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/adv/ what do you think of your friends who don't want to be friends of your other friends?
I am very private, somewhat arrogant and have some standards for people i spend time with.
I don't make friends with people like that in the first place. I make friends with people who are friendly and accepting and tolerant.
>>17257207
This.
Unfriendly people end up friendless.
>>17257207
>>17257210
It's not like i never want to be friends with my friends' friends,
however i am very introverted and vary of people. I am honest and gullible i need self-defense.
Communicating is already a chore to me i want my friends to be people i feel psychologically comfortable with.
Literally can't endure long periods of time with people who are compulsive liars or hypocrites.
I have few friends but i really like spending time with them.
So people have the right to be mad at me for this reason?
I just turned 18 a couple days ago, so now i can finally watch porn. Everytime i try to go on a porn site i always get asked if i'm 18 or not and everytime i have to click 'No' since i don't want to break the law. Now however, i can proudly click 'Yes i am over 18 years old'.
So what kind of porn is the best porn? Which website is the best?
>>17257189
gay porn is the best porn, senpai. Start with men.com
>>17257193
Agreed.
You are familiar with the anatomy, perfect entry level.
This is fucking adorable in a way. I remember I did sorta the same thing when I was 19 or so. I signed up for xtube (it's a porn site) stupidly using my real email and for years I'd get spam from them. I'm 24 now and think I still get spam from xtube. Girl here if it matters
My son Nick is turning 16 in January, and he's been acting suspicious with his laptop recently. Whenever I use it he always has to hover around me to see what I'm doing and acts oddly nervous. He has folders that are password-protected with something called "winrar" (not really a computer guy). So when I came home from work one day he had still not arrived from school, so I decided to search up an address in mapquest for a job I have to do and noticed a lot of sketchy looking search suggestions and bookmarks. I know I might be in the wrong for snooping but I am naturally concerned as a father for him. And so I went on his history that wasn't erased and what I found was considerably disturbing. It was sort of an art site but with animals, except the animals looked like people? I actually did a bit of research upon it and found the term was, "anthro" or "furry"? And it wasn't just art, I found numerous images of the animals engaged in various sexual activities, very disturbing, pornographic, and quite unsuitable for a 16 year old to be watching. I'm really not sure whether or not I should consider some of this porn, it was so odd.
I fear for my son's psychological health. This is sinful behavior and is against God's will. I WILL kick him out. if he doesn't change his ways. I have not yet mentioned anything to my wife or son. This is really not a joke. How can I confront my son about this?
I'm willing to post images incase people are unfamiliar with "anthro" images.
>>17257161
stale pasta is stale
Nick is a fag
>>17257168
What? I don't understand.
>>17257170
I'm wondering if I should kick him out or not.
Dumb question, how do I keep myself from cumming quickly when a woman is riding my face
Easy. Tag me in and we can switch off
>>17257157
Why do you want to deny your organism?
It's bit of a Catch 22. There are ways of slowing down if you enter a zen like state and kegel your dickhole shut. But then you're not really enjoying sex or being in the moment -- you're trying to not cum.
Regular masturbation and sex do seem to help me last a bit longer than if don't.
All that has really worked for me in the end has been lots of foreplay, avoiding pleasuring myself during sex acts too much, and varying things up with positions and speed. That way when I want to cum I can really enjoy it, rather than worrying about cumming...
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Should I cheat / learn the algorithms?
So far ive figured out how to solve the white face perfectly, but im struggling with the rest of the side.
>>17257152
>Should I cheat / learn the algorithms?
Learning algorithms isn't "cheating." Peeling off and reapplying the stickers is. Learning the algorithms is how you learn how to solve a cube.
>So far ive figured out how to solve the white face perfectly, but im struggling with the rest of the side.
Lol you only know how to solve the white side?
Anyway, think of it as solving layers at a time, not sides.
>>17257152
there are so many other usefull skills you could learn
a girls gunna be much more turned on if you can fix her cars engine, not twisting a cube 50 times
>>17257221
what i mean is solving it properly, and i mean i figured that algorithm out (how to get it correct to set up for the second layer).
>>17257225
fast hands imply other things though
So, I was having this conversation with this black woman earlier today and she was saying blacks can't be racist. I clearly explained to her the definition of racism is believing one race is superior to another multiple times. I kept trying to explain this but she said "i don't care you're not black enough to understand" and kept saying blacks can't be racist because "they don't get nothin out of it". I'm already half black and the rest of me is German and Hispanic. How much more "black" do I need to be to understand...
