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hey guys, kind of wondering what people mean when they say 'move on' and stuff.
I don't know if I'm doing it right. I still love all my exes. I really hope they have nice lives.
Strangest of all, I still have a lot of love and affection for my first girlfriend, who was (and most likely is) a terrible, horrible human being, but I still love her and want the best for her.
When I get a new girlfriend, I just treat her like my first girlfriend, same girl, different name?
Weird? I know, but no girls have ever called me out?
Sometimes...
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Your one drake ass nigga
>>16897811
It's just to forget shit that you're not comfortable with. When I moved to the US when I used to be 11 and I hated it! People treat me with disrespect and I wanted to move on.
>>16898520
Consider suicide.
We've been sexually active for a few weeks now. He only wants to have unprotected sex, he says because using condoms isn't the same. I understand that but I am only 20 and a student and I really do not want to risk anything.
He says openly he wants to get me pregnant, wants to give me his DNA (as he words it), and he's always asking if he can cum inside me.
I like him, but I'm really scared of listening to him one day and actually getting pregnant.
I can't tell if this is a fetish or??
>>16897765
You need to talk to him about it. That's pretty fucking weird.
Use female condoms. Male condoms suffocate your penis. It feels like shit. Its convenient but if hes that adamant about not having his dick suffocated just get tested and use birth control.
Uhhh.... I guess there IS an impregnation fetish... but uhhh... Yeah...
Maybe consider getting an IUD or Implant. Just be aware each comes with side effects (your first half year will probably be miserable), and that no contraceptive is 100% effective.
Depending on your income/country it could even be super cheap/free.
For the last two days I haven't responded to a single text or call from anyone I know. I am not mad at anyone or hiding I just don't feel like talking to anyone right now. Normally if I am stressed or even just busy I will tell people politely that I will talk to them when things calm down.
For some reason I have no interest in talking to anyone or responding to anything. I don't want to be mean to anyone and I know they care but I just feel like being alone and away for a while. Part of me wants to tell people this, but I don't want them to take it...
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I do this randomly but it's because I gave asburgers try to fight it before u lose everyone like I did
>>16897716
You don't have to respond to anyone if you don't want to. Just because you have a phone doesn't mean you have to answer it when someone choose to send a message or call. Sometimes you just need time away from people.
I'm in a bit of a weird place with my girlfriend. I feel like she's only really pretending to be into the same shit that I'm into. Music, movies, hobbies, food, everything I enjoy she... I don't know, adopts the attitude of enjoying I guess. I guess it's kinda cute in a way, she's trying real hard to make sure we have common ground to build this relationship on, but it's annoying as fuck.
If we just had different interest, I would be more than fine with that. It's what I expected to be honest. It's gotten to the point that...
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>>16897713
Test her. Ask her for something she likes. Then shit on it. If she agrees then she's got no personality and I'd say dump her. Jesus I had a friend like that and it got to a point where they didn't have any boundaries. Idk how anyone can even stand dating someone like that. If I wanted an exact clone with myself I'd get a sex doll and tape a photo of myself to it.
Yeah i know just what you mean OP, i have a close friend who is very much like that, just not to the same extent. Honestly i don't know what i would do if my GF was acting like that, but i would probably consider breaking up.
I would be direct with her about it, let her know it's okay to not like the same things all the time.
> 5+ year relationship
> me, bf, bf's best friend have been talking about how cool it would be to travel somewhere cool together
> make plans to do so this summer
> suddenly bump it up to spring break
> my spring break doesn't match up with theirs
> asked bf if there was a reason the summer wouldn't have worked
> "idk i didn't ask best...
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another bump
Can't you still reschedule it for summer?
>>16897697
There's nothing wrong with you - your bf and his bff are just dicks. Jebus. No one cares if someone is shy/awkward, that's kind of cute in a girl anyways.
How do you approach a girl through normiebook?
I added this girl but didn't talk to her in a week.
>Hi, how you doing
If you dont receive an answer or she just doesnt try to work up from any of your attempts, then shes not interested.
Done.
He who hesitates has already lost
>>16897832
I'm still in the race tho, she is never online, I can say, "hey how are you doing, I never see you online", fixed..
my biological father and step father have both called me a faggot to my mother behind my back.
I'm currently 21 years old and have had a number of girlfriends that they've known about (various degrees of seriousness) since age 14, so what's the probable implication here? That my mannerisms are feminine?
Basically I don't care so much about their opinions of me, but because it makes me think this is how most people perceive me and that that will have a net negative impact on life.
>>16897687
If both of your fathers called you a faggot, then you probably are.
Be grateful because you have parents that will look down on you and probably let you know.
>>16897687
>called me a faggot
>had a number of girlfriends that they've knowm about
>what's the probable implication here?
That they both hang out on 4chan too much.
>>16897687
>my biological father and step father have both called me a faggot to my mother behind my back.
Your biological father and step father are pieces of shit.
>because it makes me think this is how most people perceive me and that that will have a net negative impact on life.
You live in a golden age, my friend. Unless you live in one of those bassackwards southern states no one gives a shit if your mannerisms are feminine.
I...
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Hey guys, I think I'll see a therapist soon but for now you're all I've got.
