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>sarcastically called a female friend "lov" (also have a huge crush on her) while texting...
>she says ew
>I jokingly say I'm pretending to be a 60 y/o man (older creepy men seem to like calling girls darlin etc)
>she doesn't get it or "mingle with men who say that"
>"creepy"
>how sexist am I now?
not sexist but on the beta scale.. omega/10
Your friend is an idiot.
Seek new friends. Seriously. Find people who at least understand what calling someone "luv" means. My lord, she must have the IQ of a turnip.
>>16895848
How does sexism come into this?
Not sure why in relationship
>Gf not sexually attracted to me
>We dated out of highschool, she needs me to cuddle her to sleep, leave the door open because she gets scared ect
>Together 2 years, no arguments, act like good friends
>Going to university living together
Not sure what a relationship should be since it's my first?
I'm happy with her at the moment but I don't feel alive with her.
Dump her. I know that advice gets thrown around here, but I find it hard to believe that you see a future with her. No point in staying with her and being stuck living together if you're in a dying relationship
>>16895843
I'm in a new city and it's pretty much if I broke up with her I'd never get a degree.
But she never does anything for me, doesn't really listen to me or shit like that.
I'm the kind of person who wants an emotional relationship, I don't even care about the sex
>>16895847
>I'm in a new city and it's pretty much if I broke up with her I'd never get a degree.
How? What's stopping you finding other roommates?
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I know I need to study but I feel zero motivation to do so even though I really might fail if I don't.
I made some serious academic sacrifices(skipped big lectures and assignments) last Wednesday to study for a test and while I think I did good I have no idea what I got on it as I've been checking every day since and my prof. still hasn't graded it. This has bummed me out because if I didn't do well on that exam I very well may fail that entire class. I feel that this anxiety is what's causing my lack of motivation to study for any of my classes.
How...
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>>16895832
>I made some serious academic sacrifices(skipped big lectures and assignments)
>I feel that this anxiety is what's causing my lack of motivation to study for any of my classes.
No, you lack motivation in general, and right now you're using this anxiety as a scapegoat. You seriously need to work on your time management
>>16895839
I admit that, this semester I've had the hardest classes with the worst schedule I've ever had. This entire time I've been rolling with the motions and it's been a time management disaster.
Where should I start to fix this? I have the rest of today until Monday morning before I have to finish all my assignments and go back to Uni.
last bump
What does kissing and hugging romanticaly feels like?
I want deets.
Warm and safe. Nothing better than cuddling up to your SO.
Your dad and I hold each other, then he swishes his toung around my mouth. Feels so nice we made you kido!
>>16895782
Kissing is honestly a little disappointing. Its just someone's lips pushed against your lips. It's the closeness to someone you really like that's the intoxicating part. It's the letting your guard down and being able to express those feelings of love and lust while getting them reciprocated that makes the experience 100x better than any casual hookup.
Whenever I try to reply to a thread on 4chan it shows a red panel that says connection error under the comment
How can I comment when this comes up always?
It does let me make threads but not reply
Sooo... I won't be able to reply to this so give some advices about what to do!
>>16895781
disable your adblocker
t. resident faggot
enjoy our wonderful board
>>16895787
Thanks a lot matey matey! xD
It did let me use ab before but meh
I will!
>>16895781
When that happens I just keep clicking the "post" button, and refresh if it says captcha is wrong, etc.
>broke up with fiancé because there were many issues in the relationship
>cancelled an entire wedding
>totally fine at the time
>after a period of recovery, start seeing someone new
>sitting at home, suddenly have a small emotional breakdown
>all these feels, all these tears
>I am alone
Is this normal? Is this regret? I don't know how I feel anymore.
>>16895760
I make that face when I lose my blood echoes to a snatcher
>>16895760
idk man, sounds like you're just a faggot to me
>>16895760
I read somewhere women are feeling down right after the break and men need more time feeling down. Meanwhile most women feel okay/happy again.
For your situation: Maybe you're now at this point and it's just as it is. But remember why you broke up and canceled the wedding. There were reasons and I would suggest to not do some dumb decision now. Take time to think about in which situation you are and why you have those feelings now.
Maybe this you made a failure and shouldn't break up....
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So like 5 days ago I met this guy at a show, and we talked a lot and we exchanged Facebook and I think numbers. It's been a while since I've made any friends and i'd like to at least have one. But I feel weird being a guy asking another guy to hang out. I get that classic "WHAT ARE YOU A FAG??" voice in my head. How should i message him? Will it come off weird? Anyone else like this?
Say something like "hey man going to any shows soon?" or "i'm going to this show soon, wanna go?"
almost any conversation can be started by discussing something you have a mutual interest in
Don't put so much thought into it. Just talk to him like a bro. It's not like you want to fuck him or anything... right?
>>16896395
No of course not. But I feel like a queer when I want to have a connection with another human being.
Also >>16895740
Thank you
Is there any kind of disease or syndrome for people that love negativity?
I find amusement in accidents (big or small) that are not so happy and I also love to see negative emotions from people. This goes to the point where I find even my own misfortune and negative emotions funny.
For example: I found the terrorist attacks in Paris funny (I don't like ISIS in anyway or anything), I like to read and listen to other people's problems for self-amusement, I laughed for 15 mins because I saw pics about necrophilia...
I could list some things that would...
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schadenfreude
Sadism? Nhilism?
>>16895730
Whoa there edgemaster. Tip your fedora any harder and you're gonna hurt someone.
Paypal fucked up my bank account and charged me three times for something.
