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Warning: This is not a real-life question and is entirely about a game world. It's also a bit long, so only read if you need to kill some time. I'm sorry for taking up a thread slot of this oh-so valuable and enlightening board filled with /r9k/ leakover.
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A open-world sci-fi game called Star Citizen will drop soon. What this game promises is, how I think of it, a lot like Minecraft in space. A very large universe that takes probably 20 hours to travel across at warp speed, with various ships, weapons, companies, etc. This universe is shared with other people.
The universe is large, and you need to have coordinates in order to warp to a point. The universe is very uncharted in most parts (much like the star wars universe) and various full-sized planets offer many resources.
We have a role-playing group and a 'company'/organization in this game world to launch soon.
There are 4 routes to go in the company:
Logistics- which I'm in right now- coordinate materiel/personell movements through efficient and safe from bounty hunter paths.
Exploration- which focuses on going into the unknown, charting the area, getting coordinates and assessing the planets/systems.
Resources- I assume this is managing resources such as minerals, weapons, fuel amongst the company. as well as the in-game currency and ships.
Security- focusing on protecting the company's bases/outposts and trade vessels from pirates and looters. (I've been forced by shit communities to always look out for teamkills, so I think I'd be good in this one.)
Which way would you go if you could, and why?
tldr wher do go to eskape problemz
Goddamn roleplayers. Shouldn't you be asking /tg/?
>>17302443
It's not a tabletop game.
Also, I'm sorry if I bothered you from going to look at the 100 GF threads. This is just as autistic, but I hope it's refreshingly new autism.
>>17302540
It's role playing on a video game. I get the alure but it's cringy as shit. You have better things to do with your time and you damn well know it
Is it cringey to try to get to contact to people you have wronged?
After some years?
Especially if they are personality development ages (15-25)?
For some reason, I can't connect to some people and neither can they, but on a more distant formal level they are nice.
Is there any other way to distance myself from them, but not becoming a total stranger?
>>17302417
>Is it cringey to try to get to contact to people you have wronged?
>After some years?
>Especially if they are personality development ages (15-25)?
Are now, or were then?
There is no universal answer to the question of whether or not it's cringey. Really, it depends partly on how you wronged them, and partly on how they would feel about interacting with you again. The latter is hard to know beforehand, but depending on what you did, it may be possible to make some safe assumptions.
I was bullied badly in middle school. I was recently contacted by an old classmate who I don't remember actually bullying me, but who was carrying a lot of guilt for being a bystander in those days. I can't say I think that was cringey. I was glad to be able to lift that weight off this person's shoulders. My hands aren't entirely clean either, and ever since this happened I've been thinking about contacting some of the people I owe apologies to. Not all of them -there's one that I think I can safely assume really would rather never interact with me again- but most.
>>17302448
Oh, middle school memories
Sadly, i was always negative towards bullying and showed that, but never did anything nice enough to the victim. Said some shit like "don't expose your weaknesses". Really believed in that advice that days.
I don't think there is any sense to try to contact classmates, because i managed to hide everything about my insecurities and human traits to avoid any humiliation. So they don't know me, they remember a complete stranger and kind of a dick.
The only classmate i would like to contact was emotionally abused by me by neglect every single time he contacted me or vice versa, so i reap what i saw.
And he didn't know anything about my personality too.
Well, how long it's appropriate to wait to contact him? Like when we are both 35?
How much do people change from what was at school? Some of them were legit evil schemers, i will never believe they grew int l someone nice.
>>17302417
>Is it cringey to try to get to contact to people you have wronged?
My Name Is Anon
How do I go from talking casually with girls in an everyday setting (e.g. in a cafe, in college, or just meeting an acquiantance on the street) to my/her place?
This happens to me often enough, I'm getting all the good signs, and I know she has time, but I just don't know what to say to get her back to my place; saying “let's go to my place and fuck“ doesn't seem likely to work
I mean, at parties you can say “it's kinda loud here, let's go someplace quieter“, but what are some good things you can say in a non-party setting?
