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My gf and I moved to a new city due to the act that our families /some of our friends didn't approve of our relationship. What a should we tell our new friends in our new city? I mean the reason we moved?
>>17302869
That you're wanted in 4 states like Bonnie and Clyde.
Or you can tell the fucking truth and save your time building a castle of lies.
>>17302869
That's a pretty normal reason to move, so you don't have to lie.
>>17302881
Yeah but they might look at us as weirdos.
Does putting boundaries on the social life/sexual activity of my SO make me a jealous or possessive person? I got my first girlfriend about three months ago (at 26) an she has way more experience than I. One of the things we've talked about is how she is "polyamorous" and might someday want to date another guy/girl while still having me as her boyfriend. This naturally confuses the fuck out of me, because I end up feeling like I'm not good enough for her so she has to find someone else. Would it be uncool of me to disallow her from having sex or any kind...
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>>17302868
You say what you're cool with, and let them choose if they're okay to be with you or not.
You don't impose anything, but you definitely talk about it.
If you're strictly monogamous, you shouldn't date someone polyamorous, tho.
jealouse yes, possessive maybe not.
>One of the things we've talked about is how she is "polyamorous" and might someday want to date another guy/girl while still having me as her boyfriend.
Just make it clear right now for you and her, if you would ever be okay with sharing her. If you cannot, then tell her now so you can break up or she can "Try to change" to probably end up just cheating behind your back and then blame you for it because "You wouldn't let her be herself"
If you are cool with...
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>>17302879
So I could say something like "knowing you have physical relationships outside of ours makes me extremely uncomfortable". As long as I'm not saying "no, you can't do that"?
Alright /adv/, should I call the police if I thought someone was attempting to threaten or hurt me on the street?
Happened about 20 minutes ago when I was walking back from work. Some bald guy wearing a big black coat starts looking at me super intensely and starts walking towards me. He's holding one of his hands inside his coat like he's holding something, maybe a gun or a knife.
I start freaking out a bit but I kept it cool and just give him a short smile and walk past him, this time a bit quicker in pace. After a minute or two I look behind and there...
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Yeah, can call the cops. Maybe they'll send a cop car out. Gives probable cause of them to stop the guy and ask some questions.
Please respond
>>17302897
Called them and they took a bunch of details. Some officers coming here too so they can get some more stuff. Feel pretty calm with everything now.
Hey /adv/, I've got a stitch that snapped, and cut opened, but that isn't really the issue, it's that it's fucking infected.
I fucking jabbed a needle into some white white skin around the stitch, and a bunch of pus came out.
How should I treat the infected area until I can get to a doctor?
I hope you at least sterilized the needle. Just put some strong alcohol where you made a hole. And go to a doctor. Preferably not the same one who patched you up.
>>17302864
>>17302864
try triple antibiotic cream for now, but its likely going to need a course of antibiotics from a doctor.
>>17302864
Just squeeze the puss out, pour rubbing alcohol on it as suggested, and take an antibiotic over a day or two for good measure.
Then question why you're such a pussy to have gotten stitches on fucking paper-cut. That's the real problem here.
I have a selective eating disorder, and literally will not eat most foods.
I've never tried a burger, I've never tried bone-in chicken, I've never had a baked potato or even lasagna.
I've thought about trying, I've even gone as far as to make sure I was completely home alone, with drinks next to me to try to eat a burger.. And, I couldn't do it, I looked at it, put my tongue on it, and then I threw it away.
It's going to ruin my life, I'm an adult and I won't be able to get through family dinners with my wife's...
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What will you eat?
>>17303116
Most cereals, unless it's mixed with berries/raisins.
Pizza, but it can't have any topping, extra cheese is fine.
Hot dogs, no buns or condiments.
Chicken Tenders/nuggets, no sauce.
Bacon, I can't do sausage though.
Eggs, only scrambled.
Hashbrowns are fine, fries/wedges are fine.
Peanut butter sandwhiches on any bread, but no jelly.
Jelly toast on any bread, but no butter.
