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I'm in college, and I have friends. I support my friends and attempt to help in any way I can and it was great for a while. They still accept help from me but I can never get help when I need it most. I'm mentally scarred for a slew of deaths in the family a couple years ago, with my dad starting as 1 of 20. I'm having mental breakdowns now, my grades are dropping, and everyone is always busy when I need them to talk about it. What do I do? I can't find new friends, I tried that, and the ones I have don't really give a shit. So who do I talk to? 4chan....
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>>16893795
Do you ask for help? Sometimes trying to be brave and independent means that you hide your needs so well others can't see them. Try just saying "I've been really low lately" to a friend and see what happens.
My memory is shit, seriously bad. I can remember things from weeks ago hell even years ago at times. However, a majority of times I forget things almost immediately. Normally I can live with it but this time I messed up bad. I lost my paperwork that pretty much says that I exist (I.e. birth, certificates ect.) All in one convenient folder. I know these things are replaceable (even though I don't know how) and that it will just take time but still...
I've always been able to put myself in a leading position with my pears and I even have a great thing going with my...
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>>16893789
You're stressed and further compounding the problem by stressing out about your memory. Deal with your stressors and all will be well
>>16893886
My stress you say? It could be the sudden new move and the pressure from being in charge of all these new people and how I'm getting married next year.
I guess since I lost my papers I've been stressed about my reputation and getting my books and de-stressers into habit. Is kinda killing me.
I actually might be the only thing putting stress on me huh?
>>16893901
You have a lot going on and gotta take care of yourself, OP. Give yourself some much needed down time. Practice relaxation techniques, drink some kava, do some deep introspection. Everyone handles stress differently but in many cases it can actually mimic dementia. Our brains don't have time to hold a memory if we're constantly jumping from one thought to the next. Those neuropathways become stronger the more they're used, even if you're not consciously aware of how much is really on your mind.
I think I fucked up, literally.
So after my first week at at my new work place, I may or may not have fucked two colleagues on the Friday night drinks (on different occasions).
One of them, is my office manager and the other is HR. Apparently both of them dislike each other and have had a difficult history together.
Is it time to look for another job, or is there anyway I can spin this, maybe to my advantage?
For clarification, both of them are female and I'm a guy. Also >>>/r9k/ told me to post here instead.
You've only got one option op, continue to fuck both of them. You either are going to get a permanent job and be the fuck toy of two hoes or you will get fired.
>>16893814
So just go hard and/or go home? How on the dl or just straight out in the open. I think I'm still in the clear, regarding that it's not out in the open yet, so I may have some time to get "my side" of the story of the situation.
>>16893814
>>16893826
I wasn't even considering going steady with either of them. The whole fucking thing just happened out of the blue, I think both of them are sexually repressed. Also, obviously we all we're drunk as fuck.
How do I complete a large assignment in a short amount of time?
>>16893738
by getting the fuck off of 4chan
>>16893738
Don't procrastinate.
>>16893744
Well shit
When i was a kid I was bullied for my last name. I want to change it to something better, preferably something that wont get my kid (When i have one) to get beat up. I am afraid my dad will think I am ashamed to be his son if i change it, and Im not sure how to avoid that. I also would like to ask you guys what you think I should change my last name to.
>>16893724
Never change senpai. It'l grow on you.
How bad can it be, you're not a Gaylord are you?
>>16893724
Raise your kid to know how to fight, the reason you got bullied wasn't because of your last name but instead cause you were a beta fag. You didn't stand up for yourself. If someone is weak bullies can always find something to make fun of, for you it was your last name.
>>16893724
What was it? Fox, Chamberlin, Adams are common, why not? Some thing that flows with your name
well /adv/, what's the ideal sleep schedule for a male college aged? right now i have no job and only go to school 1 day a week.
a.tm i go to bed anywhere from 2-6am and get up at 12-4. it just isn't working. im always tired and can barely do any work.
Maybe to try and get more normal set your alarm 8 hours from when you go to bed.
>>16893733
sure, but what should i strive for? 7am? 9?
>>16893719
I wake up at 4pm go to work at 6 until 6am, drive home for seven then try to sleep.
If it's a run day I run first.
If I don't sleep, I get out of bed at midday and fuck around on videogames till 4 then go to work. I'll typically do that thing where you aren't sleeping but snap awake every 30 seconds for about an hour at midnight then drive home as usual and collapse into bed.
If it's a run day I run first.
how to respond to a girl you like that calls you a great guy but a bit of a womanizer??
Fuck her mom. If she calls you a womanizer she wants to be treated poorly trust me im a psychologist.
>>16893718
Try to fuck her.
do i refute it? feign ignorance? admit it?
How much does aging freak you the fuck out? look at this picture. This can happen in less than 4 years!
I personally think it's terrible, like almost like watching yourself turn into a monster. it makes me want to kill myself while im still under 30 and look ok.
It's because she did a shit load of drugs, alcohol and a horrible diet that she looks like shit . If you don't fuck yourself up like that and eat good food, exercise and deal with stress in a proper manner, not only will you not age badly, you might actually look better
>>16893712
Idk man I saw her on that anger management show and she was looking fine as fuck
>>16893712
Im not white so Im not too worried. Im good till 60
how does /adv/ think i should go out.
A bit of back story, I've been depressed for around 10 years, mostly because I had an extremely traumatic childhood. my family and parents were kind to me but i just had a bad childhood in general, and had many bad things happen to me. i also absolutely hate myself and think I'm a complete failure. i cant dissapoint my family yet again, so what do i do? should i continue on with this painful existence or let myself finally go? at this point I'm really not sure where to turn. in general i hate where my life is right now,...
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don't do it. please.
I am in the same boat as you Op. Seems like nothing makes me happy. However I found animals help me a lot. If you like animals go to a nature trail and just sit down bring your favourite drink like juice and relax. Also look up breathing techiques. I tried to kill myself in December and are still recovering it is very hard. Talk to your parents about how you feel too it helped me a lot they will love you no matter what. Also maybe look into getting a service dog for your depression.
>>16893695
>i don't want to continue this pain, but i also don't want to hurt my family who have been kind to me. what do?
Wait till parents die or tough it out. You get to pick.
Only other option is to make it look like an accident, which is much harder than it sounds if you want to be certain about things. Doing incredibly high risk activities is one of them - skydiving, base jumping, or similar.
They're gonna get hurt regardless of what happens. Question...
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