Do you actually think girls will just come to your house and fuck you, just like that? You need to stop watching so much porn
>>17302414
Fucking kek. If OP is serious this is the most hilarious thing i saw on this board yet.
>>17302411
Talk casually about the setting and sneak in comparisons to how your place looks. Get her talking about taste in living. When she brings up something such as having an aquarium or whatnot, ask if you can see it sometime; most will get the hint and give a time or actually take you right along if in the mood.
They're more likely to be comfortable in their own home, so that's where your goal should be.
Failing that, "let's go to my place and fuck" actually can work well if you have the attitude to make it work.
Now this might sound insecure as fuck, but I feel like my dick just ain't that big
I have measured it many times, and it always measure up to around 6.5 inches(6.49 to be exact)
And I heard that just 6 inches is kinda big already
But whenever I look at my self in the mirror with it being erect, it doesn't look that big
Anyone bother to explain if it's just an illusion, brainwashing by pron, and my schlong is indeed big?
It doesn't look big because 6.6 inches ISN'T that long. The half an inchish you have over the average penis length really isn't that much of a difference, it's pretty negligible too.
>>17302370
Unless it's skinny as fuck, you are fine. Mine is roughly that long and I already risk hurting my gf at times.
Femanon here, big ducks are overrated. They hurt and guys always like shoving the whole thing in. You have a good size. Just watch some yoytuve videos on how to pleasure a woman.
Hey /adv/ I am having a hard time with this one thing and could use your help.
I am and will continue to be homeless for a few weeks. It's all gonna be be fine at the end of this, I work a slightly above minimum wage job full time, Have a car, keep myself clean, and make sure other people do not know I'm homeless. In a month or so I will be moving to a pretty solid job that will allow me to shitpost from the comfort of my own apartment.
Only problem is where do i sleep? I searched a bit and Walmart parking lots seem to be the best answer for those with cars but I work 3rd shift so that probably won't work out with the amount of traffic. I'm kinda at a loss here, worse case scenario I can maybe knock out 3-4 hours at work since I'm the only one here but that be tough too.
any suggestion /adv/?
I'd say find somewhere that is open 24 hours like a Fred Meyer or a the wall mart you mentioned. If it's open 24 hours then the people who work there will park their cars there too.
>>17302346
What the job you have now and what's the more solid job you'll have later, if I may ask?
*TIP*
If Walmart is no go try the near back of parking lots in hotels or apartment buildings, try and make sure no one sees you drive up at hotels at some places or if you need to sneak in to use the toilet really bad, managers, security, janitors, maintenance, maids like to act like cops because it give them a story to talk about or meaning in a meaningless job.
>>17302346
Dear op
1. Get a membership to a local gym that is open 24 hours that has a shower. Clean up and do your daily morning routine there.
2. If you're looking for places to sleep then a Walmart might be good for a few hours. Having worked so many night audit jobs with hotels, it wasn't uncommon for somebody to come to the front desk and ask if they could just park in their car and sleep in the parking lot. A night auditor worth his salt will be okay with this and occasionally keep an eye out for you. You more than likely won't be harassed. Just make sure that it looks like a good clean Hotel in a good part of town that isn't too much of a drive from work.
3. Tri scoping out some of the local churches. Mormon churches seem to be the most reliable for this. Just park there after hours in the far corner of the parking lot and grab a few hours of sleep. If you know any of the clergy at any other churches in the area, see if they are okay with this so at least you have permission to be there
So I'm a little on edge right now. We had a few girls over tonight, one of them ended up in bed with me, and I feel like I blew it. We started fucking (lack of a better term), and at one point she said to stop, so I did, and then I just lost all of the mood. Couldn't get it back up, but I was wondering if this is something if I should be concerned with personally. Things seemed like they were going well, but as soon as they stopped I went limp. Me and the girl were going shot-for-shot, so alcohol was involved, and I'm only 23, so I'm wondering if anyone else has had similar problems, or if I should really be concerned about this?