There's other various stuff I eat as well, but that's a general idea of some of the main...
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If I were you, I would try and eat the stuff I'm used to and just adding one ingredient I'm not used to. Try eating them together, you'll get your familiar taste in, but it will also open you to eating other stuff. And just keep trying.
How can I fall asleep when I want?
Sleeping pattern is off, I fall asleep at 3AM
I'm aiming for falling asleep at 11pm
How can I do this?
>>17302820
Try to physically exhaust yourself so you can hit the bed and crash straight out. Maybe just try to lay in bed and sleep when you're trying to go to bed and try and force it.
Or stay up for 24+ hours so you will be tired when the next 11:00 pm rolls around.
>>17302820
Nigga we gave you a ton of helpful shit in the last thread.
>>17302820
If you exercise falling asleep is easy at any time.
Really exercise, though.
I have a few hour long flight with my crush coming up. Judging from the ticket numbers and the other people on the trip, I'll probably be next to her but across the aisle. What are some ways I can make the flight enjoyable for us and everyone else? I'm talking simple but fun games to play, or just some ideas for inflight and airport antics.
Don't be that asshole that won't shutup on the flight and thinks it's a good idea to play games.
Put some headphones on, read a book, and shut the fuck up.
>>17302794
>fun games to play, or just some ideas for inflight or airport antics
All of this sounds terrible. Stop planning whatever you're doing right now, chicks can't stand tryhards.
>>17302824
>"HEEYYY WANT TO PLAY A CARD GAME?@#$!@%"
>"u-um, n-no thanks just going to read here"
>"OKAY LET ME KNOW IF YOU WANT TO PLAY SOME FUN GAMES!!#@$"
>"k"
I have this deformed toenail, unlike the others, this one has probably a root and it's growing larger everyday, I tried to cut it with curved scissors, but it's simply too though any advice on how to cut it?
>>17302761
Go to your doctor.
>Unlike the others
It's the second time something like this it's growing on he same spot, lost the other one since it had no root
Doctor is your best bet. Dont feel ashamed senpai. I had something similiar and i got rid of it myself by literally ripping whole toenail off but it was smallest finger. I dont recommend it since it really hurts for few weeks, it can get infected etc etc.
I'm in a long distance relationship with a girl whom I met on the Internet. We met on an mmo, and after playing together, skyping and all that we decided we were dating and all that jazz and it's all been way better than I would've ever expected.
The only problem is is that I am going to meet her for the first time in real life in a couple of weeks (I'm flying out there) and I'm worried about a couple of things. First is that I've never had sex that I've enjoyed, and that I've never been in a relationship where the level of attraction...
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Well, first of all, stop worrying about hypothetical shit. Worrying about problems that don't exist yet is the surest way to help manifest them.
Second, just try not to overthink it. Being together in person is something that legitimate relationships are capable of handling, if you get with her and find you have these problems, then it's not meant to be, whatever. For now, all you should worry about is going and having a good time with a girl that actually wants to see you naked. Girls wanting to see you naked is a pretty good feel though.
>>17302771
You right about that last part. Yeah, I'm being treated for clinical anxiety so it's hard not to think about all the random shit that could happen. Thanks though, it would be for the best if I could turn it off for once.
>>17302773
I understand the frustration, I get bad anxiety too sometimes worrying about hypothetical shit.
You have to embrace your zen bro. If you've never really studied any of the eastern religions, it might do you some good. I'm not saying I believe in reincarnation or karma or shit like that, but that idea of zen. Living in the moment, remembering that the moment is all you have because all that comes before is gone and all that's yet to pass still hasn't. Whatever happens, happens. You can't...
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I clicked with a cool guy I met at a music festival a few weeks ago, we hung out for some hours until closing time and added each other on facebook where we talked a few times after. Problem is I think he's awesome and really want something to happen but I'm afraid of coming off too strong/creepy/desperate. I'm thin, pretty attractive and horribly inexperienced. What approach should I take?
