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Is depressing, suicidal, obsessive music helping or the opposite?
>>17302584
In my opinion: DEFINITELY the opposite.
I used to listen to emo music when I was a teenager. Death Cab for Cutie, Bright Eyes, Elliott Smith, all that sort of sad soppy shit. I suppose there is some sort of catharsis in it. Also I do still really love Elliott Smith because he's amazing, but I just generally don't listen to that stuff anymore because I don't want to be a soppy, feeling-sorry-for-myself faggot.
Now I'm 25, and I just listen to good music that I like. Music that...
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Personally, it helps me. I can relate to the artist strongly, and it helps me get through shit.
In Music Therapy, they start with matching the music to the mood then slowly changing it to a more positive mix.
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Boys - how crazy is 'too crazy' for you?
>>17302146
It REALLY depends on the type of crazy.
Sexual repression is the most patrician of tastes; patience it takes, but sweet when it breaks. Nary an expression of the passions that hide; no better trait I'd want in a bride.
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>>17302162
Dear God what did I just read
I want to become a programmer so I thought about going to college for computer science
I heard math was involved and I'm not too good at it what do I do ??
Luckily math is something you can practice really hard and get good at.
Often there's math classes you can take that don't require high school maths that teach you all you need for harder math classes that might be required for your CS course.
Do them, spend tons of time on them and master them and work your way up. You should be fine.
>>17301004
Get good, you lazy fuck.
No, but you need it if you want a CS degree.
I accidentally banged my roommate's dog's head in between the door and doorjam pretty hard while she was trying to get outside to someone who had rung the doorbell. Then, trying to push it shut and talk to the person, I trapped her snout for a second, pretty hard.
She's cowering from me and is really scared. It was a total mistake.
How do I get her to relax?
>>17300979
Give it a treat and pet it a bit. It was an accident no biggy.
Oh, I do that all the time.
If you keep slamming the dogs head in the door, it relaxes it so much it falls asleep.
Grab it and pet it
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>>17297711
KING OF THE NORTH
I am probably borderline obsessing over her.
I have gone over to /x/ and got several Tarot readings, and a dice reading. All of them indicate that I will end up with her in the end. I would not take a single reading to heart, but 4? That is something, I thinks its more than a coincidence
>>17297725
You're a fucking idiot
I bet you'd stick your dick in a blender if tarot cards told you
so i'm a currently a fat autistic hikikimori and i want to get better. but i can't seem to get past my own learned helplessness and crippling depression. i've tried every class of antidepressants, anxiolytics, at least a dozen therapists, several hospitalizations, shitty self-help books, etc. the only thing i haven't tried is ECT, but that kind of scares me. i was about to try outward bound but i was rejected as "not ready" (probably the weight + autismo). now i'm just feeling sitting here feeling lost.
my question is, say i have a decent...
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I was diagnosed as autistic and was fat, but I just lost the weight and I felt a ton better, was more willing to call friend(s), felt a lot better in public. I'd start with that? And I've heard/read in places that exercise helps ease depression a little as well.
For starters, try walking around the neighborhood listening to music. My mother forced me to walk with her for an hour the first few times, but then I started relying on it every day for relaxation, and I just like music, so it's entertaining.
And a person that makes you go outside and practice...
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>>17290681
i've never had any friends so no, not really an option. but yeah i figured the exercise thing would probably be the biggest help, its just really hard when you can't leave the house or self-motivate to do basically anything, thats why i was looking for external pressures
>>17290650
Get in shape, take up yoga, and autofellate yourself. No better motivator than the prospect of getting your dick sucked.
So I took a year out after finishing high school/secondary,being at home almost every day has been fairly shit.Live in a ghost town.Going crazy.I need to get away from my mom.
I've applied for a music production course.I only applied to it because it's one of the few music related courses but I just want to PLAY music,not fucking produce it.Performing is the only thing that makes me feel alive.I feel like if I do attend this course I'll be doing it for the wrong reasons.Tbh I just want to meet new people,see new faces.
Another factor is the college...
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>>17304317
Look son
you're living with your mom, which is all good for a while.
But one day you'll stop being young, and then what?
What do you want to do for a life? you have to do something that actually earns an income and you like.
You want to be a musician? it can be done if you got talent.
Stop crying about buses and how long it will take, think about the future and what you want to do for a living, you can't live forever with mom
Music production course may have something connected to composing music depending on a study plan.
What country are you from, anon?
>>17304328
I don't want to live with my mom.She's been emotionally abusive since I can remember.
I need to get out of this run-down house.I figured going to college would help me escape but I realised that I'd be there for the wrong reasons.