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>>17257126
You don't. You let them stay ignorant and hope they die painful deaths.
>>17257126
Why do you feel the need to argue with these people? Unless you're doing it for shits and giggles there's no reason to engage mongs.
>>17257126
Fucking hell, whites cant know racism since you're not the minority, and will never, or have ever been. Hybrids don't count as well.
Hello, my name is not important, neither is all of our lives, we all have problems yeah I know, but I know I rarely have friends yeah we all have that promblem. But my cheating ex has a kid who is mine, who I thought for almost a year wouldn't be my kid. I broke up with her a week before she told me we were pregnant because she cheated on me. Well I'm no good to be a father, I know, I should of wore protection or turn her into a toaster studel instead of a twinkie. But it's been 3 months since my daughter was born, and I'm broke, jobless, and no where to...
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Op again. Image is just a random image I screenshot a couple weeks ago. Plus the only few non Porno pic I have
You completely fucked up by not wearing protection dude, just gonna say that now. There's not much you can do about this. Your life is ruined, that's the end of it. This is what having a kid does to you. Your child is growing up in a dysfunctional family as well. You, your ex, and your child's lives are all fucked. Your years ahead will be filled with court cases and you likely will never be truly happy again in this situation. You are completely fucked, as much as I hate to say it. I feel bad for you dude, I guess just keep trying to get a job.
It's posts like this that make me happy to be gay. Maybe a god does exist and maybe he cares about me.
also
Sorry about your entire life being destroyed OP.
I have no life. 25 year old guy. No gf's, only have one friend, I've barely traveled, etc. Not a lot of life experience, basically. All I do is work, and before that all I did was study at school. Like 90% of my freetime goes to learning new tech to make me more efficient at my job.
Anyways, I've never really wanted anything more than my career, but now that i have my foot in the door with that I'm realizing that my life is pretty empty.
I want to make some changes but I know I'll need to ease into it. Any advice on how to start?
>>17257120
Think about small and easy goals you have. Try to do your best with those goals. What are some of your life goals? Don't spend all your time on that life goal. Instead spend a little time on it and focus more on your small goals until you feel more comfortable.
>>17257120
Are you attractive?
>>17257124
Thank you. Okay, I'm literally starting a list now. Realizing how little I've thought about "big picture"...
chilling with a female friend sometime soon, how do I progress from making out while watching a movie on her couch to fingering her, and gauge her interest in getting fingered?
>>17257103
Bump, I would be interested in this as well
>>17257103
If you are able to proceed with making out make sure she's really into it. Then start kissing her neck and massaging her around her shoulders, moving down to her hips. Kiss on the mouth again continuing massage and continue this until she's hot and bothered. Then ask if you can touch her/take off her pants. Boom.
If you're making out you've already won. Play with her tits, play with the area between her tits and pussy. Rub a bit. Make sure she's wet. Insert finger.
If she's not interested she'll stop you somewhere.
I agreed to try therapy and I can't back out of it now. First appointment is in about a week. What should I expect? They don't make you report a crime if something happened to you, right? They can only have you put in a loony bin if you're going to kill yourself or someone else, right?
I'm scared.
>>17257098
>What should I expect?
For the first appointment? A lot of questions, but not a lot of answers,
>They don't make you report a crime if something happened to you, right?
No; they may urge you to do so. but can't actually MAKE you do it.
Also, depending on your age and the nature of what was done to you, they MIGHT be required by law to report it themselves. That typically only happens if you're under 18 and are currently...
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>>17257098
Believe it or not, the therapist wants to help you make it in the real world. Putting you in jail or a loony bin would go against all their goals.
They'll start by asking you why you're there and what you want from them. They'll ask questions just to help you express (and maybe even see) your problems more clearly. They might give you a homework assignment, along the lines of making a list of the 5 things that bug you most about yourself and the 5 that you consider your best traits.
That's...
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>>17257098
Unless you get a nutter or someone just in it for the money, you should actually end up with someone who gives a shit, and other than asking some mandated questions, will do what they are able to help you relax and open up.
Just be honest. There shouldn't be anything you could tell them that would land you in a loony bin unless you are (or have been) violent.
>friend moves to another state
>can only talk to her through text and Skype
>can't call her because sound quality is bad due to distance or something
>text to see how she's doing
>she says someone went to her house and messed her up (have no details on it. She said someone messed her up and didn't say how)
>question her about it
>she doesn't...
