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Right now im starting to get my shit together. I realized i need to start looking for a career, starting off with a decent job. The problem is....When i compare my favorite career i get lost in lust moment. ( i want to do everything). i wonder off in a dream and see myself do that job.
Is this a problem? i think i dream too much. i expect than reality.
I m 21. i feel late
>>16896736
21 hahahaha. There are people in my college who are 30 and up and lost. We all lost boi. You'll be fine.
>>16896736
I'm my case I've dubbed that problem maladaptive daydreaming.
I over dream my career/living situation and end up doing nothing all Fucking day.
Hard to fight it
Hey adv I need help. I can't stop thinking about this girl.
I've never connected with anyone the way I did with her. She is literally the epitome of everything I ever wanted in a mate. We were extremely close for a while but I couldn't make a move because she had a fiancé and a kid with him and I didn't want to get in the middle of that, no matter how unhappy she was with that piece of shit. Anyway I fucked up bad and as a result she thought it would be better for her and her family if we didn't hang out anymore.
It's been almost...
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>>16896709
I was in the same position (being with the perfect girl in every single aspect) , but we actually dated and it just didn't work out.
I just completely cut her out of my life, and after about 3 years I forget what she even looks like now. My best buddy killed himself and after 6 years I don't even remember what HE looked like. Kind of depressing when I want to get nostalgic and I can't even remember their faces or voices, but at least I got what i wanted...to forget about them
TL;DR: Time, and distance
Well I was effectively cut off. I've seen her twice in 2 years because we have mutual friends. Every once in a while my close friend who is married to her best friend tells me how she is doing. That's how I know she's dating someone else. I can't tell him how much I miss her though...
>be bro to little sis
>she's the closest friend in my life
>late 2015 rolls around
>she gets a boyfriend
>suddenly becomes a stranger
Holy shit, this dude straight-up stole my sister.
How do I either get her back, or get a new sister of equal value?
Errrm... So she's NOT actually your little sister?
She'll either come back when her boyfriend chills or she won't. Not much you can do other than just give a probing hey what's up? Miss ya.
I think you need a gf. You've been using your little sister as a substitute for lone enough.
>>16896765
You have to have sex with gfs and do couple shit though
Sisters are funner and less needy and they can actually be funny unlike the ones you can reproduce with they're never funny
I'd just wait until the guy fucks up their relationship and slide back in
I can't hold a job because I have PTSD and I can't drive and everything is so far apart in columbus.
What do?
Apply for disability.
>>16896699
That counts?
My legs give out whenever I'm near anything larger than an SUV.
Who do I see to get help? My family hasn't been much help whenever in ask them. 10 years I've been trying to take this
>be me (grill in 20's, ok looking, very academic, never have a boyfriend)
>go to a wedding
>see a fit moody boy
>he's a film student, looks sensitive im into it
>flirt and give him my number
>hang out a few days later
>watch film and make out
>he find me funny and we get along great
>he...
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You should ask to go out for drinks ONE more time. If no reply then give up.
Could just be he was busy and forgot/wasn't actually active (my phone always shows me active on everything--I never am).
Go ahead and give him a Hey, leaving tomorrow but want to meet up for X before I do?
Not like you've got much to lose.
>>16896702
no he's liking stuff online, in fact something like 7 mins ago. I'm interested in forming a romantic link.. i don't want to be a silly fling. can you give me advice on what to look out for and how to speak to him?
Is it kosher to have a sexual encounter with someone that's super high when you yourself are not super high as long as it isn't the first time you've boned and you're generally on good terms?
That's between the two consenting parties. I've had sex with my boyfriend when I'm tipsy/high and he's not and vice versa. But we agreed while we were sober and while intoxicated.
Hey /adv/. I'm a 140lb. male who gets a good amount of exercise. I previously smoked about 6 bowls of weed proper in a week for months, and stopped smoking about a week ago. I am going to have my urine screened for THC, potentially tomorrow. I just took about 1,050mg vitamin B3 a few hours ago, along with some cranberry and dandelion tea. Is it likely that I pass, or should I up the dosage? What other tricks can I try?
>>16896650
ur fucked dont even try
Your boned man. Borrow a friends urine. If you dont believe me go to cvs or some drugstore and get a 20$ drug testing kit. They are weaker than ones u would normally take in a professional setting but if . U cant pass that...
>>16896650
Exercise
Donate blood
Drink alot of water
Eat shit tier mexican spicy food, something to really clean your bowels out.
Don't mix this with donating blood but get piss drunk, make your kidneys do overtime to clean out.
So I am 20 y/o
My dad was in Vietnam and shitty childhood for me.
My class is talking alot about Vietnam war and the lecturer is getting students to read alout and offer opinions about it.
We have to do an oral presentation on it.
When I started the course I was really sick and told her I don't want to but she made me anyway, because she likes to pick my brain.
How can I build my confidence so I don't fuck up and fail the unit?
Also, is it normal to be a direct descendant at my age? I just want to blend in if it comes up....
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You can just say your dads ptsd gave you ptsd
>>16896664
that's a thing?
>>16896664
oh shit, I fit the bill for PTSD
Okay /adv/ I've never posted here before but I don't want to tell anyone in real life about this and I don't know where else to tell anyone.
When I'm alone in my house, maybe just surfing the web or watching T.V., I'll stop what I'm doing, get up, pace around and start to have fake, out-loud conversations with either myself, someone I'm about to talk to, or some outlandish other shit. Like if I'm going to visit my mom, I might anticipate what she'll ask and, out-loud, have the whole conversation with her, just guessing what...