>>17302722
>Problem is I think he's awesome and really want something to happen but I'm afraid of coming off too strong/creepy/desperate.
Are you male or female?
If you're female, don't worry about it: if he's into you and you screw up and spill spaghetti or do something awkward, he's just going to think it's cute as hell.
Approach depends on what you want. Keep talking to him regardless.
Keep in mind that some guys are oblivious as hell and can't...
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>>17302778
A L L O F T H I S
Don't be afraid to make the first move, chances are he's just as scared and would love you to.
>>17302778
I'm female, and I know the first part is true but I mean that only counts if he's into me and I don't wanna assume that he is... I think I only became 'desirable' over the past year, so I still think of myself as a loser and have a hard time seeing myself as someone you'd want to date, so maybe that's why I'm being hard on myself.
>>17302788
The difficult part is striking up conversation online in a smooth way so that...
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I am a girl from Canada. I have a childhood penpal from Japan and I am traveling around Germany and Austria right now. Is it a good idea for me to ask her what sovenirs she want? We mail each other presents every year and I think gifts from Europe are more special than gifts from my homeland. She has never been to Europe before.
Also, is it ok if I send her travel photos and videos? I don't want to sound like I am showing off.
>>17302720
In Japan, souvenirs apparently are quite popular, so you should definitely ask. If it sounds like you're showing off, then it's most likely the way you're telling her about it. Try "I really loved seeing xy, so I wanted to share pictures with you so you experience a bit of it as well" instead of simply shoving it down her throat in a less pleasant manner.
>>17302818
Ah ok. Thanks for the tip
Just ask her. People do it all the time
How can I get started in freelance jornalism, where to begin? Any of you guys are freelancers, and how long untill your start seeing results?
www.newsmodo.com
Try selling your stories here.
They have plenty of briefs to respond to.
>>17302716
Get the book Writers' Market
>>17302716
This may seem low tier, but for practice go see the latest movies and write about them on sites.
Ok need help here. There is a girl i like but just to have sex with. I feel she wants me too.I see her at parties and stuff so i can easily approach her when i want. But there are 2 problems. First, she has a boyfriend. Secondly i will see her again after two months from now due to summer holidays. Im planing to get her after summer so im asking for help . How to make her cheat her boyfriend. GIve my as much advice as possible, you know how to talk to her , what to tell and stuff. Waiting guys...
Oh,and i am a university student not a fucking kid. So yeah ...
>>17302699
It's simple, take a bullet to the head. That's sure to make her fall in love with you!
>>17302699
Yea! This anon >>17302935 has great advice. Kill yourself! After that she is all yours.
ever since my boyfriend cheated on me, I can't bring myself to say I love you. even though I still do.
>>17302683
What would you like advice on? Is there anything else you want to give us to go on?
>>17302683
There's different kinds of love. Besides, you're not talking about love, you're talking about trust. If you still completely trust him you're incredibly naive, but I imagine you can't tell him you love him because you're not sure you can trust him anymore. Even if you still have feelings for him, they can't be the same as before you found out. They just can't.
Your relationship isn't the same anymore. Try to work out your issues or get out and find someone you can trust again.
>>17302683
>even though I still do.
No you don't, and you're lying to yourself.
He killed your trust and without trust a relationship is dead.
Here's the deal, I'm very awkward in social situations, and nervous during interactions.
The biggest problem is most jobs require someone with "good communication skills", so how do I get gud?
Are there any books or video lessons for this kind of a thing?
I'm turbo autist
learning how to sing helped me. autistic people and people 'jump' between pitches when they talk but the 'correct' way of speaking involves smooth changes and movements
>>17302677
OP should go to college and meet other awkward people, and will slowly grow out of said awkwardness. OP will also have the opportunity to attend real communications classes that will develop strong skills, far greater than that required of communicating "Welcome to McDonald's, may I take your order?" on a daily basis.
>>17302693
I finished college tho, I spent 20 year of my life being afaird of people and having shy broken speech, it never went away on it's own.
Is there maybe such a thing as communication classes for adults?
