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Why are relationships a contest of who cares less?
They aren't
Some people get into relationships out of convenience rather than both wanting to put in effort to make things work. When it's less convenient, the person is doesn't care as much about being in it.
Caring shows vulnerability, weakness in a sense.
People who care are easier to take advantage of.
Is it unhealthy to edge a whole lot while masturbating?
As far as I know the only side effect is that it teaches you to extend your "play-time".
>>17256977
What if it extends to the point that I can't cum when I'm with a woman? Does that happen? I've never been with a woman.
>>17256629
I've been edging in order to try to be able to last longer, but since it requires a lot of starting and stopping, going and slowing down, etc., I kind of wonder if it's practical for lasting longer with a real woman at all. Like, wouldn't she get frustrated that every few strokes, I'm like "wait a second" before I go again? Like, "what's this shit, 'Red Light, Green Light'?"
I can't fucking do it bros. I can't fucking get good text going, but it's the only way we can talk. I cant make progress, she's so close but I can't do anything. Im stuck.
This is it guys. I can't disappoint her and myself anymore.
Let me guess: you 'hinted' that you liked her, but never explicitly said so or asked her out? And now you're butthurt that she's interested in another guy?
>>17256636
No, I just can't maintain a text conversation and it's shit
>>17256626
oh that's okay
>21 years old
>living with parents
>all I want to do is travel and get the fuck out of my city
>working towards a degree in computer science; halfway done
>feel like I'm wasting my time and potential
what do?
How is travelling a better use of your time and potential?
>>17256594
Damn dude I've been thinking about this myself. I graduated with a CS degree and I've had a few jobs since then but I feel like I'm wasting my life when I could be traveling.
Guess your on the right path, I just work shittt jobs full time no college and save every cent and move city to city
I find it really hard to study because even when I want to, I always have video games in the back of my head. It doesn't really have to be video games even, because I managed to go on for two months without playing by uninstalling until my friend asked me too play with him.
I can quit video games if I uninstall them, but I still can't fully focus on studying. Instead I just substituted youtube for games, still as unproductive as ever.
Let's say I'm doing maths, and since it's the only thing I'm studying currently, let's say...
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bumping because same issue
Get a website blocker extension. Block those sites that will waste your time. Uninstall your games. Be outside. Stay away from your computer or anything that enables you to procrastinate or waste your time. Turn off your brain and do what you should be doing. Ignore anything your brain tries to convince you of otherwise. If it's not helping you move forward it's pushing you back so tell it to fuck off. Don't go easy on yourself. Never give yourself a break or an easy day. You will relapse and sink deeper than ever.
Try abstaining from masturbation for several days.
You'll start to feel more inclined to do something.
Besides acid, what can I do to let my mind roam free without any thoughts, daydreams, worries, etc?
Get yourself a bottle of tequila.
>>17256464
besides any mind/body altering substances* (probably shoulda said that instead)
>>17256459
Bumping because I'm also curious about this
Lost my house and my job today. House burned. Job got outsourced. I have 400 dollars to my name due to my wallet being burned. I'm pretty much fucked. I need suggestions for a job I can get literally tomorrow. I'm living out of my car for now and it sucks cocks. I live in West Palm Beach, Florida. I'm not really sure how to start over.
Anything?
>>17256390
there arent really any places that iwll let you start tomorrow. i mean they exist, but no they arent known for it, there are just certain places that need it.
the fastest ways to get hired are high turnover places. this varies from area to area. call centers tend to hire you within one week. abercrombie and fitch also does that here in la.
the best you can do is apply for EVERYTHING and see what happens
I suppose you could just drive around and look for Help Wanted signs. Sending out resumes and stuff won't get and results for weeks.
My girlfriend is dead broke. She owes around $1,400 on her house in about 11 days or it'll go up for public sell to the highest bidder.
She works as a fee lancer and has been gone for quite some time (long distance) trying to break even but hasn't been able to do so.
Today is the first time I've seen her since she's been back and turns out she has a $1,400 payment to her house in 11 days or she'll lose it.
I feel like if she lost the house it'd be the end of our relationship as her mom lives in a different state and she'd...