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>>16896646
I do this a lot, not sure how normal this is... but I've done this since I was like 6 yrs old. (No I'm not some loner). I'm pretty popular, I'm dating a really beautiful girl as well (6 yrs in). I think of it as a way to remove stress/anxiety.
>When I'm alone in my house, maybe just surfing the web or watching T.V., I'll stop what I'm doing, get up, pace around and start to have fake, out-loud conversations with either myself, someone I'm about to talk to, or some outlandish other shit. Like if I'm going to visit my mom, I might anticipate what she'll ask and, out-loud, have the whole conversation with her, just guessing what she'd say to my replies
I do this bro
...I'm not going to say you're not crazy because I'm kind of fucked...
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>>16896666
See told you bro.
What are you supposed to do with friends?
I've never been the initiator in a friendship, and it feels incredibly awkward to ask someone to do something. I've only hung out one on one with a few people I've been close to for a very long time, and I don't drink or smoke so that makes it even more difficult.
I meet people at work/studies and just don't know the process of becoming better friends with them. Does everyone do nothing with anyone all day?
I also have no idea how to make friends. I lost all my friends due to marijuana and it kinda kills the vibe when I dont smoke. (Get invited less and shit) plz teach me how to make friends
>>16896644
Do you have anything in common? If you do then go do something involving that interest
I think that I might be a hypocrite. Politically, I'm very right wing, identifying as a white nationalist (But not a supremacist... I don't like hitler), reading websites like storm front, and listening to bands like skrewdriver. I get particularly riled up over mixed race relationships. Even though most people in my country (It's a predominantly white, Christian country) are okay with them, I get very annoyed when I hear of them. Even more annoyed when people say things like "love sees no colour" or whatever... Don't ask me why, idk. However, at...
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>>16896637
No you're growing up. Stop paying so much attention to trying to fit into a criteria, and focus on just being a decent human being.
>>16896637
>I think that I might be a hypocrite.
Yeah, pretty much.
This is not uncommon among your ideological circles. You aren't losing your marbles yet -some would even say you're coming to your senses- but this can't continue. One way or another, the cognitive dissonance will eventually drive you nuts. It is only a matter of time. The only way to avoid it is to straighten your head out, one way or another.
And that means you have a choice to make. You can abandon...
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>>16896637
If you're talking about the US- get over yourself and accept that it's no longer a 'white' country and shouldn't have been in the first place.
if you want to go full on white pride maybe you should move to Europe (i have a feeling you're not talking about a European country) and embrace your culture where it's appropriate.
How do I motivate myself to get to work everyday? Money doesn't really motivate me, I value time more than I do money/stuff, thus why I miss so much work.
Do somethibg you enjoy for work
>be newly 25
>Girl I like is 19 almost 20
We've been friends for a few months, she knows I like her, and I think she likes me. I believe she doesn't want to be my girlfriend or even take a chance is because of my age.
I've never been in this situation. I'm curious.
How can I get her to ignore my age and possibly date me? We get along wonderfully but I think she's just a little intimidated by it, which is silly to me.
Also no I'm not a sperg in the slightest.
Pls...
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Shameless bump
>>16896632
Probe and find out what the feels are. You "believe"? Find out for sure. I don't think the age thing is a big deal.
>>16897028
Let's assume that it is.. then what?
Is it worth it to try and just warm up to her and form a more trusting relationship or just bail out altogether?
How do I talk about my feelings? I've always been really bad at it, but I'm soon going to have to admit my feelings to girl.
Tbh I don't know how she's put up with my autism thus far.
AYO BABY YOU WANT SUM FUK?
no don't do that. also don't be a mushy cunt.
"hey, I like your personality/face/wayyoudropthatdundada/taste in music/*hobby thing she's doing*, would you wanna go grab a coffee together/check out *band*/grab a drink at this cool but quiet bar/netflix and chill
don't get too into it anon. do not tell her that every time you see her your heart skips a beat. do not tell her that every time you look into her eyes all the stress melts away and you feel like the world is fine. do not tell her that when she smiles...
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>>16896660
Would something along the lines of "I really like and want to know if you feel the same way" be too mushy? I've already spent time with her, but I'm getting mixed signals and just want to know, and I don't really see any way of finding out without showing my hand.
>>16896693
What's the context of how you know each other? Hard to give advice with little details.
My girlfriend and I have been dating since September last year. Her exes (only her two) have pretty much caused problems the whole way and I put up with it. Both of her exes are like her best guy friends. We are both in highschool but she lives 30 mins away. I've gotten to the point where I can't deal with the shit they cause. And I want to know how to like get rid of them. But the problems is that she wants to keep hanging out with them and having contact with them. While we are dating! I found it rude she keeps contact w/ them when her and I are dating. And I've told her it makes me feel uneasy and uncomfortable. But she wants to keep seeing them. I feel like she doesn't care about how I feel. And I love her a lot I'm lucky to have her, so what should I do? Do I tell her to stop having contact with them or give her an ultamatium?.
>>16896602
>And I love her a lot I'm lucky to have her
>I love a person who doesn't give a shit about me
>I am lucky she doesn't give a shit about me
Try getting some perspective. You can have this one free of charge.
>>16896602
Ultimatum
>>16896641
So its me or her exes?.. Wouldn't she think I'm controlling?