She said stop and you stopped.
All seems good to me.
No jail time for you
>>17302345
>>17302345
I wasn't really worried about jail time, I guess I'm just worried personally. Like the fact that after stopping, and then trying back up that I couldn't get hard again. I just haven't had this problem before, so it's kind of freaking me out. Especially since it's a girl that I'm interested in.
>>17302345
"It's too much, stop"
and then bam, limp dick, tried brining up it as in what just happened? and then she left. Now i'm up on the /adv/ board and freaking out.
So I was with this chick for like five years, its a long story so Ill do my best here. I knew she was cheating, no proof but I just had that "gut" feeling. Confronted her about it, she'd deny it everytime. fast forward to about 6 months ago, we broke up. Cops let her take my car and load it with everything she could fit while I got arrested on false abuse claims by her. I would NEVER hit a women and there was no emotional abuse either. but that how it is where i live. Chick says guy hit her = Guy get arrested. Anyway Cops brought me home an hour later she was there still loading up the car. at this point i pleaded with the cops and even showed proof of my ownership of the car computer and a few other things of value. they didnt care and basically said she was to leave for 24 hours then she can come back and I will see my stuff then. Of course she shot through with my car and all my stuff. Cops Do nothing and are investigated now because i made an insurance claim of car theft and the insurers couldnt figure out why the police aided and abetted her because there were no charges laid on me. Nonetheless I got some money back for the car (ripped off imho) but i got something at least. she got away with everything else.
I decided to hack her FB a few days ago and HOLY SHIT.... what a slut, she was sleeping with everyone she came in contact with it seemed. I worked long hours so I couldnt always be there, which made it easy for her to cheat. At one point she had 5 guys on the go at the same time. I clearly remember back to when that was and she was glued to her phone all the time. said she was play candy crush, but she was putting her strange on the market... How do I get this bitch, she got her fb secure and her email so Im pretty bricked in that department, she lives far away now but i cant get this off my mind, I was gonna marry this girl. Lost everything and she broke my heart. took 5-6 years of my life, Im 31 now. Just want some vengence. Advise me plz
I'm guessing she's in her middle to late 20s as well, so she has left her prime while you are entering yours. The stigma of supposedly having been in a abusive relationship will hurt her more than it will you.
You will realize that you dodged a bullet by leaving her as she could have easily trapped you in marriage and made you pay forever if she had been more careful.
Revenge will gain you nothing but strengthen her point. But if you get a lawyer you might be able to let the law buttrape her and those white knight cops.
>>17302331
You have that data of her cheatings already? Save it away just in case, good in court. Then make sure as many shared acquaintances as possible get screenshots - discretion though, just kind of hand them around in private. She'll eventually be either ousted from her social circles or swarmed by thirsty second-raters. Otherwise what >>17302431 said applies.
>>17302471
>>17302431
Good Advice ty ppls
I just got a really scary text from a random number and I idk what to do
First you post it.
>>17302329
>>17302333
Did you take his ride?
Hello /adv/ , I've come seeking wisdom.
>been admiring this girl for sometime now
>share the same interests, hobbies
>know where she works
>know her birthday is coming up
>debating if I should send flowers + gift box to her work.
>I'd go in person but, don't wanna fuck it up and come off as creeper
>introverted as fuck
Pick very related ( how i'm feeling )
>she's very introverted as well if that helps.
Short answer: don't.
>>17302321
Hell no, don't send anything to her workplace, and don't show up there.
Call her to say happy birthday and such.
>>17302328
>Call her to say happy birthday and such.
Don't even call her. It'll just be an awkward conversation
What are you currently doing or striding for? How old are you? I recently quit my job because I felt like I was going in circles, was a pizza job. I am going to college for computer science, but I don't think I can sit in front of computers anymore unless I have to. I am at a crossroads of trying to figure out what would be good at learning new stuff constantly at a job and maybe be more physical. I love moving from environment to environment and not being still. I'm looking for advice from what you guys think would be a good idea.