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If she owns a house, she technically isn't dead broke, she has an asset.
It's up to you whether you want to pay her the money. If you do lend her it, make sure it's clear that it's only a loan, but also make sure that you're in a position that if she doesn't pay it back, you won't miss the money. Also make sure that this is a one-off - that this isn't going to continue happening month to month.
>>17256371
>If she owns a house, she technically isn't dead broke, she has an asset.
Which is mortgaged against the home loan, which is a liability - potentially giving her a net worth of nil.
>>17256365
I would say it depends on the strength of your relationship. She's been gone for a long time and if you pay it, how will she manage with next month's payment? You're setting a precedence where she may expect other...
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>>17256383
>Which is mortgaged against the home loan, which is a liability - potentially giving her a net worth of nil.
Yeah, but the equity in there is hers. If she put say, $20k in as a deposit, she still has that $20k, it's just tied up in the property (subject to mortgagee sale fees and whatnot).
Hey /adv/, had a very unsettling experience with a female friend that I've known for a few years. As a backdrop to this story, my female friend went through a string of very abusive relationships in her teenage years. She always struck me as someone rather fucked in the head, but harmless otherwise.
>be me, be straight male with severe anxiety and depression
>be Friday, get invited to chill at friend's house and get drunk because she had her 21st birthday recently
>notice...
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>female rapist
There's no such thing. Drop it and get over it.
>>17256343
>There's no such thing.
>>17256338
>she looks at me with a straight face and says "yes"
>I am very uncomfortable at this point, excuse myself to go to sleep
>go to sleep in her guest bedroom around 1 in the morning, wake up at 3am to hear some weird rattling outside the bedroom door
>she's masturbating right outside the door, being loud about it, moaning
>get up and lock the door, try to fall back asleep
>wake up at 6am, bounce the fuck out of there and never look back
What the fuck, /adv/, can I press charges for this?
Just to be clear I have NEVER shown any sexual interest in her and from my perspective it was a purely platonic relationship.
This shit was so unsettling and I get the feeling that I would never be taken seriously because I'm a male.
What do I do?
this post is being made because the few times i've talked about suicide, friends/family start crying and making me feel bad about it, so here's the anonymous truth. i'm not sure what i can do anymore, /adv/. i've felt like i have no worth for as long as i can remember, but i've always kind of hoped things would change in time. i'm 23 and i don't see a light at the end of the tunnel. i was depressed throughout high school, tried to find work for 3 years, failed, and recently enrolled in college, just to make something happen. throughout the first semester my depression creeped back up, being surrounded by people and wanting social interaction and friends, but finding that impossible, made me feel like hopeless. there are a few people who seem to have noticed me but i often feel too horrible to socialize with them more than i need to.
i have a few online friends that i am emotionally close to, but in person my friends are scarce, and less relatable to me, more like acquaintances really. i've never had sex, or even been kissed. the only girls that have been openly interested in me are objectively (and i say this as someone who is very modest about my appearance) less physically appealing than me by a moderate margin, and more importantly, have next to nothing in common with me. i have no expectations of making a close connection with anyone, or finding anyone relatable enough to want to be around for the rest of my life who would feel the same way.
three weeks ago i started taking zoloft. after a week i started feeling more confidant, but by now it seems to have adversely effected my view of other people. everyone seems like such a self righteous hypocritical asshole to me. i've been fantasizing about cutting off literally everybody in my life completely somehow, daydreaming of an apocalypse scenario, being the last person on earth, etc. in the last week i've felt a growing disconnect from other humans, gaining almost sociopathic feelings towards other people.
1/2
2/2
the last year of my life has amounted to not much more than memes, crushing loneliness, anxiety, reluctantly doing college assignments, jobs that i despise, masturbating, and videogames. before taking zoloft, i'd lie on my bedroom floor, crying unable to move, fantasizing about using the .22 revolver in my parents basement to finally give myself some peace. now that the zoloft has fully kicked in, i have the same suicidal thoughts, but it seems to be logic based rather than emotional. it just seems to make sense.
should i keep taking the zoloft? or stop...
