting me to prepare a presentation for the interview.
Its supposed to either be a powerpoint presentation or just a poster - covering three tasks/questions.
> Whats important to know about me (+ some details from my biography)
> What makes me suited for the job
> Presentation of a product (including a slogan)
All of that in no more than THREE MINUTES.
Honestly I'm at a total loss here.
I got no idea how I would fit all of that into a three minute presentation - aside from not knowing what product I'd even like to present (they wrote I can present just about anything).
Is this supposed to be a trick where they give people a task that is not really do-able and they just want to see how little you fuck up?
Nope. That is do-able in 3 minutes. They're testing how well you can isolate important information and deliver it clearly and concisely without any fluff.
That seems reasonable. It's just a very low amount of bullet points. Consider it an exercise in filtering out less valuable information.
>>17257317
Seems doable. 1 minute on yourself and why you suit the job, 2 minutes on the pitch. Be succinct, no fluff.
Anybody made the decision to switch degrees midway through?
I'm currently 1.5 years into my CS degree, and quite frankly I hate it. I originally went in with the mindset of "I like computers, computer science sounds good", but it's been the opposite.
I see a lot of my class mates seem to live and breathe the subject whereas I couldn't care less, completing the work purely because I have to.
I'm considering switching into a biology focused Science degree, as it's a subject i've always been passionate about. But feel like a huge faggot doing it so late into my current degree.
Better leave it now, that in 1 year
>>17257308
I did it. I've actually changed degrees twitch. No regrets. The earlier you get out of it, the better. Might be able to get some credits too, so it won't be a major waste of time.
>>17257358
*twice
Ok i havd weird sexual fantasies and im wondering if women, any women, are willing to try them.
>>want to eat a1 steak sauce out of a vagina
>>want a girl to play "horsey" with me: pretend shes a horse as i bang her doggie style and go "neigh! neigh!" out loud.
>> Want a women to "make" me hold a glass under her vagina while she pees it it make me drink the glass
Cure yourself.
>>17257295
Why would you say im beta?
>>17257293
What the hell anon?? Why would you wanna do this shit? Are you a virgin who has watched too much fucked up weird ass porn?
Kindergarden teacher has told my son he can't bring a hard boiled egg and herb salt for a snack because it's unhealthy. Wtf it the problem with this lady? Or have i missed some breaktrough scientific discovery that eggs will cause incurable diseases?
What does she think is a 'healthy' snack then? The only objection I could think of is that some other kid has an egg allergy, but there's nothing unhealthy about eggs otherwise.
>>17257285
An egg is an incredibly healthy snack and more kids should be eating them.
Go into the school and tell her to fuck off one way or another.
Hahahahahha
Life in America folks.
so I've been going out with my gf for just over 6 months now and I've got some things that are tearing me up a little inside.
when we first started to know each other it was through a mutual friend, he knew he and her friend through his church, and we started hanging out over the next few months. My initial impressions of her were that she was an innocent church girl, and I knew she had a bf before me so she's maybe had sex at least one guy. We started dating and about a week later she tells me she's slept with 3 guys before.
obviously this wasn't an issue for me, but then I also found out another few weeks later that I'm the shortest guy she's dated and all of her ex's were all around 6'4.
we started having sex a few weeks into the relationship and I always thought something was off when we were doing it, even though she was the first girl I've been with. she would try certain things where I would barely be long enough to reach, or I would slip out often while she's trying to ride me. for the record I'm 6" long and I pass the toilet paper roll test so I've never thought I'd have a major issue with my size.
I'm certain at this point that almost every ex of hers has had a huge dick, and I'm the smallest she's been with.
I know you're going to bitch about this being a juvenile issue, but imagine how it feels going into a relationship with a girl thinking she's the innocent church girl then it turns out she will literally date guys just because they have a big dick. also imagine that you are on the top end of average penis size and now your girlfriend has the idea that you have a small penis because she's only been with guys that are huge.
the worst part for me is that I just don't think I do it for her during sex. it seems more like she's treating it as her job to have sex with me rather than doing something she enjoys as well. I'm even able to go an hour without cumming, and she still can't get off from that.
If all you're doing is penetrative sex and expecting her to get off from it, that's the real problem, not the size of your dick anon. You have a mouth, a tongue, and presumably some fingers. Use everything in your arsenal. If those fail, there are literally tons of toys and vibes and shit to chose from to aid you in getting this church skank off.
Why the hell do you consider 6" short?
>>17257272
The old whore was right, anon: "it's not what you got, it's what you do with it."
Few women get off on penetration only. Try asking your gf what works for her, she's the more experienced one here
Hey /adv/ there's this really beautiful, cute and shy girl that looks similar to pic related usually hanging around in the college library or around campus.
How can I make a move on her without looking like some creep or desperate person. She has her own social circles and I have my own and I just don't know how you can join another circle just like that.
We don't have any subjects together and one time I entered the library we made brief eye contact when she was sat by herself and she immediately looked down when we did and I looked the other way as well.
