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I need help /adv/
I got a girls number a few days ago and weve been texting back and forth pretty often for those few days, she just randomly texted me "You seem like a great person", am I getting friend zoned here or does she want me to ask her out, I have no clue you guys
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A girl can talk to you every second, and still not wanna be with you. Likewise, a girl can speak to you never, and wanna be with you. There is NO black and white.
Ask her out. That's the only way. Don't be so fucking afraid of failure. You're limiting yourself.
>>16892225
Ask her out you dumb frogposter.
How can you overthink this so FUCKING HARD.
>>16892235
Your right anon, I'll man the fuck up and ask her later today
My girlfriend just dumped me.
I was so fucking in love with her. I feel sick to my stomach. Every cell in my body feels like it's in a state of shock. I can hardly move. I feel like a cripple. I didn't sleep at all last night. I feel like crying and there's a pain in my chest. I've always felt like she was out of my league. She just has a more attractive face than me. I feel like killing myself. I hate this fucking planet and this fucking world that I live in. I just want her to tell me that she wants me back and that she loves me and that she's sorry. I just want to hold her again. I feel like crying. I wish I was so attractive that nobody would ever leave me. FUCK THIS. I want to just die right now. Please help me, anybody.
Please tell me what I need to do right now and I'll do it.
>>16892178
Try lifting the feels away.
>>16892178
awww nigga this is so pathetic but i just want to wrap my arms around you, give you a beer and play some nintendo.
it hurts, but you'll get over it. but what you said boils down to this
>one girl ended her relationsihp with me
>so now i want to kill myself
you dont. you are sad. but like all sadness it fades. things change. she becomes a long term memory and you are no longer hurt thinking about her. not like this at least.
you go on and meet another girl. i know thats not what anyone wants to hear. it doesn't help. but you'll at least understand it when the time comes. this girl will become a distant memory. if i had to guess you werent even dating her very long.
as for being attractive, you were attractive enough to get her, with some help of whatever else you had going for you. being so attractive that no one will ever leave you isn't a thing. even super models break up. you want someone to be with you for the whole package, not just a face. and despite how whiny you are, im going to guess there is a bit more to you than meets the eye. otherwise why would she take interest in you.
grab a beer. pat yourself on the back. you did something that 99% of the assholes on this website dream of. you scored someone hotter than you cuz they saw something else inside. just do that again. rinse, then repeat.
Two years from now, you won't even give a shit.
From the ages of 18-20 I did more or less nothing with my time. A few part time jobs and a lot of weed smoking.
A year in I applied to university. I met a girl who had slept with most of my immediate friends and when we eventually had sex last January. We ended up in a relationship. I broke up with her three weeks ago because she was moving in with two male friends. One is an ex-boyfriend and the other is strange. He licked her face at a party on new years as a joke which is when I realised I'm not in the drivers seat in any aspect of my life.
She sucked at drawing boundaries with people and I sucked at letting her know.
How do I reclaim a semblance of confidence or control? I'm heart broken about a girl whose main criteria for a relationship with me was that I stayed. How do I forgive myself for all my wasted time? I'm 21 and every day feels wasted.
>>16892145
time is never truly wasted, and by your own account there is nothing to reclaim, simply to start claiming.
you dated a girl, had sex, presumably had a good time, and then things went south. thats how ALL relationships go. it does not make relationships useless, pointless, or wasted time. it is their nature, and its the reason we have them. at the very least you can say 'i enjoyed my time with her, but then i learned from it'. thats what you have to take from everything.
all that being said, if you want to be more productive, the first thing you got to do is know what you want.
sit down, make a list, and make a schedule. dont start that schedule tomorrow. the first step is taken today.
also dont smoke weed anymore.
>>16892145
>I'm too passive, what do I do?
I'm essentially going to reiterate what >>16892182 wrote: figure out what your goals are (they don't have to be deep, they don't even have to be long term) and then act to achieve those.
It's simple, but it means you have to decide you're going to go after what you want. You don't need to spend a lot of time regretting the past. Make up for it by working and making effort now.