I am turning 21 soon. I am a university student. Life is stressful. I am lucky in a lot of ways, and won't have student debt, but I come from a messed up family which is very toxic. I am the only one out of my siblings that has gone to university. The rest suffer from mental illnesses, are deadbeats, slobs, and live paycheck to paycheck. My parents are ashamed of them so there is a lot of pressure on me to do well. That being said I am studying psychology. My main goal is to get into medical school and become some sort of medical specialist like a psychiatrist, dermatologist, or regular family physician. But the hardest part is getting in. I don't have much of a science background yet, besides biology and I am practicing biological MCAT questions on khan academy and actually doing not bad, but I need to take more chemistry.
I am thinking about back up plans in case I don't get into any medical schools. And I guess my primary option would be to become a clinical psychologist, so going to grad school for a PhD. However apparently graduate school for psychology is even more competitive than medical school so fuck me. The school I was looking at takes over 200 applications each years and only admits I think less than 10 students. What the fuck is that?
Another option for me would be law school. It is cheaper and shorter than med school and I am really good at writing, analyzing, reading and 2 of my professors have said I should consider law school. I recently found out that if you get into law school, you don't have to be the type of lawyer who goes to court and does litigation and that appeals to me because I have no intention of doing that. I would do something like estate or real estate law. I don't even care about the money as long as I am employed and am generating an income. So now I going to be studying for the LSAT on top of the MCAT and GRE exams. It's just overwhelming and admittedly I am unsure about the future.
>>17302319
>What are you currently doing or striding for? How old are you?
Medicine (MD). 21.
>I love moving from environment to environment and not being still.
Same here, OP. That's why i've been having a hard time deciding what specialty to go into. On one hand I want to use my abilities to do research, make breakthroughs, advance the state of the art, etc.
But on the other hand, I want to go with emergency medicine since it gives so many interesting options (military, cruise ships, expeditions, etc) and I know it won't turn into a dull grind.
Difficult choice.
I'd suggest getting into one of the more interesting sides of CS, like video game development. Might be able to land an internship if there's a studio nearby.
>>17302342
I can't do video games, I've drilled it into my head. I would like to watch all games burn
Hey guys!
I live on a farm working in Canada; the farmer has given me a deal that I'll have free room, board and (farm) good as long as I work every day.
My problem is; I'm lonely and longing wanderlust. A new woman in my life from the city invited me on a road trip for a deal ($400)
I don't know how I can get this money by August, as the work I do doesn't necissariky pay me monetarily.
Is there any way I can use the Internet to make this sort of money? I don't have much to sell besides the clothes I own.
Cheers guys.
Also, the road trip is through the United States- coast to coast with everything in between.
I -need- this.
>>17302307
>I live on a farm working in Canada; the farmer has given me a deal that I'll have free room, board and (farm) good as long as I work every day.
You're getting ripped off there mate. Let's say I were to take you in to my home in return for you working for me - I manage a couple (well three at the moment as it happens) of construction sites, so it'd still be manual labour you were doing. Letting you sleep in my spare bedroom costs me nothing - I'd still be paying the mortgage even if you weren't there, and the repayments won't go up if you are there. Getting my wife to do a couple of extra loads of laundry each week and make a bit more food at each meal will have a cost, but it'd be negligeable, perhaps £50 a week. My utility bills would be a bit higher too, so perhaps add another £10 a week for that. In comparrison, if you came to work for me but found your own accomodation, for ten hours a day of carrying heavy stuff and sweeping the floor I'd be paying you about £450 a week (granted it'd be out of the companies' budget, not out of my pocket), but it's easy to see who's coming off best in that relationship.
>Is there any way I can use the Internet to make this sort of money?