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Sounds like she got raped. Just keep trying your best to be there for her. Not much you can do in regards to contact though.
>>17257543
I really hope that's not the case, but it's started to sound like she was either attacked or violated. Still no response from her. I will keep trying then.
You are being ghosted. Stop attempting to contact her. Don't even apologize, and don't even say goodbye: ANY attempts to interact with her again will only make things worse.
By the way, this post seems awfully familiar. Did you come here about a month or two ago?
I don't feel attractive. This has little to do with my body and more with everything else.
I'm not strong in any sense (except that I'm emotionally strong). I may be too serious at times. And I'm a weakling in that I'm insecure and can't bother to hide it. Being nice won't get me a single couple, and trying to get sexual tension is difficult.
I had one girlfriend in the past who called me things that undermined my own masculinity, and so have done some few other people.
And this is killing me. My self steem is going downhill...
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I've had two separate girlfriends who didn't know each other tell me that I'm a lesbian trapped in a man's body.
It's been 4 years since I've heard it and it still bothers me, so I've got nothing. Sorry bro.
>>17257083
It's okay. I just hate how some girls are so quick to emasculate a guy, yet we guys don't do anything of the like.
>>17257089
I have come to believe that it's due to the perception of
"You're acting like a man"
sounding positive
and
"You're acting like a woman!"
sounding negative.
What I know:
She has been very certain for the years we have been together that speaking to other people too much is a form of cheating, from any aspect and my relationships with the other sex have been minimal because of this.
Recently she has been depressed, feeling unloved and lonely which could be my fault but i didnt get told and to be honest didnt have a clue.
She started speaking to another guy. They met up once not planned but nothing happend he just "comforted her" as she was upset. Nothing more than a hug. They have been talking a lot.. through snap...
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>op here
What I have written above is what i believe to be the truth. I found this out yesterday after her telling me that she doesnt feel happy and loved and she is sad and alone, which isnt all my fault but i need to help her out of it. I've done a lot of thinking and as stupid as it is i have chosen to believe her story, and move on knowing that yes, she had possibly emotionally cheated on me, however it could genuinely be because she was upset and needed a shoulder to cry on.
The problem I'm having is trust. I was planning...
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>>17257052
Hi Op, I have no idea.
Jesus this situation sounds hard. I would stay. But I also have trust issues with my gf, they almost never go away. It's torturous, but it's for love, because I just hope im not getting cucked. Worth imo. Go on with it but you should probably explain that she needs to earn your trust. Good luck friend!
>>17257069
Thanks
Good to hear that I'm not being an idiot by myself ... Definitely think that it's worth it and I really don't think she would do it again and I really hope she wouldn't have gone further than flirting... She has done everything to persuade me she wouldn't, and it was for a reason...
when I talk about being a loner and wanting a life and a shit people always say "go outside"
"go outside" - as if that's helpful
what the fuck does that even mean. I know what it literally LITERALLY means. heck I'm outside right now posting from my patio. But that's clearly not what people mean when they say that.
I need explicit instructions on what "go outside" involves.
Go to gym and if you are worried do these first:https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=v80p4vSxfRI
>>17257038
I'm already in decent shape.
are you supposed to meet friends at gyms or something?
>>17257044
Well just the exercise itself will make you feel better. Then yes if you want you can make friends. Also there's a bit of socialization that happens by working out while others are doing the same.
I responded to a craigslist gig cleaning an apartment after a party. After emailing a little bit with the guy it seems a little fishy and I'm not sure how to reply. For starters, he wants to pay me 450 which seems way too high. Couldn't professional maids do it for much less? They also want to pay me with some weird check and asked for a lot of personal information. What do you anons think? I will post the emails in the comment.
Hello Applicant ,
How are you doing today ?It's really nice to hear from you regarding
the job listing for a cleaner. I will be moving in from Canada as soon
as the apartment is furnished. It has 2 bedroom with one master
bedroom and one standard size room, with One Living room and a kitchen
as well. I want a one time thorough cleaning for the whole apartment.
I need to know when you will be available for the cleaning next week
since I wont be moving in until it is fully furnished by my Mover. I
will make provisions for cleaning equipment and...
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This is a scam the check will bounce the bank will pay 450$ but then they will see the check is false and you will owe the bank 450$ a similar scam happened to my girlfriend don't do it
>>17256996
Looks legit to me.