>>16892145
Stop smoking weed, first of all. Its very purpose is to make you passive, so it's not wonder stoner dipshits always turn out the same way.
What do you actually want? What's your plan? You need to bring some order into your life and your relationships, so start by not being a passive bitch to yourself. Get in shape, pull your shoulders back, get some shoes with some arch support.
You haven't wasted time at all. Those two years have given you the experiences that prompted you to change. This is the bit where you make that change.
Can someone just explain to me how much protein, sodium, carbs etc. I'm supposed to eat a day?
I'm constantly finding out
>"You're not eating enough carbs"
>"You have iron deficiency"
Can I get a straight to the point explanation of what I'm supposed to eat a day to survive and be in good shape?
I'm 18 male 165 lbs and 5'10"
>>16892101
>Can I get a straight to the point explanation of what I'm supposed to eat a day to survive and be in good shape?
Read the >>>/fit/ sticky.
>>16892101
Do you feel energized? (w/o caffeine or other stimulants)
Is your weight relatively stable?
If so, you're probably eating fine based on your activity level.
Go and see a nutritionist. They can give you advice tailored to your lifestyle and can help you develop a meal plan
>>16892183
He might be fine now, but if he develops eating habits that aren't good for him later on down the track, he could run into health problems. Setting up a good diet and eating habits now isn't a bad idea.
sup /adv/ thinking of becoming a detective
what do?
i only have haxor skills should i become a computer forensics
help me old fags
>>16892095
bump with L.A Noire wallpapers
>>16892095
Do call up your local PD and ask them.
Don't sign up for criminal justice classes at your local online money pit like Devry or Phoenix.
>>16892157
Thanks bro
I saw some shit on Wikihow
Looks like i need 4 years in some university idk
I let the registration on my vehicle expire without getting it renewed or any emissions testing done. So now I need to have emissions done before I can renew my registration, but with a presently expired registration I can't legally drive my car.
Is there any way to get like a temporary registration for testing purposes? I've looked at the website for Arizona's DMV and can't find anything.
Call them.
>>16892041
Yes, you can get a temporary tag for this. Keep in mind that with the tag it's only legal to drive the car if you're going directly to the place to get the testing done.
You're google-fu kind of fails
https://servicearizona.com/webapp/permit3/permitInfo.do#896
How do I turn off the alarm on my digital watch? It keeps going off and I can only seem to change the time for when it goes off. Advice is appreciated.
>>16892015
Hold the Mode button until the alarm section comes up
>>16892015
bang fire snake against rock until fire stop
You know they make these things called instruction manuals right?
Did anyone here have a relationship with a woman solely because of her looks ?
Was it worth it ?
I'm asking, because we're hard wired to find physically attractive mates.
A better question is:
Has anyone ever had a relationship with anyone based purely on looks, and NOT been burned by it.
>>16892002
>I'm asking, because we're hard wired to find physically attractive mates.
Your entire premise is wrong. We're hardwired to find mates who have the best to offer us, not just physically. It includes resource-wise and generally being a good person.
>>16892002
That won't work out. A successful relationship requires mutual emotional and mental compatibility and attraction , as well as physical. 1/3rd isn't enough to cut it.
I'm the stereotypical betafag, never got a girlfriend, failed attempts, kissless virgin, highschool was shit, not a bunch of friends, I won't waste time giving unneccessary details.
Straight to the subject, there is a particular girl I like. We were classmates in highschool. Not long ago, I started taking advanced english courses for my Cambridge language level and she attends those lessons too. Well, we just socialise, tell what we were up lately and just chit-chat after classes on our way to the bus station.
Now here comes the fun part. I wanted to ask her out before, but I cowered out because none of my attempts were successful. After no longer being classmates, I just assumed the interest died, but after meeting her during those english courses prooved to me that it didn't. And frankly I'd assume this gave me an opportunity to find common interest.
Anyway I avoided days like 14th of February and 8th of March simply because there would be way too many people dating during this time and I just want a little bit more...private if that's the right word. So now straight to the question, do you know any possible way of seriously not fucking this shit up? Never been on a date before and everytime I try to approach this issue, my heartbeat rate increases so hard it feels like exploding and I usually coward out.