I want to work as a musician but I feel like a moron when I say that,
Posted this yesterday and got 0 replies so I'll be trying my luck again.
I'm 18. So there's this girl that I've known since high school but I only started getting close to her in our first year of college since we ended up going to the University. We got to a point where we saw each other like three or four times a week whilst texting almost every day. Mind you, she was/is in a relationship of 2 years. Over time, I get feelings for her, and she probably did as much I have. This became a problem because since I'm trying to be a righteous and humble/selfless...
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You're gonna sit behind and watch the girl you love be with someone else? That's retarded. Don't hurt yourself like that, you will live in eternal misery. Either tell her about it or move on bro.
>>17304261
Just tell her that being with him isn't compulsory. If she's not happy she should leave to give him time to find someone else. It's not fair on him if she stays in an unhappy relationship.
Women are selfish, so if you can give them the opportunity to act selfishly but make it seem like they're doing it for someone else they will usually do it.
>>17304261
You say these two have no chemistry together, but this is based on your own opinion. You only see them interact when you're around and not when they're completely alone.
I act differently when I'm around my wife alone vs when we're with people. So don't be all thinking you know everything because you probably don't.
Guys, I need any advice on this whatsoever.
I've only slept with a few women, but I've always had problems.
If I use a regular condom, I usually go soft pretty quickly.
If I use an ultra-thin or go without, I blow way too fast.
I really want to be at least adiquet in bed. Does anyone have any suggestions? I might just shoot myself
Use polyisoprene condoms. Also best off during the day before you have sex ( but you're probably already doing that)
Also, don't masturbate as much, it deaden your sex drive (at least itdoes for me)
>>17304256
fap in the morning so youll last long later
>>17304256
Buy a TENGA egg or TENGA cup, fap to the most arousing porn you can find as often as possible. You'll get used to lasting long fast
I'm going to be in my home town next month and i'm gonna be there for about 3 weeks. I haven't had sex in YEARS, and am pretty desperate. My bestfriend has a mildly autistic sister who is also desperate and willing, but he can NEVER know. I have epilepsy, so i don't have a car. How can i have sex with her, while keeping it a secret from him and preferably everyone else?
The girl in the pic is her.
>>17304218
If you never want him to know. Don't do it. Also if you care for this person at all won't do that to her either. Trust me it's not worth it for sex alone. The feeling after will probably never go away.
>>17304218
Just hang out with her a lit and make it seem like you are best friends, eventually people have no room for suspicion or they would't be mad about their personal tard being filled up.
Just make sure you don't reproduce this failed experiment alright?
>>17304218
Think of how it will affect this person's life and how this person will think of you after. Desperate sex is best left for someone you don't care about. Sounds harsh but it's true.
I'm scared of what my life will be after college, very scared. Im enjoying this time of my life and what comes after (endless boring job) doesnt entertain me at all.
How do you deal/dealed with this?
I also want to know
Basicly once you hit 22/23 you stop caring about parties and people and games and the only thing that excites you is gathering wealth and power.
You can't help it, it's just a natural change in your head. Everyone goes through it.
A job isn't supposed to be entertaining. It's supposed to be challenging, satisfying, and earn you money.
You're growing up and it's time to get to work, and look for rewards other than being entertained.
Me and my "gf" broke up yesterday. We only went out for about 6 weeks but it still hurts like fuck. She said all the guys that dated her in the past, she felt a connection with them straight away but not with me. She was unsure if i was the one and the right person for her. sounded like she was taking it way too serious. we where still getting to know eachother. i feel really shitty and confused. im just looking for some general advice from people who have been through this. thanks. im pretty socially inept regarding relationships due to lack of experience. every relationship...
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No girl knows what she wants before she's 25 and gone through a mountain of mistakes and true asshole bfs. Likewise for u your 22 keep trying till u find someone that really fits with you. Doesn't do any good to hold onto a girl that's not into you.
Eh breaking up can hurt for a little while just pack ur balls up and move on.
You had a fun six weeks. Little investment, got laid, made some nice memories.
Get the fuck over it. Don't waste your time feeling bad about a fling.
For school. Have some money saved and will get student loans. Due to the lack of funds I am going to sell my furnature and bulky shit here, ship most things via Amtrak, pack the rest in a rental car and go. In LA I'll use the rental to get to IKEA or a thrift store or whatever and buy new furniture.
Anyone have advice for the following?
1) Good rental car deals for one-way crosscountry trips? I believe I have AAA.
2) Best way to sell my mostly-IKEA furniture at home?
3) Best way to move my small vinyl record collection?
Thanks
>>17304163
Its gonna cost a hell of a lot to drive all the way to LA in a rental car. I would travel by train. It would probably take longer but you're able to sleep, study, eat, and see scenery on the train.