Not really, no. Let's say I need some reports written, they're simple to do and I've decided to contract them out to a third party. I could have you do them online, but I'd probably have to pay you, say, £10 per report before you'd even consider it and in turn, you won't put a lot of effort in as you're only getting £10 for each one. However, with it being online, it doesn't matter if the person is local or not. At that point I can find myself a guy in India with a PHD in civil engineering who will work his fingers to the bone sixteen hours a day seven days a week and pay him £100 a month to write the reports in a better quality and at a faster rate than even I could.
>>17302337
This is fair and just advice.
I do know I'm being ripped off. I'm sad here, but I have nowhere to go but away; which is why I want to see the world thanks to the help of a friend.
Do you have any advice how I could find money otherwise?
Went out last night with a couple of mates, and one of them met some of his friends whilst there. One of these girls starts flirting with me throughout the night, but I don't kiss her or do anything with her because i've already got a girlfriend.
Problem is, towards the end she goes and kisses me on the lips (no tongue). By this point I was absolutely smashed so my reaction time was terrible, my friend saw and then took me away where I promptly threw up and got taken home.
The question is, do I tell my girlfriend or not? We've been together for a year and almost a half, but I don't want to cause any pointless pain since I didn't do anything myself.
Tell her want happened. I think she will understand. Otherwise a friend call tell her that and it will be worse for you (seriously) better be honest.
>>17302291
The girl wanted you because you were taken. Pouching is a girls favorite hobby, but enough ranting, don't bring it up unless you know you'll meet her again with the gf. Like you said you drunk and weren't in complete control anyways.
I'd tell her. Better for her to hear it from YOU now rather than someone else through the grapevine a month from now.
Tell the faggot that he left his place empty, you didn't take anything.
>dating a single mom
you fucked up now kid
Be respectfully pragmatic and stand up, if it is not your type of personality it is time to make it yours. Dating a woman with a child is a bit more of a commitment. Leaving may cause the child to have multiple father figures, obviously this isn't the most crucial period for the kid to have a dad. But I think if you love the girl and appreciate the child you should stand up and tell him with powerful wording that he left his commitment and it's your job now to take care of his son as a father. You could add something with the whole him not paying child support. All up to you.
>>17302288
Quietly and matter-of-factly correct the child. "No, I'm not Papa, I'm Dave" He'll learn and think nothing of it.
This will be long one sorry about that.
Not a cry for suicide, I have found the cure to my depression is alcohol so I'm a permanent alcoholic.
Okay let's start early in life. Me and my mom used to move around a lot and sometimes I got sent back to live with dad when things got rough for my mom.
I think things were happy to around 3-4 around that time I often did weird things that my step dads or mother didn't like. It started of small; getting home later than planned, doing bad in school, not cleaning up after myself. One of my first step dads abused my mom very often I've heard her say that one time I had to go get the neighbors so he didn't hurt her. Generally I think he was nice, he brought me gifts, let me make a bit of a mess from time to time, taking me out having fun, he never hurt me and was very nice I think.
Also around that time my cousin I used to play with wanted me to do weird things with him like sucking his cock and kissing and I didn't really mind since he gave me attention and played with me. But this is a hard one to say I don't remember hearing him say he wanted me to do it I just did it and he liked it. He was 3 years older I think. I also remember wanting to have more sleepovers (This is where it'd happen) but suddenly we couldn't anymore because he's bad and I just couldn't understand why.
Fast forward through one step dad and the start of school until age 8-9 ca where my new step dad from lovely Albania and mom was very controlling of me. I got house arrest from weeks to months for defying him and my mom did nothing. Then once I discovered sexual stuff for real (Actually knowing what the fuck it was) at 10 he freaked and started beating me everytime he'd caught me with porn, But being me I didn't stop defying him I just continued.