For many years I've sort of struggled with this part of my identity and I only just recently have been able to pinpoint my issue and the cause(s).
The problem is I don't think I'm manly enough, I'm not really that masculine, nor that "alpha" if you want to go there. I think this is because my dad, although present in my childhood, didn't really _raise_ me, we never really bonded except sometimes sharing an interest in old muscle cars. I've...
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I think I know how you feel. My dad is a blue collar worker, ex-military, grew up on a farm, son of a carpenter, amazing shot, fishes hunts and everything. I never was very masculine but its something you can become.
>>16897742
same guy here.
for starters try to hang out with people, men, and do the manly things, if you show a good spirit and are eager to learn they wont mind if you are new to it. also, you dont have to do a whole bunch of manly hobbies, just select a few you enjoy and concentrate on those.
>>16897748
I focus on guns, mostly rifles and handguns, I collect and shoot them and i am a pretty good shot. Also, being assertive is a great quality to have. If you give in to people all the time it takes you back, real men are strong mentally and physically. I also lift weights occasionally and do sports. I got a state medal in track and that helps you out a lot.
How do I meet girls in college? It seems harder to do it especially now since I am no longer in a dorm.
Also if a girl and I make eye contact while passing each other and she looks back at me, does that mean she thought I was good looking or maybe like I was creeping her out or something? Idk these things.
I live alone in a 1 bedroom apartment and so I'm in a similar situation.
I meet girls at church. A nice, attractive Christian girl is a huge turn on for me. I guess, though, like, a club or other social group at school is the same concept if you're not a religious guy.
Also, IM sports can be a lot of fun AND you meet folks there.
As for your eye contact question, the answer is if she smiles and lingers. If she just kinda smiles and looks away, then it's a no go. But hell, always try man. Don't miss an opportunity to talk to a girl....
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Volunteer work is always a good way to meet people. Worst case scenario, you go out and do some good deeds that'll look good on a resume.
When doing an interview is it a good idea to say things like
>i know we as a younger generation are known as lazy, but i have good work ethica because...
Would it be a good idea to in a way put others down to bring myself down? Or is that just too weird?
Also general interview thread
Too weird and counte-rproductive.
Make ALL of your speech positive.
No, it makes it sound like you're blatantly pandering and brown nosing. It also makes you sound like you're bad-mouthing your peers, which isn't a positive thing. No one wants to hire someone who'll shit on others to make themselves look good.
Bahahaha no don't do that.
Well, I posted here not long ago asking for advice on how to give my virgin boyfriend a blowjob (I'm also a virgin, female though). I tried today and I was so bad that he told me to use my hands, and when that didn't work we eventually gave up and he just jacked off. I feel like shit now. How am I supposed to get better?
What went wrong?
for real though you're both virgins, it takes practice. Next time just focus on staying calm, ask him to tell you what feels good
>>16897562
play with the balls a little
>>16897577
At first he seemed to really enjoy the feeling but after a while of sucking and locking he just got silent. 15 minutes went by and I asked him if he was close, he said no, maybe you should use your hand and not your mouth, but that didn't work either because I didn't know how to handle the foreskin.
I don't get it. Does this mean I can pay for the two days, download everything I want and just cancel the account before I'm billed for $30?
Buying porn is confusing.
>>16897545
If it gives you the option for download then theoretically yes. Unless the downloads require you to have membership to watch on ur computer. if thats the case just video record ur desktop with sound, save. use when u need it
>>16897557
But if I cancel during the trial then I don't get billed for $30?
$1 for the entire site seems like they're ripping themselves off.
>>16897566
Chances are, they don't have an easy way to cancel and you'll be stuck for at least a month, if not longer, while they 'process' it.
Who the fuck pays for porn anyway?
I'm looking for a hook up site besides tinder. In which some of you guys have had successes with. Thanks in advance
Dunno, but cool cat.
desparate bump
I've had really drunk sex on my Bday with a girl I talked to for an hour on OKC. But mostly it's shit.
I physically can't sleep as long as I'd like to. When I manage to go to bed with 9 hours between me and the morning I end up lying awake until late at night.
Have you tried any sleep hygiene techniques?
What Do you do when you try to sleep
My roommate's dog has been very clingy lately, and when she's left alone in a room, she starts huffing and puffing, crying, and trying to get through her gate to get to me. He works nights, and our other roommate is away on travel for a few months, so I'm the only one home from 5ish until around midnight.
She has food, water, and access to the backyard... what do I do about this? She's not allowed in my room and I don't want to go sit in the living room all night.
>>16897481
>... what do I do about this?
There's a lot of information online about training dogs with separation anxiety. Its fairly easy if you and your roommate decide to stick to the training together and show some consistency.
I would be more concerned if the dog didn't have access to the backyard but it at least has an opportunity to stretch its legs. Look it up, its not that hard at all.
Dogs are social animals, they get lonely pretty easily. If it comes down to what's actually ideal for the dog, get a second dog so that she has a friend. But obviously that might not be practical, so you might just kind of have to deal with a lonely dog.
The dog just needs leadership. Learn about dog training. Read websites, read books, watch dog whisperer, take her to training class.