>>17304169
Then I'll have a ton of stuff that will cost more to sell/replace (as there seems to be no viable method of shipping that doesn't kill your wallet) than the rental car. Also bringing a bro with me who wants to visit their dad in LA and will help me move shit. So I'm sticking with renting a car.
Don't spend more on moving shit across country than the shit is worth. That's just stupid. Get rid of your stuff, store your records with friend or family who won't charge you, then just go. Pack light. Get all your furniture from a place that deals in used stuff and delivers.
I've moved many many times, and I know what I'm talking about.
How do I get my gf to stop eating spinach? It makes her tongue green and she laughs when I tell her it creeps me out.
She snacks on it through the day at her work so I can't just throw it out at home.
>trying to kill your girlfriend's gains
Pass her over here, mate
>captcha is salad
>>17304154
Don't worry. Once you'll turn 13 you'll stop worrying about nonsense bs :^)
>>17304159
>gains
How does spinach provide gains?
>>17304160
I'm 29, she's 27
Hello /adv/,
To start off I want to make a few points just to show I'm actually self aware, and not an entitled manbaby millenial like many of you are I'm sure used to;
>it is my fault I don't have employment history
>it is my fault I didn't do well academically
>I cannot blame all of my problems on my parents
>I am a loser and naive
Now;
>live in England
>18, 19 next month, been living at home with my parents for the entirety of my life
>had a lot of family issues, if relevent I will elaborate, which have led to me being significantly depressed since 11
>due to this I struggled in school, not with the actual course material, but with motivation, waking up, attendance etc.
>this led to me failing my first year of A-Levels, and retaking the year
>I completed my second (technically third) year a few weeks ago
>I am well aware that in all liklihood I have failed abysmally (all my fault, but I need to move on)
>my focus for the past few weeks has been to find employment in any form, cleaning, services, literally anything I can do I will
>my mother and father haven't had a job in over two decades
>full on NEET, welfare, doing nothing but self-serve (this has rubbed off on me sadly, but I am aware and hoping I can "beat" it)
>he has been pestering me to get a job, to which I respond I am applying to a minimum of 5 a day
>he doesn't believe me and gets irritable, so I show him proof that I am applying to these jobs
>doesn't change his attitude whatsoever, and becomes more and more irritable
>like most NEETs I like to stay up late, 2-3am on most nights, this annoys him
>in order to stop me he has put a lock on the internet which comes into effect from 11pm-8am
>I would understand this under normal parenting circumstances, as he used to do it when I had exams (it's shitty, but reason for it)
>today
>got my first response to a job application after going through over 60
>>17304130
>cleaner at a nearby Hospital, good pay, very excited
>talk to my father and bring up the topic of paying bills and contributing to the household
>he wants me to contribute one third of ALL bills
>to me, this is not acceptable
>he has bought in the last year, with welfare mind, FOUR monitors, a high spec top of the range computer, a lathe and countless tools/materials for his garage hobby
>this consumes MASSIVE amount of electricity, the lathe alone consumes so much it sometimes causes powercuts in the house by overloading (or whatever happens, sue me I'm no electrical engineer)
>I cannot comprehend why I have to pay one third of the electricity bill when my father uses over 50%, potentially even more
>suggest a compromise at one quarter, and he goes off on me shouting and being aggressive
>bring up the internet restriction and ask if he intends to continue limiting the time while I am paying for the service
>says yes
>I am in shock, I cannot even BEGIN to understand the thought process, the controlling nature of my father really came into light
>argue about it for a while
>for the first time in my life I am shouting at my father, and subtley tell him he's a shit parent
The advice I'm looking for is;
- How can I have rational conversation with a person like this, is there any legality in refusing to pay if he doesn't remove the restriction?
- How much would YOU consider fair in terms of bills?
- ANYTHING at all that you think may help me, be as assholeish as you can
>>17304133
That sounds rough mate. I've got a couple of suggestions for you, but I've got a bit of paperwork to get done (I was on site at seven this morning and didn't get home until after the kids were in bed and still haven't managed to get enough done) so I'll come back with those in about half an hour.
In the mean time:
>legality in refusing to pay if he doesn't remove the restriction?
I'm assuming that you don't have a written tennancy...
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Tell him you'll pay a third, but you're not happy about it and you don't think it's fair. Then see how much that comes to and how much of your disposable income that takes up. Then think about whether you can move out on your own. You probably can't. Which means that you have to put up with their crap since they are still supporting you.
I'm not saying you're wrong. But you still sound like a millenial. I'm sorry that life isn't always fair.
You're still young. This isn't the end of the world. Land that good job,...
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