Any of you know tips, tricks and lines that could be handy? Or any general advice?
>i avoided days like 14th of february simply because there would be way too many people dating during this time and i just want a littl bit more.. private
its not the right word. its not even a right thought process. dont try and act like you were making it special when you admit to being all about the anxiety?
>i wont waste time tgiving unnecessary details
>follows up wtih 3 paragraphs of unnecessary details
>so now straight to the question (after 3 paragraphs of unnuecessary details)
lol
>do you know any possible way of seriously not fucking this shit up
depends on your definition of fucking shit up. if ur asking about a guarantee she will say yes, there isn't. if there were cheatcodes for girls everyone would know them. all this being said, id recommend just going up and asking her during the next time you see her. say
>you wanna go to XX with me?
>sure anon
>great, its a date
obviously the conversation will be a bit more... complex than that, but make sure you make it known its a date. dont ask if its a date.
if you think she actually wants to talk to you, or likes being around you (even better) try to delve into your friendship- find ways to spend time with her like if you're walking past a coffee shop you can ask her if she wants a coffee. Or you can invite her to the library or, if you think the time is right, hers or your house, then you might be on the right track for a date lol why am i talking ive had like one kiss in my life
>>16891987
>dont try and act like you were making it special when you admit to being all about the anxiety?
You're correct. It wasn't about making it special, it was about the anxiety. More specifically, I would feel uncomfortable with more people dating around, because I'd end up thinking "he did it better than me, I suck".
>[...]lol
Depends on your definition of unnecessary details. I think giving info about previous attempts, HS & social life wouldn't really matter. I just provided a little bit of background in "today's" issue rather than trying to look back. (If you do want past experiences, summarised would be me stuttering and being plainly rejected).
>you wanna go to XX with me?
Yeah, well biggest problem is that I don't know how to approach this point of the conversation, and fear of being way too direct and possibly creepy.
>Live near uni
>Spend a lot of my time at home on my PC
>Live in a 2bd, share my room with another guy
>He always has friends over
>I'm conversational to a degree, but I've got a big pet peeve about people staring over my shoulder while I'm internetting
>Especially when every other minute there's a comment about whatever I'm doing
>Want to tell this guy to stfu but not sure how to go about it
>Know this was what I leased into but the worst my mate gets is when I've got a meme on my screen
>Don't want to create a conversational divide with my roommate or his bros, but when I'm fresh home for the day I want some kind of small bubble to myself
Are there strategies to bringing things up, to where you can laugh about them, rather than prefacing the conversation with a negative tone?
>>16891941
Turn your computer desk so your screen faces a corner, get one of those screen protectors that obscures your screen if viewed at an angle, and wear big, noticeable headphones.
>inb4 get out of school/kys
Somethings I just don't understand. Got sanctioned about a month ago due to me refusing to take a hoodie off that had the school logo on it in a cold sports hall. The reason being that the teacher wanted the sports department looking more "corporate".
Anyway, time is today and I'm minding my own business eating a slice of toast. Teacher stops us(multiple people around me who also are eating) and tell us to either throw it away (had a a whole uneaten slice in my hand) or to put in our pockets(breadcrumbs everywhere).
According to a new rule eating outside is not allowed even when the are no wrappers or tissues to litter with.
What do? Or am I missing something?
>>16891932
Just suck it up till you're done kid.
Save that 'tude for college.
>>16891932
Youmust be 18 years of age or older to post on this webzone.
The more insignificant the degree of power people are afforded, the more they seem to let it get to their heads. You'd hope they would be more reasonable about it, but if they were that self-aware and capable then they wouldn't be the ones stuck with such lowly roles anyway.
There's also the rather popular theory that school these days is more about making obedient cogs in the machine than nurturing the growth of individuals. Given my first point, however, I'm not sure I buy the idea that these faculty and administrators are smart enough to pull off such a conspiracy. If anything, idiots tend to respect fewer rules.