I contacted them and they told me to contact my bank and that they can not do anything about it.
I have no clue what to do I do not have the money to pay for this three times.
yeah, talk to your bank and tell them there are two fraudulent or erroneous charges on your account, and ask them what to do about it.
Well have you talked to your bank like they told you to?
>>16895739
N-no I have really bad social anxiety I do not leave my house. That is why I do not what to do.
I have a strong fetish for femdom. I already told my girlfriend. Usually I'm not beta or something, strong, tall and fit body. Dominant in daily life situations. But I often ask my girlfriend to be my femdom in bed, whip me, milk me, etc.
I'm not sure if she really enjoys giving me pain but she said she likes to see my dick hard and edging it. Now I wonder if that probably damages our relationship in some way I don't understand? Also how can I convince her to be a bit more active as a femdom? Any way of making it more attractive for her? Thanks for the help.
>>16895710
She's gonna femdom her way out of your relatioship
>>16895717
Is that common in that case? I mean it is not like we have lots of normal sex.
Body worship, the cutesy Domme nick names like Princess/Queen/My moon and stars, learn to give massages/manis/pedis/do chores.
Hi /adv/
I have a medical test in a few weeks with a major airline. It is the final step before training.
I smoked marijuana, about a gram a day for the past 4 years. I am 5'3 weigh about 105 pounds and am female.
I have searched on the internet for hours on information about this and have gathered that there is practically no way THC will leave my system in under a month.
Need some advice: Should I even bother with going to the medical? Airlines are very strict on drug use, and I'm worried they will send my results to Transport Canada and...
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>>16895703
I can always apply again in six months, enough time to fully clear my system.
It is my dream job and I do not want to risk being black listed.
If anyone has been through this before, please share your experience.
PS: I do not want to try those flushing products, they cause higher creatinine which they usually test for and consider it being tampered with
Say it's medical marijuana.
I say this with no proof but I don't think an airline would care all that much about some THC in your system (unless you're the pilot). Just don't smoke in the month coming up to it and hope it goes well.
>>16895718
The thing is, they will call me on the 22 to book it and it will be within that week. I really only have about 17 days to detox, which i'm nervous isn't enough.
I am going to buy a drug test kit to test myself on the 21 as well, to see if it is gone
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Hey guys so I have a bit of a dilemma.
I have turned 18 recently enough and have planned to have an 18th birthday party st a local bar. Quite a few people are attending. Around 100. Basically I think my friends have hired a stripper or a prostitute for it. I'm a Virgin and just find theses kind of things sleezy and do not want a bloody STD. Any advice on how I approach this situation.
I don't think you can hire a stripper, and definitely not a prostitute, for a public place like a bar. And you won't get an STD from either, since strippers won't fuck you and a hooker will make you use a condom.
>>16895685
strippres are fine, you dont fuck em. cant get an STD from a lap dance. whatever they get just say 'no thanks, but you guy senjoy'
chances are they havent actually done this you're all 18 yo
>>16895685
You can't get STDs from her butt
Godspeed
I know you guys like giving heartfelt advice and I need some.
> be me
> 17
> taking care of house, 6 and 7 year old siblings
> also taking care of 13 year old that comes from an abusive house
> have depression and anxiety like no other
> get overwhelmed
> parents don't come home from work until 8 pm and leave at 4 am
>...
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>>16895675 hum... What?
Brother you make 0 sense
This situation is ALL sorts of fucked up.
First, you don't need fucking pills to help your depression - these meds usually cause more harm than they do good. Depression - your depression - is very specifically a response to your stressful home environment.
What's worse is all this hospitalization, meds, extended stays, etc are probably going to make the home situation worse, rather than better. You need to treat the disease (your situation), not the symptom (depression).
What you should be doing is finding some sort of social network for support...
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>>16895724
my parents aren't really here and each time I try to mention it just starts the same argument over and over again.My moms parents never cared for her and they find us as embarrassments. My dad stays away from his parents due to the fact that grandpa used to be an alcoholic. He's gotten better now and I really want to help but I'm afraid of dad. He's always been emotionally abusive and has come close to being physical. I really want to move out but I'm worried about the kids.
All in...
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How do you personally deal with this? Is anyone in a same boat?
I work in a company where I'm easily the youngest person of the permanent employees ( I'm 25 ). All my coworkers are at least 30 to 40 years older than me. I have nothing in common with these people. I have active social life and act quite normal within my social circle, but as soon as I hit work it's like entering bizarro world where you can not even understand 'standard' humor.
I don't speak to anyone at work, tend to take all breaks only with myself and refuse to discuss...
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>>16895659
Most of the days I just keep going thinking that most of them will be dead or retired within 10-20 years.
I have a similar experience with my current workplace. The way I deal with it is mostly by pretending to be shy/awkward so my co-workers won't necessarily dislike me if I don't participate in their bullshit chats. Unfortunately within the last year two of the people I actually liked have left. I only really discuss work-related things with my co-workers.
At this point I've been there about a year and a half, and most of my co-workers seem to understand that I don't really want to have a conversation with them.
Also, avoid work social events (obviously).
If you're a normal person, you can work around age gaps. My coworkers range from a few years younger than me to about 40 years older than me. I have no problem getting along with any of them. Same with the organisation I volunteer for, where the majority of other volunteers are retired.
I'm not even the most extroverted person in the world either, I'm actually pretty introverted. I like make an effort to get along with people I have to work with, because it's best for everyone involved, and it's lonely if I don't. People think you're...
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