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>>17256278
If I were you I would go hitchhiking around the country. There's something magical about traveling and making new discoveries. Perhaps that's what you need to do.
>>17256278
College won't fix your depression issues, and may not help you get a job either.
How about a skilled trade jobs instead? Training won't take 4 years and you can start working soon after, assuming there is a shortage of related jobs in the area.
Also why not talk to a professional about your emotional issues? /adv does offer some advice but I think you need qualified help for that.
Are you an Amerifat by any chance?
After the Paris and Brussels attacks some of my friends used french and belgian flag-filters on there social media. However, after the Orlando terror they didn't use the rainbow flag filter.
I feel this is a bit hurtful. I am not gay, but I manned up enough to use the rainbow flag as a filter.
How can I bring up this subject without seeming like one of those PC-goblins who are trying to be on everyones case about irrelevant shit?
For what it's worth, Facebook kept pushing the Paris and Brussels filters in my face, while I have't been offered the Orlando one at all. Maybe they just haven't seen the option
>>17256246
>I feel this is a bit hurtful. I am not gay, but I manned up enough to use the rainbow flag as a filter.
I hope you understand how fucking retarded you are. Using a filter isn't helping or supporting anyone. Normal people donate money and/or blood without having to show off to the fucking world. "Oh, look at me! I'm SO sympathetic to this cause! Give me a moment to tweak the colors on this picture to show you exactly how much I care! Oh, wait, this is old news. What's...
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>>17256246
>How can I bring up this subject without seeming like one of those PC-goblins who are trying to be on everyones case about irrelevant shit?
You can't. Internet activism is fucking retarded and so are you if you think using a filter makes any bit of a difference to anything.
If you want to help do something that matters. This doesn't matter.
So /adv/ seems like it has no age limit. Is this true?
Although /adv/ is a worksafe board, it still has an age limit of 18+, much like the rest of 4chan.
it might as well have no age limit with the kinds of people who come on here desu
it's always funny whenever a poster announces they're 16 in the OP
>>17256235
There are age limits but most of the posters in here are 12-16 year olds. A lot of high school love drama threads here. Just lurk a few days and you'll see a pattern.
how do I deal with the feels of not going to prom
prom is in 3 days and I'm still a kissless virgin loser
yes I know prom means fuck all in the long term, but it really is a once in a life time thing
I can just imagine...
>meeting up my qt gf at her place ready to pick her up
>nervous, but knock on her door
>greeted by her parents who tell me she's almost done getting ready
>she walks down the stairs looking more beautiful...
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>prom is just like it is in the movies!
>>17256203
>yes I know prom means fuck all in the long term, but it really is a once in a life time thing
Yeah, getting struck by lightening is a once in a lifetime thing too but that doesn't mean its cool.
I spent a shit ton of money and time and energy getting the tux, going to the girl's house, going out to dinner and all that bullshit and I remember nothing about the prom except I got chocolate on my suit and the DJ played terrible top 40 hits all night.
I'm...
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I'm 30 years old and didn't go to my prom. Ask me how much this affects me. It's really meaningless.
Like the other guy said, movies are not real life.
help me out
Ideally I'm looking for a long term relationship not a one night stand or a hookup.
24 year old virgin, new to the dating scene.
6'2"
built like a linebacker
I have aspergers, which makes understanding people harder, and I struggle with conversations on dating apps.
Going out of state for college in the fall so I'm wondering if it's even worth the effort of looking for a girlfriend before graduation.
I'm an outdoorsman, country boy, redneck. Whatever you want to call me.
What should...
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or am I just so ugly I should do the world a favor and off myself
>>17256096
Lose 20lbs, get some suitable glasses for your head, shave the neck beard, and don't wear camo unless you're hunting.
>>17256176
>20lbs
I disagree, he needs to lose more
How high does one need to fall in order to die?
>>17256007
You only need 1 meter if you do it right. Make sure to break your neck. Go head first.
Doesn't matter
You'll fail. Like with everything you do
It depends on a number of factors: what position you land in, what exactly you land on, how fast you were going at impact, and others. People have died from 5-foot falls, and people have survived 22,000-foot falls unharmed.