I just feel like I can't do it anymore, /adv/
I hate to be another one of those suicidal threads but nothing seems worth it and my Pure-O OCD is controlling my whole life. I'm on 100mg of Zoloft and go to therapy but it's still there and it never goes away
When I was 13 I was coerced by a 20 year old online to make child pornography of myself by manipulating me with compliments and it's ruined my ability to be intimate forever and I have vaginismus but my boyfriend needs sex in his life so much that I feel like he'll never be happy with me and we won't last
Everyone leaves me the moment I do one thing wrong and even now someone I thought was a good friend of mine seems to be talking about how the only reason they're not breaking it off with me is because they'd feel bad because I recently bought them an expensive gift
The only thing keeping me going is I love my family and I don't want them to be sad
I don't think my life is going to go anywhere, I have a job and I go to university but I still feel worthless
I just want to start over and be okay but that's impossible, so how does life get better when nothing goes right, /adv/
>The only thing keeping me going is I love my family and I don't want them to be sad
Me, too!
It takes a lot to maintain some semblance of control in front of others, but we do it because we don't want to hurt them, even if we hurt.
I am sorry you had bad experience when young. Wish I could hug now. You need a good hug.
When I feel bad, I thin how thankful I am. Life could be a lot horrible, but, even if the hurt never stop, we can keep going! People are like wind, one come and one goes away. You remain
please tell me you're seeing a psychiatrist for your obvious psychiatric issues.
>>16891986
I am but I've only been able to open up about the more serious stuff a few times
Mostly I just talk about how I have online checking-up on people who hate me issues from my OCD
Hey, guys, I've had a gf for the past 4 years and not gonna break up with her, but there's this other girl who pretty much wants to jump my bones and I really like her as well. How to juggle 2 girls?
Virgins and people who have never "been here" will be ignored since they are worthless and have nothing of value to contribute with.
What your gf is that great of a meal ticket or what?
That's low. You're doing both girls wrong.
From a girl that has been cheated on don't do it! It creates horrible memories and terrible issues. If you love this girl at all break up with her because your just going to hurt her.
>>16891917
OP, listen to >>16891942
Obviously you don't "love" your current girl, and I'm not going to judge that cause breaking up sucks. But be weary of you cheat because it'll only make you look like an asshole. If you don't care about her emotions, or your reputation, then go ahead. If you have a conscious, then just end it and go have some fun!
Quit job at FedEx as package handler
I still haven't gotten my last paycheck and it's been 2 weeks and half already. I called and they said they would mail it to me but haven't
what should I do?
>>16891916
Call again
As a child, I had problems with compulsive behavior. I used to check certain things repeatedly and randomly shake my head, among other things. I had problems going to school, because I was afraid of the other kids. My grades were great, but I never had any friends. In sixth grade a guy from my class put a knife to my throat and threatened to kill me. I didn‘t go to school for half a year and my mom got me into therapy. At age 15 I tried to kill myself and subsequently spent two years in a mental ward. They told me I had autism shortly after. I barely finished school and now I‘m 20 years old, without any direction or purpose.
I‘ve felt this way for a long time and I don‘t know what to do anymore. I try to eat healthy, work out, try new things, but nothing helps. I‘m under constant distress. I blame myself for my lack of progress.
I have no idea what I‘m trying to achieve with this post, but I guess I just need someone to talk to. I try to do something and the second it challenges me in some way, I give up. All the advice I get boils down to thinking more positively, but I can‘t. I can‘t just change the way I think. My head feels like a convoluted mess and I don‘t know how to deal with it. I spend most of my day in bed because sleep is the only thing that makes it bearable. I wish I knew what caused all this, but I don‘t. I know I need help, but I can‘t even get out of bed and make an appointment.
I kinda wish I was back in the hospital. They told me what to do and I had people to talk to. I don‘t mean to come across as whiny, but this is just the way things are for me.
Thanks for your time, /adv/.
hey, what do you wanna talk about then?
Dont have a solution for your problem, but i can certainly shitpost for a while.
So what's up?
What are the new things you're trying?
>>16891938
Eh, I don't know.
I tried drawing again, but it's not as fun as it used to be.
>>16891970
do you take drugs?
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