This is the second girl that's given me these feelings, I don't know if I'm in love or not but the other day I had a dream about her too. I got shot down when I asked the first girl I ever had a crush on and after that my body and mind just shut down all feelings of love.
>>17257258
Look at her and smile. If she looks away, throw a book at her to get her attention. If she smiles back, approach
>>17257258
Follow her around for a day.
Find out all you can about.
Study her movements.
What she reads in the library, eats for dinner, paths she walks, the stairs she uses, the loo she visits.
Look for a pattern in her daily routine.
Find those moments in her day that she is alone and when she hasn't got anyone waiting for her.
Make you move.
Protip you can destroy dna with soapy salt water.
>>17257258
theres no non-creepy way to express interest in a random stranger, next time you see her in the library walk up to her and say hey I think you dropped this and hand her a folded up piece of paper with your number on it. she'll call you back or she wont, but you tried
So, I have a female friend who I'm very close to and I'm really not sure if I have a chance with her.
>She considers me her best friend
>We were in a non-physical long distance relationship with each other a couple of years ago, but we've both changed a lot since then
>I ended the earlier relationship with her, not her
>I haven't dated anyone else since, however she has
>A friend told her that I had feelings for her and she temporarily avoided me
>When she stopped avoiding me, she said she couldn't stay away from me
>One night she told me that she had romantic feelings for me, but the next day she downplayed it
>She said that she would consider dating me again but wouldn't consider dating her ex who she broke up with six months ago
>>17257254
So, purely curious, how old are you?
>>17257254
If she said she had romantic feelings for you than she's into you, doesn't matter that she downplayed it. You have a chance. Go for it OP.
>girl said she liked me
>a-am i being friendzoned?
Oh... my... god.
>starting talking to a girl in class
>not really attractive, but cute and understands my shitty ironic humour
>after some talking realize she's not really for me
>shes really into me
Can someone help me with this? I'm going away for four days and was wondering what I can text her to say that she's cool, but I don't want a relationship with her? Any other advice? I don't want to make her sad.
>>17257253
Just keep talking to her (if you enjoy it) but don't make any moves. She'll get the idea.
>>17257253
Texting is the cowards way out.
>>17257253
Has she asked you out? Unless she's asked you out, just don't say anything. You might even be wrong about her being into you.
>mfw been whoring through out Asia for years
>suddenly one of the Japanese I've fucked on the regular bareback has found and added me on Facebook
>eight months after I last fucked her, she is heavily pregnant
FUCK FUCK FUCK
I thought she was on the pill. What the fuck do I do now? I'm not ready to be a baby daddy :(
>>17257249
you suffer the consequences of your actions.
gg no reeeeeee
Did you use a condom? Never trust if a girl says she's on birth control. Use that condom!
>>17257249
How can you tell?
They all look the same?
>Met awesome girl a few weeks ago
>Great Dates
>Amazing Sex
>She sleeps at my place on Friday
>I sleep at hers on Sunday
>We wake up together like a couple on Monday
>Go to work
>She tells me it was great but just too short and we make plans for the next weekend/possibly thursday
>She stops responding to my messages for 2 days
>See that she reads them cause shes constantly online in WhatsApp
>Changes her status to "If Life gives you a lemon ask for tequila & salt"
Hope im not the lemon
>>17257238
>She tells me it was great but just too short
Is that in reference to:
The amount of time you spend together?
How long you last in bed?
Your hight?
Your dick length?
>>17257244
The amount of time we spend together .. cause we didnt sleep that much
my dick is big enough .. she came twice!!
im also 6'1 king of manlets almost lanklet tier
It was an ons ya dingus. She might want to give you a bootycall from time to time so she keeps you warm. Stay tuned for more pussy but don't get the feels
I've got a weird "fetish". I get a strong sense of accomplishement and some satisfaction from being able to get someone EXTREMELY horny and give them mindblowing orgasms.
That's all good, but the problem is, it's all i'm interested in when it comes to sex. And it doesn't even arouse me that much. I get more of an "aloof" feeling from it.
The problem with that is that practically all i do is "putting on an act" in order to get my partner as aroused as possible. I love that powerfull feeling when i know that i can now make them cum whenever i want. The right touch or move, word or whatever and they're "mine".
It's not good. I almost never reach orgasm when having sex. And i lack that bond. I just want to have normal sex, where i enjoy the physical sensations of a tongue on my clit or a cock inside me. Where a mouth or a hand can make me tremble with excitement.
How do i reset my mental deathgrip?
Basically, i have sex only for the validation and attention. It doesn't "get me off" and i hate that it is that way. I think i do that because i my selfesteem is extremely low. I feel desireable, wanted and needed when i do that. How do i get sane again?
I'd suggest in you try a bit of sensory/motor deprivation play in the realms of bondage and s&m with specific regard to blindfolds and handcuffs.
Not a sex doctor though, just a pervert. Anyways, good luck.
>>17257319
You mean, so i have to rely on physical sensations to get off? I can give it a try, sure
Thanks for the input, anon!