That continued until 12 where I went full retard. I abused my little sister sexually. Like seriously I have no clue where this came from. I had never thought about abusing anyone before and I loved my sister very dearly (Still do and I'll leave her everything I have when I die). But one day after they had gone to the movies or something and suddenly I was alone with her for a couple hours. Now this had happened many times before, usually I just sat infront of the PC playing video games then and she'd watch cartoons in her room. But suddenly I decided you know what I'm gonna watch cartoons with her, she often wanted me to watch cartons with her and I decided I'm going to do so. I wish I'd just gone and played my stupid games. After that it's a blur. I don't even remember what I did exactly.
However after realizing how big of a mistake I'd just made I almost killed myself out in -20 and only turned around because survival instincts saved me. (Thanks I guess) When I came home after being out in the snow for hours (They hadn't called the police to search, I'd be found in seconds then since I was out on the street at 1-2 at night. After I came home my step dad almost killed me, he started beating me more than ever, my mom stepped in when she realized he would kill me.
Was sent to my dad to live and haven't seen him since or my little sister. My mom comes around from time to time but honestly I don't want her in my life as much I hate to admit I have to relay on her for financial support. I did not go to any therapist.
After starting a new life with my dad he had to quit his fishing job and move to a office. I started to a little better at school at first but once time went on I started getting more and more absence from school. Until I got to I guess high school for the americans where I have over 30% absence and almost all of that is me lying at home wanting to die. Went to a high school away from my hometown for the last 2 years and and the first few months I tried to kill myself sorta. I wanted to escape life so I just took my car and starte driving, almost never stopping for 30-40 hours straight. Off course 30-40 hours straight is very tirering and it ended up with my car in a ditch since I dozed off behind the wheel. I remember thinking "Ohh shit I'm going to go to sleep, I have to get off the highway at the nearest exit, I even slowed down and started looking for one but I just couldn't find it for a couple minutes and boom.
Waking up after a crash from 120kph after you've just spent the last few days thinking you should rather be dead was weird. Surivival instinct are really hard to beat I guess. Cause after I crashed the first thing I did was call 911, I did not have enough battery to actually say where I was all I got out was "I'm between [major town] and [major town] on the highway I have just crashed and I'm about to run out of phone battery" then it was dead. Jesus that was a close one. Have you ever tried fighting survival instincts? That shit is crazy hard, after I realized I could just take my rope in the boot and hang myself in a nearby tree. But noo I went out and crawled back to the highway and tried to wave over people, my car was so far down the forest you couldn't even see it from the highway.
Have you thought about going to church OP?
it might help to talk to someone there.
>Starting College this Fall
>26,500 total cost
>12,900 in scholarships/fed loans/grants
>5,000 in savings account
>6,450 per semester in aid
>First day 8/22
>11,000 tuition due first day of college
>1,500 due first day for housing
>1,500 each month for housing
>Can't apply for private loans until 1 day before first day
>Have shitty part time job that barely pays bills currently
>wat do?
Take a year off, work, and save up
>>17302270
I'm not sure how the money works out, but it looks like you have enough to cover it. And are you somehow under the impression that every single private lender has the same restriction on when you can apply for a loan? That seems extremely unlikely.
You also have several months before school starts. Look for more work.
>>17302270
Here you go, anon:
Get rid of the “$26,500” total cost and the “$6,450 aid,” remove those numbers from your head.
Your total cost of tuition, fees, and books (if that TC is presented by your college), will be $13,600.
Now, each semester will cost $6,800 and you receive $6,480 per semester to cover it. You have a deficit of $320 (this you may not actually owe and can go towards books at your discretion) per semester. Now, let’s tack into the savings.
You have $5,000 saved and need to use $1820 of it on the first day, but you should not hang onto much of it, and you should pay 1-2 months up. Cut a check for $3,320 for 8/22-10/22, giving you a two-month head start on your bills and enough time to have loans processed.
You can even cut down on your tuition costs by taking less classes, in most calculations, those are for full-time students taking a 5 class load. You can squeeze by with less of a course load and taking (depending on your school) the 9cr minimum to keep your full-time status.
You should really speak to an adviser to help you manage this, only they can for certain tell you what you need to know.
Good luck.
